I Put My Eyes Inside of Myself and Guess What I Found?

If you are open, or ready, you will hear me today ūüôā ¬†This is big. ¬†And kinda deep. ¬†Be forewarned you may find your own life’s question here today!

The Truth to everything I needed to know about myself was inside of me all along. ¬†I just didn’t dare look. ¬†Based on the harshness of my upbringing, and cruel tapes I continued to play regarding my horrible self (in my mind) how could I comfortably look inside of me without risking finding I am the devil incarnate or something worse?

After I closed my eyes, plugged my nose, and jumped in to myself,¬†instead of finding Ted Bundy’s sister,¬†I found a vision of beauty. ¬†I found my core intentions are usually about a pure as they could get! ¬†I see flaws, I see many mistakes, and when I put it into proportion to my story, I feel instant forgiveness! ¬† Today when I look at myself I see more awesomeness than the bad stuff! ¬†What I thought would be the most painful thing to do, ended up being the easiest ride I’ve had my entire life! ¬†Easy, and addicting and healthy!

Sometimes investigating our feelings and behaviors is the hardest thing to do.  Our disturbance makes us feel moody, off balance, uncertain.  Soon enough the negative (dark) emotions overtake the good light and energy from our always decaying bodies.  They weigh heavy on our heart, spirit, soul, that we can hardly function sometimes.  Feelings can become a physical sickness if the root of the disturbance is never brought to light. It can be terminal by accident, homicide or suicide, or death by utter heartbreak.

Anger.  Fear.  Worry.  Guilt.  Shame.  Jealousy.  Envy.  Self loathing. Insecurity.  These are our enemies.  This is stress and anxiety right there.  These are our demons that have to be conquered to feel well emotionally.  And what do we do?  We keep feeding them.  We allow them to reside inside of ourselves for long periods of time.  The energy suckers just keep getting bigger and bigger creating havoc and conflict and covering up our actual strong, beautiful, amazing selves.

Some people think our emotions are impossible to be rid of because they are a part of our being, our core. ¬†And some say I am asking too much. ¬† The nay-sayers swear emotions are created by something not in their control. ¬†Serotonin or a person did it too us. ¬†Not so grasshopper, not so. ¬†If you can imagine the worst, the way you are, you can imagine the best! ¬†You have always had full control but no one ever told you that. ¬†They said you were sick, or a hopeless sinner. ¬†They judged you with their vivid imagination. ¬†And you allowed your imagination to see the same bullshit someone else told you was wrong. ¬†Your thinking, feelings, emotions…all learned imaginary beliefs, or made up by yourself.

Our God-given purity is so encased in negative and disruptive emotions we hardly know our true selves anymore. ¬†We begin to act out. ¬†Alcohol, pot, and anti-depressant abuse takes over until our brains are so nicely flat-lined, we just don’t care anymore. ¬†We become apathetic to our living situations. Our hell. ¬†We get use to it. ¬†It becomes as real as anything solid to us. ¬†My message is that we are held back only by our limited belief systems. ¬†Me…you…all of us are in this together. ¬†Most of us have indulged in the feel-good quick fix, am I lying?

If we learned how to deal with our troubling emotions, and allowed ourselves to be completely honest, we would all be walking around free with a heart full of passion and a head full of gratitude instead of all of this stress and anxiety.

I want you to do something (please).  Take your most troublesome emotion.   Name one.  Look closely at what it is, and what it means.  Do you own it or is it a lie you have accepted into yourself?  For example, if you are walking around with a heavy heart of guilt, or shame, put it up to the light of day and take a good hard look at it.  Do you own that?  Do you deserve a lifetime of self-abuse because you are to be ashamed of yourself, or guilty for some infraction during your life?  Did you do it deliberately?  Is it something you can change?  Was your intention to harm some one or some thing?  If not, what, exactly, are you holding onto the shame or guilt for???

Are you filled with fear and anxiety? ¬†What is going on there I wonder?! ¬†Look inside, you know it, you remember everything. ¬†Once you find the Truth in the emotion your symptoms will diminish instantly because you will know exactly what to do to ‘solve’ the problem, or¬†you may¬†there is nothing to do about it at all. ¬†Inside of your true core self you will find you are innocent, safe, and in control of everything, and the¬†renewed¬†power feels GREAT!

When you finally allow the truth to surface in the face of your feelings, you will be AMAZED at how beautiful, and wonderful, the Truth really is! ¬†You were never suppose to give up! ¬†The subject is even crazy to consider, isn’t it? ¬†If you are so foreign to the rest of us humans and you care to punish yourself forever that is another matter. ¬†Then you have to go inside and find out why you beat yourself so harshly for your human frailties. ¬†Sure, figure out what it is you need to change about yourself. ¬†Admit it. ¬†Own it. ¬†And now stop it. ¬†Done. ¬†It really is that simple, and you really do have that much control over yourself. ¬†Have you given yourself life for this infraction? ¬†Is that appropriate? ¬† We are but a sum of learned thinking and feeling. ¬†We are better than whatever that looks and feels like.

