Introducing a Better Way to Imagine…

As I awaken my innate senses I am concerned about the state of mind of the people.  I think they are insane.  Or slaves.

Evidence is flowing in that right brain oppression has created a dark place for much of the population who live in the depression of darkness.  Introducing a sure way to understand for yourself how well you are seeing things.  Sleeping minds can feel lethargic, heavy, unable to see the flowers, or smell the coffee.  Human senses are manipulated negatively by trauma, emotional reaction, and chemicals.  Unsuspecting good people may experience very real issues with their living senses for survival if denied the opportunity of Free Will.

The focus on left brain intelligence where memory, numbers and logic exists to come to a proven scientific conclusion, makes mental pygmies of the people.  We seem to have succumbed to the status quo, against the right brain oriented spirit.  Up to 80% of the population could be right brain hemisphere beings who find it just as difficult to live in a left brain world, as the left handed feel using the right hand or the right hand using the left.  It doesn’t feel good for a reason – it’s not the way they work.  When we finally allow the left handed to use the left hand his work is just as good as any right handed person.  Am I wrong?  Do I make sense to you?  Because this is just coming to me now and making perfect sense – all from my imagination guessing at things.

How depressed would the left-handed person be if they had to use their right hand – because someone else said so?  What kind of work do you think they would produce for you?  

Eventually, when working against the current we are going to get tired, sick and drown. 

Insomnia, sight (losing things right in front of you), hearing, tasting, smelling, hunger, sexual arousal, body temperature and blood pressure senses are affected, as well as many other senses needed for human survival like insight and common sense.  Symptoms will include mental, emotional and spiritual disconnection, low energy and sensations of mental imbalance.  Physically the body can experience IBS, Fibromyalgia, Chronic Fatigue, Migraine Headaches, Insomnia, skin disorders, and worse.  Everything coming from unconscious mind affects the human body experience if the brain is not nurtured, exercised, developed.

Okay, all of that boring negative news we need to know aside, let’s do some brain exploring just for giggles because I know you probably don’t sense a lot of fun every day living in a ‘inside the lines’ world:  

First, give yourself a break. Go get a cookie or a treat of some kind no one else would approve of, and just sit down in a quiet dark place, the bathroom if necessary.  Decide it’s okay to go back in time when you use to play pretend, imaginary games.  At the very least, it can’t hurt.

Allow permission to unwind and relax for three hours or three minutes – the imagination can work at the speed of light, and there are no rules.

