As I awaken my innate senses I am concerned about the state of mind of the people. I think they are insane. Or slaves.
Evidence is flowing in that right brain oppression has created a dark place for much of the population who live in the depression of darkness. Introducing a sure way to understand for yourself how well you are seeing things. Sleeping minds can feel lethargic, heavy, unable to see the flowers, or smell the coffee. Human senses are manipulated negatively by trauma, emotional reaction, and chemicals. Unsuspecting good people may experience very real issues with their living senses for survival if denied the opportunity of Free Will.
The focus on left brain intelligence where memory, numbers and logic exists to come to a proven scientific conclusion, makes mental pygmies of the people. We seem to have succumbed to the status quo, against the right brain oriented spirit. Up to 80% of the population could be right brain hemisphere beings who find it just as difficult to live in a left brain world, as the left handed feel using the right hand or the right hand using the left. It doesn’t feel good for a reason – it’s not the way they work. When we finally allow the left handed to use the left hand his work is just as good as any right handed person. Am I wrong? Do I make sense to you? Because this is just coming to me now and making perfect sense – all from my imagination guessing at things.
How depressed would the left-handed person be if they had to use their right hand – because someone else said so? What kind of work do you think they would produce for you?
Eventually, when working against the current we are going to get tired, sick and drown.
Insomnia, sight (losing things right in front of you), hearing, tasting, smelling, hunger, sexual arousal, body temperature and blood pressure senses are affected, as well as many other senses needed for human survival like insight and common sense. Symptoms will include mental, emotional and spiritual disconnection, low energy and sensations of mental imbalance. Physically the body can experience IBS, Fibromyalgia, Chronic Fatigue, Migraine Headaches, Insomnia, skin disorders, and worse. Everything coming from unconscious mind affects the human body experience if the brain is not nurtured, exercised, developed.
Okay, all of that boring negative news we need to know aside, let’s do some brain exploring just for giggles because I know you probably don’t sense a lot of fun every day living in a ‘inside the lines’ world:
First, give yourself a break. Go get a cookie or a treat of some kind no one else would approve of, and just sit down in a quiet dark place, the bathroom if necessary. Decide it’s okay to go back in time when you use to play pretend, imaginary games. At the very least, it can’t hurt.
Allow permission to unwind and relax for three hours or three minutes – the imagination can work at the speed of light, and there are no rules.
The more I engage in the practice of hypnosis the better insight from my unconscious I sense. Things are starting to look amazing. I hope you agree before they take this down !
Grab a coffee and enjoy a read that could change your life for the better instantly. I will point out some simple clues to recovery, and explain in easy terms the mind, brain, science and snake oil. To achieve this will you allow me to reframe some of the more traditional thinking? If nothing else but for a moment of emotional relief from the strict confines of medical science I want to show you there may be another reason for mental illness epidemic we are seeing destroy families across the nations.
If the diagnostic model for mental illness has been working for you and the treatment programs you have been offered appeal to you, keep doing what you are doing and please don’t let my ideas offend you. I have no intentions of changing anyone’s mind or method of treatment, I only share to inform another perspective that we could look at for the thrill of possibilities.
Well we have to give credit where credit is due. The pharmaceutical trillion dollar industry has done a very good job on making sure we think mental illness is a permanent part of life, that without drugs the situation is hopeless. Labels and mind and mood altering drugs have become the new way to deal with problems for all ages of people, from the elderly being most likely to be on a psychiatric drug (Vancouver Sun states 97% of elderly); women next followed by children being the most common consumers before men. We are rapidly giving in to sickly diagnosis of incurable mental illness which can come within minutes of sitting in front of a doctor. How can they know you have a Serotonin problem when they can’t even be bothered to take a blood test? They say mentally ill people need drugs to balance something, but have never proven the imbalance to the individual. I know I’ve been offered and accepted anti-depressants by almost every single doctor I encountered beginning in about 1998. At first we are told it was for only three months, then I must find another way to peace.
I use to blindly (not using my own senses) believe a man (or anyone) could know what is wrong with my body and mind without a scientific test. How is that for giving up will to another? How do we come to that place as equal partners to other humans?
It is a fact of life that the people feeling weak or vulnerable are at a risk of being led somewhere that works against their own good senses for a satisfying life experience.
It is no secret in my community that I present myself as appalled at the current way we treat mental illness in Canada. To me it is not only keeping people sick, it is contagious through the family and generations to come. Popping pills is NORMAL and we wonder why kids need drugs to cope and find their own way to get the job done.
Addictions continue to take over the will and lives of good people who become dependant on everything and everyone other than themselves. We have much fear around trusting our own good judgement and intuition on how to live, and live well.
I think we have turned our will and our lives over to the power of others – is that what we are suppose to do?
Can it make us sick?
See if these unconscious bits of wisdom that comes to me doesn’t appeal to your better judgement:
Depression can be the best thing that ever happens to a person. It is a message from the unconscious that a sense (or more than one sense) is out of balance and needs attention. It could be a spiritual emergency.
Self medicating is not going to help in the long run because it shuts down the part of the brain that is suffering, the right hemisphere.
Right brain is where ideas, emotions, and creativity for problem solving live.
Recovery becomes next to impossible to tap into while on long-term acting anti-depressants, which are designed to dull the senses for emotional pain relief. Drugs are supposed to inhibit sight, sounds, feelings, tastes and smells to protect the patient from…life.
