As I awaken my innate senses I am concerned about the state of mind of the people. I think they are insane. Or slaves.
Evidence is flowing in that right brain oppression has created a dark place for much of the population who live in the depression of darkness. Introducing a sure way to understand for yourself how well you are seeing things. Sleeping minds can feel lethargic, heavy, unable to see the flowers, or smell the coffee. Human senses are manipulated negatively by trauma, emotional reaction, and chemicals. Unsuspecting good people may experience very real issues with their living senses for survival if denied the opportunity of Free Will.
The focus on left brain intelligence where memory, numbers and logic exists to come to a proven scientific conclusion, makes mental pygmies of the people. We seem to have succumbed to the status quo, against the right brain oriented spirit. Up to 80% of the population could be right brain hemisphere beings who find it just as difficult to live in a left brain world, as the left handed feel using the right hand or the right hand using the left. It doesn’t feel good for a reason – it’s not the way they work. When we finally allow the left handed to use the left hand his work is just as good as any right handed person. Am I wrong? Do I make sense to you? Because this is just coming to me now and making perfect sense – all from my imagination guessing at things.
How depressed would the left-handed person be if they had to use their right hand – because someone else said so? What kind of work do you think they would produce for you?
Eventually, when working against the current we are going to get tired, sick and drown.
Insomnia, sight (losing things right in front of you), hearing, tasting, smelling, hunger, sexual arousal, body temperature and blood pressure senses are affected, as well as many other senses needed for human survival like insight and common sense. Symptoms will include mental, emotional and spiritual disconnection, low energy and sensations of mental imbalance. Physically the body can experience IBS, Fibromyalgia, Chronic Fatigue, Migraine Headaches, Insomnia, skin disorders, and worse. Everything coming from unconscious mind affects the human body experience if the brain is not nurtured, exercised, developed.
Okay, all of that boring negative news we need to know aside, let’s do some brain exploring just for giggles because I know you probably don’t sense a lot of fun every day living in a ‘inside the lines’ world:
First, give yourself a break. Go get a cookie or a treat of some kind no one else would approve of, and just sit down in a quiet dark place, the bathroom if necessary. Decide it’s okay to go back in time when you use to play pretend, imaginary games. At the very least, it can’t hurt.
Allow permission to unwind and relax for three hours or three minutes – the imagination can work at the speed of light, and there are no rules.
Are you ready to learn why we may be experiencing so much mental illness and addictive behavior?
What if I started by telling you there is nothing wrong with the sick at heart that a look at the root cause can’t fix? Are you interested in getting to the bottom of emotional and mental imbalance?
This discussion would be incomplete if I didn’t start off talking about what is literally making about half of the school population emotionally and spiritually sick. For me I could not tolerate public education in elementary and secondary school and I’ve figured out why the place made me so very unhappy in spirit.
This is important and we need more empathy if our kids are going to get anywhere…
Trying to cope in a row style environment, remembering facts and figures was hard and boring to me. I somehow knew I don’t need to know everything they want to force me to learn, I can teach myself how to think. Get me to Grade four where I can problem solve, read, write, communicate with civil behavior and I’ll be fine. I know now my learning style did not suit left brain academy at all. I started off on the wrong foot. The left one.
In Grade 1 we had these IQ testing standards and I remember the teacher saying as soon as we finished our exam booklet to quietly go outside until all of the other children were finished. Well, that’s all Cherylann needed to pretend to answer all of them correctly as fast as possible without looking at the questions. Just filled in the grey squares and off I go to play – first one out.
Of course the system thought I was disabled in some way from the beginning because of that first impression brought on by a little girl who just wanted to end the unhappy classroom experience. From that moment on my life took a turn for the worse and lost years of education I’ll never get back. I failed grade 2. That was the first year I remember feeling a deep seated depression settling in my spirit. No one had any confidence in me even though I could tell time before my brother who was two years older than me, and I was reading way beyond anyone else I knew. I wrote poetry and was so good even my mother liked my written thought sometimes although she nor I saved anything. It was rare for me to have any credit in school until I found my own way back starting at my age of 21.
