The intent of this article is to offer a mental gift to some people who may have felt like they have been run over by obvious or unseen negative forces, making life miserable.
Before I show you a whole new outlook on life, I ask you to question yourself: where do you believe you live in your mental mind, the heart or the ego? Do you know or understand the differences? Perhaps what I am about to suggest doesn’t make sense because you’ve never experienced heart/ego conflict, or you cannot relate because your own balanced brain has been developed to feel fine in the world with everyone. You would be a very blessed person indeed!
I know I lived in the extreme end of heart for my first 50 years. Abused, neglected, and barely tolerated I took on the same imagination everyone else had of me, instead of believing in myself. After playing along with self-neglect I finally found a way to re-learn who and what I was really all about – and why I was so miserably unhappy. Once I figured out I had given my free life away to someone else’s policies I trained my mind to protect itself, and to cope by practicing a form of ego counterattack.
As a result I am balanced in a way others might want to strive to: sensitive and bullet proof. Keeping all of my innate gifts I trained my naive heart to protect from manipulation and control. I may still be fooled for a minute but eventually I’ll regain my own senses when in the orbit of a heart breaker. Coming to mental awareness with emotional intelligence is empowering awesomeness you’ll want to work toward.
As my work in hypnotherapy evolves I am noticing the emotional minds of sensitive souls are easily stolen for control. That’s not how I want to roll in my career, I am God to One (me) and as a preferred choice I use the power of hypnosis to get straight to the heart of people rather than mess around with ego brushing. I believe so much in the resources and talents of everyone’s unconscious mind why would I want anyone dependent on me for their happy life? People are surprised I don’t actually practice hypnotherapy to brainwash folks, but to deprogram them from unhealthy brainwashing planted before me. Everything in the ego is learned and can be unlearned. The heart is the heart and will always be the truth, and it feels better living there than the cold place of ego.
I take liberties with some of the mental health labels many unfortunate souls are living with in this system of chemical imbalance guesses. As far as I’m concerned pigeonholing is designed to define what is wrong with people who behave outside of norms. It’s never a good pigeonhole. I shake my head in dismay witnessing good people judge themselves to be weak, powerless, and sickly based on someone else’s opinion. The whole mental illness hysteria is growing outrageously out of proportion to me, and if you keep reading you’ll see below I reframe things for a few people who are ready to take their lives back to the calm place of peace in the heart.
How does a person come to a place where they believe they do not have free will to live a life any way they see fit? Why do so many people agree to live in torturous / uncomfortable situations with minimal rewards?
Abused people often sum up their lack of life-luster thinking a hormone or chemical imbalance is the culprit and try to take care of the problem outside of themselves. I suggest it is not a chemical imbalance, instead an unconscious awakening of the human senses. Human senses for survival are the connection to our unconscious so it makes sense for those who suffer habitiual obsessions, eating disorders, migraines, skin problems, and so on are probably reacting very badly to a system that may be harming their spirit.
Mentally ‘sick’ people appear to live in the heart like raw bleeding ducks. They are kind, empathetic, unassuming (non judgemental). They mistakenly believe everyone has the same heart. The opposite to these types (ego dwellers) appear to be mentally strong but almost entirely live in learned conscious mind of entitlement. These beings flip the world upside down and make it appear that black is white and white is black. I know I’m not alone in my frustration at the upside down nature of points of view sometimes that appear to be the opposite to any truth I know. Very strange to witness if you are aware. The good look bad and the bad look good. The lying life could drive somebody to insanity or suicide if they don’t come up with a way to reign in their emotions in the face of such social misunderstanding of their own truth, vs. the fantasy of someone else’s imagination.
Mental sickness guesses have changed over the ages to suit traditional and popular thinking of the times. We have to understand that someone’s theory doesn’t necessarily make the ‘ideas’ true for the individual. There is no proven scientific evidence of any mental disorder at all, none that can be proven by lab or x-ray, but the best marketers of medicine will spin imaginary horror stories about the mind with shocking fear and shame, having folks believing in things that work against their otherwise good free will.
The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM – the psychiatric and pharmaceutical flow of ideas updated and replaced annually describing mental diseases they didn’t think of before. There is no chemical or brain lack proven with any of the ‘mental diseases.’ It’s all guess-work that makes sense to someone else. What we have now is a trillion-dollar industry in health care – where maybe no health problem existed in the first place? The left brain academics are proud of the dots they connect to define people and even agree the DSM is used for mind research – not as a cure for mental illness. This is the description the Psychiatrists Organization start their book off with…
“Their (guess makers*) dedication and hard work have yielded an authoritative volume that defines and classifies mental disorders in order to improve diagnoses, treatment, and research.”
If we are going to take an authoritative stance and guess about what is wrong with people then let me participate in the fun:
Anxiety: Heightened sense of awareness living in a non aware world. Senses the heart in others and assumes ego can feel hers. May be conditioned to doubt self and is left with feelings of panic in the confusion. Needs nourishment of the right brain and validation of feelings: these sensitive souls feel invisible while suffering people’s bad moods as if it were theirs. Angels in Disguise.
Depression: Unconsciousness due to a blow to the head, namely on the right side hemisphere. After ages of oppression with little utilizing the creative side of the brain it has shut down into mental darkness for self-protection.
PTSD: Witness or victim of evil violence. Shocked with a reality that is impossible to digest. Denied the freedom to speak their truth by outside influences. Tongue cut out.
Bi-Polar: Energized right brain oriented individual; often creative genius…has insight waking up and feels the joy of their own spirit. All she wants to do is have fun. Left brain world can hardly tolerate such excitement for life and labels her sick or bad behaving. She will unconsciously rebel to the false judgement and often goes into a deep sadness or rage for the misunderstanding. Very sensitive and intuitive. Bless her heart she might die by her own hand feeling rejected from a world that does not see her beautiful gifts.
ADHD: Right brain male child. They are no different in needs than his female classmates for learning, but have not been as brainwashed to obey commands so much and appear to simply have behavior problems. Can be labeled learning disabled or gifted, but the gifted part comes from the imagination. He connects dots like the speed of lightning in the brain and comes up with the right answer often even without studying. Poor kid can hardly tolerate external energy so finds ways to put self into trance: music, reading, video games, drugs, the allowed creativity in their right brain will help them find a way to survive. Some become great inventors.
ADD: Right Brain Male obediently allowing Left Brain Rules against their better spirit. Won’t be inventing anything until allowed to use creative side of mind.
Borderline Personality Disorder: Person who has likely rarely been validated for her insights, sensitivity, intuition. Has a lot of self-doubt and is insecure. Can appear needy – strives for independence to distance herself from the abusive reactions to her being. Easy Scapegoat. Appears different in thought and intuition, uses the imagination in creative ways. Intuition is often so correct she scares people, and they don’t know why. Can explode in a fury of unconscious frustration to the madness she senses externally and yet finds difficult to articulate. Probably brilliant in a right brain activity.
On the other side of the spectrum is where Ego lives:
Narcissistic Personality Disorder: Lives almost 100% in the ego mind. Selfish and greedy minded, unless they are grooming someone for supply. Jealous of sensitive ones. Possibly abused with indulgent / neglectful upbringing. Has found a way to cope by shutting down emotions and focusing only on self. Extraordinarily manipulative: Seeks a place of comfort in families, communities, business, and government. Often the CEO who loves to be centre of attention because he knows he has something to offer the world. Has lots of followers.
Left brain society value and reward this type way more than right brain emotional because they add some creativity to the logical gang without the emotional baggage of feelings. Most are well-respected with much credibility even with evidence of low moral character.
NPD don’t like emotions other than anger, false pride, and envy although they may sense an unconscious hint of sadness. Help is unlikely – there is nothing wrong with them – it’s everyone else’s fault.
If the narcissist cannot control you they seek to control others against you. Will twist and turn any story into outrageous lies about their target. Lacks empathy, cannot imagine the plight of others, and may even imagine perverse satisfaction in harming people closest to him. Passive aggressive to the extreme. Never means what they say. Will take until the giver stops giving and not a moment before. Will tolerate a lot to get what he needs. Sucks his supply dry until there is nothing left to take.
God-Complex. I believe this character projects that in the way to manipulate others into obedience (intimidates, scares and shames people with emotional stories). Reacts negatively to criticism. Better than everyone. Will not obey if can get away with it. Realizes their worth to the earth and ego matters. Really believes they are the superior ones. They are about as spiritually asleep as you can get. Feels invincible in the human body. We have to stop raising ego’s because these man-made creatures destroy the soul of the sensitive ones, and themselves in the process.
Most of us are very suggestible to emotional manipulation, triggered with fear or shame the vulnerable will believe anything sometimes because they think everyone else has the same good heart as they and wouldn’t lie to them. People are free to choose to take medication to cover up the unhappiness for giving up their free will, or find another way to live with ego’s. Ego can never understand the heart, and don’t want to. The sad thing is some pure hearts are so enslaved they can become inadvertent protectors of the ego person if brainwashed well enough into submission. They begin to find comfort thinking against others. They are the blind judgy one’s who keep the rules obeyed on behalf of narcissists.
Heart Oriented People – Please Return to Peace of Mental Mind and Spirit –
- Decide to take back your free will of thinking, feeling and behaving
- Do no harm to others, but make sure your will is taken care of before a narcissist’s needs take over.
- If the imagination of yourself is negative give it back to the past and imagine better; perhaps guess who you are and be amazed at the ideas that come.
- Agree, admit, and live like you are responsible for your own happiness every day
- Only you knows you – taking anything personal coming from the outside is like picking up someone else’s mind and adapting it as your own. Be sure you agree to any judgement against you or brush it off and away from that orbit.
- Remember we make mistakes but there is no mistake in our belonging to the human race like everyone else. Be comfortable here. We animals are smart in finding ways to survive and thrive – in our own skin. There is nothing wrong with you coming up with ideas for your own good life.
- End abusive mental thinking. If someone else’s voice in your head and it sounds mean, harsh, punishing against you – kick that dude out as fast as possible. The heart does not know the difference between fantasy and reality and will react as if you are feeding it the truth, sometimes leading to implosion of the mind and body. You were powerless to change the original voice but you can control your own.
