From Hopelessness to Healing – It Can Happen For You

The holiday festivities are upon us and I am aware and empathetic to the folks who suffer most during the season. Sometimes at this time of year I share again from my heart: life isn’t over until it is over and can prove it with my own remarkable story of endurance.
This message is for the ones ready to give up but have a hint of belief there just might be a way to survive and even thrive in their journey while here in spite of how bad it seems right now.  Grab a coffee, or a joint, beer, cookie or what have you if you are still self-comforting for the madness; this is a bit long because I plan to be very real here in spite of what people consider risky speaking up.  In spite of myself I open myself up for the sake of mental, emotional, physical and spiritual well-being of everyone.  If I can have it so can you I promise.  Day in and day out we work hard, earning a living, keeping families together, putting up with the everyday pressures of living up to something.  And then something big happens when already at the end, and the whole world blows up and all you want to do is lie down and sleep.  Life hurts at times, and the expectations we have of ourselves and others to stay in some kind of certain pattern of tough harsh living just asking for too much when we are here to enjoy our lives not suffer the whole way, am I wrong?
I’ll first assure the reader that today I use to have reason to believe my life was a waste, and over.  Yet now am a happy, content and at peace woman on a mission. After all the dust has settled I am pretty sure I am here to inspire as many people as I can, while I can, because I sure didn’t live through all of that for nothing.  I have got to help others since I feel I have cracked a code for better life results.   I am in the work I do as a Clinical Hypnotherapist because I have lived mental hell of grief, loss and abandonment and found a way back to life.  I sought out help that never came for me so found my way in non traditional ways: in the end I had no choice.
I believe without a doubt that the current model of living with mental health labels as if we are flawed, sick, weaker than others, and depression and anxiety problem we see in epidemic proportions owned by the crazy ones alone is ridiculous.  Not only that they are getting so bold as to tell women and men that mental health conditions are permanent, even genetic just really gets my blood boiling.  Can’t be healed unless you have a lobotomy, shock therapy, or legal heroin for the brain at a cost of hundreds of dollars going to for profit organizations, now one of the most successful stocks in the market – drugs.  Instead of surgically removing right brain intelligence now they are medicating.  I sense instead of finding cures for mental illness (and physical illness in some cases) they are finding ways to keep folks sick.  Just my opinion, don’t beat me up and I hope you keep reading.  I know a lot of people resist deprogramming words, sometimes having violent reactions.
The current medical models of dealing with matters of the mind is an utter waste of time, resources, talent and life.  The solutions of drugging the unhappy mind until it gets happy again is so far removed from reality I must share so that someone, soon hopefully, listens to me.  Labeling a person (however comforting to know I was not alone) was wrong for me and it is wrong for many of my powerless and hopeless case clients who are finding the same amazing results I did in a complete recovery of life.
Let me tell you a bit.  Fair warned if you are easily triggered, I will be graphic in parts of my story for the sake of sincerity and because that is how I roll today – with the truth as I experience it.  I do this to inspire, not garner pity.  That would make me cringe in all honesty.
I was not raised in a loving healthy home whatsoever but after the birth of my son at 18 years of age I fell in love with my precious baby.  I found love all by myself.  For my child’s sake I fixed myself up, educated my slow below average (if you ask me) academic mind, and built a life for Trevor and what I thought the world would approve of. I worked two jobs, went to school whenever I could afford it, paid back two student loans, raised Trevor with no baby-daddy or family support to count on.  Something was missing, I was getting bullied at the daycare with the behavior of my son who never wanted to stand in line like that.  I needed a voice I didn’t have before school starts.  Why my voice as child’s mother is not enough I leave up to the wind for now.
In 1984 I met and married the best man I could find to be the father to my child, and did a good pick if you ask me as he turned out to be the involved paternal figure, exactly what I envisioned for a good balanced life for my Trevor.
I created life, an amazing career teaching adult education employment and life skills, and later human resource management turned founder and CEO of a personnel agency and growing over the years with a bottom line I was proud of.  While it all looked good life wasn’t always happy in my opinion and experience but I did the best I could with what I knew at the time.  It’s always like that.  After a few years of marriage and sinking into the role of a person I did not like, feeling as if I never gave enough to anyone (ridiculous); low self-esteem set in, to an extreme caused by constant scapegoating around me which I accepted as if it was all real – I could never measure up to the expectations of several negative imaginers and judgers in my circles.
My son also had his share of ups and downs and unconscious rebellion in the world I thought was real and sure.  Both my son and I are right brain, ADHD types, who are utterly misunderstood in Ego land.  Live in the heart and crave freedom of expression, fun, colour, ideas and imagination.   I conformed very well to left brain values of tough love, law, strict control, but my son never could.  I understand Trevor so much better as I have connected to myself.  I had no idea it would end so tragically, however, and my beloved son would not get to enjoy the benefit of my new journey.
Twenty five years after his birth, my only child passed away and not peacefully. Two month’s before Trevor’s terrifying death we were celebrating Mother’s Day Brunch at the Sheraton Hotel with the whole family – laughing and funning as if nothing was wrong.
trevor-and-mom
It was one of the last moments of human connection I had with my son.  Trevor died in a car accident, catching on fire after being slammed into by someone turning left onto a rushing freeway intersection; and I share because it matters to me; my boy’s legs cut from the engine to save his life after the fire was put out by emergency crews. My strong spirited son survived 2.5 hours after an accident that made his body unrecognizable with 80% 3rd degree burns, amputations of the legs below the knees, head trauma, ruptured spleen. I share these horrific details not to shock you or make you sick or to scare you, I live with this image of my child and I do share in spite of the obvious discomfort of my circumstances.  Trevor lived and he died and I will not deny that.
Trevor’s life changed me, his death made me face me – and ended up understanding a beautiful soul, and I know some will find this difficult to comprehend if they are living in the fearful world in Ego requirements for acceptance and belonging.
My only surviving child (I had three unsuccessful pregnancies) dying before me was just the beginning of a succession of continued losses and pain.  After the accident things became a whole lot worse first. These incredible shocks to my life made me weak, unable to work or do anything much for myself or anyone else.  And yet I sensed my son’s spirit all around me all of the time.  Was that grief?  Yes, that was what I was told by others who knew better than me.
Both social welfare entities (government doctors and Christianity) telling me it was wrong to believe that my son’s spirit lives. One wanted to drug that part of my mind connected to spirit, the other told me I was playing with the devil.
I was on my own.
Trevor’s strong spirit in life was nothing compared to his strength in death.  Long story short (none of this is short, is it?) I had to search out my own answers and did so after an angel saved me from succeeding the last time I tried to end my life.
It happened when the dust settled after my son’s death as I looked around and no one was there anymore.   No one to tell me what to do, where to go…how to do life now?  I couldn’t friends.  I had to die.
Thinking back I seem to feel my most sick in hostile environments with angry, afraid, and guilty people who I allowed to use my life as a person to blame for their misery problems.  One of the last straws (there are other bigger ones) came to light when I helped my father in his dying days in 2007.  Running back and forth to Vancouver from Kelowna, tending to his apartment, palliative care, hospice, his fears for six months until he died and then I had to cremate the poor man against his biggest fear of all.  This broke my heart some more.
 Everyone, all of them, abandoned me and made me feel I was the worst scum of the earth – betraying the family.  How dare I cross bitter mother, and everyone else who hates dad?    I figured whatever was in their imagination of whom I was, was true. I must be a real crack pot for having such sensitivity, or an easy person to scapegoat?
I did not appreciate that bankrupt life the way I do now – it was all part of this journey for a reason, I am sure – but let me tell you how my mind went in this set of circumstances.
Distraught over the state of my life, I finally decided to end my suffering the day I drove my car into oblivion on the Coquihalla, making sure there was a good hard rock place for me to turn right into. This was my second attempt that day. Plan A didn’t work out which was to go into the mountain back roads forest, stuff my exhaust pipes with rags, have a cup of wine and cigarette and just die nice and quiet like in peace by myself. There I was in the middle of no where one minute into the car running fumes into the cab when a lady in a black powerful type of huge truck pulled up beside me screaming “What the hell are you doing!?” Where did she come from?  I sped off with the intention of getting the job done with Plan B. That didn’t work out either as you can tell since I am writing.
As my vehicle entered into the mountain rock after flying down the highway and turning into it, an angel appeared in my steering wheel and prevented my physical body from having any damage at all – even though my car was killed forever. Now, you can call me crazy and tell people to stay away from me, the way the fearful ones have with no confidence in me as a person who might know something very special.  Or, you can pay attention.
I was forced to spend 72 hours at the hospital psych ward but I knew that was it. I was done. There would never, ever be another attempt from me. This is not the plan, I realized. No matter how hard I have tried since I lost the only person I felt a true love connection with in my life the universe was not taking me and I was stuck and had to find a way to health or just live like a miserable homeless person begging for soup somewhere.
I had a talk with my son’s spirit and guides and whoever else might be around and said, “Listen, if I have to live, I insist on living well!” I meant happy, in peace, content. I couldn’t see how I could survive let alone thrive with no one left and no financial resources and the self-worth of a worm.  Wait, worms accept themselves for their wormness don’t they?  In desperation I did the mental health routines, even residential treatment type centers for coping with private and social group work. Counsellors were dumbstruck at my story and most could not empathize my story after story of loss, betrayal, and abandonment.
As soon as I was released from the hospital I contacted a Clinical Hypnotherapist in the Vancouver area and spent two weeks at a hotel seeing her virtually every day. At first I didn’t get it. I was a tough case, the toughest I bet the poor woman ever met, but later my unconscious mind began waking up in ways I could never have imagined before. After my hypnosis experience seemed to be staying with me, I added to my curriculum vita by becoming a Registered Clinical Hypnotherapist (IMDHA) in 2011. I can almost now see the progression since that fateful day on the highway and how everything is perfect, even if I have to live in an imperfect system with other imperfect beings.  This life makes sense to me.  I had to experience all of that to be able to do what I do today with sincerity and empathy on my side working with others in awful situations of circumstance.
Under the darkness there is a natural light and truth of the mental mind. Recovery is rapid because once the learned fears, shames and other ego matters are resolved there is nothing to do but practice the new way of living with this freedom. When the mind is at peace, and is ready to be free, full of joy and curious wonder, or just comfortable even – good things happen.
I learned all of my negative self-talk thinking from historical conditioning. I was here to serve everyone else’s spirit but my own; my job as a woman was to be a good mother or risk the damnation of society for my failure as a person, and other false beliefs. I felt the hostility directed toward my sensitive soul meant there was something wrong with me. There isn’t, it’s the cold ones who need help but they will never get help because in their mind there is nothing wrong with them, it’s me. Or you. We go along believing that and this is why so many highly developed souls (mental cases mostly) are oppressed, drugged, and often advised to silence truth or risk social shunning.
Since no one was taking care of me I took over the job and am way better at it than anyone else could have been.  I’ve already lost the most, it does not hurt me to lose critical people as they just get in the way of where I want to go.