What is less known is the pharmaceuticals also affect the senses of sexual arousal, hunger, insight and sometimes common sense – putting children at risk of being neglected or placed in dangerous situations, depending on how strength legally prescribed drug the parent is taking. Just because they do not give a ‘high’ does not mean those senses aren’t blocked.
Living with dulled senses for any length of time is not healthy to any reasonable thinking person.
In my opinion the whole chemistry theory simply cannot work for a spiritual energy, but this isn’t the first time I’ve sensed people in authority were wrong.
Like the time my pastor insisted (and I willingly believed) women bleed because of a punishment from God, and my role on earth was to serve man. No wonder I was tired, ashamed, and felt hopeless.
Ideas may not flow to the blocked mind and yet that is where our true answers live. Think of depression as a clear signal that change is needed in some area of life. If we cannot hear what the sense of depression is saying, how on earth can we end the pain and grow forward?
The imagination is what gets folks into trouble and it is what leads the way out. But if we have no ability to imagine the best for ourselves we risk manifesting what we are imagining in the darkness.
I ask you to begin to deliberately imagine a better life you can enjoy. You are allowed to fantasize the best for yourself besides in sexual situations!
To exercise your very own intuit; find a creative outlet that seems like fun to you. Colour, draw, write, or otherwise focus on something that will take you out of your head and in new light, so to speak. Play, pretend, enjoy something, no matter how small – as often as possible. Decide what is enjoyable for you, and do that.
Give up the control and responsibility of everyone else for extended periods of time – and never let anyone control you away from your peace.
Please become aware of the tapes you play in your mind about yourself, your life, and your problems.
The more we tend to focus, obsess, worry, the more of the same will we seem to bring about. For example, thinking about fat all day long will literally create more fat!
Maybe you can’t control the world at large, but you can get yourself into good mental shape if you think you matter enough.
Imagine you are responsible for one life and if you can manage that you pass the test and win.
If you build a foundation that works for you everything else will fall into place.
The universe will respond to your energy and reveal opportunities that will show you what you are really made of when connected to yourself.
If you are depressed because you didn’t learn solid coping skills, or were not really conditioned to sense a healthy image of self, please know that you are not permanently damaged! DON’T LET ANYONE TELL YOU THAT, please.
It is never too late to change your imagination and gain these tools to thrive in life in a manner that actually works for you.
Begin to allow the idea that you are much more than this. Inside of you is a miracle just waiting to be revealed I promise.
I’m winding down: This one is going to be hard for you, I know: But,
Be gentle with yourself, okay? No more tough love.
Chances are others were not always gentle with you and you’ve learned very well how to take over the emotional whippings.
Or, if you tend to be hardon others around you – maybe leave them alone.
Live. Let live. Let go. Grow.
Clear the fearful, shamed or angry energy in any way that works for you.
Aren’t you sick of people being mad at you, giving you unwanted advice, meddling in your business like you don’t have a lick of sense yourself?
Take yourself back at any time by speaking up against control.
Set boundaries. We teach people HOW to treat us. Teach them well.
Don’t do to others what you wouldn’t want done to you.
The stress of everyone else’s emotional reactions is just too much so please don’t inflict unnatural fears and worries on others to pick up
And don’t let anyone do it to you.
Remember, you are responsible for ONE soul this journey.
Treat yourself and others kindly, keep a clear conscience for peace of mind.
I ask that you never push yourself to do what you are not ready to do. You will know when you have had enough, and not a moment before.
Go with flow, not against it
Don’t be afraid or ashamed to seek out help in a way that makes good sense to you.
Depression is sick, not stupid.
Use your senses of insight to make decisions about how you want to get your life back.
Ensure the person or program you seek assistance from respects you as an individual, and has uplifting, motivating, inspirational ways to get you to your life recovery.
Recovery does not have to be mean, harsh, or punishing. In fact, if it feels nasty the odds of it working is unlikely
Stay away from fads and fashions that have no clinical results.
People spend thousands of dollars trying to find the easiest, less painful way to self and end up with the least success.
Hypnotherapy is fast, it is safe, it is lovely and it works – but if the client is not willing to put any effort into the treatment – well, you get out of anything what you put into it.
Research and then ask yourself for the best answer on the kind of help you seek from others.
Talking about your problems is good. Once is enough. After that you are beating a dead horse.
Going on and on and on is embedding the issues into the unconscious creating bad feelings all day long.
One good idea is to stop focusing on how you got to this place, and ask yourself what the solutions might be.
You know everything if you take the time to ask yourself. Isn’t it time?
Please like and share if you find this helpful. I am soon going to be producing a video blog so that I can just say all of this with my face right there for you to get to know. Let’s start talking about some other solutions than what we are currently being offered by the medical establishment.
Be like me; take back control over your comfortable happy life 🙂
Cherylann Thomas, BASc.Crim., CH,t is a Clinical Hypnotherapist working out of the Family Wellness Centre in West Kelowna, BC. She has made a name for herself specializing in grief, loss, depression, anxiety and believes she is successful because of her amazing story of how she came to be at peace with some serious life situations that would bring most to their knees. Cherylann copes happily with anything that comes her way today. She says, “Bring it!” to life challenges because she has a sincere belief that no problem is ever too big it cannot be fixed!
I notice a disturbing pattern emerging when it comes to mental illness and women. First, the current system seems to be creating even more sickness and suicide for the multitudes and masses, which conflicts with my good senses of what a medical community should be doing for the betterment of society. Second, I believe the cause of so much unhappiness has little to do with illness, and more to do with oppression of right brain talents and resources.