Close your eyes and begin to focus on your breathing. Nice regular normal breathing, the same kind you do all day. You don’t want to force anything. It’s all about gentle. Then let yourself sink down into a calm place of comfort. You know how to completely relax, if not, guess or come up with an idea you remember from before. Just go limp.
Brain Check Up:  It’s almost like going in and seeing an x-ray of the right brain hemisphere with state of the art imagination:
Using the mind’s eye pretend you are in a garden. A peaceful heavenly place with a pond, a waterfall, and colour. Or some other place you can come up with better. Focus on light, brightness, and images. If you find it difficult to focus and see things, imagine you are looking into a television, or a theatre, or have mind’s eye magnifying glasses on, just picture a place that pleases you to no end, in your head.
People who can see this picture using the mind’s eye with full living colour are awakened to their journey and you can bet they are highly intuitive and probably developed healers, inventors, artists, genius of some creative kind. Sadly, in most cases right brain neglect and abuse of the imagination will darken this part of the mental mind. Medication, alcohol, drugs, food, abusive habits all create emotional numbness, which will close that garden up all the way to blackness if not intervened by the beholder.
In my work I am finding the more seriously mentally sensitive (anxious to delusional) have the most difficult time seeing with closed eyes. They don’t know they live in the dark and so how would they think to figure a way out? Living in the dark imagination creates stress and results in mild to serious mental imbalance of mood energy.  It soon shows up in the body and creates dis-ease.
If you want (nothing happens without the desire) to wake up from negative (dark) thought and circumstance yet find it difficult to come up with your own mind’s eye visions consider seeing a guide to exercise that part of the mind: Find a Hypnotherapist or Hypnotist in your area who has the authority to work with depression, anxiety, or mental illness.  Ask about regression, parts, and NLP therapy to remove old mental conditioning.  Clients who reject the scientific explanation of depression will discover negative emotional reactions of fear, guilt, shame and anger get in the way of experiencing love, compassion, and joy.  Maybe this isn’t a sickness, but a spiritual emergency.  Time to wake up?   Good feeling sensations comes to all of us naturally but we tend to block our own senses when adapting to mental images someone else may have of our being.
I use to think I couldn’t work with anyone on anti-depressant medication because these brains might find it too difficult to bring our the imagination, but notice a good percentage are not doing a thing to the brain at all anyway, so it is doing no harm to the imagination. In other cases the drugged mind feels like it is living in purgatory, and the client eventually may not want to leave that state of comfort because it is better than the baggage of imagination, or they don’t know how to get out.  It scares some to even think they can be or feel any different.
People who can see picture perfect using the mind’s eye will full living colour are awakened to their journey and may just need some confidence, coping skills and mental self-protection.  They know when they are ready to live what they are supposed to be experiencing for happiness and joy, and not a moment before. Sometimes these sensitive souls have to go very dark before willing to come back up.
I believe now that the right brain (imagination, creativity, fantasy, emotions, ideas, and infinite wisdom with no logical sense) has been so grossly neglected for ages of time, that we hardly know the other half of the brain is there.  Too often the imagination exists to scare us, shame ourselves, or fantasize sexually.  I know many others are awakening with similar insights regarding the imagination’s power, talent and resources.  I hope people catch on soon so that the right brain population can begin to be actualized for all they are capable of for civilization.  It seems right now we are marginalizing people outside of the left brain box and that puts everyone at a reduced intelligence level of being.  Emotional intelligence is what is dehydrating and dying of malnourishment, the clues are  in the imagination and cannot be labeled without serious consequences to the growth of the mind.
Male and female right brain oriented people will love visualizing, pretending, coming up with self-help idea because it reminds them of something unconscious. I am confident some will connect with my words that maybe they could have been simply imagining in the dark without awareness.  A state of mind that is unhappy, frustrated and feeling powerless is a real clue the imagination is in the dark.  When the right brain is utilized talent and intelligence becomes unlimited because the imagination is infinite.
The clearer the mind’s eye picture the closer one is to self-actualization.  It will take some practice but any sensitive / defeated feeling folks who want change will find amazing results with the imagination.
Control your mind and come up with some ideas on how to make whatever you want to happen, happen using the imagination while visualizing, sensing, pretending.   Understand the wisest teacher lives within you.  Imagine, create, or guess your way back to your intended place in the universe.  Imagine self-love, esteem, peace and comfort instead of what you are used to imagining – and soon you too will experience the universal gifts you were born with.
Strive to sense your mind’s eye garden as clearly as intended and the miracles begin…
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Cherylann Thomas, B.Sc.Crim.,CH,t is a Clinical Hypnotherapist specializing in depression, anxiety, grief, loss and more, who advanced her professional career by braille until she woke up a few years ago. With a lifetime of circumstances of misfortune, personal trauma’s, drama’s, and loss after loss she was at her wit’s end with grief and despair. At 50 years of age she picked herself up once more, and recovered her own shattered life using the wonders of hypnotherapy – discovering her calling. Working part-time she is accepting clients by appointment. Check the website and Hypnotherapy / Counselling service price list.
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Another Broken Angel Grows New Wings! Hypnotherapy True Case That Will Even Get YOU Thinking!

This could be my story.  But it’s not.  I am but a conduit to an amazing transformation in a woman I want to share with you.  The background is very similar to my own so I feel blessed that I am able to witness yet another hypnotherapy miracle in action!  Be forewarned, you may cry while reading some of this story, but at the end you will feel tears of joy for this lady!

75 year old *Beth came to me utterly broken.  She was unable to speak almost, so very sick with emotional despair after the loss of her husband of some 55 years, preceding and following other piled up trauma that seemed impossible to work through and heal.  It has been five years since his death but her symptoms were not improving with time.

I prayed to our Universal God for help to work with this client who seemed so frail and lost sitting in my big chair at the studio. I secretly pray for help with all of my clients but this one I really wanted to see results as soon as possible.