Now that I found wellness it was up to me to maintain and protect myself moving forward – so that I never fall into the trap of powerlessness again.

Live, Let Live, Let Go…Grow.

Life is in my hands.  Ever since I took charge and said no more other-people tell me how to live nothing has been the same, yet I am the same spirit.  Just free to be.  I have two gorgeous kitty cats who put me into gleeful trance as they play so happily with the emporium I have going on in my rented but lovely condo for their play.  I drive a 2002 Toyota Corolla but have a pink corvette in my imagination for whenever my left brain figures out a way to make it happen. Still a person who needs to reach out and help others I give unconditionally to people I want to support, who I sense appreciate and value me as a person first. Takers will always take from the givers, and I’ll never stop being a giver but now I am careful who I reign my love on because it is up to me to protect me in every way. Just because I want to feel temporarily good giving away my life, money, soul to someone else doesn’t mean it is what the mental mind, energy, spirit, unconscious wants. She wants FREEDOM TO BE WITHOUT CONDITIONS in her gift giving.  I am an empath – not a fool working against my own best interests any more.   Could you be an empath giving away to the wrong people and being disrespected in return?
If you are ready to find your own light, passion, or simple mental comfort by all means try hypnotherapy with a practitioner.  Dare to get to the root of issues and see how fast you will completely recover from mental illness symptoms. Insist for your life fun, joy, happiness, demand it from yourself. The light, freedom and energy is in you when the darkness is lifted in a responsible and meaningful manner.  Soon your own perfect solutions and answers come to mind that will solve day-to-day and serious living problems.  Negative energy emotions such as worry, fear, guilt, shame and anger keep solutions and light away.  If one thinks sick they create more sickness.  Hopelessness sets in.
Listen, not going to lie, this life will never be perfect. The difference is we don’t have to participate in what is going on with the stress.  Find ways to reduce it in your life, get over being perfect and expecting others to be perfect.  Let go of what false beliefs you might be so tightly holding onto, and see what happens.
We have to start talking or risk so much more pain to come in the strict confines of life expectations by others before us.   Ideas will come if you sit and ask yourself some simple questions. Another good idea is to ‘guess’ what to do.  This is an opening of right brain sensitives that really brings in the universal wisdom that makes perfect sense when listening.  If you don’t know where to start maybe invest in getting support for your mind the same way some invest and value the physical body.
If no one seems to value or appreciate you – why not find people who need and value your gifts this year?  Stick with the people who lift you, if there is none, find a way to lift yourself.  If you do not know how, maybe guess at how you can start feeling better.  This is the opening of the true sleeping spirit which really does know everything.  Maybe it’s time for you to find emotional freedom as well.  It is in all of us to have peace and fun after trauma, self emotional abuse, and loss because we seem to forget about who we should really be looking after.  Only the beholder can change their mind, and they only do so when they want to, or are forced to by outside influences.  If you don’t want to change but must, you just might open up new better doors that will actually bring your spirit right back to where it wants to go.  It’s unconscious until we wake to reality of freedom to live in light and peace on earth.  This ability is for everyone with cognitive thought.  If you can solve problems (usually learned by grade 4) anything can be achieved by way of the amazing imagination.

I believe in you and you do not have to do this alone!

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Your sharing, likes and comments are very much appreciated!  It’s heart-warming after everything to know people are positively responding to new ways of thinking, for the health of it.  This article might be just what someone needs to hear and can find the strength to pull themselves together enough to investigate options beyond the ones that don’t appear to be working.  Thank you, and please appreciate your own empathetic heart as you look around at your neighbor and if you notice anyone needing you this season as well.
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*Please do not suddenly stop a psychiatric drug.  Let someone know of your plans and do it slowly with as little emotional pain as possible as you wean down.  Take it slow.
Need Crisis Help?  Please start somewhere and call 911 or http://crisiscentrechat.ca/
Cherylann Thomas, BASc.Crim., CH,t is a Clinical Hypnotherapist accepting clients at the Family Wellness Treatment Centre in West Kelowna, BC. She prides herself on her sincere intention of facilitating the light back in the eyes of folks who think life is over. If you are still breathing, it is not.

Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays, and please let yourself have the best times of your life as often as possible.  Eat the food on your good china, take the plastic off the sofa, and let yourself play in any way that pleases your mind, body and soul.  Please do not to sweat what the others are doing, it feels lighter already!

Wishing love, laughter, peace and happiness to everyone this season, 2016. xxoo 

Suicide is an epidemic affecting many men, women, and children.  It is the number one killer of youth in middle school now.  I am concerned that if we do not start speaking openly and honestly things will get much worse before better.  I do not mind being an example of speaking up my truth if it will help others.  I wonder what would happen if we all opened up a little bit?  Secrets, shame and stuffing – the path to self-destruction.  
 http://www.mindmiracleshypnotherapy.ca     778-755-4001
mental-illness

Freeing Hearts From Ego Control…

The intent of this article is to offer a mental gift to some people who may have felt like they have been run over by obvious or unseen negative forces, making life miserable.

Before I show you a whole new outlook on life, I ask you to question yourself: where do you believe you live in your mental mind, the heart or the ego?  Do you know or understand the differences?  Perhaps what I am about to suggest doesn’t make sense because you’ve never experienced heart/ego conflict, or you cannot relate because your own balanced brain has been developed to feel fine in the world with everyone.  You would be a very blessed person indeed!

I know I lived in the extreme end of heart for my first 50 years.  Abused, neglected, and barely tolerated I took on the same imagination everyone else had of me, instead of believing in myself.  After playing along with self-neglect I finally found a way to re-learn who and what I was really all about – and why I was so miserably unhappy.  Once I figured out I had given my free life away to someone else’s policies I trained my mind to protect itself, and to cope by practicing a form of ego counterattack.

As a result I am balanced in a way others might want to strive to: sensitive and bullet proof.  Keeping all of my innate gifts I trained my naive heart to protect from manipulation and control.  I may still be fooled for a minute but eventually I’ll regain my own senses when in the orbit of a heart breaker.  Coming to mental awareness with emotional intelligence is empowering awesomeness you’ll want to work toward.

Brainwashing

As my work in hypnotherapy evolves I am noticing the emotional minds of sensitive souls are easily stolen for control.  That’s not how I want to roll in my career, I am God to One (me) and as a preferred choice I use the power of hypnosis to get straight to the heart of people rather than mess around with ego brushing.  I believe so much in the resources and talents of everyone’s unconscious mind why would I want anyone dependent on me for their happy life?   People are surprised I don’t actually practice hypnotherapy to brainwash folks, but to deprogram them from unhealthy brainwashing planted before me.  Everything in the ego is learned and can be unlearned.  The heart is the heart and will always be the truth, and it feels better living there than the cold place of ego.

I take liberties with some of the mental health labels many unfortunate souls are living with in this system of chemical imbalance guesses.  As far as I’m concerned pigeonholing is designed to define what is wrong with people who behave outside of norms.  It’s never a good pigeonhole.   I shake my head in dismay witnessing good people judge themselves to be weak, powerless, and sickly based on someone else’s opinion.  The whole mental illness hysteria is growing outrageously out of proportion to me, and if you keep reading you’ll see below I reframe things for a few people who are ready to take their lives back to the calm place of peace in the heart.

