Holistic Mental Health Practitioner Bashes Medical Treatment of Women and Other Right-Brain Oriented People.

I notice a disturbing pattern emerging when it comes to mental illness and women.  First, the current system seems to be creating even more sickness and suicide for the multitudes and masses, which conflicts with my good senses of what a medical community should be doing for the betterment of society. Second, I believe the cause of so much unhappiness has little to do with illness, and more to do with oppression of right brain talents and resources.

I know what wonderful and miraculous things can happen when creative folks are allowed to express themselves exactly how they are without having to compare their gifts to left brain oriented counterparts.  I see women and men regain self-esteem very quickly with just learning a few new ideas for WHY they may be feeling so mentally sick other than what they are being told by doctors and pharmaceutical commercials.

What if mental illness is really an unconscious reaction to bullshit?  

Why does it seem like more women than men are ‘crazy?’ How come no one ever asks how to cure mental illness and seem perfectly happy accepting drugs as the solution to unconscious despair?  Schizophrenia is a mental disorder characterized by abnormal social behavior and failure to understand what is real according to Wikipedia.  Whose real?  How come in many eastern countries schizophrenia folks are used as ‘wise men and women’ who have great insight to things most people cannot see?   These are just a few questions I have after years of living my life as a woman in a society that insists my body and mind must work like the male ones or I am ‘abnormal.’  I believe women (and men) are brainwashed into believing how they are supposed to feel and be, because it works better for someone else.

Imagine a world that nourishes, respects, and even admires women for their physiological differences?  How much better can civilization be with a ‘feminine’ balance to masculine values?  I wonder if one would feel mental in a world of left brain folks if they thought their right brains mattered too?

Women have been traditionally ‘known’ to be the crazy ones at home, work, and in the psyche wards. What if ‘mental illness’ is really ‘right brain intelligence neglect?’  We live in a left brain world where conditioning and development is almost entirely based on preferences of logic and order.  It all starts in grade one.  Everything one needs to know about the right brain is apparently learned by Kindergarten because that is when the imagination part of us begins to get stifled, shut down and shut up to make room for academics.  Sure we have some music and art classes available to help students along, but mostly we will find left brain activities of memory development, algebra, and even sports as the preferred activities, and this is about as interesting as going to the dentist all day long for some people and so problems ensue when one does not live up to the expectations of the educational system we have available.

Soon we may wonder what is wrong with girls who suffer in math or boys who disrupt procedures in the class.  Why is everyone else going to school like good little boys and girls, but others are simply not fitting in, and ‘failing?’  Many children are now being labeled as diseased in some way, mentally if they do not keep up with the way things are.  It’s becoming ridiculous to me to see so many children and adults drugged and put away for life with a label of mental illness because we do not care to look deeper.

Displaced children grow up with thoughts of inadequacy, not belonging, and no voice. Powerlessness in a system that actually works against the amazing minds of right brain thinkers creates so much turmoil a person can hardly cope after a while.  Soon the person may begin to shut themselves down in fear of their own differences.

Mental illness can feel debilitating.  There is no sense of self power or control when one is hidden under blankets day in and day out with the television blaring in the background to drown out the destructive thoughts. Drugs, alcohol or food are often introduced to cut the incessant misery sense.  What about anxiety?  What a nightmare that is when they suddenly have an inability to breathe while driving, or in a public place.  What is the answer we have for these suffering souls?  Ativan, Xanax, Clonazapam.  Imagine what it might be like to feel worthless, unlovable, wants to give up, and die.  Suicide has become so epidemic it is now the number one killer of our youth — more than accidents and murder put together.

Whatever we are doing to help mentally ill and addicted people does not seem to be working.  In fact, it is making things much worse.

People are dying in record numbers by their own hand!

What if the problem isn’t mental illness, rather mental deprivation of the senses which can be restored with a little bit of attention to the real problems in society?

Are you ready for a new perspective on that ever so popular DSM, the Diagnostic and Statistic Manual that every doctor in North America refers to as a bible of sorts when deciding what is wrong with women medically, when it comes to mental symptoms?

If someone’s answer to our problems makes a little bit of sense we may inadvertently buy into horrible permanent life decisions for temporary emotional relief.  Vulnerable folks are easily convinced on the idea there is something wrong with their biology because nothing else seems to make sense in their world.  The so-called science about Serotonin being discovered as the culprit to mental illness is still being passed around as truth. Just Google, “Serotonin Lie” and see what you find. Every day we are seeing cases of pharmaceutical marketing literally driving people completely away from themselves and their own good senses and on drugs actually designed to inhibit the life of the right brain!

If anyone tells me I have an incurable mental or physical illness you better believe I need to see the blood work or x-ray to prove that today.  No longer do I take the word of someone who cannot possibly understand my world as they figure I may have a biological problem, rather than something else going on.  For mental illness no evidence of chemistry sickness exists even though people believe this to be the case.  Sometimes a confused doctor will say no one really knows what causes mental illness so it could be DNA genetically passed down with no reason at all.

Perhaps. Maybe not.  My clients tell me they get tired of doctors guessing treatment until the right drug is discovered by accident.  Stuffing symptoms with mind altering chemicals makes as much sense as someone taking a pain medication for a physical reason forever, doesn’t it?  It should be RARE not the common practice to offer life time brain-pain medication.