Through the ages we have been brainwashed by¬†either¬†pharmaceutical commercials or religious organizations to believe we have no control over our emotional or physical well being. ¬†That God or drugs will save us, nothing else. ¬† I am saying we are trained, generation before generation since the beginning of time that we are NOT to depend on our own good common sense! ¬†We are sinners! ¬†We are Sick! ¬†Only GOD or Effexor will bring you back to life, depending on your belief system. ¬† The trouble is, these are lies for most of the population in emotional trouble! ¬† Our very own girl (or boy) inside is pure, healthy, fit, powerful, confident, and in control of everything. ¬† Not only that, we are really filled with love, compassion and JOY! ¬†In every generation before us higher powers have tried (and really succeeded didn’t they?) to take our gift of free will (control over selves) away in the name of power, control, money. ¬†W to believe in something other than ourselves and that is the worst mistake a spirit can make…believing it!

The more lies, secrets, shame we stuff, the more we lose of that better part of ourselves.   The more we lose our light.

Let’s look at another emotion you may be harboring, driving yourself crazy with. ¬†Anger. ¬†I was once told by a mentor of mine, years ago, that any anger I hang onto, is anger at myself and myself alone. ¬†I said that makes no sense. ¬†Someone did me wrong, robbed me, and I can be angry, right? ¬†She said, “Right.” ¬†For a minute. ¬†Then you deal with it, talk about it, get it out in the open – or end something you have no control over. ¬†Anything after that is you, and you need to see what you are so mad at yourself for. ¬†Chances are it will be something like you picked him, or stayed too long, or didn’t speak up, or could have moved and didn’t…you get my meaning. ¬†All emotions belong solely to the beholder. ¬†Think about the last time you were angry for a long period of time at someone, or some situation. ¬†It stuck to you like a stickly black toxic poison and you allowed it to stay a while. ¬†I’ll tell you why. ¬†You did something wrong and were mad at yourself. ¬†Done.¬† Owning your stuff¬†is the key to ending the free rent for enemy feelings. ¬†The next thing to do is forgive yourself and decide to do it even better next time. ¬†Learn, let go, live. ¬†We are born to make mistakes, we are not A mistake!

But you see here is the problem: ¬†Many of us were raised in situations that created negative tapes in our heads. ¬†We learned to play these tapes, over and over and over in our own little vulnerable minds, beating the living life out of ourselves, because of these messages we learned to think, “I am stupid.” ¬†“I am ugly.” ¬†“I am too ____.” ¬†or my favorite of all, “I am _____,”. ¬†Name your judgment because that is all it is…a learned judgment. ¬†They are not facts. ¬†They have no power because they are not real. ¬†They are the figment of the imagination, typically brought on by an experience, an outside judgment, or a series of experiences that made our minds add one and one and come up with something not true. ¬†And then we feed that to oblivion sometimes.

Today is a good day to take a peek at what is really going on inside.  Pull out any emotion you choose, and decide you are done feeling it.  Look at it carefully, examine all sides.  If it is yours, do something about it.  If it is not yours, or if it is not a proven fact, shift your imagination to something else.  Something better for yourself.  It all starts with a new thought, the seed of everything.

Wishing everyone reading this love, peace and light.

Cherylann Thomas

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Are You Driving Yourself Insane?

Warning: This article is graphic and may have triggers for some.

The most seriously mentally ill win the award for the best vivid imaginations.  They can conjure up all sorts of thoughts and ideas in their heads that are absolute nonsense, B.S. not proven, not even validated a little bit.  And yet we all, at one time or another, allow self-defeating thoughts to enter our consciousness, roll around and around as if it is the Truth, making it the Truth with added imaginary thoughts to confirm our righteousness in our lying positions.  There are degrees of mental illness, depending on the severity of the lies we try to hold onto.

This is personal for me. ¬†When my only child, Trevor, died at the young age of 25, my imagination almost drove me to the brink of madness, if it didn’t once or twice (or too many times to count) in the years that followed his accident. ¬†Where was he? ¬†Did he go to hell? ¬†He wasn’t a Christian and I know he was quite anti-religion period. ¬†So, what does this mean for his future in death? ¬†You can imagine my horror. ¬†A mother is a mother unto eternity and she will always have the intuitive need to protect her young, even in death.

How can I go on knowing, based on all of my biblical and religious training, that Trevor was burning in hell!? ¬†His car accident involved fire; lots of fire, 80% of his body was burned — what did I allow that little smidget of information about the accident do to my imagination? ¬†You can only guess. ¬†Finally, I went so far down the imaginary road of hell I actually believed for a while that I killed my son through my woeful anti-motherly neglect.

I allowed myself to remember every single parental infraction – that time I went off the deep end on him – and that look on his face, like he was slapped or something, was to haunt me forever now. ¬†I worked too hard, went to school at night. ¬†Belonged to every political and community organization that would have me. ¬†I wasn’t there for Trevor. ¬†He grew up to be killed over my early neglect. ¬†More fantastical thoughts came and I let them buggers have a seat and get comfortable in the confines of my vulnerable mind too. ¬†It was a party, complete with lots and lots of booze and pills to numb the fantasy when it got too much.

Soon, my imagination gave way to a complete emotional breakdown. ¬†There was no where else to go. ¬†Insanity, or death. That was it for me. ¬†I was weaning off of anti-depressant, anti-anxiety, and even anti-psychotic drugs because I knew by then my life was a wasteland and not moving forward with them. ¬†I didn’t want to feel drugged anymore.

In avoiding pain, I accumulated more of it.