I know what wonderful and miraculous things can happen when creative folks are allowed to express themselves exactly how they are without having to compare their gifts to left brain oriented counterparts. I see women and men regain self-esteem very quickly with just learning a few new ideas for WHY they may be feeling so mentally sick other than what they are being told by doctors and pharmaceutical commercials.
What if mental illness is really an unconscious reaction to bullshit?
Why does it seem like more women than men are ‘crazy?’ How come no one ever asks how to cure mental illness and seem perfectly happy accepting drugs as the solution to unconscious despair? Schizophrenia is a mental disorder characterized by abnormal social behavior and failure to understand what is real according to Wikipedia. Whose real? How come in many eastern countries schizophrenia folks are used as ‘wise men and women’ who have great insight to things most people cannot see? These are just a few questions I have after years of living my life as a woman in a society that insists my body and mind must work like the male ones or I am ‘abnormal.’ I believe women (and men) are brainwashed into believing how they are supposed to feel and be, because it works better for someone else.
Imagine a world that nourishes, respects, and even admires women for their physiological differences? How much better can civilization be with a ‘feminine’ balance to masculine values? I wonder if one would feel mental in a world of left brain folks if they thought their right brains mattered too?
Women have been traditionally ‘known’ to be the crazy ones at home, work, and in the psyche wards. What if ‘mental illness’ is really ‘right brain intelligence neglect?’ We live in a left brain world where conditioning and development is almost entirely based on preferences of logic and order. It all starts in grade one. Everything one needs to know about the right brain is apparently learned by Kindergarten because that is when the imagination part of us begins to get stifled, shut down and shut up to make room for academics. Sure we have some music and art classes available to help students along, but mostly we will find left brain activities of memory development, algebra, and even sports as the preferred activities, and this is about as interesting as going to the dentist all day long for some people and so problems ensue when one does not live up to the expectations of the educational system we have available.
Soon we may wonder what is wrong with girls who suffer in math or boys who disrupt procedures in the class. Why is everyone else going to school like good little boys and girls, but others are simply not fitting in, and ‘failing?’ Many children are now being labeled as diseased in some way, mentally if they do not keep up with the way things are. It’s becoming ridiculous to me to see so many children and adults drugged and put away for life with a label of mental illness because we do not care to look deeper.
Displaced children grow up with thoughts of inadequacy, not belonging, and no voice. Powerlessness in a system that actually works against the amazing minds of right brain thinkers creates so much turmoil a person can hardly cope after a while. Soon the person may begin to shut themselves down in fear of their own differences.
Mental illness can feel debilitating. There is no sense of self power or control when one is hidden under blankets day in and day out with the television blaring in the background to drown out the destructive thoughts. Drugs, alcohol or food are often introduced to cut the incessant misery sense. What about anxiety? What a nightmare that is when they suddenly have an inability to breathe while driving, or in a public place. What is the answer we have for these suffering souls? Ativan, Xanax, Clonazapam. Imagine what it might be like to feel worthless, unlovable, wants to give up, and die. Suicide has become so epidemic it is now the number one killer of our youth — more than accidents and murder put together.
Whatever we are doing to help mentally ill and addicted people does not seem to be working. In fact, it is making things much worse.
People are dying in record numbers by their own hand!
What if the problem isn’t mental illness, rather mental deprivation of the senses which can be restored with a little bit of attention to the real problems in society?
Are you ready for a new perspective on that ever so popular DSM, the Diagnostic and Statistic Manual that every doctor in North America refers to as a bible of sorts when deciding what is wrong with women medically, when it comes to mental symptoms?
If someone’s answer to our problems makes a little bit of sense we may inadvertently buy into horrible permanent life decisions for temporary emotional relief. Vulnerable folks are easily convinced on the idea there is something wrong with their biology because nothing else seems to make sense in their world. The so-called science about Serotonin being discovered as the culprit to mental illness is still being passed around as truth. Just Google, “Serotonin Lie” and see what you find. Every day we are seeing cases of pharmaceutical marketing literally driving people completely away from themselves and their own good senses and on drugs actually designed to inhibit the life of the right brain!
If anyone tells me I have an incurable mental or physical illness you better believe I need to see the blood work or x-ray to prove that today. No longer do I take the word of someone who cannot possibly understand my world as they figure I may have a biological problem, rather than something else going on. For mental illness no evidence of chemistry sickness exists even though people believe this to be the case. Sometimes a confused doctor will say no one really knows what causes mental illness so it could be DNA genetically passed down with no reason at all.
Perhaps. Maybe not. My clients tell me they get tired of doctors guessing treatment until the right drug is discovered by accident. Stuffing symptoms with mind altering chemicals makes as much sense as someone taking a pain medication for a physical reason forever, doesn’t it? It should be RARE not the common practice to offer life time brain-pain medication.
When can we find out why people feel mental? For some it is simply easier to pack it in and be sick with permission from the system. Many women agree to be mental so they can have a government sponsored disability income in a corporate society that offers a fraction of work income and benefits their left brain brothers are earning. We have made women responsible for everything to do with the family, accountable for keeping everything together without assistance from a wayward spouse, and then pay her peanuts when she needs to work to put food in the kids mouths. I’d rather go on mental disability, thanks. It is all about survival and women will do what they must to keep going; some are brilliant at working the system that tries to keep them powerless, afraid, and ashamed. You go girl!