When can we find out why people feel mental?  For some it is simply easier to pack it in and be sick with permission from the system.  Many women agree to be mental so they can have a government sponsored disability income in a corporate society that offers a fraction of work income and benefits their left brain brothers are earning.  We have made women responsible for everything to do with the family, accountable for keeping everything together without assistance from a wayward spouse, and then pay her peanuts when she needs to work to put food in the kids mouths.  I’d rather go on mental disability, thanks.  It is all about survival and women will do what they must to keep going; some are brilliant at working the system that tries to keep them powerless, afraid, and ashamed.  You go girl!

Isn’t it time to fix the problem before life is completely wasted away?  I hear time and time again, “My depression keeps me stuck. I am anxious and stressed about everything. I have a feeling like I don’t belong somehow.  I don’t matter.  Everyone walks all over me. I am too sensitive.  There is something wrong with me. I can’t get along with the people everyone else gets along with, and, I can’t seem to learn the way everyone else is learning.”

Seeing things with new eyes

Let’s take a look at some of the labels the DSM and current traditional medicine in a new light, and I’ll suggest an alternative option for rescue and recovery for each ‘disease’ as listed:

Depression — Lives in the past.  Often caused by a serious denial of self-love, a traumatic event, or conditioned feelings of powerlessness.  The depressed person is often brainwashed to believe they are financially needy or dependant in an unhealthy relationship they feel they must have for survival.  Unconscious self anger results in confusion. Wrongful thoughts become so debilitating the body lives in a constant state of tension, pain and exhaustion.

Rescue and Recovery — Get out of the environment and find a place to re-group – alone. Figure out why you have taken over the emotional abuse (in thought) and learn how to retrain your thinking and imagination to the satisfaction of your spirit.  Stop looking at the problem and begin wondering about solutions for your own comfort, peace, and happiness. Find a way to matter to you.  Your gift, the right brain (imagination), has infinite ideas, start looking there.  Even more importantly, find a way to not need someone else for survival as that kind of relationship can turn you into a miserable slave working against your own life.  Chronic unhappiness is a clue something is wrong in LEARNED THINKING.

Make a new life plan when you are up to it.  Women don’t get defeated overnight and it will take some time to regain self, but you can count on a right brain woman to find a way to get the job done if she is interested in a better life.

Anxiety — Lives in the future.  Severe fear to believe in self.  Unconscious screaming, “Something is wrong!  Fix it!” We are finding that anxious people are so intuitive and powerful when we sense a conflict of conscious thinking to unconscious knowing it can feel like one is losing touch with reality.  And you are.  Intuit can hardly stand self-denial and unconscious will create sensations of panic when we do not listen to our own infinite wisdom about the present.

Rescue and Recovery — Dare to look at what scares you, really.  Hypnosis and hypnotherapy work miracles for the anxious because in treatment they actually figure out for themselves how to listen and obey  their own inner voice, and the answers feel like amazing empowerment for better living.  100% recovery is not only possible, it is probable for those who believe they can be healed.  Sadly most people are unaware of recovery and end up drinking or drugging the right brain sensations instead, all the way to institution and death as we are seeing in epidemic proportions.  Get to the root of the anxiety for complete recovery of life.  If anxiety based on a recent traumatic experience is the only problem it can be cured in one simple hypnosis session.

Bi-Polar Disorder — This requires an entire reexamination on the female anatomy and life experiences.  In many cases the diagnosis is brought on after the ingestion of anti-depressant medication, which is known to create feelings of mania in some people (people who don’t need antidepressants I’m thinking).  As long as the diagnosis and pills are allowed to be handed out recovery is slim to none as the beholder succumbs to living down to the ideals of instability.  The powerful brain drugs that are dispensed under the name of ‘safety’ will kill the spirit eventually, in almost every case.  Until just a few decades ago crazy women use to be given brain surgery (Lobotomy) to remove her emotional being.  I remember a girlfriend’s mother had her emotional response removed (located in the right temple brain) and my friend said she could slap her mother’s face and Mom wouldn’t care. She’d forget about it real soon if she did figure out she was insulted or hurt.

Isn’t that a nice way to live?  The friend said her mother’s emotions were taken out when she was 20 years old after being forced to marry a man twice her age due to pregnancy at 15.  Living now with 4 children in an abusive home it became too much to handle, and so she ‘left’ mentally and almost burned the house down.  This woman was a danger to herself and others.  Police were involved and the husband told the doctors if they didn’t fix his wife he would kill her.  Doctors fixed mom for dad’s better health.  The surgery was done in 1959 and a common practice in the times.  My friend said her mother had two more children and never complained again.  Life was good for everyone…else.

I remember the movie “The Stepford Wives” released in about the 1980’s, and have never quite forgotten at how powerful and mind numbing brainwashing can be when oppressed people are trained to be the servants for others, and no complaining from the wives because their ‘thinking’ belongs to someone else — they believe (consciously) they WANT to live for others.

There are many examples of religions brainwashing the masses into belief systems that utterly ignore female gender brains other than to be used for service.

Unconsciously we may  create mental illness when we deny our own purpose.

Women are being diagnosed with Bi-polar Disorder (false, unsubstantiated diagnoses) and those drugs will make the victim not care at all about what was going on within the family, or life.  Be glad we didn’t live in the 1940’s or 50’s where the powerful doctors could have removed your emotions forever without permission.  But they still work to manipulate the mind into thinking we can do without emotions by using right brain stoppers.

Today we have what is called “Chemical Lobotomy’s” in the form of prescription psychiatric medication that anyone can get at any time with the right ‘story.’  Yes, some people need to be put away safely and drugged for better comfort while imprisoned.  I have yet to hear a successfully medicated person living a happy life to old age, there may be a few cases, but they are certainly rare.  Life is never smooth for the chronically mentally ill and so I am suggesting we stop telling people to give up to the illness!