Let me give you a couple of examples on how public school was no help in my emotional or academic growth. Grade 8 Math said I did nothing that semester, and I finally dropped out of school in grade 10 after the huge disappointment I received from the one class I did like, English: We were told for 50% of the grade to write a book of poetry. All different kinds, Haiku, Couplet, Limerick, Free Verse…omg I was in heaven! Finally I was going to bring home an “A” rather than the usual D’s and F’s or Incomplete’s with “U” for Unsatisfactory effort. Then the system kicked me in the ass right out the door when the assignment had an added requirement: I had to illustrate each poem. People who get my brain will feel my pain in the idea of drawing pictures! It will RUIN EVERYTHING! In the poetry there is passion, in my drawing we barely have a Kindergarten level ability of even staying in the lines. It was a horrifying assignment that sucked all of my passion right out me until I found myself again. I refused to illustrate those poems, wanting to show off my poetic art, and only received a C, and the teacher said I should have had an incomplete. I am creative, but in my own unique ways that didn’t include fine arts.
So I did what any other free thinking right brain person would do, run away from home to escape the madness. That’s a nice way to frame things but I want you to know my awareness about myself then was nothing like the self-awareness of I have myself today. I was a worthless no value person who was filled with self doubt and even hatred, in my mind back in the day. A bad girl in my mind, however mislead.
I look back today and am in awe of how my life came together so unconsciously perfectly well, and how I made it is anyone’s guess. I am a miracle but that’s another story I’ll share another time.
Speaking of guessing and getting back to the spirit:
I think guessing is the secret to everything. I am conscious of our right brain capabilities lately in my work as a Clinical Hypnotherapist. I work with some seriously depressed and anxious women and men who are collapsing in the same left-brain oriented world that I almost drowned in before them. All of this memory, order, perfection, lines, rules, technology, is making people sick. We worship and embrace logical training and is now (or has always, I don’t know) the dominate force of our people. It is the only side of the brain respected or valued in this, and most other worldly cultures.
The problem is men and women were created equal, but not the same. It’s so obvious to me I can’t believe no one thought of this before. We have such a completely different physical and mental mind it’s amazing no one said anything to make me think again about how important Math 8 would be, considering the trauma it caused my happy spirit. We need to ask why doctors only studied the male body for research until recently when female forms are the one’s with all of the tools for life? How can they compare the sexes at all? Why no man still understands a woman is because he isn’t one. It’s part of the plan for us to be different, but we spend so much time trying to be the same as men instead of our own amazing selves.
This is where the exciting part comes in for women everywhere and to come – it turns out our part of the brain makes us the inventors of the world too! We are Albert Einstein, Thomas Edison, and Alexander Bell, and all of the one’s who made this world what it is today because they were allowed to imagine things without shaming. Airplanes and wild ideas of internet connect was just an idea floating around someone’s right brain. The imagination. If that imagination can connect with the senses for life; sight, sound, taste, smell, touch – and intuition – you can count on a manifestation in reality. The creator. That’s our gift. We have ideas, imagination, and the creative passion within us that would make this world one hell of a place to live. Almost perfection if you think about it. Being allowed to imagine is all it takes.
Can men be right brain oriented and women be left? Absolutely. It’s true more women are right brain feminine but there are many right brain masculine. Gays, transgendered, ADHD (so-called) and other male types are right brain oriented in some areas and do not do well in school in many cases. Unless they are little lobotomized to obedience or something. The mind is is about spirit development, supposed to be, don’t you think?
The emotional imagination has been played with and manipulated for someone else’s benefit. Not mine. Instead of imagining and manifesting a good life for ourselves, we give the female sex up to the idea that we are born in sin. Fear, shame, anger are learned into the consciousness, darkening the heart to sleep until you hardly know it’s there anymore. This part of our being feels like it’s going insane. The unconscious spirit just can’t take it anymore! That’s what I think.