- If these tips feel impossible, agree you want to love and respect yourself. Begin to pretend you are allowed. Soon, your unconscious will remember and you’ll build a life as if you believe it. Work for self rewards not external punishment.
- Let the chips of your decisions fall where they may, but natural consequences are good enough for the majority of people to guide their own lives. Don’t let anyone else punish you if you didn’t break any laws.
I think it’s time we revisited all of the hype around life symptoms that can sound sick – or amazingly enlightened. I suggest each person investigate the engrams of mental or physical problems. Root cause of emotional disturbance doesn’t seem to be a priority by social government, medical science, pharmaceutical profiteers, or even the individual. I’m beginning to wonder if people even want to learn their truthful will? It might be more comfortable giving up purpose to please another who lives in ego state of mind. To me that feels like submission of free will. What do you think?
Please comment, like or share – the intent is to incite similar heart-minds to develop the practice of self-love and strength. Thank you for your support.
Let’s save some lives by approving of all of them.
Cherylann Thomas, B.Sc.Crim., CH,t is a Clinical Hypnotherapist practicing in West Kelowna, British Columbia. Her seasoned and evolving mental health practice is proven exceptionally effective in treating mental illness and addiction. Clients emerge from depression, anxiety, dependency – sparking the renewal of happy, comfortable, in control lives. If you are interested in learning more about mental / spiritual mind symptoms and what they could really be meaning to you as an individual, please visit MMH website for details and hypnotherapy service price list. The process is lovely, empowering, safe, and it works to reframe the mental pictures of the abused mind for permanent recovery and a healthier, happier life.
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As I awaken my innate senses I am concerned about the state of mind of the people. I think they are insane. Or slaves.
Evidence is flowing in that right brain oppression has created a dark place for much of the population who live in the depression of darkness. Introducing a sure way to understand for yourself how well you are seeing things. Sleeping minds can feel lethargic, heavy, unable to see the flowers, or smell the coffee. Human senses are manipulated negatively by trauma, emotional reaction, and chemicals. Unsuspecting good people may experience very real issues with their living senses for survival if denied the opportunity of Free Will.
The focus on left brain intelligence where memory, numbers and logic exists to come to a proven scientific conclusion, makes mental pygmies of the people. We seem to have succumbed to the status quo, against the right brain oriented spirit. Up to 80% of the population could be right brain hemisphere beings who find it just as difficult to live in a left brain world, as the left handed feel using the right hand or the right hand using the left. It doesn’t feel good for a reason – it’s not the way they work. When we finally allow the left handed to use the left hand his work is just as good as any right handed person. Am I wrong? Do I make sense to you? Because this is just coming to me now and making perfect sense – all from my imagination guessing at things.
How depressed would the left-handed person be if they had to use their right hand – because someone else said so? What kind of work do you think they would produce for you?
Eventually, when working against the current we are going to get tired, sick and drown.
Insomnia, sight (losing things right in front of you), hearing, tasting, smelling, hunger, sexual arousal, body temperature and blood pressure senses are affected, as well as many other senses needed for human survival like insight and common sense. Symptoms will include mental, emotional and spiritual disconnection, low energy and sensations of mental imbalance. Physically the body can experience IBS, Fibromyalgia, Chronic Fatigue, Migraine Headaches, Insomnia, skin disorders, and worse. Everything coming from unconscious mind affects the human body experience if the brain is not nurtured, exercised, developed.
Okay, all of that boring negative news we need to know aside, let’s do some brain exploring just for giggles because I know you probably don’t sense a lot of fun every day living in a ‘inside the lines’ world:
First, give yourself a break. Go get a cookie or a treat of some kind no one else would approve of, and just sit down in a quiet dark place, the bathroom if necessary. Decide it’s okay to go back in time when you use to play pretend, imaginary games. At the very least, it can’t hurt.
Allow permission to unwind and relax for three hours or three minutes – the imagination can work at the speed of light, and there are no rules.
In suffocation we cannot breathe. The same can be said for a controlled or dependent life when the dependency is unhealthy. Some people think they need to give up drugs, booze, hoarding, or eating because if they do not they will be shamed, shunned, and love will be withdrawn. Others think they have to hide in addiction because it feels better than sobriety in their individual reality. At the very least the bad deed keeps a person comfortable for a while and sometimes that is all they need for emotional relief and their personal opinion of a happy life.
What if you can live any way you see fit? If I gave you permission right now to go forth and do life your way, here are the resources, what would you do with your opportunity? I am going to guess you just don’t know because you’ve never allowed yourself the idea you CAN be anything you want. Let’s start there. Conscious (learned) thinking is the only thing that keeps anyone stuck in unhappiness. Early training, mind conditioning, thoughts that have been planted and you’ve unconsciously accepted them as truth. Unconscious does not know the difference between fantasy and reality and your feelings and body will respond to all thoughts fed to self whether true or not. Keep telling yourself you are fat, add some fear, worry, shame – bingo – you’ve got more weight then you’ll know what to do with.
The problem is the mind can be so sensitive if a non-abusive adult inadvertently remarks to a child about her weight – it may trigger that child up for a lifetime of eating disorders. Some kids will ignore the comment and simply assume the adult is nuts. Others will take authority literally. After the child’s brain is developed, contrary to popular belief, it’s still up to individuals to figure out how to survive in spite of their thinking deficiencies by the time they leave home. I am not blaming home environments as you will read – the root cause of our problems come from historical conditioning of populations, designed for control.
The creator of life experience after 18 – is you. That means you have a chance now of making something special, or even great about your purpose happen. Not if you are sitting in someone else’s negative mind-set, however. There are a lot of nay-saying folks who can’t wait to tell you your good ideas will not work out. So, smoke some pot or drink some beer or take a pill if you want. Or, ignore what is in your way and make a plan to develop the way you see fit. I am willing to bet you won’t need anything if you are happy and peaceful.
It isn’t easy to shut out the background noise, the mental tapes of no I can’t, and some people seek out help to reframe their thoughts. In hypnotherapy folks come up with their own wise ideas that suits their personality, interests, values, zodiac signs and what have you. The right part of the brain has been so neglected in public school where all the system wants to teach a child is how to remember and calculate proven principles. What we forget all of the best intelligence is sitting on the other side of the brain waiting to be discovered! Wisdom, peace, emotional wellness are all experienced when the right side of the brain is respected as much as we concern ourselves with the left hemisphere.
Perspectives. How we perceive our own behavior and what we see in the actions of others comes from ages of experience we all have in life. My eyes will see something completely different from your eyes in a given case. We will have black and white differences that cannot be reconciled because one person’s experience will be vastly different than someone who has lived in the wilderness, or another place, all of their life.
I am empathetic to people’s issues and I’m not trying to upset anyone here. But my message is getting louder because the mental illness and addiction problem is getting worse under the current models offered.
We do not all experience life the same way because of environment, but more importantly we are all born unique souls with different journey’s of learning and teaching! The problem is everyone wants everyone else to live the same way they do. Of course there are influences, and events special to the individual that will mold a person’s mind toward a certain belief system and reason for core values and behaviors. A family can have a group of amazing beings who all follow the program the way we would want. Everyone gets along the same, thinks the same, does life the same way. I know many families that appear like this and I’ve often felt a little short-changed because I just cannot imagine how that life might be like. I say fantastic and good on you and your historical families for finding a way.
Typically this is not the case and a family has a group of individuals who piss each other off by not complying to the status quo, or complying with resentment. This creates a lot of stress and drama that will reduce chances of a free life. Some have so much over-reaction to problems the dysfunction embedded makes a happy, healthy life for anyone in the group impossible.
I am unsure what my family is doing these days – I only know how I am because I decided a long time ago the same influences that affected me so negatively had to go so I could have a fresh perspective about life and the meaning of my own existence. I’ve had an amazing journey lol…and can’t thank my history enough for teaching me how to find my way. Not everyone can break away but protection of self is possible.
Listen, I am the same woman I have been all of my life – but 100% different in my thinking about what my contribution to the universe was meant to be about. As a strong character I’ve picked myself up and started over a few times, and even after an unhappy childhood I was able to build a comfortable life with family, career, and collecting toys in triplicate. In spite of my good works I came to have a host of life struggles, pain, loss and grief. Heavy duties for living was piling up and I eventually collapsed feeling utterly powerless, voiceless, and really – in some kind of shock I think as I fumbled through my pain, trying to get someone to save my life for me.
Today I look around and adore the beautiful way I discovered to run my own life and am excited about where I am going. Not everyone will want to live my way and this is not my point – I am suggesting what if it is okay you live your way and we let everyone else run their lives as they see fit?
At the end of the day we are all going to do whatever we want to do in spite of other people’s best intention for our lives. Now of course I am not encouraging reckless behavior – or doing anything that directly affects someone else. You are a grown up with manners by now, the civilized thing to do is no harm to others. If you want to slowly kill yourself with habits that harm you – do it, but please don’t allow anyone else to go down with you by insisting they live with your lifestyle.
Today I share a part of me, which is what I bring to the table to encourage peace of mind, comfort, and self happiness instead of the fight for perfection in someone else’s eyes.
I use to have a very hard time liking myself, at all. Ashamed of my very existence and I had no idea why. I was never a bad person – from the moment my only child was born when I was 18, I worked very hard at building a good life for myself and family. I had to do better than anyone else hopefully to prove I am a good girl in everyone else’s mind. Because of early childhood trauma, neglect, and lack of maternal or paternal love I suspect I will have a lifetime of difficulties to overcome – it is my journey and yet now I take on every new challenge with enthusiasm and my good mood remains stable.
My role growing up and into adulthood was to be the willing scapegoat for anyone who didn’t want to take responsibility for their shit. I was begging for love and taught others they could use me as an escape to their problems – I’ll take the blame. I made myself the sponge to be the reason for everyone’s anger, fear, shame and ego pride. I allowed myself to be identified through ‘their’ eyes with little ego fight in me at all. I cared more about everyone else’s feelings than my own. Sometimes I went off into some kind of unconscious rage over the madness of the situation.