If one believes in psychiatric diagnosis the hope for full life recovery is diminished because there is no solution other than expensive pharmaceuticals that often increase over time.

Little to no effort is given to figure out where the serious mood swings come from other than, “She’s a nut bar for no particular reason.”  Having very little credibility in a world where women use to be considered property of men it isn’t too difficult to believe she is not worth saving if she isn’t taking care of everyone else the way she is supposed to be.  I am not being negative here, it is time to look at some truth and let’s investigate these alarming throw away people whom I no longer believe were “born insane.”  I witness full recovery of mental people who decide to forsake the others to save themselves.

Rescue and recovery — Figure out for yourself if you have a serious life threatening mental illness, or may have been wrongly perceived through the eyes of someone else.  I am telling people without hesitation today to really check out the facts of the case before giving up as a mentally unstable person for life.  See my next blog where I will outline many amazing women who were able to rise above their traditional roles and make remarkable contributions to society after being labeled ‘fruit cakes’ with no credible value their entire lives.  These women are proof enough for me that anyone can escape oppression – and the mental illness philosophies that are keeping female oppression alive.

ADHD — Disruptive problem child who cannot concentrate or stay focused.  A right brain oriented (more often male) bored to the core with the left brain training in the education system.  Needs right brain stimuli and acceptance of the difference.  She or he often has spiritual sensations and intelligence beyond the imagination.  If allowed to develop naturally in any creative realm we will witness this child later change the world with their amazing creative brains.  The greatest inventors and genius ones can be labeled as ADD or ADHD.  Albert Einstein had early childhood learning and behavior problems in school but his mother never told him about the nasty report cards about how he was a dummy in the eyes of the school.  Good thing, right?

Rescue and Recovery — If a child is unhappy in his or her learning environment find one that works.  I understand not all parents can afford special education for their amazing child but if you create some questions with right brain imagination the left brain will find a way.  Be willing to see there is a problem underneath the child’s acting out behavior.  Understand children may only be negatively reacting to an intolerable learning environment.  It is important to believe your own eyes when it comes to your child.  If they didn’t act up at home then it is coming from someplace else.

Borderline Personality Disorder — The list of ‘symptoms’ in the DSM for this label is far removed from truth.  They say she is a trouble maker, instigator, and drama queen.  She is known for making up stories about good people and are unbelievable with their accusations.  Freud diagnosed sexually abused girls who acted out as having fantasies about their fathers, living in an alternate reality.  Can you imagine being molested and then told you are making it up?  By respected science?  Imagine being shamed to tears in a court full of disbeliever’s with suspicious ‘allegations’ of sexual abuse.  Ignorance continues with dismissive thoughts as women continue to live without validation of horrific experiences while being re-victimized in the circuits (circus?) of the justice system.

This unlikable ‘borderline’ creature is a truth teller.  She likely speaks up poorly because she has no idea how to articulate her needs since her needs don’t matter to anyone, anyway.  In this woman’s story she is rarely validated with her thinking — and this can lead to feelings of internal rage.  Like a volcano about to erupt the emotional pain is felt deeply.  Listen, people do not like the truth.  Truth can be too uncomfortable to even glance at, and so it is easier to sacrifice the life of a truthfully outspoken woman who already feels powerless than it is to investigate the truth she is trying to educate the world with eyes, ears and feelings wide open.

Keep in mind I do believe there is ‘real’ Borderline (Borderline Psychopath) people who have little or no feelings of fear, guilt, shame.  I am suggesting professional opinions by mental health humans are fantasies made up to make the person feel she is okay being nuts because others are crazy just like her; see the list of symptoms?  That’s the proof they have when they want someone to believe they are unstable people.  The problem is you can show a list of anything to anyone and they will find a place of belonging if it reaches a need of the patient to be heard in some way.  Any way.

Rescue and Recovery — She is on her own.  People are unwilling to believe in the imagination of a BPD and there is no help in the current system other than drugs, but odds are she will refuse to take them and go on suffering without love or acceptance for herself.  If you have been reduced this kind of judgemental diagnosis you must take back your own control.  Find a way to love every part of you, even the difficult parts you’ve been trained to hate too.  Practice speaking up and teaching people new ways to treat you.  If you cannot find a way on your own reach out for help to build your confidence and self-esteem.   An entirely new way to look at yourself is required because somehow mental conditioning growing up taught you self-doubt all the way to self-hatred like everyone else who does not like your ‘truth.’ BPD must learn to set boundaries about how they are viewed and treated by others.

Postpartum Depression — A mental condition only given to women who gave birth and yet adoptive mothers suffer with this so-called mental illness as well.  Once again chemistry imbalance is blamed.  Real cause is extreme mental exhaustion and depletion of the senses with increased life responsibilities.  A new 24 hour clock to live by alone can make one sick.  Mother often has to concern herself about work and finances as well as carry the weight of managing the baby, house, and everyone else’s feelings but her own.  Unconscious doesn’t like self-neglect yet the well-trained conscious mind says she is not enough if she complains.  Having to be super-human leads to collapse eventually.

Rescue and Recovery — Throw away the idea you must be all and do all at your own expense. Demand help and don’t feel guilt or shame while doing so.  It takes two to bring a child into the world, not just one.  As long as a woman believes she must keep up with impossible demands she will, until she cracks completely in some cases.  Self care is needed if no one else seems to.  Don’t be a victim, be in charge!