Imagine the imagination is exactly where your kind of wisdom is found? And it’s beyond left brain limits – it is infinite in emotional intelligence. The way we have evolved is an example…and it just keeps getting better. But never to perfection. It is infinite, flexible, relative, and does not know time.
The whole point is self-love and respect, and to count on you for your good life. The spirit can only awaken to universal wisdom if we know it is there. It is clear we have been led down the wrong road for our own spiritual sake with the judgement we place on men and women alike. It is never too late, and maybe all of our experiences was supposed to be how we were going to develop the soul all along anyway.
SENSES OF THE IMAGINATION
How do you solve problems and then thrive?
- Guess. If you don’t know the answer to something, use your imagination to figure out the problem. You know. You know everything. The more you believe the more you know. This is an amazingly fast way to open up the vault of the unconscious imagination. You know things, you have had life, lots of your experiences will remind you of the answer and it’s all stored right there in the unconscious ready to be accessed if you’d just go to the guess channel. I’ll tell you a secret, if you connect with yourself enough you might soon be connecting with your guides and the rest of the universe as well.
2. Put yourself into trance regularly. If you can’t see a Hypnotherapist then find a way to get out of your own way. Music, arts, look into a fire, whatever…you know how, you know everything. I have confidence in your innate talents and resources to put yourself into a calm state of mind where you don’t have to think for a while. 🙂
3. When in a trace state of mind begin to dream and fantasize using the mind’s eye. If you have difficulty understanding this, think of it as the same way you might have fantasies for sexual gratification, only this time you want to open up the juices of other senses for life. To create your imagination with any kind of clarity the dark ego emotional nonsense has to be removed. It’s okay, you don’t need them believe me. You really have to be willing to give up a lot of the ego. Use your imagination to balance the emotional senses. It won’t hurt your sex drive to focus on another fantasy, it might even help.
Friends, as we evolve into this next age emotions are sparking everywhere and it is going to get worse, you can imagine. This is your gift, your deal – emotions and they are love, compassion and empathy. That’s the heart under the ego of fear, shame, and anger. You feel unstable because you are waking up I suspect, and can sense things that go on in your life are not right, but can’t figure out what. It’s right brain oppression and you’re only just beginning an amazing journey now. It feels unstable because no one is agreeing with your thinking that you can hardly deny anymore. Right brain people keep silent and I share from my heart to be an example of the opposite. I hope you find your purpose and inspire others with your mind. It is special. It is very special. Finally.
For Suffering Sensitive Men and Women
You can come up with ideas to leave a controlling or abusive relationship. Find a way because you are smart like that so do it. Without consciousness the senses feel like insanity.
Men, they’re great too with their own unique talents, resources, and offerings to the world! But not everything is all about men, especially when the main right brainers are indeed women who have been very badly neglected in life offerings and benefits, and we are beginning to know it. I encourage the development of right brain education, in the way that suits the child’s spirit. I tell big pharma that drugging beautiful minds with medication that stays in the energy 24/7 should be a criminal offense, if they only knew the damage it was doing throughout North America.
Instead of using the imagination to scare yourself to death, try to turn the imagination around for better results and watch yourself blossom into the butterfly you were meant to be. What do you think all of those pretty butterflies are trying to tell you when they flutter by? Time to stand up and take your place at the table with all of the others now. If no one has invited you to equality and good life, find another way. You too will come up with all sorts of theories as you evolve. What if you are allowed? XXOO
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Cherylann Thomas, BASc.Crim., CH,t is a Clinical Hypnotherapist in West Kelowna, British Columbia.
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The more I engage in the practice of hypnosis the better insight from my unconscious I sense. Things are starting to look amazing. I hope you agree before they take this down !
Grab a coffee and enjoy a read that could change your life for the better instantly. I will point out some simple clues to recovery, and explain in easy terms the mind, brain, science and snake oil. To achieve this will you allow me to reframe some of the more traditional thinking? If nothing else but for a moment of emotional relief from the strict confines of medical science I want to show you there may be another reason for mental illness epidemic we are seeing destroy families across the nations.