Her story is alarming.  I do not believe in all of my years of counselling, life skills coaching, and as a Clinical Hypnotherapist to have heard such a horror story in a childhood background!  Sexual molestation from infancy to teenager.  Physical abuse.  Maternal neglect.  When Beth shared some of her stories with me I cried inside for that poor innocent child within this elderly, yet stunningly so youthful, lady before me.

Beth was somehow able to tuck all of her hurt and pain away for a life with her husband, whom she married when she was only 15 years old.  She never told *Doug that he actually saved her very life in that house of horrors she was raised in.  She didn’t tell him any of it until her parents were dead.  He would have killed them, that she knew.  She loved and appreciated her loving husband from saving her, loving her unconditionally, and protecting her for 55 years.  Together they made a home, raised children and grandchildren, and grew to depend on each other for everything.

She was 70 when he died.  Five years ago.  Her world collapsed although the death was expected.  During his dying journey, Doug, no matter how sick he was, got out of his bed and stood with his arms open to give his wife a hug in appreciation for her love and nursing.  He could barely lift his head up in the end.  But no matter what every night she would walk in to find him standing at the end of the bed wanting to hug his beloved wife.

And then he died.  My client was utterly and completely lost.  What can she do to survive the rest of her years when all of her life she had Doug to lean on!?  As it does in too many cases it really got deathly scary for my client.  Suicide ideation became a living nightmare. The trauma from childhood all rushed back as so often does in cases like this…compounded with her her lifeline, her husband, leaving her by dying…was just too much.  And just when you think this is all anyone could stand another worst case life event happened: Beth’s grandson (of twins) passed away suddenly at the tender age of 22!  Losses tend to pile up in enormous proportions for some souls.

I can’t remember how Beth found me, but she did.  Sitting in that chair the first day with her tears rolling down her face, stifling back sobs I so wanted to prove to her she was much more than all of the pain.   I told her my story.   Beth listened with wide eyes as I shared my own journey to self-actualization.  She saw me, sitting there, all fine and dressed and alive and thriving — and about to show her how to feel the same peace in her core, her heart.  I talked of my beloved deceased son,Trevor, who died a horrific death at the age of 25.  I told her the truth, that after his death people seemed to leave me in droves.  My own family.  I said I began to realize my family was never my real family…that I suffered emotional abuse and neglect from the time I was born and because it was all I knew I let it happen all the way up until my late 40s.  I shared how hypnotherapy connected me back to life.  Beth said she instantly believed I could help her and we began.

Beth first signed up for a series of hypnotherapy sessions designed to approach her unique challenges.  We had a lot of work to do so she committed herself to yet another series while her growth was emerging.  Ten sessions in all.   Before we began the progression to emotional wellness she made the decision that she wanted to, and was worth healing.  She had to be on board for emotional empowerment or none of this would work.  Beth’s ‘girl’ (unconscious strength, power, confidence and control) was ready to get down to business and she let her conscious critical mind take a rest as she explored and healed her incredibly wounded child within.

It took work to build a willingness to look at that what must be looked at.  But we got there.  Using various hypnosis therapies we got through the clutter, pain, extremely difficult emotional responses from life events.  Eventually, within a few weeks, Beth realized her own mission and internal power to make it happen.  After only a few hypnotic / therapy sessions she was amazed at what she was now feeling (energy, confidence, self-esteem, hope, faith, passion for life)!

She Prepares to Fly on her Own!

After Beth completed seven sessions she told me she was considering learning hypnosis and hypnotherapy to work with the elderly, especially those in hospice.   It seems all folks in pain and despair are offered by doctors these days are drugs to stunt feelings; to essentially just shut them up.  Nothing is done about the feelings and troubling emotions and anxiety that come with ageing.  The medical community just mask it all up and somehow think it will go away.  It doesn’t.  It never goes away if drugged.  Beth gets that now and wants to get out there to make a difference with her peers!

Beth has been intimately practicing hypnosis in my therapeutic chair, and the results are so empowering has now signed up to take a course in Vancouver to make herself a Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist!  Will you please think about this for a moment and understand the magnitude of the healing in this soul?  75 year old Beth’s goal is to either work or volunteer to in hospice or palliative care using hypnosis to relieve the emotional pain that goes with dying!   I can assure you of this fact, Beth, if ANYONE can and will make this happen for her clients.  She is alive.  She is thriving…and because of her upcoming career she is going to continue to spread her angel dust every where she goes.  I am blessed to know this amazing woman!

