This could be my story. But it’s not. I am but a conduit to an amazing transformation in a woman I want to share with you. The background is very similar to my own so I feel blessed that I am able to witness yet another hypnotherapy miracle in action! Be forewarned, you may cry while reading some of this story, but at the end you will feel tears of joy for this lady!
75 year old *Beth came to me utterly broken. She was unable to speak almost, so very sick with emotional despair after the loss of her husband of some 55 years, preceding and following other piled up trauma that seemed impossible to work through and heal. It has been five years since his death but her symptoms were not improving with time.
I prayed to our Universal God for help to work with this client who seemed so frail and lost sitting in my big chair at the studio. I secretly pray for help with all of my clients but this one I really wanted to see results as soon as possible.
Her story is alarming. I do not believe in all of my years of counselling, life skills coaching, and as a Clinical Hypnotherapist to have heard such a horror story in a childhood background! Sexual molestation from infancy to teenager. Physical abuse. Maternal neglect. When Beth shared some of her stories with me I cried inside for that poor innocent child within this elderly, yet stunningly so youthful, lady before me.
Beth was somehow able to tuck all of her hurt and pain away for a life with her husband, whom she married when she was only 15 years old. She never told *Doug that he actually saved her very life in that house of horrors she was raised in. She didn’t tell him any of it until her parents were dead. He would have killed them, that she knew. She loved and appreciated her loving husband from saving her, loving her unconditionally, and protecting her for 55 years. Together they made a home, raised children and grandchildren, and grew to depend on each other for everything.
She was 70 when he died. Five years ago. Her world collapsed although the death was expected. During his dying journey, Doug, no matter how sick he was, got out of his bed and stood with his arms open to give his wife a hug in appreciation for her love and nursing. He could barely lift his head up in the end. But no matter what every night she would walk in to find him standing at the end of the bed wanting to hug his beloved wife.
And then he died. My client was utterly and completely lost. What can she do to survive the rest of her years when all of her life she had Doug to lean on!? As it does in too many cases it really got deathly scary for my client. Suicide ideation became a living nightmare. The trauma from childhood all rushed back as so often does in cases like this…compounded with her her lifeline, her husband, leaving her by dying…was just too much. And just when you think this is all anyone could stand another worst case life event happened: Beth’s grandson (of twins) passed away suddenly at the tender age of 22! Losses tend to pile up in enormous proportions for some souls.
I can’t remember how Beth found me, but she did. Sitting in that chair the first day with her tears rolling down her face, stifling back sobs I so wanted to prove to her she was much more than all of the pain. I told her my story. Beth listened with wide eyes as I shared my own journey to self-actualization. She saw me, sitting there, all fine and dressed and alive and thriving — and about to show her how to feel the same peace in her core, her heart. I talked of my beloved deceased son,Trevor, who died a horrific death at the age of 25. I told her the truth, that after his death people seemed to leave me in droves. My own family. I said I began to realize my family was never my real family…that I suffered emotional abuse and neglect from the time I was born and because it was all I knew I let it happen all the way up until my late 40s. I shared how hypnotherapy connected me back to life. Beth said she instantly believed I could help her and we began.
Beth first signed up for a series of hypnotherapy sessions designed to approach her unique challenges. We had a lot of work to do so she committed herself to yet another series while her growth was emerging. Ten sessions in all. Before we began the progression to emotional wellness she made the decision that she wanted to, and was worth healing. She had to be on board for emotional empowerment or none of this would work. Beth’s ‘girl’ (unconscious strength, power, confidence and control) was ready to get down to business and she let her conscious critical mind take a rest as she explored and healed her incredibly wounded child within.
It took work to build a willingness to look at that what must be looked at. But we got there. Using various hypnosis therapies we got through the clutter, pain, extremely difficult emotional responses from life events. Eventually, within a few weeks, Beth realized her own mission and internal power to make it happen. After only a few hypnotic / therapy sessions she was amazed at what she was now feeling (energy, confidence, self-esteem, hope, faith, passion for life)!
She Prepares to Fly on her Own!
After Beth completed seven sessions she told me she was considering learning hypnosis and hypnotherapy to work with the elderly, especially those in hospice. It seems all folks in pain and despair are offered by doctors these days are drugs to stunt feelings; to essentially just shut them up. Nothing is done about the feelings and troubling emotions and anxiety that come with ageing. The medical community just mask it all up and somehow think it will go away. It doesn’t. It never goes away if drugged. Beth gets that now and wants to get out there to make a difference with her peers!
Beth has been intimately practicing hypnosis in my therapeutic chair, and the results are so empowering has now signed up to take a course in Vancouver to make herself a Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist! Will you please think about this for a moment and understand the magnitude of the healing in this soul? 75 year old Beth’s goal is to either work or volunteer to in hospice or palliative care using hypnosis to relieve the emotional pain that goes with dying! I can assure you of this fact, Beth, if ANYONE can and will make this happen for her clients. She is alive. She is thriving…and because of her upcoming career she is going to continue to spread her angel dust every where she goes. I am blessed to know this amazing woman!
People of trauma do make the best healers. If they can find a way to recover emotionally and mentally they seem to want to give back the same gift. That is how I found my way to my humble hypnotherapy practice. Every day I get to go and work with people just like Beth and facilitate them back the life they were intended to have! How FREAKING LUCKY can I get!!!
I have tears in my eyes tonight as today was the last professional hypnotherapy session I’ll have with Beth. She is strong. She is confident. She has the internal power to make anything happen that she wants. We decided to keep in touch and it will be my pleasure to continue to know this amazing amazing woman, who came from a place so painful even I couldn’t imagine; and yet is able to find a new life passion at 75 years of age. THAT’S A MIRACLE FOLKS!
We are all miracles when we decide to heal the past. God bless anyone in pain as they read this. If you cannot afford hypnotherapy please go to YouTube (not the entertainment kind, that never lasts and barely anyone can be hypnotized in that fashion) and learn about the process for yourself. Dr. Brian Weiss has some really good inductions you can gain peace from. You will be amazed at how strong your mind is when you learn how to get rid of the old clutter and teach yourself to love and have self compassion instead of fear, guilt, worry, resentment and the uglies that have no place destroying an otherwise good life and potential journey.
Thank you Beth, for touching me so deeply with your life experiences. You amaze me…I am in awe. Doug is looking down on you and doing his happy dance for your new chapter in this lifetime. That is a fact!
- Names and certain unimportant details have been altered to protect my client.
Note: There are some countries/states/provinces who do not permit hypnotherapy to be used for depression and anxiety. I guess those places want to support the local gazillion dollar pharmaceutical conglomerates. Sorry for my cynicism in advance! The good news is many licensed psychiatrists and psychologists have hypnotherapy certification as well, and are certainly allowed to work with trauma. Please do some research.
“The greatest success in providing lasting change occurred with hypnosis (93% recovery after 6 sessions), followed by behaviour therapy (72% recovery after 22 sessions), and then psychotherapy (38% recovery after 600 sessions).” –Alfred A. Barrios, PhD in Psychotherapy Magazine, Volume 7, Number 1
Cherylann Thomas, B.Sc.Crim.,CH,t is Registered with the International Medical and Dental Hypnotherapy Association. She specializes in cases of depression, anxiety, fears & phobias, panic, grief, loss, abandonment, childhood trauma…as well as weight loss and other self-defeating habits you care to say goodbye to. Call for more information by visiting her website at http://www.mindmiracleshypnotherapy.ca or like her on Facebook at http://www.facebook.com/mindmiracleshypnotherapy