If the diagnostic model for mental illness has been working for you and the treatment programs you have been offered appeal to you, keep doing what you are doing and please don’t let my ideas offend you. I have no intentions of changing anyone’s mind or method of treatment, I only share to inform another perspective that we could look at for the thrill of possibilities.
Well we have to give credit where credit is due. The pharmaceutical trillion dollar industry has done a very good job on making sure we think mental illness is a permanent part of life, that without drugs the situation is hopeless. Labels and mind and mood altering drugs have become the new way to deal with problems for all ages of people, from the elderly being most likely to be on a psychiatric drug (Vancouver Sun states 97% of elderly); women next followed by children being the most common consumers before men. We are rapidly giving in to sickly diagnosis of incurable mental illness which can come within minutes of sitting in front of a doctor. How can they know you have a Serotonin problem when they can’t even be bothered to take a blood test? They say mentally ill people need drugs to balance something, but have never proven the imbalance to the individual. I know I’ve been offered and accepted anti-depressants by almost every single doctor I encountered beginning in about 1998. At first we are told it was for only three months, then I must find another way to peace.
I use to blindly (not using my own senses) believe a man (or anyone) could know what is wrong with my body and mind without a scientific test. How is that for giving up will to another? How do we come to that place as equal partners to other humans?
It is a fact of life that the people feeling weak or vulnerable are at a risk of being led somewhere that works against their own good senses for a satisfying life experience.
It is no secret in my community that I present myself as appalled at the current way we treat mental illness in Canada. To me it is not only keeping people sick, it is contagious through the family and generations to come. Popping pills is NORMAL and we wonder why kids need drugs to cope and find their own way to get the job done.
Addictions continue to take over the will and lives of good people who become dependant on everything and everyone other than themselves. We have much fear around trusting our own good judgement and intuition on how to live, and live well.
I think we have turned our will and our lives over to the power of others – is that what we are suppose to do?
Can it make us sick?
See if these unconscious bits of wisdom that comes to me doesn’t appeal to your better judgement:
Depression can be the best thing that ever happens to a person. It is a message from the unconscious that a sense (or more than one sense) is out of balance and needs attention. It could be a spiritual emergency.
Self medicating is not going to help in the long run because it shuts down the part of the brain that is suffering, the right hemisphere.
Right brain is where ideas, emotions, and creativity for problem solving live.
Recovery becomes next to impossible to tap into while on long-term acting anti-depressants, which are designed to dull the senses for emotional pain relief. Drugs are supposed to inhibit sight, sounds, feelings, tastes and smells to protect the patient from…life.
What is less known is the pharmaceuticals also affect the senses of sexual arousal, hunger, insight and sometimes common sense – putting children at risk of being neglected or placed in dangerous situations, depending on how strength legally prescribed drug the parent is taking. Just because they do not give a ‘high’ does not mean those senses aren’t blocked.
Living with dulled senses for any length of time is not healthy to any reasonable thinking person.
In my opinion the whole chemistry theory simply cannot work for a spiritual energy, but this isn’t the first time I’ve sensed people in authority were wrong.
Like the time my pastor insisted (and I willingly believed) women bleed because of a punishment from God, and my role on earth was to serve man. No wonder I was tired, ashamed, and felt hopeless.
Ideas may not flow to the blocked mind and yet that is where our true answers live. Think of depression as a clear signal that change is needed in some area of life. If we cannot hear what the sense of depression is saying, how on earth can we end the pain and grow forward?
The imagination is what gets folks into trouble and it is what leads the way out. But if we have no ability to imagine the best for ourselves we risk manifesting what we are imagining in the darkness.
I ask you to begin to deliberately imagine a better life you can enjoy. You are allowed to fantasize the best for yourself besides in sexual situations!
To exercise your very own intuit; find a creative outlet that seems like fun to you. Colour, draw, write, or otherwise focus on something that will take you out of your head and in new light, so to speak. Play, pretend, enjoy something, no matter how small – as often as possible. Decide what is enjoyable for you, and do that.