PreMenstrual Syndrome (PMS) — Mental disease caused by cramping and discomfort during monthly cycle of a woman.  Too often something is very wrong in the organs of female anatomy and pain goes undiagnosed due to ignorance and lack of understanding and research.  In addition to medical doctors unable to find a suitable solution for this very real problem.  Employers are allowed to show no mercy or tolerance for the different biological make-up of female staff and provide nothing to assist in the need for some accommodation.  Women have been conditioned to not speak of their ‘problem’ and is often shamed into silence for her ‘difference to men’ and can feel irritable because unconscious Intuit (one’s truth) will respond negatively to the thought she deserves to live in shame and pain.

Rescue and recovery — The shaming of physiological differences to men needs to be replaced with empathy (most of the rule makers are males who would never be able understand the unique needs of women – and so need to be educated).  If no one else cares about your pain, YOU must care and take care of yourself in whatever way makes you most comfortable and happy.  Use the right brain to imagine ideas for making yourself feel better during this time, and the left brain will find a way to make it happen for you.  Two brains work together like magic when you believe in both of them!

Addiction — Inability to live sober in a world that seems upside down.  At first some comfort is felt in the indulgence of drugs or alcohol, but after a while that right brain is going to reject that solution and create all sorts of added problems to the life.

Rescue and Recovery — First, get rid of any notion you are powerless.  Find a way to believe in yourself and ability to control anything.  Fill your imagination with thoughts of strength and empowerment.  Addiction is self suicide, start recovery by figuring out why your life doesn’t seem to matter to you.  There is a ‘learned’ reason.

The Intuit doesn’t like slavery.  We are born free to survive, and thrive.  However the best part of us (right brain imagination) goes unconsciously hay-wire when neglected and made to feel needy and dependent on others for survival.  Dependency for happiness is simply not healthy for anyone.

I write this article to beg you to reconsider what might be really going on in society that is creating so much suffering and pain for women and children, and many men.  Can we reframe this whole ‘women are crazy thing’ just for giggles and see if we can’t come up with a better solution to mental illness?  How about we change everything right here and now instead of packing it in with acceptance of emotional torture and drugs?

Hypnosis and hypnotherapy are an amazing therapy for self-actualization.  It helps one open the eyes to what the problem is, and how to find solutions to obtain happiness, peace of mind, and a comfortable sense of being.  Control becomes possible when we believe in it for ourselves.

I have a feeling mental illness will be replaced with new exciting possibilities for all of us if we dare to allow all people the right to think the way they are born to think, not the way we want them to be for the better lives of everyone else.

Right brain can create a good or bad life.  In spite of what we have been told about the imagination, why not deliberately go into the mind’s eye and use it to make yourself well again?  “Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve.” Said respected philosopher and writer,  Napoleon Hill.

Find a creative outlet you enjoy.  Colour with crayons, engage a craft you wouldn’t mind spending hours doing, learn a new art that fascinates you, listen to or play music, read or write.  Intuit feels happy and peaceful while creating so if you are fortunate enough to work in a right brain occupation your life will be much happier.

Remember when you were a small child you use to play ‘pretend’ with the imagination, before that got all cancelled in school norms — why not go back and play pretend about retraining your own mental thinking.  Imagine you are amazing for a change.  Fake you matter if you think you don’t.  Your unconscious and body will respond with love!

Believe in your own eyes, ears, and feelings.  You wouldn’t eat something that smelled or tasted bad because the senses are connected to the unconscious part that will wake up in the event of a bad food.  Learn to trust all of your own good senses!  Just because a story makes sense (fantasies of someone else are only true if you buy into that line of thought) does not make it your truth.  Some people are trained very well to not say a word about their own truth to protect someone else.  Others know how to manipulate the sensitive’s senses for their own selfish needs and gratification.  They use emotional manipulation of shaming, fear, guilt, and even anger to get what they want from a person who feels weak or vulnerable.

Stop Waiting and Start Creating

Hopelessness is bound to set in when we deny our own value and existence.  Isn’t it time to wonder why so many mental cases are ending up sicker than ever with the current mental health treatment of people?  Perhaps women need to put their intuition and imaginations to work on how to educate and articulate what we know, but do not get to say out loud?  Maybe some men who understand their own right brain intelligence will feel safer if they too are allowed to be whom they are innately.

When the left and right brain are allowed to work together as equal partners miracles happen.  When only one side of the brain is developed the sense of mental imbalance is the result.  We are literally working with half a brain.

*Mental illness can be a serious condition that is passed onto children as they watch, listen and learn how to cope from parents.  Please find a way to rescue and recovery if you have a little bit of hope left in you.  At the end of the day, only you really can change anything and it takes a belief there is better waiting as soon as you ask for more.

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Cherylann Thomas, B.Sc.Crim.,CH,t is a Registered Clinical Hypnotherapist in the Okanagan Valley specializing in hypnosis for mental health, addictions, and spiritual identity.  She has lived an amazing life of ups and downs beyond normal.  This practitioner herself was raised in an abusive home taking on abusive self-thinking, and later experienced the extreme life trauma of losing her only beloved son to a car accident.  Time and time again Cherylann found a way to rise above adversity and uses herself as a positive example of recovery using the wonders of right brain love, honour and development.

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What if Your Wounds Lead You To Your Purpose?

What if there really is a good reason for our emotionally painful life experiences? What if it was to prepare us for our journey to come?

At the cell level of my being I understand pain, fear (terror), resentment, loneliness and even envy of what others had and I did not. I use to think I was one of the most unfortunate souls to walk the earth, the mother of a child who died. While I once said giving birth to a baby was painful; I soon learned I would experience even harsher torture when I had to give Trevor back 25 years later.