Suddenly, clear thinking now, everything I had stuffed for almost five years came at me like a tidal wave.  My son was dead all over again.  My marriage ended in my oblivion, We lost access to our grandson.  We gained custody of our granddaughter. I was going bankrupt. Life was an utter mess and I was left to deal with it, chemical free.  The emotional pain was too much to bear, friends. And I made the decision to end it.  I could not tolerate the mental torture going on in my mind one more minute.  My thoughts literally drove me to insanity.

I chose death.

That fateful night I swerved hard-right onto a mountain wall speeding at 110 kmph (about 75 mph I think). ¬†There was nothing but my car embedded into the mountain and me, as I was removed by emergency crews. ¬†I was in shock, trying to comprehend a completely totaled car, and not a mark on my body or ache to my bones. ¬†I didn’t tell the emergency crew who showed up in complete disbelief that I was alive, that I saw an angel in my steering wheel at the moment of impact. ¬†The angelic face was as clear as the wall that I smashed into.

Everything made sense to me in that split second, that moment of impact.  I knew my time was not up.  No one goes until it is their time, and this was not it for me.

I suddenly had a mission.

I didn’t even stay in the hospital for much of a psychiatric evaluation (3 days¬†mandatory¬†I think). ¬†I wanted to get home and get to work. ¬†I had to completely destroy those drugs and get help. ¬†I had to be honest with someone. ¬†I killed my son and I needed to be punished out right, or just let me go. (Don’t ask, this is the stuff that was in my head.) ¬†I knew I was at the bottom and there was no where else to go except up. ¬†I said these very words to myself, “If I have to live, I insist on living in peace!”

I decided to start with hypnotherapy because I knew it was a stress relieving therapy, if nothing else, and I was filled to the rim with stress.  Little did I know that I would find myself in those 14 sessions.  I learned who I was, and more importantly, what I was doing to myself. The abuse I managed to give and take (from myself) was more than most people could bear.  I was allowing my imagination to be the Truth, when it was full of lies, judgments, misconceptions, ignorance, and being naive to the power of my own ability to drive myself insane.

My imagination got me into this mess, it also got me out!

So what is the Truth that set me free? ¬†In the safety of hypnosis my therapist had me imagine Trevor¬†was standing¬†in front of me. ¬†What would he say to me, regarding his upbringing? ¬†Is it possible he would hug me? She had me imagine the words Trevor would speak, because I knew him the best, she said. ¬†¬†I sat and listened, …and the words he would have said came to me. ¬†Wonderful love and support and compassion filled my head. ¬†I was given my freedom back. ¬†Imagining the Truth, the real Truth, brought me home. ¬†I allowed my imagination to imprison me, punish me, and almost execute me. ¬†Now I was using my imagination to understand the Truth.

In fact, my love for Trevor is the Truth.  The only truth that matters at all.  And my knowledge of his love for me is the same Truth.  There is no way my son would reject me, so I allowed myself to stop imagining he would.  My own worst case situation was a lying fantasy all along.

And hell finally left me alone.  Feelings of fear, worry, guilt, shame, anger, resentment, all receded, and were replaced with forgiveness, compassion and love.  Now, to me, only love is real.  Everything else is my enemy.  I seek out the Truth in all of my emotions, and every time, every single time, I win again.

We use our imaginations to scare ourselves to insanity, or death.  Now search for your Truth just by using your imagination to find it.  Believe in yourself.  Your good self.  Your real self.  Stop feeding the lies, and encourage the Truth in your own mind; it is what will not only allow you to survive, but thrive.

“That which can be destroyed by Truth, should be.” P.C. Hodge.

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What Does Stress Do to Your Body?

Stress gets the award for the highest ranking disorder in causing death.  Heart disease, cancers of all varieties, skin diseases, liver and kidney disease; even suicide and murder are inspired by..you got it, stress.

Close your eyes, and imagine your own body for a moment.  And feel all of that emotional pain of fear, worry, guilt, shame, anger, resentment again.  Just for a minute.  Where do you feel this in your body?  Is it in your chest?  Your heart and lungs could be at risk for dis-ease.  Does something stir up in your tummy area?  Your intestines, bowel, stomach, liver and kidneys are being ravaged by the stress you carry.  Maybe you feel the ANX in your abdomen and you often experience health issues in that area. Or, if you remember your emotional pain as being felt in the head (usually the enemy beasts of anger and resentment) you may have ache, or even some difficulty with the physical brain.

Take a moment to focus really hard on what your emotional upset is doing to that part of your body. ¬†Think of it as black. ¬†Prickly. ¬†Heavy. ¬†Poisonous. ¬†and just watch it (in your mind’s eye) swirl around and attack your insides.

If that doesn’t inspire you to do something about the weights you carry around with you then nothing will. ¬†Stress comes from overwhelming feelings of worry, fear, guilt, shame, anger, resentment. ¬†All of these emotions are useless to our psyche, but we tend to fall back to them every time a little incident happens in our lives. ¬†Sometimes we let those energy suckers hang around so long within us, we begin to feel the disease of the stress on a physical level. ¬†Tense muscles come from stress, so walking around like a pinched up peg isn’t going to be good for the bones, joints, and muscles either. ¬†Sometimes new unsubstantiated diagnoses come then, followed by, you guessed it, more drugs.