Give up the control and responsibility of everyone else for extended periods of time – and never let anyone control you away from your peace.
Please become aware of the tapes you play in your mind about yourself, your life, and your problems.
The more we tend to focus, obsess, worry, the more of the same will we seem to bring about. For example, thinking about fat all day long will literally create more fat!
Maybe you can’t control the world at large, but you can get yourself into good mental shape if you think you matter enough.
Imagine you are responsible for one life and if you can manage that you pass the test and win.
If you build a foundation that works for you everything else will fall into place.
The universe will respond to your energy and reveal opportunities that will show you what you are really made of when connected to yourself.
If you are depressed because you didn’t learn solid coping skills, or were not really conditioned to sense a healthy image of self, please know that you are not permanently damaged! DON’T LET ANYONE TELL YOU THAT, please.
It is never too late to change your imagination and gain these tools to thrive in life in a manner that actually works for you.
Begin to allow the idea that you are much more than this. Inside of you is a miracle just waiting to be revealed I promise.
I’m winding down: This one is going to be hard for you, I know: But,
Be gentle with yourself, okay? No more tough love.
Chances are others were not always gentle with you and you’ve learned very well how to take over the emotional whippings.
Or, if you tend to be hardon others around you – maybe leave them alone.
Live. Let live. Let go. Grow.
Clear the fearful, shamed or angry energy in any way that works for you.
Aren’t you sick of people being mad at you, giving you unwanted advice, meddling in your business like you don’t have a lick of sense yourself?
Take yourself back at any time by speaking up against control.
Set boundaries. We teach people HOW to treat us. Teach them well.
Don’t do to others what you wouldn’t want done to you.
The stress of everyone else’s emotional reactions is just too much so please don’t inflict unnatural fears and worries on others to pick up
And don’t let anyone do it to you.
Remember, you are responsible for ONE soul this journey.
Treat yourself and others kindly, keep a clear conscience for peace of mind.
I ask that you never push yourself to do what you are not ready to do. You will know when you have had enough, and not a moment before.
Go with flow, not against it
Don’t be afraid or ashamed to seek out help in a way that makes good sense to you.
Depression is sick, not stupid.
Use your senses of insight to make decisions about how you want to get your life back.
Ensure the person or program you seek assistance from respects you as an individual, and has uplifting, motivating, inspirational ways to get you to your life recovery.
Recovery does not have to be mean, harsh, or punishing. In fact, if it feels nasty the odds of it working is unlikely
Stay away from fads and fashions that have no clinical results.
People spend thousands of dollars trying to find the easiest, less painful way to self and end up with the least success.
Hypnotherapy is fast, it is safe, it is lovely and it works – but if the client is not willing to put any effort into the treatment – well, you get out of anything what you put into it.
Research and then ask yourself for the best answer on the kind of help you seek from others.
Talking about your problems is good. Once is enough. After that you are beating a dead horse.
Going on and on and on is embedding the issues into the unconscious creating bad feelings all day long.
One good idea is to stop focusing on how you got to this place, and ask yourself what the solutions might be.
You know everything if you take the time to ask yourself. Isn’t it time?
Please like and share if you find this helpful. I am soon going to be producing a video blog so that I can just say all of this with my face right there for you to get to know. Let’s start talking about some other solutions than what we are currently being offered by the medical establishment.
Be like me; take back control over your comfortable happy life 🙂
Cherylann Thomas, BASc.Crim., CH,t is a Clinical Hypnotherapist working out of the Family Wellness Centre in West Kelowna, BC. She has made a name for herself specializing in grief, loss, depression, anxiety and believes she is successful because of her amazing story of how she came to be at peace with some serious life situations that would bring most to their knees. Cherylann copes happily with anything that comes her way today. She says, “Bring it!” to life challenges because she has a sincere belief that no problem is ever too big it cannot be fixed!