When I did begin to investigate to find out why I couldn’t seem to find any emotional peace in my life I realized that the image of myself was all wrong for me. I didn’t belong there. I was better than that. I didn’t fit in the not so merry place of victimland where “Oh Woes Me” could be heard for miles. After a while I never really felt comfortable in that role and I somehow sensed there had to be more for me.  I recalled when I was a 16 year old mess my stepmother looked in my eyes, deeply, and said, “Cheryl, you are special.  Don’t ever forget that.”   I hung onto those words because I needed them for a lifeline from time to time, and they are the words I clung to when I decided to throw caution to the wind and find my own truth.

It was hard because I have a whole shitload of trauma and drama most people would never be able to lift out of. If you knew my complete story (and some of you reading do); you would all understand if I just packed up my bags and lived in self pain for the rest of my miserable life. YOU would be compassionate and understand, but I somehow felt there was better for me.

I had to get tough with myself. No more lying inside to attempt to make myself OR SOMEONE ELSE feel better. That didn’t work. No more lying and secrets, shame and stuffing. Time to get real. When I finally did GET IT I was pleasantly surprised to find my own Truth is actually very special. Who I am. What I am. And where I am going all became very clear to me. I know now I’ll never look back.

My new attitude doesn’t mean I don’t still hurt myself from time to time with my own human impulses.  And I can get just as reactive as the next guy (sometimes that show really looks ridiculous), but today I look at it like I make mistakes, but I am no longer ‘a’ mistake.  And I ignore set backs.

Sometimes the worst of the worst has to happen to us before we are ready to use available tools (and there are options for everyone when we look) to recover from trauma.

I learned I had to stop being a baby and to realize I am not the only suffering soul. There are people out there far worse off than me and when I open my eyes and see how much I really do have I immediately have emotional peace.

I should be more compassionate at times when I see the whining and crying over everyday minute solvable things; I realize it irritates me only because I was there too and perhaps I’m mad at myself for not understanding sooner.  Petty gossip to reduce your friend just about drives me around the bend. We don’t take responsibility anymore. Everything is everyone else’s fault or we are a victim of circumstances. What if you are suffering because you like to? Perhaps this is what your psyche is use to and so you keep doing it?

I suggest we are better than that, under the clutter. You (yes you!) are an amazing person with a potential for an amazing mission. Lift up out of the bowels of emotional despair and find your hero within.  When this is achieved I suspect you too will find your wounds actually do lead you to your exciting life purpose.  The walls will all come down and you’ll not only think outside of your old box, you’ll see there is no box at all!

That’s my message, that’s all. I don’t want to pick on anyone feeling down and out.  It would hurt me if I knew my message hurt someone who is feeling powerless right now. My intention for writing today holds two thoughts: 1. I like to share to inspire people up, and 2. I like to vent (sound out my passion) this way. I find it therapeutic. 🙂  If this did not suit your story that is fine too. ❤

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Cherylann Thomas, B.Sc.Crim, CH,t is a seasoned Clinical Hypnotherapist practitioner working out of Wesk Kelowna, BC Canada. She specializes in mental illness resolution including depression, anxiety, mood disorders, grief, loss, sexual abuse, childhood trauma.  Cherylann is trained using the latest therapeutic hypnotic techniques including suggestion, regression, PLRegression, Parts and Cords therapies for habits, loss and abandonment.

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I Put My Eyes Inside of Myself and Guess What I Found?

If you are open, or ready, you will hear me today 🙂  This is big.  And kinda deep.  Be forewarned you may find your own life’s question here today!

The Truth to everything I needed to know about myself was inside of me all along.  I just didn’t dare look.  Based on the harshness of my upbringing, and cruel tapes I continued to play regarding my horrible self (in my mind) how could I comfortably look inside of me without risking finding I am the devil incarnate or something worse?

After I closed my eyes, plugged my nose, and jumped in to myself, instead of finding Ted Bundy’s sister, I found a vision of beauty.  I found my core intentions are usually about a pure as they could get!  I see flaws, I see many mistakes, and when I put it into proportion to my story, I feel instant forgiveness!   Today when I look at myself I see more awesomeness than the bad stuff!  What I thought would be the most painful thing to do, ended up being the easiest ride I’ve had my entire life!  Easy, and addicting and healthy!

Sometimes investigating our feelings and behaviors is the hardest thing to do.  Our disturbance makes us feel moody, off balance, uncertain.  Soon enough the negative (dark) emotions overtake the good light and energy from our always decaying bodies.  They weigh heavy on our heart, spirit, soul, that we can hardly function sometimes.  Feelings can become a physical sickness if the root of the disturbance is never brought to light. It can be terminal by accident, homicide or suicide, or death by utter heartbreak.

Anger.  Fear.  Worry.  Guilt.  Shame.  Jealousy.  Envy.  Self loathing. Insecurity.  These are our enemies.  This is stress and anxiety right there.  These are our demons that have to be conquered to feel well emotionally.  And what do we do?  We keep feeding them.  We allow them to reside inside of ourselves for long periods of time.  The energy suckers just keep getting bigger and bigger creating havoc and conflict and covering up our actual strong, beautiful, amazing selves.

Some people think our emotions are impossible to be rid of because they are a part of our being, our core.  And some say I am asking too much.   The nay-sayers swear emotions are created by something not in their control.  Serotonin or a person did it too us.  Not so grasshopper, not so.  If you can imagine the worst, the way you are, you can imagine the best!  You have always had full control but no one ever told you that.  They said you were sick, or a hopeless sinner.  They judged you with their vivid imagination.  And you allowed your imagination to see the same bullshit someone else told you was wrong.  Your thinking, feelings, emotions…all learned imaginary beliefs, or made up by yourself.