People of trauma do make the best healers.  If they can find a way to recover emotionally and mentally they seem to want to give back the same gift.  That is how I found my way to my humble hypnotherapy practice.  Every day I get to go and work with people just like Beth and facilitate them back the life they were intended to have!  How FREAKING LUCKY can I get!!!

I have tears in my eyes tonight as today was the last professional hypnotherapy session I’ll have with Beth.  She is strong.  She is confident.  She has the internal power to make anything happen that she wants.  We decided to keep in touch and it will be my pleasure to continue to know this amazing amazing woman, who came from a place so painful even I couldn’t imagine; and yet is able to find a new life passion at 75 years of age.  THAT’S A MIRACLE FOLKS!

We are all miracles when we decide to heal the past.  God bless anyone in pain as they read this.  If you cannot afford hypnotherapy please go to YouTube (not the entertainment kind, that never lasts and barely anyone can be hypnotized in that fashion) and learn about the process for yourself.  Dr. Brian Weiss has some really good inductions you can gain peace from.  You will be amazed at how strong your mind is when you learn how to get rid of the old clutter and teach yourself to love and have self compassion instead of fear, guilt, worry, resentment and the uglies that have no place destroying an otherwise good life and potential journey.

Thank you Beth, for touching me so deeply with your life experiences.  You amaze me…I am in awe.  Doug is looking down on you and doing his happy dance for your new chapter in this lifetime.  That is a fact!

  • Names and certain unimportant details have been altered to protect my client.

Note:  There are some countries/states/provinces who do not permit hypnotherapy to be used for depression and anxiety.  I guess those places want to support the local gazillion dollar pharmaceutical conglomerates.  Sorry for my cynicism in advance!  The good news is many licensed psychiatrists and psychologists have hypnotherapy certification as well, and are certainly allowed to work with trauma.  Please do some research.

Proven results!
“The greatest success in providing lasting change occurred with hypnosis (93% recovery after 6 sessions), followed by behaviour therapy (72% recovery after 22 sessions), and then psychotherapy (38% recovery after 600 sessions).” –Alfred A. Barrios, PhD in Psychotherapy Magazine, Volume 7, Number 1

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Cherylann Thomas, B.Sc.Crim.,CH,t is Registered with the International Medical and Dental Hypnotherapy Association.  She specializes in cases of depression, anxiety, fears & phobias, panic, grief, loss, abandonment, childhood trauma…as well as weight loss and other self-defeating habits you care to say goodbye to.  Call for more information by visiting her website at http://www.mindmiracleshypnotherapy.ca or like her on Facebook at http://www.facebook.com/mindmiracleshypnotherapy

I Woke Up One Day And Said...WTF- There

I Put My Eyes Inside of Myself and Guess What I Found?

If you are open, or ready, you will hear me today 🙂  This is big.  And kinda deep.  Be forewarned you may find your own life’s question here today!

The Truth to everything I needed to know about myself was inside of me all along.  I just didn’t dare look.  Based on the harshness of my upbringing, and cruel tapes I continued to play regarding my horrible self (in my mind) how could I comfortably look inside of me without risking finding I am the devil incarnate or something worse?

After I closed my eyes, plugged my nose, and jumped in to myself, instead of finding Ted Bundy’s sister, I found a vision of beauty.  I found my core intentions are usually about a pure as they could get!  I see flaws, I see many mistakes, and when I put it into proportion to my story, I feel instant forgiveness!   Today when I look at myself I see more awesomeness than the bad stuff!  What I thought would be the most painful thing to do, ended up being the easiest ride I’ve had my entire life!  Easy, and addicting and healthy!

Sometimes investigating our feelings and behaviors is the hardest thing to do.  Our disturbance makes us feel moody, off balance, uncertain.  Soon enough the negative (dark) emotions overtake the good light and energy from our always decaying bodies.  They weigh heavy on our heart, spirit, soul, that we can hardly function sometimes.  Feelings can become a physical sickness if the root of the disturbance is never brought to light. It can be terminal by accident, homicide or suicide, or death by utter heartbreak.