Isn’t it time to fix the problem before life is completely wasted away? I hear time and time again, “My depression keeps me stuck. I am anxious and stressed about everything. I have a feeling like I don’t belong somehow. I don’t matter. Everyone walks all over me. I am too sensitive. There is something wrong with me. I can’t get along with the people everyone else gets along with, and, I can’t seem to learn the way everyone else is learning.”
Seeing things with new eyes
Let’s take a look at some of the labels the DSM and current traditional medicine in a new light, and I’ll suggest an alternative option for rescue and recovery for each ‘disease’ as listed:
Depression — Lives in the past. Often caused by a serious denial of self-love, a traumatic event, or conditioned feelings of powerlessness. The depressed person is often brainwashed to believe they are financially needy or dependant in an unhealthy relationship they feel they must have for survival. Unconscious self anger results in confusion. Wrongful thoughts become so debilitating the body lives in a constant state of tension, pain and exhaustion.
Rescue and Recovery — Get out of the environment and find a place to re-group – alone. Figure out why you have taken over the emotional abuse (in thought) and learn how to retrain your thinking and imagination to the satisfaction of your spirit. Stop looking at the problem and begin wondering about solutions for your own comfort, peace, and happiness. Find a way to matter to you. Your gift, the right brain (imagination), has infinite ideas, start looking there. Even more importantly, find a way to not need someone else for survival as that kind of relationship can turn you into a miserable slave working against your own life. Chronic unhappiness is a clue something is wrong in LEARNED THINKING.
Make a new life plan when you are up to it. Women don’t get defeated overnight and it will take some time to regain self, but you can count on a right brain woman to find a way to get the job done if she is interested in a better life.
Anxiety — Lives in the future. Severe fear to believe in self. Unconscious screaming, “Something is wrong! Fix it!” We are finding that anxious people are so intuitive and powerful when we sense a conflict of conscious thinking to unconscious knowing it can feel like one is losing touch with reality. And you are. Intuit can hardly stand self-denial and unconscious will create sensations of panic when we do not listen to our own infinite wisdom about the present.
Rescue and Recovery — Dare to look at what scares you, really. Hypnosis and hypnotherapy work miracles for the anxious because in treatment they actually figure out for themselves how to listen and obey their own inner voice, and the answers feel like amazing empowerment for better living. 100% recovery is not only possible, it is probable for those who believe they can be healed. Sadly most people are unaware of recovery and end up drinking or drugging the right brain sensations instead, all the way to institution and death as we are seeing in epidemic proportions. Get to the root of the anxiety for complete recovery of life. If anxiety based on a recent traumatic experience is the only problem it can be cured in one simple hypnosis session.
Bi-Polar Disorder — This requires an entire reexamination on the female anatomy and life experiences. In many cases the diagnosis is brought on after the ingestion of anti-depressant medication, which is known to create feelings of mania in some people (people who don’t need antidepressants I’m thinking). As long as the diagnosis and pills are allowed to be handed out recovery is slim to none as the beholder succumbs to living down to the ideals of instability. The powerful brain drugs that are dispensed under the name of ‘safety’ will kill the spirit eventually, in almost every case. Until just a few decades ago crazy women use to be given brain surgery (Lobotomy) to remove her emotional being. I remember a girlfriend’s mother had her emotional response removed (located in the right temple brain) and my friend said she could slap her mother’s face and Mom wouldn’t care. She’d forget about it real soon if she did figure out she was insulted or hurt.
Isn’t that a nice way to live? The friend said her mother’s emotions were taken out when she was 20 years old after being forced to marry a man twice her age due to pregnancy at 15. Living now with 4 children in an abusive home it became too much to handle, and so she ‘left’ mentally and almost burned the house down. This woman was a danger to herself and others. Police were involved and the husband told the doctors if they didn’t fix his wife he would kill her. Doctors fixed mom for dad’s better health. The surgery was done in 1959 and a common practice in the times. My friend said her mother had two more children and never complained again. Life was good for everyone…else.
I remember the movie “The Stepford Wives” released in about the 1980’s, and have never quite forgotten at how powerful and mind numbing brainwashing can be when oppressed people are trained to be the servants for others, and no complaining from the wives because their ‘thinking’ belongs to someone else — they believe (consciously) they WANT to live for others.
There are many examples of religions brainwashing the masses into belief systems that utterly ignore female gender brains other than to be used for service.
Unconsciously we may create mental illness when we deny our own purpose.
Women are being diagnosed with Bi-polar Disorder (false, unsubstantiated diagnoses) and those drugs will make the victim not care at all about what was going on within the family, or life. Be glad we didn’t live in the 1940’s or 50’s where the powerful doctors could have removed your emotions forever without permission. But they still work to manipulate the mind into thinking we can do without emotions by using right brain stoppers.
Today we have what is called “Chemical Lobotomy’s” in the form of prescription psychiatric medication that anyone can get at any time with the right ‘story.’ Yes, some people need to be put away safely and drugged for better comfort while imprisoned. I have yet to hear a successfully medicated person living a happy life to old age, there may be a few cases, but they are certainly rare. Life is never smooth for the chronically mentally ill and so I am suggesting we stop telling people to give up to the illness!
If one believes in psychiatric diagnosis the hope for full life recovery is diminished because there is no solution other than expensive pharmaceuticals that often increase over time.
Little to no effort is given to figure out where the serious mood swings come from other than, “She’s a nut bar for no particular reason.” Having very little credibility in a world where women use to be considered property of men it isn’t too difficult to believe she is not worth saving if she isn’t taking care of everyone else the way she is supposed to be. I am not being negative here, it is time to look at some truth and let’s investigate these alarming throw away people whom I no longer believe were “born insane.” I witness full recovery of mental people who decide to forsake the others to save themselves.