How does a person come to a place where they believe they do not have free will to live a life any way they see fit?  Why do so many people agree to live in torturous / uncomfortable situations with minimal rewards?

Abused people often sum up their lack of life-luster thinking a hormone or chemical imbalance is the culprit and try to take care of the problem outside of themselves.  I suggest it is not a chemical imbalance, instead an unconscious awakening of the human senses.  Human senses for survival are the connection to our unconscious so it makes sense for those who suffer habitiual obsessions, eating disorders, migraines, skin problems, and so on are probably reacting very badly to a system that may be harming their spirit.

Mentally ‘sick’ people appear to live in the heart like raw bleeding ducks.  They are kind, empathetic, unassuming (non judgemental).  They mistakenly believe everyone has the same heart.  The opposite to these types (ego dwellers) appear to be mentally strong but almost entirely live in learned conscious mind of entitlement.  These beings flip the world upside down and make it appear that black is white and white is black.  I know I’m not alone in my frustration at the upside down nature of points of view sometimes that appear to be the opposite to any truth I know.  Very strange to witness if you are aware.  The good look bad and the bad look good.  The lying life could drive somebody to insanity or suicide if they don’t come up with a way to reign in their emotions in the face of such social misunderstanding of their own truth, vs. the fantasy of someone else’s imagination.

Mental sickness guesses have changed over the ages to suit traditional and popular thinking of the times.  We have to understand that someone’s theory doesn’t necessarily make the ‘ideas’ true for the individual.  There is no proven scientific evidence of any mental disorder at all, none that can be proven by lab or x-ray, but the best marketers of medicine will spin imaginary horror stories about the mind with shocking fear and shame, having folks believing in things that work against their otherwise good free will.

The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM – the psychiatric and pharmaceutical flow of ideas updated and replaced annually describing mental diseases they didn’t think of before.   There is no chemical or brain lack proven with any of the ‘mental diseases.’  It’s all guess-work that makes sense to someone else.  What we have now is a trillion-dollar industry in health care – where maybe no health problem existed in the first place?   The left brain academics are proud of the dots they connect to define people and even agree the DSM is used for mind research – not as a cure for mental illness.  This is the description the Psychiatrists Organization start their book off with…

Their (guess makers*) dedication and hard work have yielded an authoritative volume that defines and classifies mental disorders in order to improve diagnoses, treatment, and research.”

 https://www.psychiatry.org/psychiatrists/practice/dsm/dsm-5

*Italics mine)

If we are going to take an authoritative stance and guess about what is wrong with people then let me participate in the fun:

Anxiety: Heightened sense of awareness living in a non aware world.  Senses the heart in others and assumes ego can feel hers. May be conditioned to doubt self and is left with feelings of panic in the confusion.  Needs nourishment of the right brain and validation of feelings: these sensitive souls feel invisible while suffering people’s bad moods as if it were theirs.   Angels in Disguise.

Depression:  Unconsciousness due to a blow to the head, namely on the right side hemisphere. After ages of oppression with little utilizing the creative side of the brain it has shut down into mental darkness for self-protection.

PTSD: Witness or victim of evil violence.  Shocked with a reality that is impossible to digest.  Denied the freedom to speak their truth by outside influences. Tongue cut out.

Bi-Polar:  Energized right brain oriented individual; often creative genius…has insight waking up and feels the joy of their own spirit.  All she wants to do is have fun.  Left brain world can hardly tolerate such excitement for life and labels her sick or bad behaving.  She will unconsciously rebel to the false judgement and often goes into a deep sadness or rage for the misunderstanding.  Very sensitive and intuitive.  Bless her heart she might die by her own hand feeling rejected from a world that does not see her beautiful gifts.

ADHD:  Right brain male child.  They are no different in needs than his female classmates for learning, but have not been as brainwashed to obey commands so much and appear to simply have behavior problems.  Can be labeled learning disabled or gifted, but the gifted part comes from the imagination.  He connects dots like the speed of lightning in the brain and comes up with the right answer often even without studying.  Poor kid can hardly tolerate external energy so finds ways to put self into trance: music, reading, video games, drugs, the allowed creativity in their right brain will help them find a way to survive.  Some become great inventors.

ADD:  Right Brain Male obediently allowing Left Brain Rules against their better spirit.  Won’t be inventing anything until allowed to use creative side of mind.

Borderline Personality Disorder: Person who has likely rarely been validated for her insights, sensitivity, intuition.  Has a lot of self-doubt and is insecure.  Can appear needy – strives for independence to distance herself from the abusive reactions to her being.  Easy Scapegoat. Appears different in thought and intuition, uses the imagination in creative ways.  Intuition is often so correct she scares people, and they don’t know why.  Can explode in a fury of unconscious frustration to the madness she senses externally and yet finds difficult to articulate.  Probably brilliant in a right brain activity.

On the other side of the spectrum is where Ego lives:

Narcissistic Personality Disorder:  Lives almost 100% in the ego mind.  Selfish and greedy minded, unless they are grooming someone for supply.  Jealous of sensitive ones.  Possibly abused with indulgent / neglectful upbringing.  Has found a way to cope by shutting down emotions and focusing only on self.  Extraordinarily manipulative:  Seeks a place of comfort in families, communities, business, and government.  Often the CEO who loves to be centre of attention because he knows he has something to offer the world.  Has lots of followers.

Left brain society value and reward this type way more than right brain emotional because they add some creativity to the logical gang without the emotional baggage of feelings.  Most are well-respected with much credibility even with evidence of low moral character.

NPD don’t like emotions other than anger, false pride, and envy although they may sense an unconscious hint of sadness.  Help is unlikely – there is nothing wrong with them – it’s everyone else’s fault.

If the narcissist cannot control you they seek to control others against you.  Will twist and turn any story into outrageous lies about their target.  Lacks empathy, cannot imagine the plight of others, and may even imagine perverse satisfaction in harming people closest to him.  Passive aggressive to the extreme.  Never means what they say.  Will take until the giver stops giving and not a moment before.  Will tolerate a lot to get what he needs.  Sucks his supply dry until there is nothing left to take.

God-Complex.  I believe this character projects that in the way to manipulate others into obedience (intimidates, scares and shames people with emotional stories).  Reacts negatively to criticism.  Better than everyone.  Will not obey if can get away with it.  Realizes their worth to the earth and ego matters.  Really  believes they are the superior ones.  They are about as spiritually asleep as you can get. Feels invincible in the human body.  We have to stop raising ego’s because these man-made creatures destroy the soul of the sensitive ones, and themselves in the process.

Most of us are very suggestible to emotional manipulation, triggered with fear or shame the vulnerable will believe anything sometimes because they think everyone else has the same good heart as they and wouldn’t lie to them.  People are free to choose to take medication to cover up the unhappiness for giving up their free will, or find another way to live with ego’s.  Ego can never understand the heart, and don’t want to.  The sad thing is some pure hearts are so enslaved they can become inadvertent protectors of the ego person if brainwashed well enough into submission.  They begin to find comfort thinking against others. They are the blind judgy one’s who keep the rules obeyed on behalf of narcissists.

Heart Oriented People – Please Return to Peace of Mental Mind and Spirit –

  • Decide to take back your free will of thinking, feeling and behaving
  • Do no harm to others, but make sure your will is taken care of before a narcissist’s needs take over.
  • If the imagination of yourself is negative give it back to the past and imagine better; perhaps guess who you are and be amazed at the ideas that come.
  • Agree, admit, and live like you are responsible for your own happiness every day  
  • Only you knows you – taking anything personal coming from the outside is like picking up someone else’s mind and adapting it as your own.  Be sure you agree to any judgement against you or brush it off and away from that orbit.
  • Remember we make mistakes but there is no mistake in our belonging to the human race like everyone else.  Be comfortable here.  We animals are smart in finding ways to survive and thrive – in our own skin.  There is nothing wrong with you coming up with ideas for your own good life.
  • End abusive mental thinking.  If someone else’s voice in your head and it sounds mean, harsh, punishing against you – kick that dude out as fast as possible.  The heart does not know the difference between fantasy and reality and will react as if you are feeding it the truth, sometimes leading to implosion of the mind and body.  You were powerless to change the original voice but you can control your own.
  • If these tips feel impossible, agree you want to love and respect yourself.  Begin to pretend you are allowed.  Soon, your unconscious will remember and you’ll build a life as if you believe it.  Work for self rewards not external punishment.
  • Let the chips of your decisions fall where they may, but natural consequences are good enough for the majority of people to guide their own lives.  Don’t let anyone else punish you if you didn’t break any laws.

I think it’s time we revisited all of the hype around life symptoms that can sound sick – or amazingly enlightened.  I suggest each person investigate the engrams of mental or physical problems.  Root cause of emotional disturbance doesn’t seem to be a priority by social government, medical science, pharmaceutical profiteers, or even the individual.  I’m beginning to wonder if people even want to learn their truthful will?  It might be more comfortable giving up purpose to please another who lives in ego state of mind.  To me that feels like submission of free will.  What do you think?