Anger.  Fear.  Worry.  Guilt.  Shame.  Jealousy.  Envy.  Self loathing. Insecurity.  These are our enemies.  This is stress and anxiety right there.  These are our demons that have to be conquered to feel well emotionally.  And what do we do?  We keep feeding them.  We allow them to reside inside of ourselves for long periods of time.  The energy suckers just keep getting bigger and bigger creating havoc and conflict and covering up our actual strong, beautiful, amazing selves.

Some people think our emotions are impossible to be rid of because they are a part of our being, our core.  And some say I am asking too much.   The nay-sayers swear emotions are created by something not in their control.  Serotonin or a person did it too us.  Not so grasshopper, not so.  If you can imagine the worst, the way you are, you can imagine the best!  You have always had full control but no one ever told you that.  They said you were sick, or a hopeless sinner.  They judged you with their vivid imagination.  And you allowed your imagination to see the same bullshit someone else told you was wrong.  Your thinking, feelings, emotions…all learned imaginary beliefs, or made up by yourself.

Our God-given purity is so encased in negative and disruptive emotions we hardly know our true selves anymore.  We begin to act out.  Alcohol, pot, and anti-depressant abuse takes over until our brains are so nicely flat-lined, we just don’t care anymore.  We become apathetic to our living situations. Our hell.  We get use to it.  It becomes as real as anything solid to us.  My message is that we are held back only by our limited belief systems.  Me…you…all of us are in this together.  Most of us have indulged in the feel-good quick fix, am I lying?

If we learned how to deal with our troubling emotions, and allowed ourselves to be completely honest, we would all be walking around free with a heart full of passion and a head full of gratitude instead of all of this stress and anxiety.

I want you to do something (please).  Take your most troublesome emotion.   Name one.  Look closely at what it is, and what it means.  Do you own it or is it a lie you have accepted into yourself?  For example, if you are walking around with a heavy heart of guilt, or shame, put it up to the light of day and take a good hard look at it.  Do you own that?  Do you deserve a lifetime of self-abuse because you are to be ashamed of yourself, or guilty for some infraction during your life?  Did you do it deliberately?  Is it something you can change?  Was your intention to harm some one or some thing?  If not, what, exactly, are you holding onto the shame or guilt for???

Are you filled with fear and anxiety?  What is going on there I wonder?!  Look inside, you know it, you remember everything.  Once you find the Truth in the emotion your symptoms will diminish instantly because you will know exactly what to do to ‘solve’ the problem, or you may there is nothing to do about it at all.  Inside of your true core self you will find you are innocent, safe, and in control of everything, and the renewed power feels GREAT!

When you finally allow the truth to surface in the face of your feelings, you will be AMAZED at how beautiful, and wonderful, the Truth really is!  You were never suppose to give up!  The subject is even crazy to consider, isn’t it?  If you are so foreign to the rest of us humans and you care to punish yourself forever that is another matter.  Then you have to go inside and find out why you beat yourself so harshly for your human frailties.  Sure, figure out what it is you need to change about yourself.  Admit it.  Own it.  And now stop it.  Done.  It really is that simple, and you really do have that much control over yourself.  Have you given yourself life for this infraction?  Is that appropriate?   We are but a sum of learned thinking and feeling.  We are better than whatever that looks and feels like.

Through the ages we have been brainwashed by either pharmaceutical commercials or religious organizations to believe we have no control over our emotional or physical well being.  That God or drugs will save us, nothing else.   I am saying we are trained, generation before generation since the beginning of time that we are NOT to depend on our own good common sense!  We are sinners!  We are Sick!  Only GOD or Effexor will bring you back to life, depending on your belief system.   The trouble is, these are lies for most of the population in emotional trouble!   Our very own girl (or boy) inside is pure, healthy, fit, powerful, confident, and in control of everything.   Not only that, we are really filled with love, compassion and JOY!  In every generation before us higher powers have tried (and really succeeded didn’t they?) to take our gift of free will (control over selves) away in the name of power, control, money.  W to believe in something other than ourselves and that is the worst mistake a spirit can make…believing it!

The more lies, secrets, shame we stuff, the more we lose of that better part of ourselves.   The more we lose our light.