It turns out I was mad at myself all along for what I wasn’t doing to help my own good life.
I did not know how to articulate what was wrong because I didn’t know any better way. But my mind and body were in a lot of pain and I now understand a part of me was reacting adversely to the conditions and rules I found myself living in. I was completely blind to my own circumstances even though I thought I had things pretty much figured out. I had to remove myself completely from the brainwashing, manipulation, emotional whippings before I could see a way out through my own eyes.
It is very difficult to cope in today’s perfection oriented, fast paced left brain world of judgement. And we all make things so much harder on ourselves and others with emotional reactions that are unnecessary, do not solve a problem (but can sure make it worse), and even harm us more than if we were just left to change what we want to change – not what others think we should.
All life choices will have natural consequences that are positive or negative. If someone around me doesn’t like what I do, or how I live, but I am okay with myself – they have to go because I refuse to allow anyone else to punish me if I am not breaking any laws.
For me I was living in a world of negative emotions like shame, fear and self anger; then came alcohol, followed by anti-feeling prescribed drugs, then suicide when I realized that no one and nothing else was saving me. Today’s medical answer to the trauma’s that were piling up like a twilight zone movie the methods and motives felt like insanity at some parts. Only I knew I wasn’t insane – I was hurting.
What is offered for help now is not only not working – it is creating insanity. Anyone who still has one eye open can see the drug and mental illness problems in North America are getting worse not better under the organization of ‘science’ or the medical and spiritual models of powerlessness. Yet society is conditioned to believe now that a pill, drug, or mood altering substance is a good idea and prescribe it by the trillions of dollars every year we consume in prescribed medication. The anger I sense from people on the drugs as they read my articles are palpable. They insist I am wrong, the doctors are right and how dare I question science? Oh, I do question science because in my experience (and I have a lot) science is nothing more than a marketing word to convince someone of something they cannot see themselves. Like the world is flat. We’ve known for thousands of years the world is not flat. But the powers back in the day thought it might be a good idea to tell the masses the world was flat to keep folks in control. Not a lot of people left town with that fearful idea of falling off the earth. This is real. It really happened. Science and government have always operated under rules that control the population. This prevents individuals from discovering for themselves something better than what is offered by the bosses. Christopher Columbus didn’t want to stay in his town, and went to Queen Isabel of Spain and begged for money to check out the world. A woman of curiosity and inquiry decided to grant the request and ever since we now all know the world is, in fact, round. Do I trust science? Sometimes. But now I make sure I also consider my personal judgement located on the right brain where my senses live. *
We only will see what we WANT to see until it no longer works, or causes bigger problems. As a people we are about as brainwashed and mind conditioned as we can get when it comes to not believing in ourselves, or natural solutions.
Recently a 40-year-old woman came to see me and had just started Baby Effexor. BABY EFFEXOR is how they are marketing it now, the doctors. When I was first fed my dose I was told it was to balance a Serotonin chemical I was lacking, and just like a diabetic person needs insulin a depressed person needs anti-depressant pills. I believed in the science, blindly, without questioning because that is how I’ve been trained to be. The problem is you can call it Baby Effexor, or insulin, or whatever you want to name it to feel okay to take it in good conscience. Only the taker of the medicine will be able to say if it works for them. It is still a chemical way to live life and if it works – great. If it isn’t working folks don’t seem to care. They will come to me and want to get to the root of their problem but so filled with brain numbing drugs I can’t reach their feelings for any change to be possible. The irony is I can work with people who engage street drugs, or anti-anxiety medication…the drugs I find the most problematic for reaching right brain capabilities are government sponsored anti-depressants and anti-psychotic medication. These drugs are designed to never wear off. 24/7 the brain is inhibited and the person hardly realizes their own deficiency within a few weeks.
Anti-depressant medication inhibits the senses for human survival and well being. How do I know? My right brain tells me. While I was plied with the drugs I allowed things to happen that were detrimental to my life, and the life of someone I was responsible for. My vision, hearing, and feelings were literally shut down to nothing. My hunger sense, sexual arousal sense, body temperature, blood pressure were all manipulated with these sorts of chronic drugs. On doctor ordered medication I signed away a terrible divorce agreement that really harmed my future and I managed life in a way I would never let be with my own senses.
Drugs that alter moods is not a cure no matter how we want to spin it. Of course it is a choice and I hold no one in judgement for choosing this solution if it works for them. I say do what you want to do unless you decide it is not working and then find another way, or stay in the system – if you are of legal age you don’t need me or anyone to tell you how to conduct your life. I am sharing my story. Yours might be different. Right?
After I miserably failed at suicide l looked around and found myself alive and alone anyway. I had nothing to lose but to try a new approach to me. I decided to try Love. When left to my own devices I researched and finally went for hypnotherapy treatments (thinking a past life might explain my problems) and instead of finding out I was a bad person in another life, I found my mindful awareness opening up like never before. I had a change of thought, feelings, and deed and looked at myself in ways I would never have imagined before. This therapy wasn’t even a little bit flakey to me, it made sense to my better self and I went full on to learn everything I could about the subject of intuitive, spiritual energy – the unconscious mind.
I got a lot more out of hypnotherapy than I ever bargained for but it was just the beginning and it was not in the way I had expected it to work. It was the opposite of a counsellor saving me – I saved me by daring to look within and deciding what I wanted to change, and what about me I wanted to develop more. At the risk of sounding cliché, I found myself!
I turn down clients because I know they will get nothing out of hypnosis if they are unable to reach their senses, or feel they must ‘do something’ to keep the love of someone else. It’s very sad what we do to people with addictions and mental illness, although I am certain it is done unconsciously and it is not the intention to make anyone’s behavior a condition of love. I will tell a client straight up if I think they are making a mistake in attempting a life change before they are ready to put the effort into what took a while to build up.
Am I perfect now? Nope. But I sure love who I have become and enjoy my life-like no other time in my 57 years on earth. When I am down I know just what to do and how to take care of myself. I have an unconditional love that I didn’t know before, it is in me and connected to the rest of the universe. As civilians of the earth we are conditioned to be dependent on others for survival…and if someone dies or leaves us we may wonder how we will survive.
If our lives are enhanced, complimented, thriving in a healthy family with dependency it is a joy to watch and admire. Too often, however, healthy family dynamic is getting harder to find. People are so dependent (or controlling) the emotional needy attachments get in the way of recovery for anyone in the room and can, in fact, make mental illness and addiction behavior seem magnified and things can get out of control for more than the person with the perceived ‘problem. ‘ Toxic environments spread like poison – soon the issue is more than a habit, or addiction – it is an entire house of negative emotional reactions by everyone involved. Nothing gets solved in the middle of fear, worry, guilt, shame or anger.
I am not speaking to the ones who feel in control of their own lives. However, if you find yourself in a control / dependent relationship with an addicted or mental loved one in an emotionally negative way, maybe you will learn something from my message as well that might help your situation. I’m really speaking to the people who have no intention of getting better for you, or anyone else. Why won’t they change? Because unconsciously they know they are here for their own journey, not yours. They will quit when good and ready, and not a moment before. The recovery (or death) will be right on time – just not your time perhaps. We are born and we die alone – rarely at the same time as other family members, and so it is prudent to be in charge of this one life you have, your way. I lost the best part of my life. My son Trevor lived for 25 years and I have to say now – what a ride! I now understand how things were suppose to unfold and I’m even good that he left when he did. This boy had a heart of gold, was gifted intellectually left and right brain, and lived life as if it was over in 25 years. He was a problem child, like me. Now I know, he knew.
I think, unconsciously, we do know more than we think we know, and the more we wake up, the more we will discover for ourselves just how amazing we creatures are.
The Intuit, the first sense we have, is to survive in comfort. Unconsciously any one of us is going to find a way to make themselves comfortable in whatever way possible. We live and cope to the best of our own ability and knowledge, with what we know. If we happen to engage in an unhealthy habit, well, the habit is not going to change until the person decides THEY have had enough of the problem.
It is not the drugs, alcohol, food or hoarding or other obsessive behavior to change (these come from emotional pain) –but self-hatred living in the heart that will drive a person to destruction. The subconscious part of our being is where that answer resides, it does not sit in the ego and therefore it is pointless to try to fix it from that part of the mind.
I am going to share part of a conversation with a friend earlier today regarding her hoarding problem. *Virginia’s young son, Danny, passed away of an illness about a year or two before my Trevor died. We met at a grieving parent’s retreat in Pavo, Georgia in about 2004. We have empathy toward each other because we have both suffered severe loss and of course can understand each other’s pain.
This was her comment about her hoarding and my reply:
You name it……..I probably have it. But there’s just TOO much STUFF……I’m overwhelmed. I did try Ebay for a while but I messed up and it was time consuming. There’s always some kind of DRAMA with the kids (4) or grandkids (8) !!! Wanna move to N.J. ~ live next door to your “hoarder” friend and motivate her to CHANGE her life (whatever is left of it). (lol), actually, not so funny.
Oh my friend, I suspect you like your place full and I would never interfere with that. These things make you comfortable. You have not had a good reason to let any of your things go. I am willing to bet a lot of the anxiety you sense around the hoarding is coming from family members? You know I work with addictions, mental health issues, and the one common denominator that exists in all of my clients is that unless they WANT to stop what they are doing, they will not. We are survivalist’s– born to survive and thrive any way we can.
Unconsciously, you found a way to cope like we all do in different ways. This is your way of a comfortable life. It’s not for me, it is probably not for a lot of people – but YOU enjoy it. So, whatever is left of your life as you say, why not pack your bags and live in what you enjoy? Why not give yourself permission to live any way you feel most comfortable – with your things and memories? If it is affecting others in the home then find a way to make them comfortable as well. Maybe one room can be cleared for their comfort? Why not have a little sit down with each and every one of your family and let them know how you feel? There is a problem (because you mention it) so why not solve the problem and keep yourself happy and comfortable in whatever solution you can come up with to suit yourself first, and everyone else second?