I notice a disturbing pattern emerging when it comes to mental illness and women. First, the current system seems to be creating even more sickness and suicide for the multitudes and masses, which conflicts with my good senses of what a medical community should be doing for the betterment of society. Second, I believe the cause of so much unhappiness has little to do with illness, and more to do with oppression of right brain talents and resources.
I know what wonderful and miraculous things can happen when creative folks are allowed to express themselves exactly how they are without having to compare their gifts to left brain oriented counterparts. I see women and men regain self-esteem very quickly with just learning a few new ideas for WHY they may be feeling so mentally sick other than what they are being told by doctors and pharmaceutical commercials.
What if mental illness is really an unconscious reaction to bullshit?
Why does it seem like more women than men are ‘crazy?’ How come no one ever asks how to cure mental illness and seem perfectly happy accepting drugs as the solution to unconscious despair? Schizophrenia is a mental disorder characterized by abnormal social behavior and failure to understand what is real according to Wikipedia. Whose real? How come in many eastern countries schizophrenia folks are used as ‘wise men and women’ who have great insight to things most people cannot see? These are just a few questions I have after years of living my life as a woman in a society that insists my body and mind must work like the male ones or I am ‘abnormal.’ I believe women (and men) are brainwashed into believing how they are supposed to feel and be, because it works better for someone else.
Imagine a world that nourishes, respects, and even admires women for their physiological differences? How much better can civilization be with a ‘feminine’ balance to masculine values? I wonder if one would feel mental in a world of left brain folks if they thought their right brains mattered too?
Women have been traditionally ‘known’ to be the crazy ones at home, work, and in the psyche wards. What if ‘mental illness’ is really ‘right brain intelligence neglect?’ We live in a left brain world where conditioning and development is almost entirely based on preferences of logic and order. It all starts in grade one. Everything one needs to know about the right brain is apparently learned by Kindergarten because that is when the imagination part of us begins to get stifled, shut down and shut up to make room for academics. Sure we have some music and art classes available to help students along, but mostly we will find left brain activities of memory development, algebra, and even sports as the preferred activities, and this is about as interesting as going to the dentist all day long for some people and so problems ensue when one does not live up to the expectations of the educational system we have available.
Soon we may wonder what is wrong with girls who suffer in math or boys who disrupt procedures in the class. Why is everyone else going to school like good little boys and girls, but others are simply not fitting in, and ‘failing?’ Many children are now being labeled as diseased in some way, mentally if they do not keep up with the way things are. It’s becoming ridiculous to me to see so many children and adults drugged and put away for life with a label of mental illness because we do not care to look deeper.
Displaced children grow up with thoughts of inadequacy, not belonging, and no voice. Powerlessness in a system that actually works against the amazing minds of right brain thinkers creates so much turmoil a person can hardly cope after a while. Soon the person may begin to shut themselves down in fear of their own differences.
Mental illness can feel debilitating. There is no sense of self power or control when one is hidden under blankets day in and day out with the television blaring in the background to drown out the destructive thoughts. Drugs, alcohol or food are often introduced to cut the incessant misery sense. What about anxiety? What a nightmare that is when they suddenly have an inability to breathe while driving, or in a public place. What is the answer we have for these suffering souls? Ativan, Xanax, Clonazapam. Imagine what it might be like to feel worthless, unlovable, wants to give up, and die. Suicide has become so epidemic it is now the number one killer of our youth — more than accidents and murder put together.
Whatever we are doing to help mentally ill and addicted people does not seem to be working. In fact, it is making things much worse.
People are dying in record numbers by their own hand!
What if the problem isn’t mental illness, rather mental deprivation of the senses which can be restored with a little bit of attention to the real problems in society?
Are you ready for a new perspective on that ever so popular DSM, the Diagnostic and Statistic Manual that every doctor in North America refers to as a bible of sorts when deciding what is wrong with women medically, when it comes to mental symptoms?