Contrary to what the commercials tell us, we do have control over our own emotions. ¬†Sometimes we don’t think we do, but we really do have all of the control we need to manage ourselves. ¬†When we think we have no control we are at risk of believing the filthy rich pharmaceutical companies who would like you to believe that Serotonin, a chemical imbalance issue, is the culprit to your feelings and drugs are needed. Trillions of dollars and millions of lost lives later, we see that we still don’t have a blood test to verify what we have been fed on that matter. ¬†No matter who I talk to, the ones prescribed¬†and taking¬†psychiatric drugs, all firmly believe that they are mentally sick forever, and the drugs will be needed forever. Frequent dosage increases are needed as the drug adjusts itself to the brain.

What if the DRUG WITHDRAWAL is making you feel unstable?

People just don’t see that they feel ‘mental’ when they try to stop taking the drugs, because the drug got itself addicted to your brain almost immediately (just like heroin) and trying to stop makes the brain feel very unstable. ¬†So, people believe they really do have a physical issue and no control over making their lives better and carry on with their drug solution.

If only we could end stress the drug free way.  If we would teach young and old people coping skills to feel more peace of mind, we would be doing humanity a huge service.  What is going on now is not only creating early deaths, it is making us mindless mental pygmies; slaves to the anti-depressant and other psychiatric medication to overcome feelings.

Dare to look at what your stress is doing to your body. ¬†Look close and ask yourself if you really need to live like that, or if maybe you do have more inside power than you ever gave yourself credit for. ¬†I challenge you that you do have a superhero¬†inside of YOU¬†just waiting to be unleashed from all of the heaviness you allow to stay around. ¬†Stop it. ¬†Get up off the couch and go get yourself some coping skills. ¬†There are free support groups everywhere. ¬†Other than actual brain damage, there is no excuse for anyone to live in pain, alone…and drugged!

It is our secrets, our shames, our stuffing of things that need to be out in the open that will lead to stress and early death. Go find out why you do that, and your new lovely life will begin!

God bless you everyone.  I wish you all love, peace of mind and extreme happiness!

Cherylann Thomas, B.Sc.Crim, CH,t is a Clinical Hypnotherapist practitioner working out of the Family Wellness Centre in Westbank.  Specializing in:  anxiety, depression, phobias, and weight loss.  Using a variety of techniques including regression therapy, parts therapy and suggestion therapy to empower clients find their own inner power.  Skype service now available.  778-755-4001.  http://www.mindmiracleshypnotherapy.ca

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Who is Your REAL Enemy?

When referring to enemies we often think they are the people who¬†work against us, in social or employment situations perhaps. Enemies can be dangerous beings, creating problems for us in our communities, or work; and even family situations. ¬†We don’t need or want enemies in our circles because to allow enemy-folk to linger around we can soon begin to experience¬†self-doubt, confusion, ¬†loss of energy, until finally there is loss of reputation in some cases.

But who is your real enemy?  

Dare to think of your enemies differently. ¬†I suggest all of your enemies live within yourself. ¬†Yep. ¬†I said that. People seem to be completely unaware of how much stress weighs on our minds and bodies. ¬†Stress comes from the enemy, and I’ll get to just what that is in a minute. ¬†When we allow the enemy to reside inside of ourselves for any length of time without doing anything about it, even allowing it to grow…like a bad weed, we experience the exact same torturous sensations as if someone else had done damage to us.

The enemy are: Worry, Fear, Anger, Resentment, Shame, Guilt, Jealousy, Envy, Self-loathing, Rage.

Never under-estimate these enemies possibly residing in you!  The dark black energies can be absolutely powerful, torturing your mind with racing thoughts, self-delusions, constant tension.  Sometimes the extremes of these emotions lead people into serious depression and anxiety, requiring medication to try to dull some of the pain; sometimes worse, they choose suicide.  Sometimes the EMOTIONAL enemies can turn into an actual physical pain throughout the body, due to all of that stress being carried around.  Some lash out at others, all the way to murder.

People’s emotions create a lot of drama and trauma in this world so I beg to say they are important to deal with.

Whether you tend to beat on yourself, or lash out at others, the result is exactly the same. ¬†Weakness, low self-esteem, extremely sensitive, unfocused thoughts, foggy brain and I could go on with the symptoms of ‘not dealing with feelings.’ If we don’t understand and deal with our own alarming feelings then we tend to push them away…down…down onto our precious subconscious mind who wants us healthy, happy, and free!

Sometimes the feelings get pushed down so much drugs (legal and street) or alcohol is needed to relieve the emotional pain. And yet the pain persists, eventually.

All the while our unconscious power-mind keeps attempting to get through to your conscious, critical mind. ¬†The conscious mind is not who you are. ¬†It is what you have learned. ¬†This is what any other situation would call brain-washing. ¬†We are conceived with the unconscious mind…providing us instinct and all we need at that birthing time…and would follow us to our death and crossing over. ¬†This part of our new us feel our mothers first in the womb.

Then our conscious mind was born…learning how to be…Was your mom anxious? ¬†Depressed? ¬†Did she fly off in a rage every now and then? ¬†What enemy was your mother struggling with? ¬†Chances are you have invited the same bugger to live inside of you! ¬†Perhaps you invited the stranger in after a serious life trauma, a loss, a death. ¬†Were you raised to think you were a little more entitled than anyone else? ¬†You may suffer with the enemy of jealousy, envy, and rage. ¬†Maybe your family was poor, and stressed, and had no coping skills themselves, so allowed the enemies of all kinds to rage on in the circle.

What would happen if you agreed the enemy prevents you from THRIVING?  Would you be more willing to unload it?  Fix it?  Accept it?