Rescue and recovery — Figure out for yourself if you have a serious life threatening mental illness, or may have been wrongly perceived through the eyes of someone else. I am telling people without hesitation today to really check out the facts of the case before giving up as a mentally unstable person for life. See my next blog where I will outline many amazing women who were able to rise above their traditional roles and make remarkable contributions to society after being labeled ‘fruit cakes’ with no credible value their entire lives. These women are proof enough for me that anyone can escape oppression – and the mental illness philosophies that are keeping female oppression alive.
ADHD — Disruptive problem child who cannot concentrate or stay focused. A right brain oriented (more often male) bored to the core with the left brain training in the education system. Needs right brain stimuli and acceptance of the difference. She or he often has spiritual sensations and intelligence beyond the imagination. If allowed to develop naturally in any creative realm we will witness this child later change the world with their amazing creative brains. The greatest inventors and genius ones can be labeled as ADD or ADHD. Albert Einstein had early childhood learning and behavior problems in school but his mother never told him about the nasty report cards about how he was a dummy in the eyes of the school. Good thing, right?
Rescue and Recovery — If a child is unhappy in his or her learning environment find one that works. I understand not all parents can afford special education for their amazing child but if you create some questions with right brain imagination the left brain will find a way. Be willing to see there is a problem underneath the child’s acting out behavior. Understand children may only be negatively reacting to an intolerable learning environment. It is important to believe your own eyes when it comes to your child. If they didn’t act up at home then it is coming from someplace else.
Borderline Personality Disorder — The list of ‘symptoms’ in the DSM for this label is far removed from truth. They say she is a trouble maker, instigator, and drama queen. She is known for making up stories about good people and are unbelievable with their accusations. Freud diagnosed sexually abused girls who acted out as having fantasies about their fathers, living in an alternate reality. Can you imagine being molested and then told you are making it up? By respected science? Imagine being shamed to tears in a court full of disbeliever’s with suspicious ‘allegations’ of sexual abuse. Ignorance continues with dismissive thoughts as women continue to live without validation of horrific experiences while being re-victimized in the circuits (circus?) of the justice system.
This unlikable ‘borderline’ creature is a truth teller. She likely speaks up poorly because she has no idea how to articulate her needs since her needs don’t matter to anyone, anyway. In this woman’s story she is rarely validated with her thinking — and this can lead to feelings of internal rage. Like a volcano about to erupt the emotional pain is felt deeply. Listen, people do not like the truth. Truth can be too uncomfortable to even glance at, and so it is easier to sacrifice the life of a truthfully outspoken woman who already feels powerless than it is to investigate the truth she is trying to educate the world with eyes, ears and feelings wide open.
Keep in mind I do believe there is ‘real’ Borderline (Borderline Psychopath) people who have little or no feelings of fear, guilt, shame. I am suggesting professional opinions by mental health humans are fantasies made up to make the person feel she is okay being nuts because others are crazy just like her; see the list of symptoms? That’s the proof they have when they want someone to believe they are unstable people. The problem is you can show a list of anything to anyone and they will find a place of belonging if it reaches a need of the patient to be heard in some way. Any way.
Rescue and Recovery — She is on her own. People are unwilling to believe in the imagination of a BPD and there is no help in the current system other than drugs, but odds are she will refuse to take them and go on suffering without love or acceptance for herself. If you have been reduced this kind of judgemental diagnosis you must take back your own control. Find a way to love every part of you, even the difficult parts you’ve been trained to hate too. Practice speaking up and teaching people new ways to treat you. If you cannot find a way on your own reach out for help to build your confidence and self-esteem. An entirely new way to look at yourself is required because somehow mental conditioning growing up taught you self-doubt all the way to self-hatred like everyone else who does not like your ‘truth.’ BPD must learn to set boundaries about how they are viewed and treated by others.
Postpartum Depression — A mental condition only given to women who gave birth and yet adoptive mothers suffer with this so-called mental illness as well. Once again chemistry imbalance is blamed. Real cause is extreme mental exhaustion and depletion of the senses with increased life responsibilities. A new 24 hour clock to live by alone can make one sick. Mother often has to concern herself about work and finances as well as carry the weight of managing the baby, house, and everyone else’s feelings but her own. Unconscious doesn’t like self-neglect yet the well-trained conscious mind says she is not enough if she complains. Having to be super-human leads to collapse eventually.
Rescue and Recovery — Throw away the idea you must be all and do all at your own expense. Demand help and don’t feel guilt or shame while doing so. It takes two to bring a child into the world, not just one. As long as a woman believes she must keep up with impossible demands she will, until she cracks completely in some cases. Self care is needed if no one else seems to. Don’t be a victim, be in charge!
PreMenstrual Syndrome (PMS) — Mental disease caused by cramping and discomfort during monthly cycle of a woman. Too often something is very wrong in the organs of female anatomy and pain goes undiagnosed due to ignorance and lack of understanding and research. In addition to medical doctors unable to find a suitable solution for this very real problem. Employers are allowed to show no mercy or tolerance for the different biological make-up of female staff and provide nothing to assist in the need for some accommodation. Women have been conditioned to not speak of their ‘problem’ and is often shamed into silence for her ‘difference to men’ and can feel irritable because unconscious Intuit (one’s truth) will respond negatively to the thought she deserves to live in shame and pain.