Let’s look at another emotion you may be harboring, driving yourself crazy with.  Anger.  I was once told by a mentor of mine, years ago, that any anger I hang onto, is anger at myself and myself alone.  I said that makes no sense.  Someone did me wrong, robbed me, and I can be angry, right?  She said, “Right.”  For a minute.  Then you deal with it, talk about it, get it out in the open – or end something you have no control over.  Anything after that is you, and you need to see what you are so mad at yourself for.  Chances are it will be something like you picked him, or stayed too long, or didn’t speak up, or could have moved and didn’t…you get my meaning.  All emotions belong solely to the beholder.  Think about the last time you were angry for a long period of time at someone, or some situation.  It stuck to you like a stickly black toxic poison and you allowed it to stay a while.  I’ll tell you why.  You did something wrong and were mad at yourself.  Done.  Owning your stuff is the key to ending the free rent for enemy feelings.  The next thing to do is forgive yourself and decide to do it even better next time.  Learn, let go, live.  We are born to make mistakes, we are not A mistake!

But you see here is the problem:  Many of us were raised in situations that created negative tapes in our heads.  We learned to play these tapes, over and over and over in our own little vulnerable minds, beating the living life out of ourselves, because of these messages we learned to think, “I am stupid.”  “I am ugly.”  “I am too ____.”  or my favorite of all, “I am _____,”.  Name your judgment because that is all it is…a learned judgment.  They are not facts.  They have no power because they are not real.  They are the figment of the imagination, typically brought on by an experience, an outside judgment, or a series of experiences that made our minds add one and one and come up with something not true.  And then we feed that to oblivion sometimes.

Today is a good day to take a peek at what is really going on inside.  Pull out any emotion you choose, and decide you are done feeling it.  Look at it carefully, examine all sides.  If it is yours, do something about it.  If it is not yours, or if it is not a proven fact, shift your imagination to something else.  Something better for yourself.  It all starts with a new thought, the seed of everything.

Wishing everyone reading this love, peace and light.

Cherylann Thomas

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Do You Know a Psychopath?

Do You Know a Psychopath?

Does a Psychopath or Malignant Narcissist live in your world? Get out!

I saw a client today, it was her 5th and final session with me (she stopped smoking). She did so well at the stop smoking, I suggested she use her other paid sessions to work on something else.

So, she wanted to work on her anger. Two weeks ago she told me she saw a Medium, and this medium was so good, so on target…and she seemed to know her husband so well. Turns out, the medium told her that her husband has had two long affairs over the 37 years they had been married. She gave one of the ‘affairs’ a name, Ava (as in Gabor, I wondered right away?) Anyway, the other name was Sheila. Details galore! The years, what they did, where they did it…all of it. If this medium is for real, she needs to be on television and very rich.

I don’t doubt what my clients tell me, I have to go by what they say. So when she first told me about the medium a couple of weeks ago I really didn’t put a lot of stock into it, one way or another. What mattered was how my client was reacting to the news of her husband having multiple affairs and now, as they inch into their 70’s, she has this huge trauma going on.

These messages of sexual liaisons would never have been allowed in her mind if she didn’t already have a history with this subject. Delore’s husband did have an affair in the 80’s, she met the woman, she gave her husband a choice, he picked her. As far as she was concerned, problem over.

Until along came a spider…

So, it was easy to believe, especially with all of those details, right?

My client (Delores, not her real name of course) said she has gone through all of the bank statements, all of the cell records to 2002, everything…she almost hired a p.i. but since these ‘affairs’ have been over since 2010, what is the P.I. going to find that she can’t find?

She found nothing.

My client is tortured. I could see it on her face today that she was going to lose it if she didn’t get answers. She said she would stay with her husband of 37 years, she loves her life, the cabin up at the lake, the kids…all of it has been going so well! She does need to know for sure. She insists she won’t be lied to…that’s all he has to do, confess. She’ll stay with him, she resolved, if he would just come clean!

She asked her husband if it was true, did he have other affairs? He didn’t get angry, he just said no, never happened. .She pushed. No! He swore up and down she was wrong (interestingly, she didn’t tell him WHO told her).