Please comment, like or share – the intent is to incite similar heart-minds to develop the practice of self-love and strength.  Thank you for your support.

Let’s save some lives by approving of all of them.

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Cherylann Thomas, B.Sc.Crim., CH,t is a Clinical Hypnotherapist practicing in West Kelowna, British Columbia.  Her seasoned and evolving mental health practice is proven exceptionally effective in treating mental illness and addiction.  Clients emerge from depression, anxiety, dependency – sparking the renewal of happy, comfortable, in control lives.   If you are interested in learning more about mental / spiritual mind symptoms and what they could really be meaning to you as an individual, please visit MMH website for details and hypnotherapy service price list.  The process is lovely, empowering, safe, and it works to reframe the mental pictures of the abused mind for permanent recovery and a healthier, happier life.

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Introducing a Better Way to Imagine…

As I awaken my innate senses I am concerned about the state of mind of the people.  I think they are insane.  Or slaves.

Evidence is flowing in that right brain oppression has created a dark place for much of the population who live in the depression of darkness.  Introducing a sure way to understand for yourself how well you are seeing things.  Sleeping minds can feel lethargic, heavy, unable to see the flowers, or smell the coffee.  Human senses are manipulated negatively by trauma, emotional reaction, and chemicals.  Unsuspecting good people may experience very real issues with their living senses for survival if denied the opportunity of Free Will.

The focus on left brain intelligence where memory, numbers and logic exists to come to a proven scientific conclusion, makes mental pygmies of the people.  We seem to have succumbed to the status quo, against the right brain oriented spirit.  Up to 80% of the population could be right brain hemisphere beings who find it just as difficult to live in a left brain world, as the left handed feel using the right hand or the right hand using the left.  It doesn’t feel good for a reason – it’s not the way they work.  When we finally allow the left handed to use the left hand his work is just as good as any right handed person.  Am I wrong?  Do I make sense to you?  Because this is just coming to me now and making perfect sense – all from my imagination guessing at things.

How depressed would the left-handed person be if they had to use their right hand – because someone else said so?  What kind of work do you think they would produce for you?  

Eventually, when working against the current we are going to get tired, sick and drown. 

Insomnia, sight (losing things right in front of you), hearing, tasting, smelling, hunger, sexual arousal, body temperature and blood pressure senses are affected, as well as many other senses needed for human survival like insight and common sense.  Symptoms will include mental, emotional and spiritual disconnection, low energy and sensations of mental imbalance.  Physically the body can experience IBS, Fibromyalgia, Chronic Fatigue, Migraine Headaches, Insomnia, skin disorders, and worse.  Everything coming from unconscious mind affects the human body experience if the brain is not nurtured, exercised, developed.

Okay, all of that boring negative news we need to know aside, let’s do some brain exploring just for giggles because I know you probably don’t sense a lot of fun every day living in a ‘inside the lines’ world:  

First, give yourself a break. Go get a cookie or a treat of some kind no one else would approve of, and just sit down in a quiet dark place, the bathroom if necessary.  Decide it’s okay to go back in time when you use to play pretend, imaginary games.  At the very least, it can’t hurt.

Allow permission to unwind and relax for three hours or three minutes – the imagination can work at the speed of light, and there are no rules.

Close your eyes and begin to focus on your breathing. Nice regular normal breathing, the same kind you do all day. You don’t want to force anything. It’s all about gentle. Then let yourself sink down into a calm place of comfort. You know how to completely relax, if not, guess or come up with an idea you remember from before. Just go limp.
Brain Check Up:  It’s almost like going in and seeing an x-ray of the right brain hemisphere with state of the art imagination:
Using the mind’s eye pretend you are in a garden. A peaceful heavenly place with a pond, a waterfall, and colour. Or some other place you can come up with better. Focus on light, brightness, and images. If you find it difficult to focus and see things, imagine you are looking into a television, or a theatre, or have mind’s eye magnifying glasses on, just picture a place that pleases you to no end, in your head.
People who can see this picture using the mind’s eye with full living colour are awakened to their journey and you can bet they are highly intuitive and probably developed healers, inventors, artists, genius of some creative kind. Sadly, in most cases right brain neglect and abuse of the imagination will darken this part of the mental mind. Medication, alcohol, drugs, food, abusive habits all create emotional numbness, which will close that garden up all the way to blackness if not intervened by the beholder.
In my work I am finding the more seriously mentally sensitive (anxious to delusional) have the most difficult time seeing with closed eyes. They don’t know they live in the dark and so how would they think to figure a way out? Living in the dark imagination creates stress and results in mild to serious mental imbalance of mood energy.  It soon shows up in the body and creates dis-ease.
If you want (nothing happens without the desire) to wake up from negative (dark) thought and circumstance yet find it difficult to come up with your own mind’s eye visions consider seeing a guide to exercise that part of the mind: Find a Hypnotherapist or Hypnotist in your area who has the authority to work with depression, anxiety, or mental illness.  Ask about regression, parts, and NLP therapy to remove old mental conditioning.  Clients who reject the scientific explanation of depression will discover negative emotional reactions of fear, guilt, shame and anger get in the way of experiencing love, compassion, and joy.  Maybe this isn’t a sickness, but a spiritual emergency.  Time to wake up?   Good feeling sensations comes to all of us naturally but we tend to block our own senses when adapting to mental images someone else may have of our being.
I use to think I couldn’t work with anyone on anti-depressant medication because these brains might find it too difficult to bring our the imagination, but notice a good percentage are not doing a thing to the brain at all anyway, so it is doing no harm to the imagination. In other cases the drugged mind feels like it is living in purgatory, and the client eventually may not want to leave that state of comfort because it is better than the baggage of imagination, or they don’t know how to get out.  It scares some to even think they can be or feel any different.
People who can see picture perfect using the mind’s eye will full living colour are awakened to their journey and may just need some confidence, coping skills and mental self-protection.  They know when they are ready to live what they are supposed to be experiencing for happiness and joy, and not a moment before. Sometimes these sensitive souls have to go very dark before willing to come back up.
I believe now that the right brain (imagination, creativity, fantasy, emotions, ideas, and infinite wisdom with no logical sense) has been so grossly neglected for ages of time, that we hardly know the other half of the brain is there.  Too often the imagination exists to scare us, shame ourselves, or fantasize sexually.  I know many others are awakening with similar insights regarding the imagination’s power, talent and resources.  I hope people catch on soon so that the right brain population can begin to be actualized for all they are capable of for civilization.  It seems right now we are marginalizing people outside of the left brain box and that puts everyone at a reduced intelligence level of being.  Emotional intelligence is what is dehydrating and dying of malnourishment, the clues are  in the imagination and cannot be labeled without serious consequences to the growth of the mind.
Male and female right brain oriented people will love visualizing, pretending, coming up with self-help idea because it reminds them of something unconscious. I am confident some will connect with my words that maybe they could have been simply imagining in the dark without awareness.  A state of mind that is unhappy, frustrated and feeling powerless is a real clue the imagination is in the dark.  When the right brain is utilized talent and intelligence becomes unlimited because the imagination is infinite.
The clearer the mind’s eye picture the closer one is to self-actualization.  It will take some practice but any sensitive / defeated feeling folks who want change will find amazing results with the imagination.
Control your mind and come up with some ideas on how to make whatever you want to happen, happen using the imagination while visualizing, sensing, pretending.   Understand the wisest teacher lives within you.  Imagine, create, or guess your way back to your intended place in the universe.  Imagine self-love, esteem, peace and comfort instead of what you are used to imagining – and soon you too will experience the universal gifts you were born with.
Strive to sense your mind’s eye garden as clearly as intended and the miracles begin…
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Cherylann Thomas, B.Sc.Crim.,CH,t is a Clinical Hypnotherapist specializing in depression, anxiety, grief, loss and more, who advanced her professional career by braille until she woke up a few years ago. With a lifetime of circumstances of misfortune, personal trauma’s, drama’s, and loss after loss she was at her wit’s end with grief and despair. At 50 years of age she picked herself up once more, and recovered her own shattered life using the wonders of hypnotherapy – discovering her calling. Working part-time she is accepting clients by appointment. Check the website and Hypnotherapy / Counselling service price list.
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How Can We Evolve From Depression? Can You Guess?

Are you ready to learn why we may be experiencing so much mental illness and addictive behavior?

What if I started by telling you there is nothing wrong with the sick at heart that a look at the root cause can’t fix?  Are you interested in getting to the bottom of emotional and mental imbalance? 

This discussion would be incomplete if I didn’t start off talking about what is literally making about half of the school population emotionally and spiritually sick.  For me I could not tolerate public education in elementary and secondary school and I’ve figured out why the place made me so very unhappy in spirit.

This is important and we need more empathy if our kids are going to get anywhere…

Trying to cope in a row style environment, remembering facts and figures was hard and boring to me.  I somehow knew I don’t need to know everything they want to force me to learn, I can teach myself how to think.  Get me to Grade four where I can problem solve, read, write, communicate with civil behavior and I’ll be fine.  I know now my learning style did not suit left brain academy at all.  I started off on the wrong foot.  The left one.