If you are not allowed to live in any way that brings some sense of comfort, peace, or happiness – then that is the problem, isn’t?
You matter my friend. You really matter to me always.
Sometimes just giving people permission to live their way makes them want to do things differently. I have witnessed the controllers finally giving up and sending their child on their own way – and they end up becoming amazing creative beings. And, other times people do decide to just live the way they want and if it is not causing anyone harm do life their own way until they die. If a certain loved one is not in the background making a lot of noise about it, living outside of norms can be a peaceful life too. Eat, drink, hoard – or be weird – it is a choice and no one is powerless.
It is the harsh cold world that is so full of fear, worry, shame and anger it can hardly stand up balanced anymore. Everyone from the government to the medical community to the education system – to loved ones – they all want to control the individual ‘for their own best interests.’ Kids are dying by suicide in record numbers with an inability to cope with the multitude of laws, rules, and conditions we have if they expect love and acceptance.
Trying to live up to an impossible image of someone else can suck the good life out of the best of us.
The solution is empathy. Empathy is having a heart-felt understanding of what people experience that leads them in their behavior. Empathy does not exist just for others. WE must feel love, acceptance, and understanding for ourselves before any behavior can be managed or stopped. Punitive measures to fix emotional pain is an asinine idea, brute force, intimidation, aggression only works for a few very strong ego minded people who don’t mind doing what they are told in spite of their own best interests. Yes, messing up really bad might be in a person’s best interest!
A change of mind is in order.
The perception anyone has of themselves will rule how they live. Change the perception and behaviors disappear naturally. Toughness can only keep someone held down for so long before they find a way to break free.
What hypnotherapy promises to the willing mind is a renewed look at how much control, love, and compassion we can feel without over doing any unhealthy product, and the new self-love naturally motivates the spirit to live, act out, and experience a happy life that appeals to one’s own senses in any way they want.
Permission to be free, happy, and at peace will only come from the individual who believes they are allowed to live the way they choose. The (unconscious) cult like mind conditioning we see going on in families, school, television, movies, social media, news outlets, and marketing commercials have no more power if one is focused on a life they want to experience. Keeping your eye on the ball of your life is the only way to freedom. Looking at everyone else and what they are doing right or wrong cannot help because you are only God to one. Create a life that you can be comfortable in, or proud of, and run with your own ideas all of the way to success.
Or, count on someone else to figure out life for you – at least decide that you are okay with any choices you make. The bottom line when I advise anyone is to make sure YOU are happy with YOUR life decisions – or find another way back to your natural place of comfort.
Control vs. Love. It will be okay if you tell your kids, spouse, or parents to be responsible for their own lives. They will survive – or crash in their mistakes – and it will have nothing to do with you. Please do relax and work your issues – not theirs – for better life results. If you have difficulty letting go and want help consider a type of therapy that will empower you back to self.
- Important footnote: It is NEVER too late to begin again. Please do not suddenly stop taking anti-depressant or anti-anxiety medication. There will be discomfort unless done correctly and the mind is very fragile during this state of mind. Cherylann often supports clients while they wean off and help the client retrain the body to relax while awake through the wonders of hypnosis.
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Grab a coffee and enjoy a read that could change your life for the better instantly. I will point out some simple clues to recovery, and explain in easy terms the mind, brain, science and snake oil. To achieve this will you allow me to reframe some of the more traditional thinking? If nothing else but for a moment of emotional relief from the strict confines of medical science I want to show you there may be another reason for mental illness epidemic we are seeing destroy families across the nations.
If the diagnostic model for mental illness has been working for you and the treatment programs you have been offered appeal to you, keep doing what you are doing and please don’t let my ideas offend you. I have no intentions of changing anyone’s mind or method of treatment, I only share to inform another perspective that we could look at for the thrill of possibilities.
Well we have to give credit where credit is due. The pharmaceutical trillion dollar industry has done a very good job on making sure we think mental illness is a permanent part of life, that without drugs the situation is hopeless. Labels and mind and mood altering drugs have become the new way to deal with problems for all ages of people, from the elderly being most likely to be on a psychiatric drug (Vancouver Sun states 97% of elderly); women next followed by children being the most common consumers before men. We are rapidly giving in to sickly diagnosis of incurable mental illness which can come within minutes of sitting in front of a doctor. How can they know you have a Serotonin problem when they can’t even be bothered to take a blood test? They say mentally ill people need drugs to balance something, but have never proven the imbalance to the individual. I know I’ve been offered and accepted anti-depressants by almost every single doctor I encountered beginning in about 1998. At first we are told it was for only three months, then I must find another way to peace.
I use to blindly (not using my own senses) believe a man (or anyone) could know what is wrong with my body and mind without a scientific test. How is that for giving up will to another? How do we come to that place as equal partners to other humans?
It is a fact of life that the people feeling weak or vulnerable are at a risk of being led somewhere that works against their own good senses for a satisfying life experience.
It is no secret in my community that I present myself as appalled at the current way we treat mental illness in Canada. To me it is not only keeping people sick, it is contagious through the family and generations to come. Popping pills is NORMAL and we wonder why kids need drugs to cope and find their own way to get the job done.
Addictions continue to take over the will and lives of good people who become dependant on everything and everyone other than themselves. We have much fear around trusting our own good judgement and intuition on how to live, and live well.
I think we have turned our will and our lives over to the power of others – is that what we are suppose to do?
Can it make us sick?
See if these unconscious bits of wisdom that comes to me doesn’t appeal to your better judgement:
Depression can be the best thing that ever happens to a person. It is a message from the unconscious that a sense (or more than one sense) is out of balance and needs attention. It could be a spiritual emergency.
Self medicating is not going to help in the long run because it shuts down the part of the brain that is suffering, the right hemisphere.
Right brain is where ideas, emotions, and creativity for problem solving live.
Recovery becomes next to impossible to tap into while on long-term acting anti-depressants, which are designed to dull the senses for emotional pain relief. Drugs are supposed to inhibit sight, sounds, feelings, tastes and smells to protect the patient from…life.
What is less known is the pharmaceuticals also affect the senses of sexual arousal, hunger, insight and sometimes common sense – putting children at risk of being neglected or placed in dangerous situations, depending on how strength legally prescribed drug the parent is taking. Just because they do not give a ‘high’ does not mean those senses aren’t blocked.
Living with dulled senses for any length of time is not healthy to any reasonable thinking person.
In my opinion the whole chemistry theory simply cannot work for a spiritual energy, but this isn’t the first time I’ve sensed people in authority were wrong.
Like the time my pastor insisted (and I willingly believed) women bleed because of a punishment from God, and my role on earth was to serve man. No wonder I was tired, ashamed, and felt hopeless.
Ideas may not flow to the blocked mind and yet that is where our true answers live. Think of depression as a clear signal that change is needed in some area of life. If we cannot hear what the sense of depression is saying, how on earth can we end the pain and grow forward?
The imagination is what gets folks into trouble and it is what leads the way out. But if we have no ability to imagine the best for ourselves we risk manifesting what we are imagining in the darkness.
I ask you to begin to deliberately imagine a better life you can enjoy. You are allowed to fantasize the best for yourself besides in sexual situations!
To exercise your very own intuit; find a creative outlet that seems like fun to you. Colour, draw, write, or otherwise focus on something that will take you out of your head and in new light, so to speak. Play, pretend, enjoy something, no matter how small – as often as possible. Decide what is enjoyable for you, and do that.
Give up the control and responsibility of everyone else for extended periods of time – and never let anyone control you away from your peace.
Please become aware of the tapes you play in your mind about yourself, your life, and your problems.
The more we tend to focus, obsess, worry, the more of the same will we seem to bring about. For example, thinking about fat all day long will literally create more fat!
Maybe you can’t control the world at large, but you can get yourself into good mental shape if you think you matter enough.
Imagine you are responsible for one life and if you can manage that you pass the test and win.
If you build a foundation that works for you everything else will fall into place.
The universe will respond to your energy and reveal opportunities that will show you what you are really made of when connected to yourself.
If you are depressed because you didn’t learn solid coping skills, or were not really conditioned to sense a healthy image of self, please know that you are not permanently damaged! DON’T LET ANYONE TELL YOU THAT, please.
It is never too late to change your imagination and gain these tools to thrive in life in a manner that actually works for you.
Begin to allow the idea that you are much more than this. Inside of you is a miracle just waiting to be revealed I promise.
I’m winding down: This one is going to be hard for you, I know: But,
Be gentle with yourself, okay? No more tough love.
Chances are others were not always gentle with you and you’ve learned very well how to take over the emotional whippings.
Or, if you tend to be hardon others around you – maybe leave them alone.
Live. Let live. Let go. Grow.
Clear the fearful, shamed or angry energy in any way that works for you.
Aren’t you sick of people being mad at you, giving you unwanted advice, meddling in your business like you don’t have a lick of sense yourself?
Take yourself back at any time by speaking up against control.
Set boundaries. We teach people HOW to treat us. Teach them well.
Don’t do to others what you wouldn’t want done to you.
The stress of everyone else’s emotional reactions is just too much so please don’t inflict unnatural fears and worries on others to pick up
And don’t let anyone do it to you.
Remember, you are responsible for ONE soul this journey.
Treat yourself and others kindly, keep a clear conscience for peace of mind.
I ask that you never push yourself to do what you are not ready to do. You will know when you have had enough, and not a moment before.
Go with flow, not against it
Don’t be afraid or ashamed to seek out help in a way that makes good sense to you.
Depression is sick, not stupid.
Use your senses of insight to make decisions about how you want to get your life back.
Ensure the person or program you seek assistance from respects you as an individual, and has uplifting, motivating, inspirational ways to get you to your life recovery.
Recovery does not have to be mean, harsh, or punishing. In fact, if it feels nasty the odds of it working is unlikely
Stay away from fads and fashions that have no clinical results.
People spend thousands of dollars trying to find the easiest, less painful way to self and end up with the least success.