The really interesting thing about these enemies is that we do not need them to survive! ¬†Worried about your mortgage? ¬†How about your children doing poorly in school? ¬†Is your job at risk? ¬†Think about this for a moment…you do not need the worry in these (or any) situation! ¬†The worry is going to change nothing. ¬† You can listen and respect the worry for what it is, but you don’t need to pack your bags and live in the worry to exist! ¬†Let the worry go and get to work at what has to be tended to instead!

Sometimes the best looking families, the ones with all of the houses and cars and boats and vacations and 2.5 children and a little designer dog hold the darkest secrets of them all. ¬†They learn how to put that shiny smile on for all of the world to see and envy, only to find inside is a hideous secret no one dares talk about. ¬†You can bet mom is pill popping to deal and dad is indulging in a little too much whiskey in such a mess. ¬†The children are acting out by indulging in risky behaviors…you know the families. ¬†Sometimes the most beautiful looking family has the ugliest secrets.

I’ve said before and I’ll probably say it a lot, we have at least two notable minds, our conscious mind, and our unconscious mind. ¬†Our unconscious mind is the holder of our first seed, the holder of all of our truths, whether we want to face them or not, and the part of ourselves that will allow you to soar…if you pay attention. ¬†The unconscious mind keeps us safe while we are driving in a daydream (trance). ¬†She or he will knock loudly on your conscious door if there is danger ahead…but we have to pay attention to it or risk regretting doing something.

Our unconscious mind does not like being stuffed upon, or drugged. ¬†She loves to be listened to, and strengthens us every time we practice doing this and acting on what it is we must do, in spite of how hard it is. It’s our conscious mind, the one we think with right now that gets us in trouble every time. The one that is first critical and judgmental, ask questions later. ¬†This is the mind that has been trained since our birth on how to think and feel…by our guardians. ¬†Unless you have had a very strong, independent unconscious mind keeping your conscious mind in good moral and healthy check, we are at risk for mental illness when we let the enemy control our conscious mind.

Sometimes the energies of fear or anger or shame get so overwhelming, we don’t know where to begin to actually deal with something.

Listen to your enemies No enemy can do as much damage to your mental well-being more than your own emotions out of check. 

To find your advanced, beautiful, strong, and powerful self, I suggest you start by paying attention to your feelings. ¬†As soon as an emotion comes over you, ask yourself what this is…what is it about? ¬†Get real with it. ¬†If your normal response is to push down unpleasant things, you are at extreme risk of mental illness problems down the road. ¬†Of course some things can be let go, and we never feel it or let it disturb us again. ¬†I’m not talking about those feelings, I’m talking about the chronic ones. ¬†The one’s that keep you down and away from peace of mind and happiness.

I’ve said before, we need to feel it, to heal it. ¬†Once you find that warrior courage to look inside and find what it is holding you back, and honestly take care of the matter once and for all, the breathtaking emotion of freedom will literally knock you off your feet. ¬†I promise.

 

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What If You Didn’t Worry?

What If You Didn’t Worry?

A lecturer when explaining stress management to an audience,
Raised a glass of water and asked ‘How heavy is this glass of water?’

Answers called out ranged from 20g to 500g.

The lecturer replied, ‘The absolute weight doesn’t matter.
It depends on how long you try to hold it.

If I hold it for a minute, that’s not a problem.

If I hold it for an hour, I’ll have an ache in my right arm.

If I hold it for a day, you’ll have to call an ambulance.

In each case, it’s the same weight, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes.’

He continued,

‘And that’s the way it is with stress management.

If we carry our burdens all the time, sooner or later,

As the burden becomes increasingly heavy,

We won’t be able to carry on. ‘

‘As with the glass of water,

You have to put it down for a while and rest before holding it again.”

The lecturer went on, but I would like to add that the burdens most of us keep, unnecessarily in most cases, are worry, fear, guilt, shame, anger, resentment, jealousy and envy. Those are our enemies. Those are our real heavies.

Negative thought leads to negative feelings that, if not tended to as soon as possible, can sit so long they become deeply painful emotions.  And we all know by now that deeply painful emotions lead to pain in our bodies.  We walk around so stressed and full of anxiety it is no wonder our physical bodies hurt!

Sometimes, the hardest thing in the world to do is to analyze and come to terms with our own feelings. We are so use to Secrets, Stuffing, Shame…the S word enemies and recipe for depression. But once you see what it is you must see; and deal with what you must deal with, you will be amazed at how strong, confident, in control (of everything) you are and feel as your just reward!

YES YOU CAN!  Imagine it.  Have it.

Cherylann

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Weight Loss the Calm Way!

Weight Loss the Calm Way!

What a success! Our 3rd Annual Hypnosis for Weight Loss Series has begun with a BANG! We even had a guy join our group and not mind the room full of ladies one bit!

Tuesday night we started things off by explaining what hypnosis is: the technique of relaxing the body so much (to the delta level of sleep), and take magical metaphorical journey’s within a safe, ‘secret place’ (our unconscious mind) to find that strength and power we’ve always had, but cover up with nasty energy sucking critical thoughts residing in our critical mind (conscious mind).

We can be brutal on ourselves! Or, some hold a lot of rage and are mentally brutal toward someone else…damaging their own good energy in the process.