In Grade 1 we had these IQ testing standards and I remember the teacher saying as soon as we finished our exam booklet to quietly go outside until all of the other children were finished.  Well, that’s all Cherylann needed to pretend to answer all of them correctly as fast as possible without looking at the questions.  Just filled in the grey squares and off I go to play – first one out.

Of course the system thought I was disabled in some way from the beginning because of that first impression brought on by a little girl who just wanted to end the unhappy classroom experience.  From that moment on my life took a turn for the worse and lost years of education I’ll never get back.  I failed grade 2.  That was the first year I remember feeling a deep seated depression settling in my spirit.  No one had any confidence in me even though I could tell time before my brother who was two years older than me, and I was reading way beyond anyone else I knew.  I wrote poetry and was so good even my mother liked my written thought sometimes although she nor I saved anything.  It was rare for me to have any credit in school until I found my own way back starting at my age of 21.

Let me give you a couple of examples on how public school was no help in my emotional or academic growth.  Grade 8 Math said I did nothing that semester, and I finally dropped out of school in grade 10 after the huge disappointment I received from the one class I did like, English: We were told for 50% of the grade to write a book of poetry.  All different kinds, Haiku, Couplet, Limerick, Free Verse…omg I was in heaven!  Finally I was going to bring home an “A” rather than the usual D’s and F’s or Incomplete’s with “U” for Unsatisfactory effort.  Then the system kicked me in the ass right out the door when the assignment had an added requirement:  I had to illustrate each poem.  People who get my brain will feel my pain in the idea of drawing pictures!  It will RUIN EVERYTHING!  In the poetry there is passion, in my drawing we barely have a Kindergarten level ability of even staying in the lines.  It was a horrifying assignment that sucked all of my passion right out me until I found myself again.  I refused to illustrate those poems, wanting to show off my poetic art, and only received a C, and the teacher said I should have had an incomplete.  I am creative, but in my own unique ways that didn’t include fine arts.

So I did what any other free thinking right brain person would do, run away from home to escape the madness.  That’s a nice way to frame things but I want you to know my awareness about myself then was nothing like the self-awareness of I have myself today.  I was a worthless no value person who was filled with self doubt and even hatred, in my mind back in the day.  A bad girl in my mind, however mislead.

I look back today and am in awe of how my life came together so unconsciously perfectly well, and how I made it is anyone’s guess.  I am a miracle but that’s another story I’ll share another time.

Speaking of guessing and getting back to the spirit:

I think guessing is the secret to everything.  I am conscious of our right brain capabilities lately in my work as a Clinical Hypnotherapist.  I work with some seriously depressed and anxious women and men who are collapsing in the same left-brain oriented world that I almost drowned in before them.  All of this memory, order, perfection, lines, rules, technology, is making people sick.  We worship and embrace logical training and is now (or has always, I don’t know) the dominate force of our people.  It is the only side of the brain respected or valued in this, and most other worldly cultures.

The problem is men and women were created equal, but not the same.  It’s so obvious to me I can’t believe no one thought of this before.  We have such a completely different physical and mental mind it’s amazing no one said anything to make me think again about how important Math 8 would be, considering the trauma it caused my happy spirit. We need to ask why doctors only studied the male body for research until recently when female forms are the one’s with all of the tools for life?  How can they compare the sexes at all?  Why no man still understands a woman is because he isn’t one.  It’s part of the plan for us to be different, but we spend so much time trying to be the same as men instead of our own amazing selves.

This is where the exciting part comes in for women everywhere and to come – it turns out our part of the brain makes us the inventors of the world too!  We are Albert Einstein, Thomas Edison, and Alexander Bell, and all of the one’s who made this world what it is today because they were allowed to imagine things without shaming.  Airplanes and wild ideas of internet connect was just an idea floating around someone’s right brain.  The imagination.  If that imagination can connect with the senses for life; sight, sound, taste, smell, touch – and intuition – you can count on a manifestation in reality.  The creator.  That’s our gift.  We have ideas, imagination, and the creative passion within us that would make this world one hell of a place to live.  Almost perfection if you think about it. Being allowed to imagine is all it takes.

Can men be right brain oriented and women be left?  Absolutely.  It’s true more women are right brain feminine but there are many right brain masculine.  Gays, transgendered, ADHD (so-called) and other male types are right brain oriented in some areas and do not do well in school in many cases.   Unless they are little lobotomized to obedience or something.  The mind is is about spirit development, supposed to be, don’t you think?

The emotional imagination has been played with and manipulated for someone else’s benefit.  Not mine.  Instead of imagining and manifesting a good life for ourselves, we give the female sex up to the idea that we are born in sin.  Fear, shame, anger are learned into the consciousness, darkening the heart to sleep until you hardly know it’s there anymore.  This part of our being feels like it’s going insane.  The unconscious spirit just can’t take it anymore!  That’s what I think.

Imagine the imagination is exactly where your kind of wisdom is found?  And it’s beyond left brain limits – it is infinite in emotional intelligence.  The way we have evolved is an example…and it just keeps getting better.  But never to perfection.  It is infinite, flexible, relative, and does not know time.

The whole point is self-love and respect, and to count on you for your good life.  The spirit can only awaken to universal wisdom if we know it is there.  It is clear we have been led down the wrong road for our own spiritual sake with the judgement we place on men and women alike. It is never too late, and maybe all of our experiences was supposed to be how we were going to develop the soul all along anyway.

SENSES OF THE IMAGINATION 

How do you solve problems and then thrive?

  1. Guess.  If you don’t know the answer to something, use your imagination to figure out the problem.  You know.  You know everything.  The more you believe the more you know.  This is an amazingly fast way to open up the vault of the unconscious imagination.  You know things, you have had life, lots of your experiences will remind you of the answer and it’s all stored right there in the unconscious ready to be accessed if you’d just go to the guess channel.  I’ll tell you a secret, if you connect with yourself enough you might soon be connecting with your guides and the rest of the universe as well.

2.      Put yourself into trance regularly.  If you can’t see a Hypnotherapist then find a way to get out of your own way.  Music, arts, look into a fire, whatever…you know how, you know everything.  I have confidence in your innate talents and resources to put yourself into a calm state of mind where you don’t have to think for a while.   🙂

3.  When in a trace state of mind begin to dream and fantasize using the mind’s eye.  If you have difficulty understanding this, think of it as the same way you might have fantasies for sexual gratification, only this time you want to open up the juices of other senses for life.  To create your imagination with any kind of clarity the dark ego emotional nonsense has to be removed.  It’s okay, you don’t need them believe me.  You really have to be willing to give up a lot of the ego.  Use your imagination to balance the emotional senses.  It won’t hurt your sex drive to focus on another fantasy, it might even help.

Friends, as we evolve into this next age emotions are sparking everywhere and it is going to get worse, you can imagine.  This is your gift, your deal – emotions and they are love, compassion and empathy.  That’s the heart under the ego of fear, shame, and anger.  You feel unstable because you are waking up I suspect, and can sense things that go on in your life are not right, but can’t figure out what.  It’s right brain oppression and you’re only just beginning an amazing journey now.  It feels unstable because no one is agreeing with your thinking that you can hardly deny anymore.  Right brain people keep silent and I share from my heart to be an example of the opposite.  I hope you find your purpose and inspire others with your mind. It is special.  It is very special.  Finally.

For Suffering Sensitive Men and Women

You can come up with ideas to leave a controlling or abusive relationship.  Find a way because you are smart like that so do it.    Without consciousness the senses feel like insanity.

Men, they’re great too with their own unique talents, resources, and offerings to the world!  But not everything is all about men, especially when the main right brainers are indeed women who have been very badly neglected in life offerings and benefits, and we are beginning to know it.  I encourage the development of right brain education, in the way that suits the child’s spirit.  I tell big pharma that drugging beautiful minds with medication that stays in the energy 24/7 should be a criminal offense, if they only knew the damage it was doing throughout North America.

Instead of using the imagination to scare yourself to death, try to turn the imagination around for better results and watch yourself blossom into the butterfly you were meant to be. What do you think all of those pretty butterflies are trying to tell you when they flutter by?  Time to stand up and take your place at the table with all of the others now.  If no one has invited you to equality and good life, find another way.  You too will come up with all sorts of theories as you evolve. What if you are allowed?  XXOO

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Cherylann Thomas, BASc.Crim., CH,t is a Clinical Hypnotherapist in West Kelowna, British Columbia.

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When I Realized No One Was Saving Me – I Saved Myself.

In suffocation we cannot breathe.  The same can be said for a controlled or dependent life when the dependency is unhealthy.  Some people think they need to give up drugs, booze, hoarding, or eating because if they do not they will be shamed, shunned, and love will be withdrawn.  Others think they have to hide in addiction because it feels better than sobriety in their individual reality.  At the very least the bad deed keeps a person comfortable for a while and sometimes that is all they need for emotional relief and their personal opinion of a happy life.