Hypnotherapy is fast, it is safe, it is lovely and it works – but if the client is not willing to put any effort into the treatment – well, you get out of anything what you put into it.
Research and then ask yourself for the best answer on the kind of help you seek from others.
Talking about your problems is good. Once is enough. After that you are beating a dead horse.
Going on and on and on is embedding the issues into the unconscious creating bad feelings all day long.
One good idea is to stop focusing on how you got to this place, and ask yourself what the solutions might be.
You know everything if you take the time to ask yourself. Isn’t it time?
Please like and share if you find this helpful. I am soon going to be producing a video blog so that I can just say all of this with my face right there for you to get to know. Let’s start talking about some other solutions than what we are currently being offered by the medical establishment.
Be like me; take back control over your comfortable happy life 🙂
Cherylann Thomas, BASc.Crim., CH,t is a Clinical Hypnotherapist working out of the Family Wellness Centre in West Kelowna, BC. She has made a name for herself specializing in grief, loss, depression, anxiety and believes she is successful because of her amazing story of how she came to be at peace with some serious life situations that would bring most to their knees. Cherylann copes happily with anything that comes her way today. She says, “Bring it!” to life challenges because she has a sincere belief that no problem is ever too big it cannot be fixed!
I notice a disturbing pattern emerging when it comes to mental illness and women. First, the current system seems to be creating even more sickness and suicide for the multitudes and masses, which conflicts with my good senses of what a medical community should be doing for the betterment of society. Second, I believe the cause of so much unhappiness has little to do with illness, and more to do with oppression of right brain talents and resources.
I know what wonderful and miraculous things can happen when creative folks are allowed to express themselves exactly how they are without having to compare their gifts to left brain oriented counterparts. I see women and men regain self-esteem very quickly with just learning a few new ideas for WHY they may be feeling so mentally sick other than what they are being told by doctors and pharmaceutical commercials.
What if mental illness is really an unconscious reaction to bullshit?
Why does it seem like more women than men are ‘crazy?’ How come no one ever asks how to cure mental illness and seem perfectly happy accepting drugs as the solution to unconscious despair? Schizophrenia is a mental disorder characterized by abnormal social behavior and failure to understand what is real according to Wikipedia. Whose real? How come in many eastern countries schizophrenia folks are used as ‘wise men and women’ who have great insight to things most people cannot see? These are just a few questions I have after years of living my life as a woman in a society that insists my body and mind must work like the male ones or I am ‘abnormal.’ I believe women (and men) are brainwashed into believing how they are supposed to feel and be, because it works better for someone else.
Imagine a world that nourishes, respects, and even admires women for their physiological differences? How much better can civilization be with a ‘feminine’ balance to masculine values? I wonder if one would feel mental in a world of left brain folks if they thought their right brains mattered too?
Women have been traditionally ‘known’ to be the crazy ones at home, work, and in the psyche wards. What if ‘mental illness’ is really ‘right brain intelligence neglect?’ We live in a left brain world where conditioning and development is almost entirely based on preferences of logic and order. It all starts in grade one. Everything one needs to know about the right brain is apparently learned by Kindergarten because that is when the imagination part of us begins to get stifled, shut down and shut up to make room for academics. Sure we have some music and art classes available to help students along, but mostly we will find left brain activities of memory development, algebra, and even sports as the preferred activities, and this is about as interesting as going to the dentist all day long for some people and so problems ensue when one does not live up to the expectations of the educational system we have available.
Soon we may wonder what is wrong with girls who suffer in math or boys who disrupt procedures in the class. Why is everyone else going to school like good little boys and girls, but others are simply not fitting in, and ‘failing?’ Many children are now being labeled as diseased in some way, mentally if they do not keep up with the way things are. It’s becoming ridiculous to me to see so many children and adults drugged and put away for life with a label of mental illness because we do not care to look deeper.
Displaced children grow up with thoughts of inadequacy, not belonging, and no voice. Powerlessness in a system that actually works against the amazing minds of right brain thinkers creates so much turmoil a person can hardly cope after a while. Soon the person may begin to shut themselves down in fear of their own differences.
Mental illness can feel debilitating. There is no sense of self power or control when one is hidden under blankets day in and day out with the television blaring in the background to drown out the destructive thoughts. Drugs, alcohol or food are often introduced to cut the incessant misery sense. What about anxiety? What a nightmare that is when they suddenly have an inability to breathe while driving, or in a public place. What is the answer we have for these suffering souls? Ativan, Xanax, Clonazapam. Imagine what it might be like to feel worthless, unlovable, wants to give up, and die. Suicide has become so epidemic it is now the number one killer of our youth — more than accidents and murder put together.
Whatever we are doing to help mentally ill and addicted people does not seem to be working. In fact, it is making things much worse.
People are dying in record numbers by their own hand!
What if the problem isn’t mental illness, rather mental deprivation of the senses which can be restored with a little bit of attention to the real problems in society?
Are you ready for a new perspective on that ever so popular DSM, the Diagnostic and Statistic Manual that every doctor in North America refers to as a bible of sorts when deciding what is wrong with women medically, when it comes to mental symptoms?
If someone’s answer to our problems makes a little bit of sense we may inadvertently buy into horrible permanent life decisions for temporary emotional relief. Vulnerable folks are easily convinced on the idea there is something wrong with their biology because nothing else seems to make sense in their world. The so-called science about Serotonin being discovered as the culprit to mental illness is still being passed around as truth. Just Google, “Serotonin Lie” and see what you find. Every day we are seeing cases of pharmaceutical marketing literally driving people completely away from themselves and their own good senses and on drugs actually designed to inhibit the life of the right brain!
If anyone tells me I have an incurable mental or physical illness you better believe I need to see the blood work or x-ray to prove that today. No longer do I take the word of someone who cannot possibly understand my world as they figure I may have a biological problem, rather than something else going on. For mental illness no evidence of chemistry sickness exists even though people believe this to be the case. Sometimes a confused doctor will say no one really knows what causes mental illness so it could be DNA genetically passed down with no reason at all.
Perhaps. Maybe not. My clients tell me they get tired of doctors guessing treatment until the right drug is discovered by accident. Stuffing symptoms with mind altering chemicals makes as much sense as someone taking a pain medication for a physical reason forever, doesn’t it? It should be RARE not the common practice to offer life time brain-pain medication.
When can we find out why people feel mental? For some it is simply easier to pack it in and be sick with permission from the system. Many women agree to be mental so they can have a government sponsored disability income in a corporate society that offers a fraction of work income and benefits their left brain brothers are earning. We have made women responsible for everything to do with the family, accountable for keeping everything together without assistance from a wayward spouse, and then pay her peanuts when she needs to work to put food in the kids mouths. I’d rather go on mental disability, thanks. It is all about survival and women will do what they must to keep going; some are brilliant at working the system that tries to keep them powerless, afraid, and ashamed. You go girl!
Isn’t it time to fix the problem before life is completely wasted away? I hear time and time again, “My depression keeps me stuck. I am anxious and stressed about everything. I have a feeling like I don’t belong somehow. I don’t matter. Everyone walks all over me. I am too sensitive. There is something wrong with me. I can’t get along with the people everyone else gets along with, and, I can’t seem to learn the way everyone else is learning.”
Seeing things with new eyes
Let’s take a look at some of the labels the DSM and current traditional medicine in a new light, and I’ll suggest an alternative option for rescue and recovery for each ‘disease’ as listed:
Depression — Lives in the past. Often caused by a serious denial of self-love, a traumatic event, or conditioned feelings of powerlessness. The depressed person is often brainwashed to believe they are financially needy or dependant in an unhealthy relationship they feel they must have for survival. Unconscious self anger results in confusion. Wrongful thoughts become so debilitating the body lives in a constant state of tension, pain and exhaustion.
Rescue and Recovery — Get out of the environment and find a place to re-group – alone. Figure out why you have taken over the emotional abuse (in thought) and learn how to retrain your thinking and imagination to the satisfaction of your spirit. Stop looking at the problem and begin wondering about solutions for your own comfort, peace, and happiness. Find a way to matter to you. Your gift, the right brain (imagination), has infinite ideas, start looking there. Even more importantly, find a way to not need someone else for survival as that kind of relationship can turn you into a miserable slave working against your own life. Chronic unhappiness is a clue something is wrong in LEARNED THINKING.
Make a new life plan when you are up to it. Women don’t get defeated overnight and it will take some time to regain self, but you can count on a right brain woman to find a way to get the job done if she is interested in a better life.
Anxiety — Lives in the future. Severe fear to believe in self. Unconscious screaming, “Something is wrong! Fix it!” We are finding that anxious people are so intuitive and powerful when we sense a conflict of conscious thinking to unconscious knowing it can feel like one is losing touch with reality. And you are. Intuit can hardly stand self-denial and unconscious will create sensations of panic when we do not listen to our own infinite wisdom about the present.
Rescue and Recovery — Dare to look at what scares you, really. Hypnosis and hypnotherapy work miracles for the anxious because in treatment they actually figure out for themselves how to listen and obey their own inner voice, and the answers feel like amazing empowerment for better living. 100% recovery is not only possible, it is probable for those who believe they can be healed. Sadly most people are unaware of recovery and end up drinking or drugging the right brain sensations instead, all the way to institution and death as we are seeing in epidemic proportions. Get to the root of the anxiety for complete recovery of life. If anxiety based on a recent traumatic experience is the only problem it can be cured in one simple hypnosis session.
Bi-Polar Disorder — This requires an entire reexamination on the female anatomy and life experiences. In many cases the diagnosis is brought on after the ingestion of anti-depressant medication, which is known to create feelings of mania in some people (people who don’t need antidepressants I’m thinking). As long as the diagnosis and pills are allowed to be handed out recovery is slim to none as the beholder succumbs to living down to the ideals of instability. The powerful brain drugs that are dispensed under the name of ‘safety’ will kill the spirit eventually, in almost every case. Until just a few decades ago crazy women use to be given brain surgery (Lobotomy) to remove her emotional being. I remember a girlfriend’s mother had her emotional response removed (located in the right temple brain) and my friend said she could slap her mother’s face and Mom wouldn’t care. She’d forget about it real soon if she did figure out she was insulted or hurt.