When we allow our emotions to take control of us (usually because many of us were not really raised with healthy coping skills) we are allowing these emotions and stress from the emotions to reside in our bodies. Have you heard that stress attacks our organs? I’ll put it a more clearer way; when we feel stress we usually feel it in some part of our body. Some feel it in their tummy, some feel the stress pain in their chest, or shoulders, or head (where do you hold your stress in the body?). If the stress is not resolved it will eventually make you sick in that part of your body.

So in our journey last night we were introduced to the secret place, and found a little wooden bridge going over a creek of cool running water…so we focused hard on that bridge, knowing that if we decided to cross it, we are making a serious commitment to ourselves. We are going to lose (insert number of pounds each participant decided to lose) by (insert the date for completion of goal).

We then learned an amazing technique for confronting those emotions that get in our way of peace of mind and happiness. It brought some tears, which is normal, things are beginning to open up and shift by now.

Having a seat in the theatre of our own minds and watching ourselves in the body shape and weight we aspire to. Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it will achieve!

Later we met the person who had a special message for our participants and they listened to those messages intently. The person was the wise old man, or woman, and everyone listens in their own minds to what they are hearing. These messages are often extremely profound and meaningful to the receiver as they are relaxing and visualizing.

Next Tuesday is our 2nd session where we will experience a hypnotic gastric band surgery which lessons the appetite instantly.

If there was a little bit of an upset, I did invite the Kelowna Women’s Shelter to have two of their clients join our group at no cost, and the organization said they couldn’t support ‘services like that.’ Sigh. No matter, when the student is ready, the teacher will appear. Nothing can be forced, but I plan to continue educating people on what it is that I do do for my livelihood, and what it is I do is help people lift out of depression and anxiety DRUG FREE! I’ll never be ashamed of that.

Live well everyone, you deserve it in spite of yourself. ‚̧

The Cure For Mental Illness

The Cure For Mental Illness

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As you may have figured out by now, I am very passionate on the subject of government and pharmaceutical company domination of our emotional well being.¬† So, I get a lot of flak for my views, because there are many people right now suffering terribly with feelings of mental instability.¬† I will never argue if folks need the drugs to live better temporarily…but after a few months, come on, it’s time to deal.¬† Or not.¬† It really is that simple.

Please note:  I am not speaking of mental insanity or retardation or factual brain damage where control measures, such as drugs, is needed to keep the patient or others safe.  There is no doubt these drugs do have a place.

I am also acutely aware that many cannot afford alternatives to the traditional response to depression and anxiety.  The alternatives are kept hidden, regulated, not funded.  So, I get that in many cases we are stuck with what is available to help us through in that moment.

But at least let’s look at things a little more closely regarding this serious mental illness problem we are experiencing in the western world…keep in mind, our minds are like a parachute, it only works when it’s open. (unknown)_

I had to find out the hard way.¬† When I speak against the legal¬†drug nation, I am not speaking only from an academic point of view, I am speaking as an experienced mental case, certified crazy at times, even a member of the ‘lifer mentally ill category person until I escaped the system.¬† I know exactly what I am talking about, and¬†I am convinced we are going to regret this medicinal answer.¬† I was a victim too.¬† My son died.¬† Then I was all of the labels and I got away with giving up because no one knew what else to do with me.¬† “We understand why you are nuttier than a fruit cake, Cherylann…it’s expected, you lost your son afterall.¬† Go ahead, give up,¬†we won’t¬†judge you.”¬† I had zero internal skills to help myself.

I was in bed all day.¬† I saw the commercials, “If you are sitting there watching this like a moron, ask your doctor about getting a drug that will brain fry you even more.”¬† Well, something like that, you get my meaning.¬†¬† And I listened to the nice scientist man on the television tell me that my feelings were a sickness, and there was a drug solution to my sickness.¬† I could go to my doctor and get any psychiatric drug I wanted.¬† It just depended on what my mood was that day and what I would ‘tell’ my doctor; and he would respond with the right drug per the commercial on t.v.¬† You know I’m speaking the truth here.

Some pharmaceutical’s are the enemy to society’s civil¬†evolution¬†as we know it if you ask me.¬† I have no doubt that when I’m dead and gone it will come out that we have been experimented on for vaccines, and psychiatric medication.¬† I know we think the folks in India are being the paid guinea pigs testing our psychiatric drugs, but in fact many of them falsify results of success for better financial gain.¬† I think it is important to put a magnifying glass under that term, ‘Secondary Gain.”¬† Wherever there can be secondary gain in a system involving the masses, the validation of testing must always be suspect.

SECONDARY GAINS
FOR ENCOURAGING PERMANENT MENTAL HEALTH LABELS

1. Pharmaceutical companies (profit)…all the way down to pharmacies.
2. Marketers and Advertisers (profit of course)…follow the money…
2. Doctors (Career, without the drugs, what else do they have for emotionally disturbed individuals?)
3. Patient (Won’t have to face uncomfortable feelings and emotions; gives reason to miss or leave work; Gives reason to collect a legal government monthly pension (I am sorry, you know I am being honest here, why lie to ourselves?).

Sadly, of all secondary gains that make me the most frustrated, is when people give up forever and wave “I am sick and you don’t understand” flags.¬† Begging for validation to give up life.¬† I stopped doing that and never felt better.

I am not normally a conspiracy theorist, when I read about what was done to the military in WWI and WW II, and the testing done on the infirm and insane that was so egregious lives were tortured and taken by non-suspecting folks.¬† We need to research matters of the mind before we blindly accept the ‘chemical imbalance theory.’¬†¬† We seem to be like the stepford wives when it comes to the commercials that say, “Ask your doctor if you are sad or disinterested in life…”¬†¬† Why on earth do we think it logical to ask a scientist about our feelings?¬† The scientists think feelings are brain matter of some kind!