Her unconscious mind knows why she didn’t tell him all of the details or who told her this, IT WAS A LIE. Our unconscious minds know the truth, always. If you are not speaking up, it may be a lie, or wrong, in some way.

As things were finally dawning on me, on what was going on, I saw the same look on this woman’s face that I had years before. The look of torture and despair over being told something about someone else and being completely duped.

Only, it was me who was cruelly gossiped about…I was a victim not unlike my friend when a psychopath in my world destroyed almost all of my relationships. I just have no idea of what was said about me, that caused people I loved to leave me.

I still don’t know, but today I don’t care. If people are so willing to believe the worst in another human being, without CHECKING IT OUT, then they also need some help and I can’t be bothered with followers like that anyway, anymore.

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As we talked today I decided to gather more details. You will not believe what she told me. Her friend, “Donna” is a lesbian. she is living with a woman named Brenda. Brenda is very controlling, she has told her lover, Donna, to put her ageing mother in a care home. Donna did not think this was right, and managed to say no to her lover in this regard.

Guess who the Medium was? Brenda. Brenda, who is lovers with Donna who is friends with my client, Delores. She sat her down at the kitchen table and told her she was a medium and could ‘see things’ (first of all, don’t mediums work with the dead?). She saw her husband having these affairs, she gave details, and every time Delores would say, noooo, that couldn’t have happened, he was home every night, every weekend! She tried not to believe…but Brenda is a crafty one all right…(aren’t they all)…she said it happened at work, at lunches, in the closets, that type of thing.

Well, let me just say she was so good my client 100% believed her and has been going through hell these last weeks, as she is giving up smoking, trying to find the evidence to put in front of her husband and say, “HERE, THERE IT IS, YOU HAVE BEEN CHEATING ON ME ALL OF OUR MARRIED LIFE!” Fess up! She begged.

When Delores walked into my studio today I saw stress all over her face. She was beside herself. Nothing was working out, she can’t get the evidence.

That’s when I asked her for more details and when she told me of the triangle relationship going on (she is co-dependent with her friend Donna, because she doesn’t find it easy to meet friends and she likes Donna’s company. Brenda is just the ‘lover’ in the background).

She does not want to believe her only friend of three years, Donna, had any part of this at all. She said Donna was there, at the table and she was as surprised at how the ‘visions’ were unfolding as anyone.

Can you guess the roles of this psychopathic dynamic?

It starts with the psychopath (Brenda) who always has a side-kick ‘supply’ to keep in control (Donna) and then she uses Donna to get at others. To destroy relationships. Because that is how they operate. They are evil to the core and they seem to be in this world for no other reason other than to create trauma and drama in their friends and relationships lives.

They love to see the hurt. The pain in the face is priceless to the psychopath. And to see this poor, 70 year old woman scrounging around her house to find evidence of affairs by her husband of 37 years???

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I asked my client this question…I said, “Let’s say Brenda is right. Everything she saw and heard in her ‘visions’ was the truth. Your husband had affairs up until 2010. Suppose that is all true.”

And then I asked her, “Who and why would anyone tell you that, other than to hurt you to the core of your being?” For what purpose was this psychic reading?

The light went on.

After we did some internal work Delores left my studio strong and free. Her husband never had an affair with these ‘ladies’ and Brenda is a danger…maybe so is Donna if Donna cannot see things better than she has been seeing them.

I suggested my client have a long talk with her husband, and if she cannot, then she needs to ask herself why. Is she wanting to hang onto this co-dependent relationship triangle?

We shall see, it is difficult to remove yourself from people you have grown to love. It’s the most difficult thing in the world to do…say goodbye to something YOU thought was real. Relationships with the psychopath are never real. They lack feelings. The only emotions psychopaths can really experience are rage, jealousy, and false pride. Other than that, they are empty beings who are created to create problems for others.

To the psychopath, people are simply supply to feed the urge to hurt others and watch the squirming of emotional pain.

But as she was leaving I suggested that if it came to believing her husband of 37 years, or this woman she really knows nothing about, then we need to do some work on her loyalties and why she is so easily led. She agrees.

Do you know a psychopath? Have you ever been supply for a psychopath?

It is easier to fool the masses, than it is to convince them they have been fooled. Einstein. I love that quote and can’t use it enough, especially in cases like this.

 

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