Isn’t that a nice way to live? The friend said her mother’s emotions were taken out when she was 20 years old after being forced to marry a man twice her age due to pregnancy at 15. Living now with 4 children in an abusive home it became too much to handle, and so she ‘left’ mentally and almost burned the house down. This woman was a danger to herself and others. Police were involved and the husband told the doctors if they didn’t fix his wife he would kill her. Doctors fixed mom for dad’s better health. The surgery was done in 1959 and a common practice in the times. My friend said her mother had two more children and never complained again. Life was good for everyone…else.
I remember the movie “The Stepford Wives” released in about the 1980’s, and have never quite forgotten at how powerful and mind numbing brainwashing can be when oppressed people are trained to be the servants for others, and no complaining from the wives because their ‘thinking’ belongs to someone else — they believe (consciously) they WANT to live for others.
There are many examples of religions brainwashing the masses into belief systems that utterly ignore female gender brains other than to be used for service.
Unconsciously we may create mental illness when we deny our own purpose.
Women are being diagnosed with Bi-polar Disorder (false, unsubstantiated diagnoses) and those drugs will make the victim not care at all about what was going on within the family, or life. Be glad we didn’t live in the 1940’s or 50’s where the powerful doctors could have removed your emotions forever without permission. But they still work to manipulate the mind into thinking we can do without emotions by using right brain stoppers.
Today we have what is called “Chemical Lobotomy’s” in the form of prescription psychiatric medication that anyone can get at any time with the right ‘story.’ Yes, some people need to be put away safely and drugged for better comfort while imprisoned. I have yet to hear a successfully medicated person living a happy life to old age, there may be a few cases, but they are certainly rare. Life is never smooth for the chronically mentally ill and so I am suggesting we stop telling people to give up to the illness!
If one believes in psychiatric diagnosis the hope for full life recovery is diminished because there is no solution other than expensive pharmaceuticals that often increase over time.
Little to no effort is given to figure out where the serious mood swings come from other than, “She’s a nut bar for no particular reason.” Having very little credibility in a world where women use to be considered property of men it isn’t too difficult to believe she is not worth saving if she isn’t taking care of everyone else the way she is supposed to be. I am not being negative here, it is time to look at some truth and let’s investigate these alarming throw away people whom I no longer believe were “born insane.” I witness full recovery of mental people who decide to forsake the others to save themselves.
Rescue and recovery — Figure out for yourself if you have a serious life threatening mental illness, or may have been wrongly perceived through the eyes of someone else. I am telling people without hesitation today to really check out the facts of the case before giving up as a mentally unstable person for life. See my next blog where I will outline many amazing women who were able to rise above their traditional roles and make remarkable contributions to society after being labeled ‘fruit cakes’ with no credible value their entire lives. These women are proof enough for me that anyone can escape oppression – and the mental illness philosophies that are keeping female oppression alive.
ADHD — Disruptive problem child who cannot concentrate or stay focused. A right brain oriented (more often male) bored to the core with the left brain training in the education system. Needs right brain stimuli and acceptance of the difference. She or he often has spiritual sensations and intelligence beyond the imagination. If allowed to develop naturally in any creative realm we will witness this child later change the world with their amazing creative brains. The greatest inventors and genius ones can be labeled as ADD or ADHD. Albert Einstein had early childhood learning and behavior problems in school but his mother never told him about the nasty report cards about how he was a dummy in the eyes of the school. Good thing, right?
Rescue and Recovery — If a child is unhappy in his or her learning environment find one that works. I understand not all parents can afford special education for their amazing child but if you create some questions with right brain imagination the left brain will find a way. Be willing to see there is a problem underneath the child’s acting out behavior. Understand children may only be negatively reacting to an intolerable learning environment. It is important to believe your own eyes when it comes to your child. If they didn’t act up at home then it is coming from someplace else.
Borderline Personality Disorder — The list of ‘symptoms’ in the DSM for this label is far removed from truth. They say she is a trouble maker, instigator, and drama queen. She is known for making up stories about good people and are unbelievable with their accusations. Freud diagnosed sexually abused girls who acted out as having fantasies about their fathers, living in an alternate reality. Can you imagine being molested and then told you are making it up? By respected science? Imagine being shamed to tears in a court full of disbeliever’s with suspicious ‘allegations’ of sexual abuse. Ignorance continues with dismissive thoughts as women continue to live without validation of horrific experiences while being re-victimized in the circuits (circus?) of the justice system.
This unlikable ‘borderline’ creature is a truth teller. She likely speaks up poorly because she has no idea how to articulate her needs since her needs don’t matter to anyone, anyway. In this woman’s story she is rarely validated with her thinking — and this can lead to feelings of internal rage. Like a volcano about to erupt the emotional pain is felt deeply. Listen, people do not like the truth. Truth can be too uncomfortable to even glance at, and so it is easier to sacrifice the life of a truthfully outspoken woman who already feels powerless than it is to investigate the truth she is trying to educate the world with eyes, ears and feelings wide open.
Keep in mind I do believe there is ‘real’ Borderline (Borderline Psychopath) people who have little or no feelings of fear, guilt, shame. I am suggesting professional opinions by mental health humans are fantasies made up to make the person feel she is okay being nuts because others are crazy just like her; see the list of symptoms? That’s the proof they have when they want someone to believe they are unstable people. The problem is you can show a list of anything to anyone and they will find a place of belonging if it reaches a need of the patient to be heard in some way. Any way.
Rescue and Recovery — She is on her own. People are unwilling to believe in the imagination of a BPD and there is no help in the current system other than drugs, but odds are she will refuse to take them and go on suffering without love or acceptance for herself. If you have been reduced this kind of judgemental diagnosis you must take back your own control. Find a way to love every part of you, even the difficult parts you’ve been trained to hate too. Practice speaking up and teaching people new ways to treat you. If you cannot find a way on your own reach out for help to build your confidence and self-esteem. An entirely new way to look at yourself is required because somehow mental conditioning growing up taught you self-doubt all the way to self-hatred like everyone else who does not like your ‘truth.’ BPD must learn to set boundaries about how they are viewed and treated by others.
Postpartum Depression — A mental condition only given to women who gave birth and yet adoptive mothers suffer with this so-called mental illness as well. Once again chemistry imbalance is blamed. Real cause is extreme mental exhaustion and depletion of the senses with increased life responsibilities. A new 24 hour clock to live by alone can make one sick. Mother often has to concern herself about work and finances as well as carry the weight of managing the baby, house, and everyone else’s feelings but her own. Unconscious doesn’t like self-neglect yet the well-trained conscious mind says she is not enough if she complains. Having to be super-human leads to collapse eventually.
Rescue and Recovery — Throw away the idea you must be all and do all at your own expense. Demand help and don’t feel guilt or shame while doing so. It takes two to bring a child into the world, not just one. As long as a woman believes she must keep up with impossible demands she will, until she cracks completely in some cases. Self care is needed if no one else seems to. Don’t be a victim, be in charge!
PreMenstrual Syndrome (PMS) — Mental disease caused by cramping and discomfort during monthly cycle of a woman. Too often something is very wrong in the organs of female anatomy and pain goes undiagnosed due to ignorance and lack of understanding and research. In addition to medical doctors unable to find a suitable solution for this very real problem. Employers are allowed to show no mercy or tolerance for the different biological make-up of female staff and provide nothing to assist in the need for some accommodation. Women have been conditioned to not speak of their ‘problem’ and is often shamed into silence for her ‘difference to men’ and can feel irritable because unconscious Intuit (one’s truth) will respond negatively to the thought she deserves to live in shame and pain.
Rescue and recovery — The shaming of physiological differences to men needs to be replaced with empathy (most of the rule makers are males who would never be able understand the unique needs of women – and so need to be educated). If no one else cares about your pain, YOU must care and take care of yourself in whatever way makes you most comfortable and happy. Use the right brain to imagine ideas for making yourself feel better during this time, and the left brain will find a way to make it happen for you. Two brains work together like magic when you believe in both of them!
Addiction — Inability to live sober in a world that seems upside down. At first some comfort is felt in the indulgence of drugs or alcohol, but after a while that right brain is going to reject that solution and create all sorts of added problems to the life.
Rescue and Recovery — First, get rid of any notion you are powerless. Find a way to believe in yourself and ability to control anything. Fill your imagination with thoughts of strength and empowerment. Addiction is self suicide, start recovery by figuring out why your life doesn’t seem to matter to you. There is a ‘learned’ reason.
The Intuit doesn’t like slavery. We are born free to survive, and thrive. However the best part of us (right brain imagination) goes unconsciously hay-wire when neglected and made to feel needy and dependent on others for survival. Dependency for happiness is simply not healthy for anyone.
I write this article to beg you to reconsider what might be really going on in society that is creating so much suffering and pain for women and children, and many men. Can we reframe this whole ‘women are crazy thing’ just for giggles and see if we can’t come up with a better solution to mental illness? How about we change everything right here and now instead of packing it in with acceptance of emotional torture and drugs?
Hypnosis and hypnotherapy are an amazing therapy for self-actualization. It helps one open the eyes to what the problem is, and how to find solutions to obtain happiness, peace of mind, and a comfortable sense of being. Control becomes possible when we believe in it for ourselves.
I have a feeling mental illness will be replaced with new exciting possibilities for all of us if we dare to allow all people the right to think the way they are born to think, not the way we want them to be for the better lives of everyone else.
Right brain can create a good or bad life. In spite of what we have been told about the imagination, why not deliberately go into the mind’s eye and use it to make yourself well again? “Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve.” Said respected philosopher and writer, Napoleon Hill.
Find a creative outlet you enjoy. Colour with crayons, engage a craft you wouldn’t mind spending hours doing, learn a new art that fascinates you, listen to or play music, read or write. Intuit feels happy and peaceful while creating so if you are fortunate enough to work in a right brain occupation your life will be much happier.