If someone’s answer to our problems makes a little bit of sense we may inadvertently buy into horrible permanent life decisions for temporary emotional relief. Vulnerable folks are easily convinced on the idea there is something wrong with their biology because nothing else seems to make sense in their world. The so-called science about Serotonin being discovered as the culprit to mental illness is still being passed around as truth. Just Google, “Serotonin Lie” and see what you find. Every day we are seeing cases of pharmaceutical marketing literally driving people completely away from themselves and their own good senses and on drugs actually designed to inhibit the life of the right brain!
If anyone tells me I have an incurable mental or physical illness you better believe I need to see the blood work or x-ray to prove that today. No longer do I take the word of someone who cannot possibly understand my world as they figure I may have a biological problem, rather than something else going on. For mental illness no evidence of chemistry sickness exists even though people believe this to be the case. Sometimes a confused doctor will say no one really knows what causes mental illness so it could be DNA genetically passed down with no reason at all.
Perhaps. Maybe not. My clients tell me they get tired of doctors guessing treatment until the right drug is discovered by accident. Stuffing symptoms with mind altering chemicals makes as much sense as someone taking a pain medication for a physical reason forever, doesn’t it? It should be RARE not the common practice to offer life time brain-pain medication.
When can we find out why people feel mental? For some it is simply easier to pack it in and be sick with permission from the system. Many women agree to be mental so they can have a government sponsored disability income in a corporate society that offers a fraction of work income and benefits their left brain brothers are earning. We have made women responsible for everything to do with the family, accountable for keeping everything together without assistance from a wayward spouse, and then pay her peanuts when she needs to work to put food in the kids mouths. I’d rather go on mental disability, thanks. It is all about survival and women will do what they must to keep going; some are brilliant at working the system that tries to keep them powerless, afraid, and ashamed. You go girl!
Isn’t it time to fix the problem before life is completely wasted away? I hear time and time again, “My depression keeps me stuck. I am anxious and stressed about everything. I have a feeling like I don’t belong somehow. I don’t matter. Everyone walks all over me. I am too sensitive. There is something wrong with me. I can’t get along with the people everyone else gets along with, and, I can’t seem to learn the way everyone else is learning.”
Seeing things with new eyes
Let’s take a look at some of the labels the DSM and current traditional medicine in a new light, and I’ll suggest an alternative option for rescue and recovery for each ‘disease’ as listed:
Depression — Lives in the past. Often caused by a serious denial of self-love, a traumatic event, or conditioned feelings of powerlessness. The depressed person is often brainwashed to believe they are financially needy or dependant in an unhealthy relationship they feel they must have for survival. Unconscious self anger results in confusion. Wrongful thoughts become so debilitating the body lives in a constant state of tension, pain and exhaustion.
Rescue and Recovery — Get out of the environment and find a place to re-group – alone. Figure out why you have taken over the emotional abuse (in thought) and learn how to retrain your thinking and imagination to the satisfaction of your spirit. Stop looking at the problem and begin wondering about solutions for your own comfort, peace, and happiness. Find a way to matter to you. Your gift, the right brain (imagination), has infinite ideas, start looking there. Even more importantly, find a way to not need someone else for survival as that kind of relationship can turn you into a miserable slave working against your own life. Chronic unhappiness is a clue something is wrong in LEARNED THINKING.
Make a new life plan when you are up to it. Women don’t get defeated overnight and it will take some time to regain self, but you can count on a right brain woman to find a way to get the job done if she is interested in a better life.
Anxiety — Lives in the future. Severe fear to believe in self. Unconscious screaming, “Something is wrong! Fix it!” We are finding that anxious people are so intuitive and powerful when we sense a conflict of conscious thinking to unconscious knowing it can feel like one is losing touch with reality. And you are. Intuit can hardly stand self-denial and unconscious will create sensations of panic when we do not listen to our own infinite wisdom about the present.
Rescue and Recovery — Dare to look at what scares you, really. Hypnosis and hypnotherapy work miracles for the anxious because in treatment they actually figure out for themselves how to listen and obey their own inner voice, and the answers feel like amazing empowerment for better living. 100% recovery is not only possible, it is probable for those who believe they can be healed. Sadly most people are unaware of recovery and end up drinking or drugging the right brain sensations instead, all the way to institution and death as we are seeing in epidemic proportions. Get to the root of the anxiety for complete recovery of life. If anxiety based on a recent traumatic experience is the only problem it can be cured in one simple hypnosis session.