Our God-given purity is so encased in negative and disruptive emotions we hardly know our true selves anymore.  We begin to act out.  Alcohol, pot, and anti-depressant abuse takes over until our brains are so nicely flat-lined, we just don’t care anymore.  We become apathetic to our living situations. Our hell.  We get use to it.  It becomes as real as anything solid to us.  My message is that we are held back only by our limited belief systems.  Me…you…all of us are in this together.  Most of us have indulged in the feel-good quick fix, am I lying?

If we learned how to deal with our troubling emotions, and allowed ourselves to be completely honest, we would all be walking around free with a heart full of passion and a head full of gratitude instead of all of this stress and anxiety.

I want you to do something (please).  Take your most troublesome emotion.   Name one.  Look closely at what it is, and what it means.  Do you own it or is it a lie you have accepted into yourself?  For example, if you are walking around with a heavy heart of guilt, or shame, put it up to the light of day and take a good hard look at it.  Do you own that?  Do you deserve a lifetime of self-abuse because you are to be ashamed of yourself, or guilty for some infraction during your life?  Did you do it deliberately?  Is it something you can change?  Was your intention to harm some one or some thing?  If not, what, exactly, are you holding onto the shame or guilt for???

Are you filled with fear and anxiety?  What is going on there I wonder?!  Look inside, you know it, you remember everything.  Once you find the Truth in the emotion your symptoms will diminish instantly because you will know exactly what to do to ‘solve’ the problem, or you may there is nothing to do about it at all.  Inside of your true core self you will find you are innocent, safe, and in control of everything, and the renewed power feels GREAT!

When you finally allow the truth to surface in the face of your feelings, you will be AMAZED at how beautiful, and wonderful, the Truth really is!  You were never suppose to give up!  The subject is even crazy to consider, isn’t it?  If you are so foreign to the rest of us humans and you care to punish yourself forever that is another matter.  Then you have to go inside and find out why you beat yourself so harshly for your human frailties.  Sure, figure out what it is you need to change about yourself.  Admit it.  Own it.  And now stop it.  Done.  It really is that simple, and you really do have that much control over yourself.  Have you given yourself life for this infraction?  Is that appropriate?   We are but a sum of learned thinking and feeling.  We are better than whatever that looks and feels like.

Through the ages we have been brainwashed by either pharmaceutical commercials or religious organizations to believe we have no control over our emotional or physical well being.  That God or drugs will save us, nothing else.   I am saying we are trained, generation before generation since the beginning of time that we are NOT to depend on our own good common sense!  We are sinners!  We are Sick!  Only GOD or Effexor will bring you back to life, depending on your belief system.   The trouble is, these are lies for most of the population in emotional trouble!   Our very own girl (or boy) inside is pure, healthy, fit, powerful, confident, and in control of everything.   Not only that, we are really filled with love, compassion and JOY!  In every generation before us higher powers have tried (and really succeeded didn’t they?) to take our gift of free will (control over selves) away in the name of power, control, money.  W to believe in something other than ourselves and that is the worst mistake a spirit can make…believing it!

The more lies, secrets, shame we stuff, the more we lose of that better part of ourselves.   The more we lose our light.

Let’s look at another emotion you may be harboring, driving yourself crazy with.  Anger.  I was once told by a mentor of mine, years ago, that any anger I hang onto, is anger at myself and myself alone.  I said that makes no sense.  Someone did me wrong, robbed me, and I can be angry, right?  She said, “Right.”  For a minute.  Then you deal with it, talk about it, get it out in the open – or end something you have no control over.  Anything after that is you, and you need to see what you are so mad at yourself for.  Chances are it will be something like you picked him, or stayed too long, or didn’t speak up, or could have moved and didn’t…you get my meaning.  All emotions belong solely to the beholder.  Think about the last time you were angry for a long period of time at someone, or some situation.  It stuck to you like a stickly black toxic poison and you allowed it to stay a while.  I’ll tell you why.  You did something wrong and were mad at yourself.  Done.  Owning your stuff is the key to ending the free rent for enemy feelings.  The next thing to do is forgive yourself and decide to do it even better next time.  Learn, let go, live.  We are born to make mistakes, we are not A mistake!

But you see here is the problem:  Many of us were raised in situations that created negative tapes in our heads.  We learned to play these tapes, over and over and over in our own little vulnerable minds, beating the living life out of ourselves, because of these messages we learned to think, “I am stupid.”  “I am ugly.”  “I am too ____.”  or my favorite of all, “I am _____,”.  Name your judgment because that is all it is…a learned judgment.  They are not facts.  They have no power because they are not real.  They are the figment of the imagination, typically brought on by an experience, an outside judgment, or a series of experiences that made our minds add one and one and come up with something not true.  And then we feed that to oblivion sometimes.

Today is a good day to take a peek at what is really going on inside.  Pull out any emotion you choose, and decide you are done feeling it.  Look at it carefully, examine all sides.  If it is yours, do something about it.  If it is not yours, or if it is not a proven fact, shift your imagination to something else.  Something better for yourself.  It all starts with a new thought, the seed of everything.

Wishing everyone reading this love, peace and light.

Cherylann Thomas

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Are You Driving Yourself Insane?

Warning: This article is graphic and may have triggers for some.