Remember when you were a small child you use to play ‘pretend’ with the imagination, before that got all cancelled in school norms — why not go back and play pretend about retraining your own mental thinking. Imagine you are amazing for a change. Fake you matter if you think you don’t. Your unconscious and body will respond with love!
Believe in your own eyes, ears, and feelings. You wouldn’t eat something that smelled or tasted bad because the senses are connected to the unconscious part that will wake up in the event of a bad food. Learn to trust all of your own good senses! Just because a story makes sense (fantasies of someone else are only true if you buy into that line of thought) does not make it your truth. Some people are trained very well to not say a word about their own truth to protect someone else. Others know how to manipulate the sensitive’s senses for their own selfish needs and gratification. They use emotional manipulation of shaming, fear, guilt, and even anger to get what they want from a person who feels weak or vulnerable.
Stop Waiting and Start Creating
Hopelessness is bound to set in when we deny our own value and existence. Isn’t it time to wonder why so many mental cases are ending up sicker than ever with the current mental health treatment of people? Perhaps women need to put their intuition and imaginations to work on how to educate and articulate what we know, but do not get to say out loud? Maybe some men who understand their own right brain intelligence will feel safer if they too are allowed to be whom they are innately.
When the left and right brain are allowed to work together as equal partners miracles happen. When only one side of the brain is developed the sense of mental imbalance is the result. We are literally working with half a brain.
*Mental illness can be a serious condition that is passed onto children as they watch, listen and learn how to cope from parents. Please find a way to rescue and recovery if you have a little bit of hope left in you. At the end of the day, only you really can change anything and it takes a belief there is better waiting as soon as you ask for more.
Cherylann Thomas, B.Sc.Crim.,CH,t is a Registered Clinical Hypnotherapist in the Okanagan Valley specializing in hypnosis for mental health, addictions, and spiritual identity. She has lived an amazing life of ups and downs beyond normal. This practitioner herself was raised in an abusive home taking on abusive self-thinking, and later experienced the extreme life trauma of losing her only beloved son to a car accident. Time and time again Cherylann found a way to rise above adversity and uses herself as a positive example of recovery using the wonders of right brain love, honour and development.
Are you feeling weak, anxious, depressed or stressed for nothing you can put your finger on? You could be in the orbit of a malignant Narcissist.
Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is a very real problem in today’s society and these extremely disturbed beholders will create much drama and trauma in the wake of their numerous intimate and social relationships throughout their lifetime.
No matter how smart you are, they have a genius way of making non narcissists feel confused, anxious, and stuck with them.
Sadly, if you have allowed yourself to be victim in the clutches of a narcissist chances are you doubt your own good senses to the point you’ve completely lost your ability to see things objectively. Truthfully. I’d like you to remember that you are capable. You can solve problems. You are okay but you have got to get away.
Hiding from Truth reduces our natural ability of feeling in control, strong, self-confident and capable.
It is very difficult to recognize the signs of a narcissist until the damage has been done. Please take this article as fair warning.
Narcissists push the buttons of emotionally reactive (normal) people and then watch the drama unfold in glee. This is how they get fed. They need your emotional energy to survive because they have none. But even still you will tend to only see the things you have in common. You have so many things in common because the N will mirror his image for your pleasure until you are sucked right in. So you want it to work. Will it to work. And all too often good folks are willing to give up their very identity in an attempt to make this (hopeless) relationship work until they are bled completely dry.
Symptoms of NPD
Narcissists secretly (sometimes overtly) feel superior to the rest of the general population. They tend to have a lot of false pride — pride in things they did not earn themselves. They will be jealous of your success and relationships and create mind-boggling interference (character assassination causing family, employment, or community & social alienation). Narcissists are often sexually over-active, entitled, demanding, critical of others, and have cold views of people and the world. N’s see people with feelings as weak, and make delicious meat out of their supply to feed themselves with. They do not care who their supply is — even their own children are feed for the malignant narcissist vampire; so why do you think they would love you more?
Narcissists are men and women. They are CEO’s of corporations, volunteer or political organizations; they love to manage other people’s money and businesses…and they are heads of families. If they are not the leader they are the sidekick of someone with more standing than themselves in an attempt to morph themselves into the power they crave.
These beings do not seek mental health help (remember there is nothing wrong with them), but they sure can create self-doubt if their victim is not strong enough to ward off such brilliant manipulation. More often than not the N’s target was already raised by one or more narcissists and find the abusive cycle familiar, comfortable…and so they dive in to the same kind of abusive relationship…again and again and again…until they (we) finally get it.
I was raised by two of them, and one sibling out of four made my life a living hell while I was engaged in co-dependent abusive relationships. I didn’t get it until I lost everything to the whims of the malignant narcissists I grew up with. I was 50 when my mother died making sure she got the last word, leaving angry and very sad family drama in her wake. I finally see the insanity of my relationship with the narcissist. It can’t work. It is a co-dependent reign of confusion that will never end until one of the two participants finally leaves.
Trouble is, if you are repeatedly hurt and neglected and used and spoken ill of you may attract more of them in your adult years and you tend to stay in longer than is healthy or just go out and find new ones to abuse you. It is like we become magnets for the same kind of abuse we experienced as younger, impressionable youths.
Who Are the Narcissists!?
Narcissists are your brother, sister, mother, father, daughter, son, best friend, boss, coworker…there is no discrimination to be a narcissist. NPD is as common as any other labeled mental illness and it is in the DSM as a psychiatric disorder. There are no medications for such a problem, however. The Narcissist lacks conscious feeling and there is no drug or treatment that can grow a conscious feeling from nothing.
Sometimes your narcissist will at first glance appear to be like a knight in shining armor; or a prince or princess charming, if you will. Your own good unconscious mind may pick up that something is wrong right off the bat; maybe you will act on it, but the N will cry, and need you. Then the old critical conscious mind wins by ignoring those powerful intuitions we are all born with. Very soon the charismatic mask will slide off and what you will find underneath of your new relationship is about as ugly as it gets. But by then most long-term sufferers have completely stopped listening to themselves and their own good judgement.
We let the narcissist in and share our secrets, stories, ambitions, and weaknesses. Ah, the narcissist loves your weaknesses! When you stop being obedient the N will take your secrets and hold them up to the light of day for everyone to see in an attempt to shame you, guilt you, reduce you in the eyes of others. The narcissist gets a sick pleasure feeding off of the fears and worries and shames of others. They will twist your words as they project their own ugly minds on you…as if you think like that. You don’t. Trust yourself. Trust yourself. Can I say that again?
That’s why I suggest so frequently to not listen to gossip! If you feed on talk about someone you know nothing about soon you very well could be that mouth’s next target. You can count on being next.
We have somehow learned to stop listening to our own wise inner selves and sacrifice our emotional well-being as we keep the abusive cycle alive. When we ignore our own Truth we can count on something giving. Inside of yourself you will create stress, anxiety, depression, drug or alcohol abuse as a way of coping the uncontrollable dance with a malignant narcissist.
It’s Time to Take Control
First, practice trusting your intuition before you trust anyone else. Next, when you finally come to the realization you are in a dangerous relationship do not confront the narcissist. It will be like reasoning with their cousin, the serial killing psychopath. And, it will give them time to find a way to control you even more dangerously. There is no point to confronting an N at all because they cannot change. And things can get very very bad for you if you do not make the break quickly and quietly. Tell a few close friends what is happening before the break. Protect your good name, children if involved, and assets before you make your escape.
The NPD can destroy your reputation and emotional well-being so masterfully it rarely gets confronted by their active listening audience, or even the supply herself. You don’t know what the hell is going on so what can you do? You wonder what is wrong with you and you keep trying to fix yourself to be better. You never will be good enough as long as you allow creatures like this into your psyche. I realize we have to live among all people to get along but this is one person you do not want to get too close, or reveal your innermost secrets to. Not if you don’t want to feel the shame and embarrassment when your personal laundry gets aired out in public later…when you no longer toe the line.
You Are Better Than You Think!
You have the information. Now it is up to you to give your head a shake and ask yourself if you are the problem, or is someone else making you the problem? I do not pussyfoot around with aggressive or passive aggressive abusers in my life anymore. I just cannot afford the risk after already losing everything to the N’s of my past. Whenever I come in contact with another narcissist (they are in every circle) I run, not walk the other way as fast as I can without causing damage to myself. If I must be in the company of a narcissist I have a protective bubble all around me as I observe with caution.
Your own intuition will never lead you wrong. Listen to your good and far wiser Truth and enjoy the freedoms of life you are offered. Your journey is suppose to be yours without fear, remember that.
Whoever ends the codependent cycle of narcissistic abuse wins. For your sake and safety, make sure it is you.
Cherylann Thomas, BSc.Crim.,CH,t is a Registered Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist in Westbank BC, specializing in empowering her clients to emotional and mental freedom from abuse and trauma. Helping her clients face the fear, worry, guilt, shame, depression, anxiety, grief, loss and despair is what finally brings her clients peace, strength and a renewed zest for life. Check out her website and facebook at
If you are open, or ready, you will hear me today 🙂 This is big. And kinda deep. Be forewarned you may find your own life’s question here today!
The Truth to everything I needed to know about myself was inside of me all along. I just didn’t dare look. Based on the harshness of my upbringing, and cruel tapes I continued to play regarding my horrible self (in my mind) how could I comfortably look inside of me without risking finding I am the devil incarnate or something worse?
After I closed my eyes, plugged my nose, and jumped in to myself, instead of finding Ted Bundy’s sister, I found a vision of beauty. I found my core intentions are usually about a pure as they could get! I see flaws, I see many mistakes, and when I put it into proportion to my story, I feel instant forgiveness! Today when I look at myself I see more awesomeness than the bad stuff! What I thought would be the most painful thing to do, ended up being the easiest ride I’ve had my entire life! Easy, and addicting and healthy!