If you are emotionally distraught, what if it is a spiritual emergency, a message from your  unconscious mind, or God even!  What if you are masking the spiritual messages we all get from time to time.

Instead of hiding from our feelings and emotions, we need to listen and take lessons from them.

We miss someone terribly!  We are afraid of the future!  We did something bad!  I hate her!

These feelings are WARNINGS…you need to tend to yourself gently, or harshly, or just compassionately all around, but do it.

I have a feeling you secretly know I’m right.

Then we find out that the science community actually did brain surgery on emotional or emotionally unstable (women mostly) in the early to mid part of the twentieth century.  The human rights people put an end to that.  However, science soon came up with a chemical answer to inhibit the emotional response of the brain instead.

Anti-depressants, anti-anxiety, anti-psychotic, anti-feel drugs.

I wonder why we buy into that, really?¬† With no proof, no lab test to agree with the ‘supposition’ we are mentally ill forever.¬† We read a list of 10 ‘symptoms’ and diagnose ourselves before we even get to the doctor, who is only going to give you what you want if it is anti-depressants and the lot.¬† You know I’m telling the truth!

Feelings are messages to us from our unconscious mind (or God, if you prefer).¬† If you feel a touch of worry, or fear, or shame, or guilt, or resentment, or anger…you might want to ask yourself right then and there what is going on?¬† Get to the bottom of that feeling (and WE ARE ALL RESPONSILBE FOR OUR OWN FEELINGS, EVEN IN THE WORST OF SITUATIONS AND TRAUMAS).¬† And learn to act on your feelings by changing your mind, or communicating with someone.

What if everything you thought about mental illness was a lie?¬† I am not saying it is, I am saying, “what if?”¬† Wouldn’t you want to know for sure?¬† For something as serious as making your identity a mentally unstable person, why do we so easily succumb to this kind of thought?¬† Is it easier to be sick and helpless?

THE PROMISED SOLUTION

I think I know the answer…in my humble opinion:¬† Poor coping skills is the seed of mental illness.¬† Instead of ‘inheriting’ some unproven biological mental illness gene from our mothers and fathers and such, what if you are in a cycle of dysfunction and are simply copying the only way you know how to cope, which is to not cope!

We need to learn coping skills for ourselves, and there are many free agencies out there with some decent courses if you are willing to learn.  For those who can afford counselling or therapy, including hypnotherapy,

After or while we are tending to ourselves, we need to begin deliberately teaching the art of communication skills at a much earlier age to children than we do now.¬†¬† Let’s teach early classes of stress and sleep management.¬† We have to hurry up and teach our kids healthy relationship dynamics, because, let’s face it, many people are horrible relationship people, and still have KIDS!¬† The cycle continues…

We must knock down the school trustee doors and insist on more life skills for our kids.  They need it as much as they need those free lunches every day.  Right?

Thanks for reading.¬† I am going to keep on with my message, and hopefully, one person at a time, people will find themselves evolving out of depression and anxiety, and experience happiness instead.¬† I think it starts with finding a way to learn new coping skills.¬† Yes you can manage your own emotions and cope with even extreme feelings, like after a death, or trauma.¬† It’s been done for millions of years by trillions of people before you.¬† Somehow the world with far fewer resources managed to get by without swallowing a pill for every thought, feeling or emotion we don’t like.

It’s okay to have a melt down, just don’t pack your bags and live there.¬† It is a choice to become a butterfly, at one point.

The Best News People With Mental Illness Will Ever Read!

The Best News People With Mental Illness Will Ever Read!

BLOG LINKS  Please check out my word document: a list of various articles and videos that will change your mind about mental illness forever!

What if everything you know about mental illness and chemical imbalances was a lie?

What if your moods, and anxiety, and depression, and even psychotic episodes have a root cause? What if your mind is trying to tell you something, much like our bodies tell us things all of the time when we get physically sick.

Could the problem really be you are holding onto a secret? A secret that needs to get out to save your life? You’ve protected everyone else all of your life, why not start tending and caring for your own self, and needs, now? Secrets are great for saving others, but do you have a secret about yourself you need to get out? That could also be the problem you are not dealing with.

What if, allow yourself to ponder for a moment, you are having a SPIRITUAL emergency and instead of paying attention to all of the signals you are getting, you drug yourself up with anti-depressants, anti-anxiety, anti-psychotic and anti-mood medication?

Some cover their feelings up with alcohol. Some use street drugs. Some find comfort and safety in the more medical term, mental illness.

I don’t know where the need to mask yourself (you say balance yourself) comes from. Your mental instability can be a result of not having coping skills (many of us were not raised to cope well). Swinging moods could have something to do with your conscious mind fighting with your unconscious mind, the part of you that knows everything.

I wonder what would happen if you allowed yourself to think for a moment that the commercials telling you to ask your doctor about certain drugs, is actually the worst thing you could ever do for yourself and your well being?

I wouldn’t rush out to ask a car dealer if I should buy a car, or use some other mode of transportation. The dealer is likely going to say the car is the best thing for me.

My challenge to you is dare to feel it, explore it, heal or EMBRACE what is happening to you. I promise you the whole world will open up for you when you decide to dig in and get to the root of what is causing you to feel internal mental pain and instability.