The most seriously mentally ill win the award for the best vivid imaginations.  They can conjure up all sorts of thoughts and ideas in their heads that are absolute nonsense, B.S. not proven, not even validated a little bit.  And yet we all, at one time or another, allow self-defeating thoughts to enter our consciousness, roll around and around as if it is the Truth, making it the Truth with added imaginary thoughts to confirm our righteousness in our lying positions.  There are degrees of mental illness, depending on the severity of the lies we try to hold onto.

This is personal for me.  When my only child, Trevor, died at the young age of 25, my imagination almost drove me to the brink of madness, if it didn’t once or twice (or too many times to count) in the years that followed his accident.  Where was he?  Did he go to hell?  He wasn’t a Christian and I know he was quite anti-religion period.  So, what does this mean for his future in death?  You can imagine my horror.  A mother is a mother unto eternity and she will always have the intuitive need to protect her young, even in death.

How can I go on knowing, based on all of my biblical and religious training, that Trevor was burning in hell!?  His car accident involved fire; lots of fire, 80% of his body was burned — what did I allow that little smidget of information about the accident do to my imagination?  You can only guess.  Finally, I went so far down the imaginary road of hell I actually believed for a while that I killed my son through my woeful anti-motherly neglect.

I allowed myself to remember every single parental infraction – that time I went off the deep end on him – and that look on his face, like he was slapped or something, was to haunt me forever now.  I worked too hard, went to school at night.  Belonged to every political and community organization that would have me.  I wasn’t there for Trevor.  He grew up to be killed over my early neglect.  More fantastical thoughts came and I let them buggers have a seat and get comfortable in the confines of my vulnerable mind too.  It was a party, complete with lots and lots of booze and pills to numb the fantasy when it got too much.

Soon, my imagination gave way to a complete emotional breakdown.  There was no where else to go.  Insanity, or death. That was it for me.  I was weaning off of anti-depressant, anti-anxiety, and even anti-psychotic drugs because I knew by then my life was a wasteland and not moving forward with them.  I didn’t want to feel drugged anymore.

In avoiding pain, I accumulated more of it.

Suddenly, clear thinking now, everything I had stuffed for almost five years came at me like a tidal wave.  My son was dead all over again.  My marriage ended in my oblivion, We lost access to our grandson.  We gained custody of our granddaughter. I was going bankrupt. Life was an utter mess and I was left to deal with it, chemical free.  The emotional pain was too much to bear, friends. And I made the decision to end it.  I could not tolerate the mental torture going on in my mind one more minute.  My thoughts literally drove me to insanity.

I chose death.

That fateful night I swerved hard-right onto a mountain wall speeding at 110 kmph (about 75 mph I think).  There was nothing but my car embedded into the mountain and me, as I was removed by emergency crews.  I was in shock, trying to comprehend a completely totaled car, and not a mark on my body or ache to my bones.  I didn’t tell the emergency crew who showed up in complete disbelief that I was alive, that I saw an angel in my steering wheel at the moment of impact.  The angelic face was as clear as the wall that I smashed into.

Everything made sense to me in that split second, that moment of impact.  I knew my time was not up.  No one goes until it is their time, and this was not it for me.

I suddenly had a mission.

I didn’t even stay in the hospital for much of a psychiatric evaluation (3 days mandatory I think).  I wanted to get home and get to work.  I had to completely destroy those drugs and get help.  I had to be honest with someone.  I killed my son and I needed to be punished out right, or just let me go. (Don’t ask, this is the stuff that was in my head.)  I knew I was at the bottom and there was no where else to go except up.  I said these very words to myself, “If I have to live, I insist on living in peace!”

I decided to start with hypnotherapy because I knew it was a stress relieving therapy, if nothing else, and I was filled to the rim with stress.  Little did I know that I would find myself in those 14 sessions.  I learned who I was, and more importantly, what I was doing to myself. The abuse I managed to give and take (from myself) was more than most people could bear.  I was allowing my imagination to be the Truth, when it was full of lies, judgments, misconceptions, ignorance, and being naive to the power of my own ability to drive myself insane.

My imagination got me into this mess, it also got me out!

So what is the Truth that set me free?  In the safety of hypnosis my therapist had me imagine Trevor was standing in front of me.  What would he say to me, regarding his upbringing?  Is it possible he would hug me? She had me imagine the words Trevor would speak, because I knew him the best, she said.   I sat and listened, …and the words he would have said came to me.  Wonderful love and support and compassion filled my head.  I was given my freedom back.  Imagining the Truth, the real Truth, brought me home.  I allowed my imagination to imprison me, punish me, and almost execute me.  Now I was using my imagination to understand the Truth.

In fact, my love for Trevor is the Truth.  The only truth that matters at all.  And my knowledge of his love for me is the same Truth.  There is no way my son would reject me, so I allowed myself to stop imagining he would.  My own worst case situation was a lying fantasy all along.

And hell finally left me alone.  Feelings of fear, worry, guilt, shame, anger, resentment, all receded, and were replaced with forgiveness, compassion and love.  Now, to me, only love is real.  Everything else is my enemy.  I seek out the Truth in all of my emotions, and every time, every single time, I win again.

We use our imaginations to scare ourselves to insanity, or death.  Now search for your Truth just by using your imagination to find it.  Believe in yourself.  Your good self.  Your real self.  Stop feeding the lies, and encourage the Truth in your own mind; it is what will not only allow you to survive, but thrive.

“That which can be destroyed by Truth, should be.” P.C. Hodge.

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Who is Your REAL Enemy?