What if you can live any way you see fit?  If I gave you permission right now to go forth and do life your way, here are the resources, what would you do with your opportunity?  I am going to guess you just don’t know because you’ve never allowed yourself the idea you CAN be anything you want.  Let’s start there.  Conscious (learned) thinking is the only thing that keeps anyone stuck in unhappiness.   Early training, mind conditioning, thoughts that have been planted and you’ve unconsciously accepted them as truth. Unconscious does not know the difference between fantasy and reality and your feelings and body will respond to all thoughts fed to self whether true or not.  Keep telling yourself you are fat, add some fear, worry, shame – bingo – you’ve got more weight then you’ll know what to do with.

The problem is the mind can be so sensitive if a non-abusive adult inadvertently remarks to a child about her weight – it may trigger that child up for a lifetime of eating disorders.  Some kids will ignore the comment and simply assume the adult is nuts.  Others will take authority literally.  After the child’s brain is developed, contrary to popular belief, it’s still up to individuals to figure out how to survive in spite of their thinking deficiencies by the time they leave home.  I am not blaming home environments as you will read – the root cause of our problems come from historical conditioning of populations, designed for control.

The creator of life experience after 18 – is you.  That means you have a chance now of making something special, or even great about your purpose happen.  Not if you are sitting in someone else’s negative mind-set, however.  There are a lot of nay-saying folks who can’t wait to tell you your good ideas will not work out.  So, smoke some pot or drink some beer or take a pill if you want.  Or, ignore what is in your way and make a plan to develop the way you see fit.  I am willing to bet you won’t need anything if you are happy and peaceful.

It isn’t easy to shut out the background noise, the mental tapes of no I can’t, and some people seek out help to reframe their thoughts.  In hypnotherapy folks come up with their own wise ideas that suits their personality, interests, values, zodiac signs and what have you.  The right part of the brain has been so neglected in public school where all the system wants to teach a child is how to remember and calculate proven principles.  What we forget all of the best intelligence is sitting on the other side of the brain waiting to be discovered!  Wisdom, peace, emotional wellness are all experienced when the right side of the brain is respected as much as we concern ourselves with the left hemisphere.

Perspectives.  How we perceive our own behavior and what we see in the actions of others comes from ages of experience we all have in life.  My eyes will see something completely different from your eyes in a given case.  We will have black and white differences that cannot be reconciled because one person’s experience will be vastly different than someone who has lived in the wilderness, or another place, all of their life.

I am empathetic to people’s issues and I’m not trying to upset anyone here.  But my message is getting louder because the mental illness and addiction problem is getting worse under the current models offered.

We do not all experience life the same way because of environment, but more importantly we are all born unique souls with different journey’s of learning and teaching!  The problem is everyone wants everyone else to live the same way they do.  Of course there are influences, and events special to the individual that will mold a person’s mind toward a certain belief system and reason for core values and behaviors.   A family can have a group of amazing beings who all follow the program the way we would want.  Everyone gets along the same, thinks the same, does life the same way.  I know many families that appear like this and I’ve often felt a little short-changed because I just cannot imagine how that life might be like.  I say fantastic and good on you and your historical families for finding a way.

Typically this is not the case and a family has a group of individuals who piss each other off by not complying to the status quo, or complying with resentment.  This creates a lot of stress and drama that will reduce chances of a free life.  Some have so much over-reaction to problems the dysfunction embedded makes a happy, healthy life for anyone in the group impossible.

I am unsure what my family is doing these days – I only know how I am because I decided a long time ago the same influences that affected me so negatively had to go so I could have a fresh perspective about life and the meaning of my own existence.  I’ve had an amazing journey lol…and can’t thank my history enough for teaching me how to find my way.  Not everyone can break away but protection of self is possible.

Listen, I am the same woman I have been all of my life – but 100% different in my thinking about what my contribution to the universe was meant to be about.  As a strong character I’ve picked myself up and started over a few times, and even after an unhappy childhood I was able to build a comfortable life with family, career, and collecting toys in triplicate.  In spite of my good works I came to have a host of life struggles, pain, loss and grief.  Heavy duties for living was piling up and I eventually collapsed feeling utterly powerless, voiceless, and really – in some kind of shock I think as I fumbled through my pain, trying to get someone to save my life for me.

Today I look around and adore the beautiful way I discovered to run my own life and am excited about where I am going.  Not everyone will want to live my way and this is not my point – I am suggesting what if it is okay you live your way and we let everyone else run their lives as they see fit?

At the end of the day we are all going to do whatever we want to do in spite of other people’s best intention for our lives.   Now of course I am not encouraging reckless behavior – or doing anything that directly affects someone else.  You are a grown up with manners by now, the civilized thing to do is no harm to others.  If you want to slowly kill yourself with habits that harm you – do it, but please don’t allow anyone else to go down with you by insisting they live with your lifestyle.

Today I share a part of me, which is what I bring to the table to encourage peace of mind, comfort, and self happiness instead of the fight for perfection in someone else’s eyes.

I use to have a very hard time liking myself, at all.  Ashamed of my very existence and I had no idea why.  I was never a bad person – from the moment my only child was born when I was 18, I worked very hard at building a good life for myself and family.  I had to do better than anyone else hopefully to prove I am a good girl in everyone else’s mind.  Because of early childhood trauma, neglect, and lack of maternal or paternal love I suspect I will have a lifetime of difficulties to overcome – it is my journey and yet now I take on every new challenge with enthusiasm and my good mood remains stable.

My role growing up and into adulthood was to be the willing scapegoat for anyone who didn’t want to take responsibility for their shit.  I was begging for love and taught others they could use me as an escape to their problems – I’ll take the blame.  I made myself the sponge to be the reason for everyone’s anger, fear, shame and ego pride.  I allowed myself to be identified through ‘their’ eyes with little ego fight in me at all.  I cared more about everyone else’s feelings than my own.  Sometimes I went off into some kind of unconscious rage over the madness of the situation.

It turns out I was mad at myself all along for what I wasn’t doing to help my own good life.

I did not know how to articulate what was wrong because I didn’t know any better way.  But my mind and body were in a lot of pain and I now understand a part of me was reacting adversely to the conditions and rules I found myself living in.  I was completely blind to my own circumstances even though I thought I had things pretty much figured out.  I had to  remove myself completely from the brainwashing, manipulation, emotional whippings before I could see a way out through my own eyes.

It is very difficult to cope in today’s perfection oriented, fast paced left brain world of judgement.  And we all make things so much harder on ourselves and others with emotional reactions that are unnecessary, do not solve a problem (but can sure make it worse), and even harm us more than if we were just left to change what we want to change – not what others think we should.

All life choices will have natural consequences that are positive or negative.  If someone around me doesn’t like what I do, or how I live, but I am okay with myself – they have to go because I refuse to allow anyone else to punish me if I am not breaking any laws.

For me I was living in a world of negative emotions like shame, fear and self anger; then came alcohol, followed by anti-feeling prescribed drugs, then suicide when I realized that no one and nothing else was saving me.  Today’s medical answer to the trauma’s that were piling up like a twilight zone movie the methods and motives felt like insanity at some parts.  Only I knew I wasn’t insane – I was hurting.

What is offered for help now is not only not working – it is creating insanity.  Anyone who still has one eye open can see the drug and mental illness problems in North America are getting worse not better under the organization of ‘science’ or the medical and spiritual models of powerlessness.   Yet society is conditioned to believe now that a pill, drug, or mood altering substance is a good idea and prescribe it by the trillions of dollars every year we consume in prescribed medication.  The anger I sense from people on the drugs as they read my articles are palpable.   They insist I am wrong, the doctors are right and how dare I question science?  Oh, I do question science because in my experience (and I have a lot) science is nothing more than a marketing word to convince someone of something they cannot see themselves.  Like the world is flat.  We’ve known for thousands of years the world is not flat.  But the powers back in the day thought it might be a good idea to tell the masses the world was flat to keep folks in control.  Not a lot of people left town with that fearful idea of falling off the earth.  This is real.  It really happened.  Science and government have always operated under rules that control the population.  This prevents individuals from discovering for themselves something better than what is offered by the bosses.  Christopher Columbus didn’t want to stay in his town, and went to Queen Isabel of Spain and begged for money to check out the world.  A woman of curiosity and inquiry decided to grant the request and ever since we now all know the world is, in fact, round.  Do I trust science?  Sometimes.  But now I make sure I also consider my personal judgement located on the right brain where my senses live. *

We only will see what we WANT to see until it no longer works, or causes bigger problems.  As a people we are about as brainwashed and mind conditioned as we can get when it comes to not believing in ourselves, or natural solutions.

Recently a 40-year-old woman came to see me and had just started Baby Effexor.  BABY EFFEXOR is how they are marketing it now, the doctors.  When I was first fed my dose I was told it was to balance a Serotonin chemical I was lacking, and just like a diabetic person needs insulin a depressed person needs anti-depressant pills.  I believed in the science, blindly, without questioning because that is how I’ve been trained to be.  The problem is you can call it Baby  Effexor, or insulin, or whatever you want to name it to feel okay to take it in good conscience.  Only the taker of the medicine will be able to say if it works for them.  It is still a chemical way to live life and if it works – great.  If it isn’t working folks don’t seem to care.  They will come to me and want to get to the root of their problem but so filled with brain numbing drugs I can’t reach their feelings for any change to be possible.  The irony is I can work with people who engage street drugs, or anti-anxiety medication…the drugs I find the most problematic for reaching right brain capabilities are government sponsored anti-depressants and anti-psychotic medication.  These drugs are designed to never wear off.  24/7 the brain is inhibited and the person hardly realizes their own deficiency within a few weeks.