Rescue and recovery — The shaming of physiological differences to men needs to be replaced with empathy (most of the rule makers are males who would never be able understand the unique needs of women – and so need to be educated). If no one else cares about your pain, YOU must care and take care of yourself in whatever way makes you most comfortable and happy. Use the right brain to imagine ideas for making yourself feel better during this time, and the left brain will find a way to make it happen for you. Two brains work together like magic when you believe in both of them!
Addiction — Inability to live sober in a world that seems upside down. At first some comfort is felt in the indulgence of drugs or alcohol, but after a while that right brain is going to reject that solution and create all sorts of added problems to the life.
Rescue and Recovery — First, get rid of any notion you are powerless. Find a way to believe in yourself and ability to control anything. Fill your imagination with thoughts of strength and empowerment. Addiction is self suicide, start recovery by figuring out why your life doesn’t seem to matter to you. There is a ‘learned’ reason.
The Intuit doesn’t like slavery. We are born free to survive, and thrive. However the best part of us (right brain imagination) goes unconsciously hay-wire when neglected and made to feel needy and dependent on others for survival. Dependency for happiness is simply not healthy for anyone.
I write this article to beg you to reconsider what might be really going on in society that is creating so much suffering and pain for women and children, and many men. Can we reframe this whole ‘women are crazy thing’ just for giggles and see if we can’t come up with a better solution to mental illness? How about we change everything right here and now instead of packing it in with acceptance of emotional torture and drugs?
Hypnosis and hypnotherapy are an amazing therapy for self-actualization. It helps one open the eyes to what the problem is, and how to find solutions to obtain happiness, peace of mind, and a comfortable sense of being. Control becomes possible when we believe in it for ourselves.
I have a feeling mental illness will be replaced with new exciting possibilities for all of us if we dare to allow all people the right to think the way they are born to think, not the way we want them to be for the better lives of everyone else.
Right brain can create a good or bad life. In spite of what we have been told about the imagination, why not deliberately go into the mind’s eye and use it to make yourself well again? “Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve.” Said respected philosopher and writer, Napoleon Hill.
Find a creative outlet you enjoy. Colour with crayons, engage a craft you wouldn’t mind spending hours doing, learn a new art that fascinates you, listen to or play music, read or write. Intuit feels happy and peaceful while creating so if you are fortunate enough to work in a right brain occupation your life will be much happier.
Remember when you were a small child you use to play ‘pretend’ with the imagination, before that got all cancelled in school norms — why not go back and play pretend about retraining your own mental thinking. Imagine you are amazing for a change. Fake you matter if you think you don’t. Your unconscious and body will respond with love!
Believe in your own eyes, ears, and feelings. You wouldn’t eat something that smelled or tasted bad because the senses are connected to the unconscious part that will wake up in the event of a bad food. Learn to trust all of your own good senses! Just because a story makes sense (fantasies of someone else are only true if you buy into that line of thought) does not make it your truth. Some people are trained very well to not say a word about their own truth to protect someone else. Others know how to manipulate the sensitive’s senses for their own selfish needs and gratification. They use emotional manipulation of shaming, fear, guilt, and even anger to get what they want from a person who feels weak or vulnerable.
Stop Waiting and Start Creating
Hopelessness is bound to set in when we deny our own value and existence. Isn’t it time to wonder why so many mental cases are ending up sicker than ever with the current mental health treatment of people? Perhaps women need to put their intuition and imaginations to work on how to educate and articulate what we know, but do not get to say out loud? Maybe some men who understand their own right brain intelligence will feel safer if they too are allowed to be whom they are innately.
When the left and right brain are allowed to work together as equal partners miracles happen. When only one side of the brain is developed the sense of mental imbalance is the result. We are literally working with half a brain.
*Mental illness can be a serious condition that is passed onto children as they watch, listen and learn how to cope from parents. Please find a way to rescue and recovery if you have a little bit of hope left in you. At the end of the day, only you really can change anything and it takes a belief there is better waiting as soon as you ask for more.
Cherylann Thomas, B.Sc.Crim.,CH,t is a Registered Clinical Hypnotherapist in the Okanagan Valley specializing in hypnosis for mental health, addictions, and spiritual identity. She has lived an amazing life of ups and downs beyond normal. This practitioner herself was raised in an abusive home taking on abusive self-thinking, and later experienced the extreme life trauma of losing her only beloved son to a car accident. Time and time again Cherylann found a way to rise above adversity and uses herself as a positive example of recovery using the wonders of right brain love, honour and development.
- Conduct any typical meditation to relax your body deeply from head to toe while laying down on sofa or bed with comfortable pillows.
- Clear your mind by pretending to put worries, thoughts, mind chatter into a container, put a lid on it, and kick it over a cliff!
- Imagine yourself going down down and down, like in an elevator (counting down helps).
- When you know your body is deeply relaxed, heavy, doesn’t want to move for a while… you can begin to open your right brain (imagination, pretend part) for change.
- Still using your minds’ eye create an image of what mental symptoms you want gone and imagine yourself free of the problem. Like watching a movie or pictures you can sense, pretend, imagine…and make your image as vivid as possible. Face the situation as if you are really there. Now the fun begins!
- Pretend you don’t have the issue anymore and while visualizing this, monitor your feelings and adjust them so that you are no longer afraid, or anxious even as you are there right now.