When referring to enemies we often think they are the people who work against us, in social or employment situations perhaps. Enemies can be dangerous beings, creating problems for us in our communities, or work; and even family situations.  We don’t need or want enemies in our circles because to allow enemy-folk to linger around we can soon begin to experience self-doubt, confusion,  loss of energy, until finally there is loss of reputation in some cases.

But who is your real enemy?  

Dare to think of your enemies differently.  I suggest all of your enemies live within yourself.  Yep.  I said that. People seem to be completely unaware of how much stress weighs on our minds and bodies.  Stress comes from the enemy, and I’ll get to just what that is in a minute.  When we allow the enemy to reside inside of ourselves for any length of time without doing anything about it, even allowing it to grow…like a bad weed, we experience the exact same torturous sensations as if someone else had done damage to us.

The enemy are: Worry, Fear, Anger, Resentment, Shame, Guilt, Jealousy, Envy, Self-loathing, Rage.

Never under-estimate these enemies possibly residing in you!  The dark black energies can be absolutely powerful, torturing your mind with racing thoughts, self-delusions, constant tension.  Sometimes the extremes of these emotions lead people into serious depression and anxiety, requiring medication to try to dull some of the pain; sometimes worse, they choose suicide.  Sometimes the EMOTIONAL enemies can turn into an actual physical pain throughout the body, due to all of that stress being carried around.  Some lash out at others, all the way to murder.

People’s emotions create a lot of drama and trauma in this world so I beg to say they are important to deal with.

Whether you tend to beat on yourself, or lash out at others, the result is exactly the same.  Weakness, low self-esteem, extremely sensitive, unfocused thoughts, foggy brain and I could go on with the symptoms of ‘not dealing with feelings.’ If we don’t understand and deal with our own alarming feelings then we tend to push them away…down…down onto our precious subconscious mind who wants us healthy, happy, and free!

Sometimes the feelings get pushed down so much drugs (legal and street) or alcohol is needed to relieve the emotional pain. And yet the pain persists, eventually.

All the while our unconscious power-mind keeps attempting to get through to your conscious, critical mind.  The conscious mind is not who you are.  It is what you have learned.  This is what any other situation would call brain-washing.  We are conceived with the unconscious mind…providing us instinct and all we need at that birthing time…and would follow us to our death and crossing over.  This part of our new us feel our mothers first in the womb.

Then our conscious mind was born…learning how to be…Was your mom anxious?  Depressed?  Did she fly off in a rage every now and then?  What enemy was your mother struggling with?  Chances are you have invited the same bugger to live inside of you!  Perhaps you invited the stranger in after a serious life trauma, a loss, a death.  Were you raised to think you were a little more entitled than anyone else?  You may suffer with the enemy of jealousy, envy, and rage.  Maybe your family was poor, and stressed, and had no coping skills themselves, so allowed the enemies of all kinds to rage on in the circle.

What would happen if you agreed the enemy prevents you from THRIVING?  Would you be more willing to unload it?  Fix it?  Accept it?

The really interesting thing about these enemies is that we do not need them to survive!  Worried about your mortgage?  How about your children doing poorly in school?  Is your job at risk?  Think about this for a moment…you do not need the worry in these (or any) situation!  The worry is going to change nothing.   You can listen and respect the worry for what it is, but you don’t need to pack your bags and live in the worry to exist!  Let the worry go and get to work at what has to be tended to instead!

Sometimes the best looking families, the ones with all of the houses and cars and boats and vacations and 2.5 children and a little designer dog hold the darkest secrets of them all.  They learn how to put that shiny smile on for all of the world to see and envy, only to find inside is a hideous secret no one dares talk about.  You can bet mom is pill popping to deal and dad is indulging in a little too much whiskey in such a mess.  The children are acting out by indulging in risky behaviors…you know the families.  Sometimes the most beautiful looking family has the ugliest secrets.

I’ve said before and I’ll probably say it a lot, we have at least two notable minds, our conscious mind, and our unconscious mind.  Our unconscious mind is the holder of our first seed, the holder of all of our truths, whether we want to face them or not, and the part of ourselves that will allow you to soar…if you pay attention.  The unconscious mind keeps us safe while we are driving in a daydream (trance).  She or he will knock loudly on your conscious door if there is danger ahead…but we have to pay attention to it or risk regretting doing something.

Our unconscious mind does not like being stuffed upon, or drugged.  She loves to be listened to, and strengthens us every time we practice doing this and acting on what it is we must do, in spite of how hard it is. It’s our conscious mind, the one we think with right now that gets us in trouble every time. The one that is first critical and judgmental, ask questions later.  This is the mind that has been trained since our birth on how to think and feel…by our guardians.  Unless you have had a very strong, independent unconscious mind keeping your conscious mind in good moral and healthy check, we are at risk for mental illness when we let the enemy control our conscious mind.

Sometimes the energies of fear or anger or shame get so overwhelming, we don’t know where to begin to actually deal with something.

Listen to your enemies No enemy can do as much damage to your mental well-being more than your own emotions out of check. 

To find your advanced, beautiful, strong, and powerful self, I suggest you start by paying attention to your feelings.  As soon as an emotion comes over you, ask yourself what this is…what is it about?  Get real with it.  If your normal response is to push down unpleasant things, you are at extreme risk of mental illness problems down the road.  Of course some things can be let go, and we never feel it or let it disturb us again.  I’m not talking about those feelings, I’m talking about the chronic ones.  The one’s that keep you down and away from peace of mind and happiness.

I’ve said before, we need to feel it, to heal it.  Once you find that warrior courage to look inside and find what it is holding you back, and honestly take care of the matter once and for all, the breathtaking emotion of freedom will literally knock you off your feet.  I promise.

 

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