Sometimes investigating our feelings and behaviors is the hardest thing to do. Our disturbance makes us feel moody, off balance, uncertain. Soon enough the negative (dark) emotions overtake the good light and energy from our always decaying bodies. They weigh heavy on our heart, spirit, soul, that we can hardly function sometimes. Feelings can become a physical sickness if the root of the disturbance is never brought to light. It can be terminal by accident, homicide or suicide, or death by utter heartbreak.
Anger. Fear. Worry. Guilt. Shame. Jealousy. Envy. Self loathing. Insecurity. These are our enemies. This is stress and anxiety right there. These are our demons that have to be conquered to feel well emotionally. And what do we do? We keep feeding them. We allow them to reside inside of ourselves for long periods of time. The energy suckers just keep getting bigger and bigger creating havoc and conflict and covering up our actual strong, beautiful, amazing selves.
Some people think our emotions are impossible to be rid of because they are a part of our being, our core. And some say I am asking too much. The nay-sayers swear emotions are created by something not in their control. Serotonin or a person did it too us. Not so grasshopper, not so. If you can imagine the worst, the way you are, you can imagine the best! You have always had full control but no one ever told you that. They said you were sick, or a hopeless sinner. They judged you with their vivid imagination. And you allowed your imagination to see the same bullshit someone else told you was wrong. Your thinking, feelings, emotions…all learned imaginary beliefs, or made up by yourself.
Our God-given purity is so encased in negative and disruptive emotions we hardly know our true selves anymore. We begin to act out. Alcohol, pot, and anti-depressant abuse takes over until our brains are so nicely flat-lined, we just don’t care anymore. We become apathetic to our living situations. Our hell. We get use to it. It becomes as real as anything solid to us. My message is that we are held back only by our limited belief systems. Me…you…all of us are in this together. Most of us have indulged in the feel-good quick fix, am I lying?
If we learned how to deal with our troubling emotions, and allowed ourselves to be completely honest, we would all be walking around free with a heart full of passion and a head full of gratitude instead of all of this stress and anxiety.
I want you to do something (please). Take your most troublesome emotion. Name one. Look closely at what it is, and what it means. Do you own it or is it a lie you have accepted into yourself? For example, if you are walking around with a heavy heart of guilt, or shame, put it up to the light of day and take a good hard look at it. Do you own that? Do you deserve a lifetime of self-abuse because you are to be ashamed of yourself, or guilty for some infraction during your life? Did you do it deliberately? Is it something you can change? Was your intention to harm some one or some thing? If not, what, exactly, are you holding onto the shame or guilt for???
Are you filled with fear and anxiety? What is going on there I wonder?! Look inside, you know it, you remember everything. Once you find the Truth in the emotion your symptoms will diminish instantly because you will know exactly what to do to ‘solve’ the problem, or you may there is nothing to do about it at all. Inside of your true core self you will find you are innocent, safe, and in control of everything, and the renewed power feels GREAT!
When you finally allow the truth to surface in the face of your feelings, you will be AMAZED at how beautiful, and wonderful, the Truth really is! You were never suppose to give up! The subject is even crazy to consider, isn’t it? If you are so foreign to the rest of us humans and you care to punish yourself forever that is another matter. Then you have to go inside and find out why you beat yourself so harshly for your human frailties. Sure, figure out what it is you need to change about yourself. Admit it. Own it. And now stop it. Done. It really is that simple, and you really do have that much control over yourself. Have you given yourself life for this infraction? Is that appropriate? We are but a sum of learned thinking and feeling. We are better than whatever that looks and feels like.
Through the ages we have been brainwashed by either pharmaceutical commercials or religious organizations to believe we have no control over our emotional or physical well being. That God or drugs will save us, nothing else. I am saying we are trained, generation before generation since the beginning of time that we are NOT to depend on our own good common sense! We are sinners! We are Sick! Only GOD or Effexor will bring you back to life, depending on your belief system. The trouble is, these are lies for most of the population in emotional trouble! Our very own girl (or boy) inside is pure, healthy, fit, powerful, confident, and in control of everything. Not only that, we are really filled with love, compassion and JOY! In every generation before us higher powers have tried (and really succeeded didn’t they?) to take our gift of free will (control over selves) away in the name of power, control, money. W to believe in something other than ourselves and that is the worst mistake a spirit can make…believing it!
The more lies, secrets, shame we stuff, the more we lose of that better part of ourselves. The more we lose our light.
Let’s look at another emotion you may be harboring, driving yourself crazy with. Anger. I was once told by a mentor of mine, years ago, that any anger I hang onto, is anger at myself and myself alone. I said that makes no sense. Someone did me wrong, robbed me, and I can be angry, right? She said, “Right.” For a minute. Then you deal with it, talk about it, get it out in the open – or end something you have no control over. Anything after that is you, and you need to see what you are so mad at yourself for. Chances are it will be something like you picked him, or stayed too long, or didn’t speak up, or could have moved and didn’t…you get my meaning. All emotions belong solely to the beholder. Think about the last time you were angry for a long period of time at someone, or some situation. It stuck to you like a stickly black toxic poison and you allowed it to stay a while. I’ll tell you why. You did something wrong and were mad at yourself. Done. Owning your stuff is the key to ending the free rent for enemy feelings. The next thing to do is forgive yourself and decide to do it even better next time. Learn, let go, live. We are born to make mistakes, we are not A mistake!
But you see here is the problem: Many of us were raised in situations that created negative tapes in our heads. We learned to play these tapes, over and over and over in our own little vulnerable minds, beating the living life out of ourselves, because of these messages we learned to think, “I am stupid.” “I am ugly.” “I am too ____.” or my favorite of all, “I am _____,”. Name your judgment because that is all it is…a learned judgment. They are not facts. They have no power because they are not real. They are the figment of the imagination, typically brought on by an experience, an outside judgment, or a series of experiences that made our minds add one and one and come up with something not true. And then we feed that to oblivion sometimes.
Today is a good day to take a peek at what is really going on inside. Pull out any emotion you choose, and decide you are done feeling it. Look at it carefully, examine all sides. If it is yours, do something about it. If it is not yours, or if it is not a proven fact, shift your imagination to something else. Something better for yourself. It all starts with a new thought, the seed of everything.
Wishing everyone reading this love, peace and light.
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Cherylann Thomas is a Clinical Hypnotherapist registered with the International Medical and Dental Hypnotherapy Association operating a successful hypnotherapy practice in West Kelowna, British Columbia. Skype Service is available.
Stress gets the award for the highest ranking disorder in causing death. Heart disease, cancers of all varieties, skin diseases, liver and kidney disease; even suicide and murder are inspired by..you got it, stress.
Close your eyes, and imagine your own body for a moment. And feel all of that emotional pain of fear, worry, guilt, shame, anger, resentment again. Just for a minute. Where do you feel this in your body? Is it in your chest? Your heart and lungs could be at risk for dis-ease. Does something stir up in your tummy area? Your intestines, bowel, stomach, liver and kidneys are being ravaged by the stress you carry. Maybe you feel the ANX in your abdomen and you often experience health issues in that area. Or, if you remember your emotional pain as being felt in the head (usually the enemy beasts of anger and resentment) you may have ache, or even some difficulty with the physical brain.
Take a moment to focus really hard on what your emotional upset is doing to that part of your body. Think of it as black. Prickly. Heavy. Poisonous. and just watch it (in your mind’s eye) swirl around and attack your insides.
If that doesn’t inspire you to do something about the weights you carry around with you then nothing will. Stress comes from overwhelming feelings of worry, fear, guilt, shame, anger, resentment. All of these emotions are useless to our psyche, but we tend to fall back to them every time a little incident happens in our lives. Sometimes we let those energy suckers hang around so long within us, we begin to feel the disease of the stress on a physical level. Tense muscles come from stress, so walking around like a pinched up peg isn’t going to be good for the bones, joints, and muscles either. Sometimes new unsubstantiated diagnoses come then, followed by, you guessed it, more drugs.
Contrary to what the commercials tell us, we do have control over our own emotions. Sometimes we don’t think we do, but we really do have all of the control we need to manage ourselves. When we think we have no control we are at risk of believing the filthy rich pharmaceutical companies who would like you to believe that Serotonin, a chemical imbalance issue, is the culprit to your feelings and drugs are needed. Trillions of dollars and millions of lost lives later, we see that we still don’t have a blood test to verify what we have been fed on that matter. No matter who I talk to, the ones prescribed and taking psychiatric drugs, all firmly believe that they are mentally sick forever, and the drugs will be needed forever. Frequent dosage increases are needed as the drug adjusts itself to the brain.
What if the DRUG WITHDRAWAL is making you feel unstable?
People just don’t see that they feel ‘mental’ when they try to stop taking the drugs, because the drug got itself addicted to your brain almost immediately (just like heroin) and trying to stop makes the brain feel very unstable. So, people believe they really do have a physical issue and no control over making their lives better and carry on with their drug solution.
If only we could end stress the drug free way. If we would teach young and old people coping skills to feel more peace of mind, we would be doing humanity a huge service. What is going on now is not only creating early deaths, it is making us mindless mental pygmies; slaves to the anti-depressant and other psychiatric medication to overcome feelings.
Dare to look at what your stress is doing to your body. Look close and ask yourself if you really need to live like that, or if maybe you do have more inside power than you ever gave yourself credit for. I challenge you that you do have a superhero inside of YOU just waiting to be unleashed from all of the heaviness you allow to stay around. Stop it. Get up off the couch and go get yourself some coping skills. There are free support groups everywhere. Other than actual brain damage, there is no excuse for anyone to live in pain, alone…and drugged!
It is our secrets, our shames, our stuffing of things that need to be out in the open that will lead to stress and early death. Go find out why you do that, and your new lovely life will begin!
God bless you everyone. I wish you all love, peace of mind and extreme happiness!
Cherylann Thomas, B.Sc.Crim, CH,t is a Clinical Hypnotherapist practitioner working out of the Family Wellness Centre in Westbank. Specializing in: anxiety, depression, phobias, and weight loss. Using a variety of techniques including regression therapy, parts therapy and suggestion therapy to empower clients find their own inner power. Skype service now available. 778-755-4001. http://www.mindmiracleshypnotherapy.ca