Anti-depressant medication inhibits the senses for human survival and well being.  How do I know?  My right brain tells me.  While I was plied with the drugs I allowed things to happen that were detrimental to my life, and the life of someone I was responsible for.  My vision, hearing, and feelings were literally shut down to nothing.  My hunger sense, sexual arousal sense, body temperature, blood pressure were all manipulated with these sorts of chronic drugs.  On doctor ordered medication I signed away a terrible divorce agreement that really harmed my future and I managed life in a way I would never let be with my own senses.

Drugs that alter moods is not a cure no matter how we want to spin it.  Of course it is a choice and I hold no one in judgement for choosing this solution if it works for them.  I say do what you want to do unless you decide it is not working and then find another way, or stay in the system –  if you are of legal age you don’t need me or anyone to tell you how to conduct your life.  I am sharing my story.  Yours might be different.  Right?

After I miserably failed at suicide l looked around and found myself alive and alone anyway.  I had nothing to lose but to try a new approach to me.  I decided to try Love.  When left to my own devices I researched and finally went for hypnotherapy treatments (thinking a past life might explain my problems) and instead of finding out I was a bad person in another life, I found my mindful awareness opening up like never before.  I had a change of thought, feelings, and deed and looked at myself in ways I would never have imagined before.  This therapy wasn’t even a little bit flakey to me, it made sense to my better self and I went full on to learn everything I could about the subject of intuitive, spiritual energy – the unconscious mind.

I got a lot more out of hypnotherapy than I ever bargained for but it was just the beginning and it was not in the way I had expected it to work.  It was the opposite of a counsellor saving me – I saved me by daring to look within and deciding what I wanted to change, and what about me I wanted to develop more.  At the risk of sounding cliché, I found myself!

I turn down clients because I know they will get nothing out of hypnosis if they are unable to reach their senses, or feel they must ‘do something’ to keep the love of someone else.  It’s very sad what we do to people with addictions and mental illness, although I am certain it is done unconsciously and it is not the intention to make anyone’s behavior a condition of love.  I will tell a client straight up if I think they are making a mistake in attempting a life change before they are ready to put the effort into what took a while to build up.

Am I perfect now?  Nope.  But I sure love who I have become and enjoy my life-like no other time in my 57 years on earth.  When I am down I know just what to do and how to take care of myself.  I have an unconditional love that I didn’t know before, it is in me and connected to the rest of the universe.  As civilians of the earth we are conditioned to be dependent on others for survival…and if someone dies or leaves us we may wonder how we will survive.

If our lives are enhanced, complimented, thriving in a healthy family with dependency it is a joy to watch and admire.  Too often, however, healthy family dynamic is getting harder to find.  People are so dependent (or controlling) the emotional needy attachments get in the way of recovery for anyone in the room and can, in fact, make mental illness and addiction behavior seem magnified and things can get out of control for more than the person with the perceived ‘problem. ‘  Toxic environments spread like poison – soon the issue is more than a habit, or addiction – it is an entire house of negative emotional reactions by everyone involved.  Nothing gets solved in the middle of fear, worry, guilt, shame or anger.

I am not speaking to the ones who feel in control of their own lives.   However, if you find yourself in a control / dependent relationship with an addicted or mental loved one in an emotionally negative way, maybe you will learn something from my message as well that might help your situation.  I’m really speaking to the people who have no intention of getting better for you, or anyone else.  Why won’t they change?  Because unconsciously they know they are here for their own journey, not yours.  They will quit when good and ready, and not a moment before.  The recovery (or death) will be right on time – just not your time perhaps. We are born and we die alone – rarely at the same time as other family members, and so it is prudent to be in charge of this one life you have, your way.  I lost the best part of my life.  My son Trevor lived for 25 years and I have to say now – what a ride!  I now understand how things were suppose to unfold and I’m even good that he left when he did.  This boy had a heart of gold, was gifted intellectually left and right brain, and lived life as if it was over in 25 years.  He was a problem child, like me.  Now I know, he knew.

I think, unconsciously, we do know more than we think we know, and the more we wake up, the more we will discover for ourselves just how amazing we creatures are.

The Intuit, the first sense we have, is to survive in comfort.  Unconsciously any one of us is going to find a way to make themselves comfortable in whatever way possible.  We live and cope to the best of our own ability and knowledge, with what we know.  If we happen to engage in an unhealthy habit, well, the habit is not going to change until the person decides THEY have had enough of the problem.

It is not the drugs, alcohol, food or hoarding or other obsessive behavior to change (these come from emotional pain) –but self-hatred living in the heart that will drive a person to destruction.  The subconscious part of our being is where that answer resides, it does not sit in the ego and therefore it is pointless to try to fix it from that part of the mind.

I am going to share part of a conversation with a friend earlier today regarding her hoarding problem. *Virginia’s young son, Danny, passed away of an illness about a year or two before my Trevor died.  We met at a grieving parent’s retreat in Pavo, Georgia in about 2004.  We have empathy toward each other because we have both suffered severe loss and of course can understand each other’s pain.

This was her comment about her hoarding and my reply:

You name it……..I probably have it. But there’s just TOO much STUFF……I’m overwhelmed. I did try Ebay for a while but I messed up and it was time consuming. There’s always some kind of DRAMA with the kids (4) or grandkids (8) !!! Wanna move to N.J. ~ live next door to your “hoarder” friend and motivate her to CHANGE her life (whatever is left of it). (lol), actually, not so funny.

Cherylann Replied:

Oh my friend, I suspect you like your place full and I would never interfere with that. These things make you comfortable. You have not had a good reason to let any of your things go. I am willing to bet a lot of the anxiety you sense around the hoarding is coming from family members? You know I work with addictions, mental health issues, and the one common denominator that exists in all of my clients is that unless they WANT to stop what they are doing, they will not. We are survivalist’s– born to survive and thrive any way we can.

Unconsciously, you found a way to cope like we all do in different ways. This is your way of a comfortable life. It’s not for me, it is probably not for a lot of people – but YOU enjoy it. So, whatever is left of your life as you say, why not pack your bags and live in what you enjoy? Why not give yourself permission to live any way you feel most comfortable – with your things and memories? If it is affecting others in the home then find a way to make them comfortable as well. Maybe one room can be cleared for their comfort? Why not have a little sit down with each and every one of your family and let them know how you feel? There is a problem (because you mention it) so why not solve the problem and keep yourself happy and comfortable in whatever solution you can come up with to suit yourself first, and everyone else second?

If you are not allowed to live in any way that brings some sense of comfort, peace, or happiness – then that is the problem, isn’t?

You matter my friend. You really matter to me always.

Sometimes just giving people permission to live their way makes them want to do things differently.  I have witnessed the controllers finally giving up and sending their child on their own way – and they end up becoming amazing creative beings.  And, other times people do decide to just live the way they want and if it is not causing anyone harm do life their own way until they die.  If a certain loved one is not in the background making a lot of noise about it, living outside of norms can be a peaceful life too.  Eat, drink, hoard – or be weird – it is a choice and no one is powerless.

It is the harsh cold world that is so full of fear, worry, shame and anger it can hardly stand up balanced anymore.  Everyone from the government to the medical community to the education system – to loved ones – they all want to control the individual ‘for their own best interests.’  Kids are dying by suicide in record numbers with an inability to cope with the multitude of laws, rules, and conditions we have if they expect love and acceptance.

Trying to live up to an impossible image of someone else can suck the good life out of the best of us.

The solution is empathy.  Empathy is having a heart-felt understanding of what people experience that leads them in their behavior.  Empathy does not exist just for others.  WE must feel love, acceptance, and understanding for ourselves before any behavior can be managed or stopped.   Punitive measures to fix emotional pain is an asinine idea, brute force, intimidation, aggression only works for a few very strong ego minded people who don’t mind doing what they are told in spite of their own best interests.  Yes, messing up really bad might be in a person’s best interest!

A change of mind is in order.

The perception anyone has of themselves will rule how they live.  Change the perception and behaviors disappear naturally.  Toughness can only keep someone held down for so long before they find a way to break free.

What hypnotherapy promises to the willing mind is a renewed look at how much control, love, and compassion we can feel without over doing any unhealthy product, and the new self-love naturally motivates the spirit to live, act out, and experience a happy life that appeals to one’s own senses in any way they want.

Permission to be free, happy, and at peace will only come from the individual who believes they are allowed to live the way they choose.  The (unconscious) cult like mind conditioning we see going on in families, school, television, movies, social media, news outlets, and marketing commercials have no more power if one is focused on a life they want to experience.  Keeping your eye on the ball of your life is the only way to freedom.  Looking at everyone else and what they are doing right or wrong cannot help because you are only God to one.  Create a life that you can be comfortable in, or proud of, and run with your own ideas all of the way to success.