It is either that, or allow yourself to succumb to the misery of the aggressive, non-compassionate, emotional upheaval cycle of psychiatric labels and medicinal solutions.

When you allow the medical community to brand and drug you for your mental well being all hope for finding the real cause goes down the drain. Not only that, when doctors conclude (based on what YOU told them) you are mentally ill, they mean mentally UNSTABLE and have no hesitation in drugging mentally unstable people.

What if what is going on is actually a spiritual awakening, and you don’t know what to make of it, so assume, wrongly, that you have a brain chemical imbalance causing you to see and hear things that are not there?

The alarms (emotional disturbance) we all get can vary in intensity, and can start as early as pre-teen years. Kids today are killing themselves by record numbers because they are being refused the compassion, UNDERSTANDING, and unconditional love they need while going through what it is they are going through. They are being DRUGGED rather than embraced for who they are, and what they are experiencing.

Dare to emerge out of the dungeons and hell of the aggressive, unfeeling, world of¬†psychiatry¬†(notice the¬†‘try’)¬†find your true purpose and meaning with hypnosis and hypnotherapy. Your mind will tell you exactly what the problem is, and how to fix it.

And the skies will open up and be bluer, the sun will be brighter, and the heavy burden you have been carrying will be lifted.

As a clinical hypnotherapist who is trained and experienced working with mental illness, regression and PLRegression therapy, I promise you everything will change in your world when you look inside for answers, instead of asking doctors who are trained to treat all emotional issues with drugs.

Please share and help me give hope where before there was none.

 

* Never come off any psychiatric medication without telling someone (or two) who can keep their eye on you. Weaning off slowly is safer than suddenly stopping (just like heroin). Allow the painful, erratic moods withdrawal symptoms to encourage you to keep going…seek medical attention for unsafe symptoms such as suicide ideation or feelings of rage (violence). Once you are toxin free, give yourself a chance at life — Make sure you get to the root of your emotional disturbance. Google all sides of any solution.

It was hypnotherapy that saved me. Just sayin… If you want to learn more, please like Mind Miracles Hypnotherapy on facebook at http://www.facebook.com/mindmiracleshypnotherapy and receive all of my posts on the power of our own minds. I am taking clients at the Family Wellness Centre in West Kelowna, or by Skype. PM me for details.

Please watch this video before you do another thing…

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CX5o8N-jT9c

 

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Your Mind Really is a Miracle!

Your Mind Really is a Miracle!

Imagine for a moment that the seed to achieving all of your goals in 2015 is a mere thought.

Suppose you were to think this way: “I am 135 lbs. I am a non smoker. I am the vice-president at the bank. I have a new house. I have a new car. I am ______ (fill in the blank).

Hold your thought for a moment. Now feel it. Pretend you have already succeeded in what it is you want to achieve, or maybe it is some behaviour or habit you want to end.

Use all of your senses to envision this achievement…what would the scene look like? What would you be feeling like? Conjure up as many sensations as you can to make this goal a reality, in your MIND! Now, take a snapshot mental picture of this success and keep it with you to remember often.

You have just planted a new seed that will bring you miracles. Now water it, often ÔĀä

Allow the sensation of FEELING this exciting idea that you have already achieved what it is you want! You really can be everything you wanted to be, and more!

I am in the business of helping people realize the power of their own minds and ending the thoughts and feelings that keep them stuck. I will put you into a very deep place of relaxation, and like a plumber going in behind the walls together we will reformat your mind to produce other feelings such as joy, excitement for life, peace of mind. With a little bit of tweaking you really can feel great emotionally! Do you want positive emotions? You can have it. DRUG FREE TOO!

If you need help in retraining your thinking patterns to bring out your own miracles I can help. Skype hypnosis and hypnotherapy now available.

Please check out my facebook page at http://www.facebook.com/mindmiracleshypnotherapy

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Imagine 2015 Being Your Best Year Ever!

Imagine 2015 Being Your Best Year Ever!

Make your year all it can be and more!

Less than 5% of the population actually take the time to write out a life plan of action, or annually set goals. Which is really ridiculous because people who do set goals on average achieve 70% or more of what they planned!

Very few people plan to fail, rather they fail to plan! Here are some powerful ways to turn your goals into reality!

1. Sit down with pen and paper and establish what it is you want to achieve in 2015. Break your goals down into categories such as in your relationships, financial, career, etc.

2. Be specific in what it is you want. If you want to make more money, how much money do you want to be earning by _____ (when?). If you want a new relationship, what qualities are you seeking in your mate? If you want a new career, what career?  Do you want to lose weight?  How much weight and by when? The more specific you can be in your goals the more likely your success!

3. Give yourself a timeline. When do you want to achieve your goal?  Remember to be specific!  Narrow it down to month, if you want!

4. Reach for more than you have before, but do not make your goals completely unrealistic.

5. After you write your goals take a few moments to close your eyes and envision yourself as already achieving your goals! Imagine it to the point that you can ‘feel’ the sensation of success.

“Whatever your mind can conceive, and believe, it will achieve!” Napoleon Hill.

After you set your goals put your paper away in a safe place.¬† Read it from time to time to remind yourself of your goal(s), if you want. That’s it!

HAPPY NEW YEAR EVERYONE! MAY ALL OF YOUR HOPES AND DREAMS COME TRUE!

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