- If you have difficulty conjuring up pictures in your imagination pretend you can see them like memories of things you have seen in the past. Memories (good and bad) make the most powerful images for us so please ensure you conjure up only the best, happiest, memories of the past. We do enough bringing up the bad memories in that part of our brain on our own which led to unhealthy symptoms to begin with in most cases.
To illustrate, if you want to lose weight take yourself into meditation, begin to imagine yourself in the size and weight that you want to be. Pretend you are already that weight and put on all sorts of clothes to show off your body in your minds eye. See yourself at work, at home, naked. Deliberately tell yourself you are fit and love your body (every time you hear yourself say, “I am fat” or something to that effect deliberately change it to, “My body is amazing.” We use our negative imagination to create horrible images of ourselves and this is a good opportunity to turn that around by doing the opposite in your mind.
Folks tend to spend a lot of time in the imagination – but not in a good way. Deliberately change your own mental images and begin manifesting new outcomes.
Wash away old conditioning, rinse and repeat and you will find your new behaviors unfold without even thinking about it. People who undergo hypnotherapy eventually find old negative thoughts and emotions are replaced with feelings of confidence, control, and peace of mind. It becomes a new unconscious way of thinking and feeling, and these new sensations will transform you into wanting to engage in new healthier behaviors and eating habits.
From within, so is without!
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In my early career I was an instructor and branch manager for a large government contract career centre in Vancouver, BC, servicing employable people who happened to be on income assistance. Our mandate was to design, develop and deliver life and employment skills people who were collecting welfare.
This type of business was and continues to be popular because kids who fall short in our current educational system often grow up to be a huge expense to our government in the social services, mental health and criminal justice systems. Health is also affected when we lack life skills as stress is proven to attack our bones, muscles and organs.
I suggest we change two fundamental areas of the current curriculum requirements: Add life skills and forget about the 12 grade tier completely. Throw away the current status quo since it creates such a stressful environment for children who do not succeed in all subjects all of the time.
Leaving social training up to parents isn’t working.
Sadly but realistically many parents lack life skills and pass down their ignorance to their children. There is no point in blaming as all of our coping and life skills are mainly ‘unintentionally’ learned as families blindly struggle to exist without a map to follow.
So we need an overhaul of the entire philosophy and delivery of how we civilize society in a fair system that suits all styles of learning, talents, gifts, and shortcomings. Only, they won’t be looked at as failures anymore — we will have a system where kids can find a path that does work for them.
Example of Life Skills Classes, Suggested Beginning at Age Two:
Hard Life Skills
- Earth Food Production (Gardening)
- Personal Hygiene
- Housework Skills (Time for everyone to be responsible for their home environment don’t you think?)
- Fine and Gross Motor Skills Development (I.E. skills to use every day electronics & physical fitness)
- Creative Mind Development
- Logical Mind Development
Soft Life Skills
- Self Respect
- Stress Management
- Personal Protection (Abuse)
- Communication Skills
- Time Management
- Personal Responsibility & Accountability
- Problem Solving
- Talent Investigation
Of course my ideas are not perfect but I suggest we stop focusing on what our children’s perceived ‘weaknesses’ are compared to the masses and find and develop what their strengths are. A system that advances the student to their official educational program after they have completed foundations for life training. We need a flexible system where we learn curriculum designed to suit our talents, personality, intelligence, and emotional I.Q. Doesn’t this make better sense?
If we are to follow the same rules and regulations out there in the world we need to teach life skills early on and no longer assume all families teach their young way we want our fellow beings to behave around us. I also happen to think all parents could use some parenting education but that’s another blog!
Why a new solution has not been delivered yet is beyond me. In my experience too many people are thinking and believing they are stupid or do not measure up somehow because they did not succeed in the current ridged structure that doesn’t encourage individualism.
Imagine how much better society would be if all children learned social skills before they become social problems. What would it be like for our children in school if they were allowed to develop their innate talents and passions?
Cherylann Thomas, B.Sc.Crim., CH,t
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I wrote this yesterday for my personal Facebook page. I decided it was worthy of including in my business practice as well; so here is a glimpse into the reason why I became a Clinical Hypnotherapist. It really is very personal to me, and my dream is to help others lift out of hopeless despair in my work — because I, of all people, know that peace of mind is available for everyone, because it was possible for me. I hope you enjoy this part of my story:
It’s my son’s birthday tomorrow. He would have been 37.
May 26, 1978 …Was the last day of my life as I knew it. From that date forward I would never be the same again. I was 18 years old, 127 pounds, and about to give birth to a 6 pound, 13 ounce healthy baby boy. The difference this birth would make to my life was so incredible, it felt spiritual.
I had no husband beside me. My boyfriend turned out to be in the closet gay and wasn’t handling it well; so he was never in the picture by his own choice. My stepmother held my hand. My father tried to stop my pain by offering vodka. My mother was 10 hours away as I was long ago a run-away teen. My best friend, Cindy, couldn’t be there because she had to cover my job as a full time nanny.
I was in labour for 72 hours. My body was very tiny and I was giving birth naturally. The Lamaze method was a new way to breathe back in the 70s. Some folks, not ones giving birth, I’m sure, said drugs were bad in childbirth. Was Lamaze a man? I wondered. I begged for the Demoral and finally got it.
As I became a new mother, I held a grade 9 education (although I did attend grade 10 — epic fail). I left a bad scene in my family home that I just could not tolerate anymore. And, I wanted to be free. I was never free in my home. I had no self-esteem, my primary feelings were anxiety, fear, sadness, loneliness, shame and guilt. I shake my head a bit as I realize that my poor baby didn’t have much of a chance, did he?