Or, count on someone else to figure out life for you – at least decide that you are okay with any choices you make.  The bottom line when I advise anyone is to make sure YOU are happy with YOUR life decisions  – or find another way back to your natural place of comfort.

Control vs. Love.  It will be okay if you tell your kids, spouse, or parents to be responsible for their own lives.  They will survive – or crash in their mistakes – and it will have nothing to do with you.  Please do relax and work your issues – not theirs – for better life results.  If you have difficulty letting go and want help consider a type of therapy that will empower you back to self.

  •  Important footnote:  It is NEVER too late to begin again.  Please do not suddenly stop taking anti-depressant or anti-anxiety medication.  There will be discomfort unless done correctly and the mind is very fragile during this state of mind.  Cherylann often supports clients while they wean off and help the client retrain the body to relax while awake through the wonders of hypnosis.

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When Did I Give Up My Mind to Science?

The more I engage in the practice of hypnosis the better insight from my unconscious I sense.  Things are starting to look amazing.  I hope you agree before they take this down !

Grab a coffee and enjoy a read that could change your life for the better instantly.  I will point out some simple clues to recovery, and explain in easy terms the mind, brain, science and snake oil.  To achieve this will you allow me to reframe some of the more traditional thinking?  If nothing else but for a moment of emotional relief from the strict confines of medical science I want to show you there may be another reason for mental illness epidemic we are seeing destroy families across the nations.

If the diagnostic model for mental illness has been working for you and the treatment programs you have been offered appeal to you, keep doing what you are doing and please don’t let my ideas offend you.  I have no intentions of changing anyone’s mind or method of treatment, I only share to inform another perspective that we could look at for the thrill of possibilities.

Well we have to give credit where credit is due.  The pharmaceutical trillion dollar industry has done a very good job on making sure we think mental illness is a permanent part of life, that without drugs the situation is hopeless. Labels and mind and mood altering drugs have become the new way to deal with problems for all ages of people, from the elderly being most likely to be on a psychiatric drug (Vancouver Sun states 97% of elderly); women next followed by children being the most common consumers before men.  We are rapidly giving in to sickly diagnosis of incurable mental illness which can come within minutes of sitting in front of a doctor.  How can they know you have a Serotonin problem when they can’t even be bothered to take a blood test?  They say mentally ill people need drugs to balance something, but have never proven the imbalance to the individual.  I know I’ve been offered and accepted anti-depressants by almost every single doctor I encountered beginning in about 1998.  At first we are told it was for only three months, then I must find another way to peace.

I use to blindly (not using my own senses) believe a man (or anyone) could know what is wrong with my body and mind without a scientific test. How is that for giving up will to another?  How do we come to that place as equal partners to other humans?

It is a fact of life that the people feeling weak or vulnerable are at a risk of being led somewhere that works against their own good senses for a satisfying life experience.

It is no secret in my community that I present myself as appalled at the current way we treat mental illness in Canada. To me it is not only keeping people sick, it is contagious through the family and generations to come.  Popping pills is NORMAL and we wonder why kids need drugs to cope and find their own way to get the job done.

Addictions continue to take over the will and lives of good people who become dependant on everything and everyone other than themselves.  We have much fear around trusting our own good judgement and intuition on how to live, and live well.

I think we have turned our will and our lives over to the power of others – is that what we are suppose to do?

Can it make us sick?

See if these unconscious bits of wisdom that comes to me doesn’t appeal to your better judgement:

Depression can be the best thing that ever happens to a person. It is a message from the unconscious that a sense (or more than one sense) is out of balance and needs attention.  It could be a spiritual emergency.

Self medicating is not going to help in the long run because it shuts down the part of the brain that is suffering, the right hemisphere.

Right brain is where ideas, emotions, and creativity for problem solving live.

Recovery becomes next to impossible to tap into while on long-term acting anti-depressants, which are designed to dull the senses for emotional pain relief.  Drugs are supposed to inhibit sight, sounds, feelings, tastes and smells to protect the patient from…life.

What is less known is the pharmaceuticals also affect the senses of sexual arousal, hunger, insight and sometimes common sense – putting children at risk of being neglected or placed in dangerous situations, depending on how strength legally prescribed drug the parent is taking.  Just because they do not give a ‘high’ does not mean those senses aren’t blocked.

Living with dulled senses for any length of time is not healthy to any reasonable thinking person.

In my opinion the whole chemistry theory simply cannot work for a spiritual energy, but this isn’t the first time I’ve sensed people in authority were wrong.

Like the time my pastor insisted (and I willingly believed) women bleed because of a punishment from God, and my role on earth was to serve man.  No wonder I was tired, ashamed, and felt hopeless.

Ideas may not flow to the blocked mind and yet that is where our true answers live. Think of depression as a clear signal that change is needed in some area of life.  If we cannot hear what the sense of depression is saying, how on earth can we end the pain and grow forward?

The imagination is what gets folks into trouble and it is what leads the way out.   But if we have no ability to imagine the best for ourselves we risk manifesting what we are imagining in the darkness.

I ask you to begin to deliberately imagine a better life you can enjoy.  You are allowed to fantasize the best for yourself besides in sexual situations!

To exercise your very own intuit; find a creative outlet that seems like fun to you. Colour, draw, write, or otherwise focus on something that will take you out of your head and in new light, so to speak. Play, pretend, enjoy something, no matter how small – as often as possible. Decide what is enjoyable for you, and do that.

Give up the control and responsibility of everyone else for extended periods of time – and never let anyone control you away from your peace.

Please become aware of the tapes you play in your mind about yourself, your life, and your problems.

The more we tend to focus, obsess, worry, the more of the same will we seem to bring about. For example, thinking about fat all day long will literally create more fat!

Maybe you can’t control the world at large, but you can get yourself into good mental shape if you think you matter enough.

Imagine you are responsible for one life and if you can manage that you pass the test and win.

If you build a foundation that works for you everything else will fall into place.

The universe will respond to your energy and reveal opportunities that will show you what you are really made of when connected to yourself.

If you are depressed because you didn’t learn solid coping skills, or were not really conditioned to sense a healthy image of self, please know that you are not permanently damaged! DON’T LET ANYONE TELL YOU THAT, please.

It is never too late to change your imagination and gain these tools to thrive in life in a manner that actually works for you.

Begin to allow the idea that you are much more than this. Inside of you is a miracle just waiting to be revealed I promise.

I’m winding down:  This one is going to be hard for you, I know: But,

Be gentle with yourself, okay? No more tough love.

Chances are others were not always gentle with you and you’ve learned very well how to take over the emotional whippings.

Or, if you tend to be hardon others around you – maybe leave them alone.

Live. Let live. Let go. Grow.

Clear the fearful, shamed or angry energy in any way that works for you.

Aren’t you sick of people being mad at you, giving you unwanted advice, meddling in your business like you don’t have a lick of sense yourself?

Take yourself back at any time by speaking up against control.

Set boundaries.  We teach people HOW to treat us.  Teach them well.

Don’t do to others what you wouldn’t want done to you.

The stress of everyone else’s emotional reactions is just too much so please don’t inflict unnatural fears and worries on others to pick up

And don’t let anyone do it to you.

Remember, you are responsible for ONE soul this journey.

Treat yourself and others kindly, keep a clear conscience for peace of mind.

I ask that you never push yourself to do what you are not ready to do. You will know when you have had enough, and not a moment before.

Go with flow, not against it

Don’t be afraid or ashamed to seek out help in a way that makes good sense to you.

Depression is sick, not stupid.

Use your senses of insight to make decisions about how you want to get your life back.

Ensure the person or program you seek assistance from respects you as an individual, and has uplifting, motivating, inspirational ways to get you to your life recovery.

Recovery does not have to be mean, harsh, or punishing. In fact, if it feels nasty the odds of it working is unlikely

Stay away from fads and fashions that have no clinical results.

People spend thousands of dollars trying to find the easiest, less painful way to self and end up with the least success.

Hypnotherapy is fast, it is safe, it is lovely and it works – but if the client is not willing to put any effort into the treatment – well, you get out of anything what you put into it.

Research and then ask yourself for the best answer on the kind of help you seek from others.

Talking about your problems is good. Once is enough.  After that you are beating a dead horse.

Going on and on and on is embedding the issues into the unconscious creating bad feelings all day long.

One good idea is to stop focusing on how you got to this place, and ask yourself what the solutions might be.

You know everything if you take the time to ask yourself. Isn’t it time?

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Be like me; take back control over your comfortable happy life 🙂

Cherylann Thomas, BASc.Crim., CH,t is a Clinical Hypnotherapist working out of the Family Wellness Centre in West Kelowna, BC. She has made a name for herself specializing in grief, loss, depression, anxiety and believes she is successful because of her amazing story of how she came to be at peace with some serious life situations that would bring most to their knees.  Cherylann copes happily with anything that comes her way today. She says, “Bring it!” to life challenges because she has a sincere belief that no problem is ever too big it cannot be fixed!