What made this event so spectacular was that for the first time in my life I would experience the sensation of maternal love. As I write this I get goosebumps just remembering looking at the utterly beautiful specimen in my arms and thinking, “Oh my God! How I love YOU!” I had no idea mothers felt like that! The new emotions were literally breath-taking. The blue skies opened up, the happy angels were singing, and all was right with the world.
It was a struggle. But this little guy, whom I named Trevor Thomas, kept me going like nothing else ever could. He motivated me to go back to school. I wanted a good life for Trevor and knew I’d have to go out and get it, and I did! In 1982 I met and married a good man, and we built a good life for our small family. We had all of the nice careers, homes and cars. From 1981 through to the late 2000’s I was building my career in the social/business sciences by educational achievements, involvement in politics and community organizations, and being a stand up employee and business woman.
I knew Trevor was watching me as he grew up. I knew he would only learn by me and whomever I allowed into our world to model for this child of mine. I wasn’t the best parent, I over-indulged my child and he did have some struggles with impulsivity and need for instant gratification as a result. I own that. I also feel a great deal of pride of how Trevor picked up some traits I value, openness, honesty, and compassion for others. He was all of that and more.
Trevor is the reason I am so very, very different than those dark days of youth. I couldn’t muster up enough sense of self to make something of myself, but this birth changed everything for me. It goes beyond any other kind of love I have had since. Gary and I were unable to have more children. I was told I was lucky I had my son at such a young age, because I had a serious fertility problem that would prevent any further completed pregnancies. Not many people know this about me, but I have had four pregnancies, only one birth. And that one didn’t make it 26 years.
My son was killed in a car accident in 2003. I’ll leave that there for now…
Sadly, our marriage could not sustain the emotional roller coaster ride that followed such a trauma. After 25 years of marriage, we said goodbye, and I began my new life here, in the Okanagan.
Trevor made me get up and live before. Who was going to get me up now?
I am not going to lie, I went back to all of the ugly old emotions of my childhood days real quick. My coping skills were zero. Well, I think I had the tools (much of my career was in employment counselling and teaching lifeskills to income assistance recipients) but I just didn’t have the strength to bother using what my intellect knew I should do.
Standing up when you feel so utterly filled with grief and a sort of black fog is all around, with no light to be seen anywhere, is not easy when you don’t have much of a foundation to draw from. Trust me. Some of you may already know what I’m saying.
Most who know me know I went down the psychiatric label and drug route for about five years after Trevor died. That was a mess. It sure didn’t get me anywhere in life, and at the end of the day, Trevor’s still not here with me. I had to deal with my emotions. I said, “If I have to live, I insist I live well.” No other options in my mind.
So, I picked up my pills, had a heart to heart — told them they doing it for me anymore and they had to go. (Insert warning: never, ever suddenly stop taking any psychiatric drug, find a friendly pharmacist who will help you wean off properly, your doctor won’t be helpful, in my experience, it is their job to push them as the best coping method).
The following piece was inserted for my personal friends’ understanding
I hope the paragraph below doesn’t sound self-serving, as I review it…honestly, all I have is my own real story. My friends know I am a Clinical Hypnotherapist myself now, and I work with depression, anxiety and grief as specialties. My story is just not complete without me mentioning that at the risk of drawing attention away from the point of my sharing.
The beginning of my second new life after Trevor’s death began to form in late 2007. I went south to White Rock to see a Clinical Hypnotherapist to hopefully find peace of mind and resolve my anxieties, and black depression. I heard the process of hypnotherapy was like counselling on steroids, and you get to the root of feelings light-years faster than the traditional talk therapy process.
I engaged in fourteen hypnosis and hypnotherapy sessions in sixteen days, and have never looked back.
I found Cherylann again. I found her strength, I found her power, I found her sense of self. I am okay, you know. A little sensitive sometimes, but generally calm, and at peace with myself and who I am.
I had another serious trauma happen in my world again in 2011, which is another book; but it seems nothing will keep me down because here I am, feeling confident, in control, calm.
Today Trevor continues to live in me as I remember his spirit, his love, his sense of humour, his kindness. He had a heart of gold and anyone who knew him will confirm. Trevor died because he completed his mission. I had this treasure for 25 blessed years, and today I say thank God I can feel again. I don’t have to pack my bags and live in grief anymore, but I can cry, and that, to me, is a gift I will cherish forever.
I am quite removed from that skinny emotional mess back on May 26th, 1978. The next morning, on the 27th, at 3:31 a.m. the whole world would open up for me, forever. For eternity, I am sure. Happy Birthday Trevor! I miss you as much today as I did yesterday, and the same as I will miss you tomorrow.
UNCONSCIOUS MIND at work as I sleep, OR TREVOR?
I normally sleep very well at night. Something woke me in the wee hours of the morning, it was still very dark but I didn’t see the time. I felt wide awake and even restless, so I went to the kitchen to pour myself a drink of water (ice-tea). I sat around for a few moments, turned the t.v. on, then off. Decided it was probably way too early to think about staying up, so I went back to bed and fell on my back, eyes wide open. So, I grabbed my Kindle to read a bit, maybe that would lull me back to sleep. As soon as Kindle popped open the time flashed in front of me, 3:40 a.m. It is my son’s birthday, and he was born at 3:31 a.m. on this day…I had been up for about 8-9 minutes, what are the typical conscious odds of me waking up at the exact time of his birth? !