Bi-Polar Disorder — This requires an entire reexamination on the female anatomy and life experiences. In many cases the diagnosis is brought on after the ingestion of anti-depressant medication, which is known to create feelings of mania in some people (people who don’t need antidepressants I’m thinking). As long as the diagnosis and pills are allowed to be handed out recovery is slim to none as the beholder succumbs to living down to the ideals of instability. The powerful brain drugs that are dispensed under the name of ‘safety’ will kill the spirit eventually, in almost every case. Until just a few decades ago crazy women use to be given brain surgery (Lobotomy) to remove her emotional being. I remember a girlfriend’s mother had her emotional response removed (located in the right temple brain) and my friend said she could slap her mother’s face and Mom wouldn’t care. She’d forget about it real soon if she did figure out she was insulted or hurt.
Isn’t that a nice way to live? The friend said her mother’s emotions were taken out when she was 20 years old after being forced to marry a man twice her age due to pregnancy at 15. Living now with 4 children in an abusive home it became too much to handle, and so she ‘left’ mentally and almost burned the house down. This woman was a danger to herself and others. Police were involved and the husband told the doctors if they didn’t fix his wife he would kill her. Doctors fixed mom for dad’s better health. The surgery was done in 1959 and a common practice in the times. My friend said her mother had two more children and never complained again. Life was good for everyone…else.
I remember the movie “The Stepford Wives” released in about the 1980’s, and have never quite forgotten at how powerful and mind numbing brainwashing can be when oppressed people are trained to be the servants for others, and no complaining from the wives because their ‘thinking’ belongs to someone else — they believe (consciously) they WANT to live for others.
There are many examples of religions brainwashing the masses into belief systems that utterly ignore female gender brains other than to be used for service.
Unconsciously we may create mental illness when we deny our own purpose.
Women are being diagnosed with Bi-polar Disorder (false, unsubstantiated diagnoses) and those drugs will make the victim not care at all about what was going on within the family, or life. Be glad we didn’t live in the 1940’s or 50’s where the powerful doctors could have removed your emotions forever without permission. But they still work to manipulate the mind into thinking we can do without emotions by using right brain stoppers.
Today we have what is called “Chemical Lobotomy’s” in the form of prescription psychiatric medication that anyone can get at any time with the right ‘story.’ Yes, some people need to be put away safely and drugged for better comfort while imprisoned. I have yet to hear a successfully medicated person living a happy life to old age, there may be a few cases, but they are certainly rare. Life is never smooth for the chronically mentally ill and so I am suggesting we stop telling people to give up to the illness!
If one believes in psychiatric diagnosis the hope for full life recovery is diminished because there is no solution other than expensive pharmaceuticals that often increase over time.
Little to no effort is given to figure out where the serious mood swings come from other than, “She’s a nut bar for no particular reason.” Having very little credibility in a world where women use to be considered property of men it isn’t too difficult to believe she is not worth saving if she isn’t taking care of everyone else the way she is supposed to be. I am not being negative here, it is time to look at some truth and let’s investigate these alarming throw away people whom I no longer believe were “born insane.” I witness full recovery of mental people who decide to forsake the others to save themselves.
Rescue and recovery — Figure out for yourself if you have a serious life threatening mental illness, or may have been wrongly perceived through the eyes of someone else. I am telling people without hesitation today to really check out the facts of the case before giving up as a mentally unstable person for life. See my next blog where I will outline many amazing women who were able to rise above their traditional roles and make remarkable contributions to society after being labeled ‘fruit cakes’ with no credible value their entire lives. These women are proof enough for me that anyone can escape oppression – and the mental illness philosophies that are keeping female oppression alive.
ADHD — Disruptive problem child who cannot concentrate or stay focused. A right brain oriented (more often male) bored to the core with the left brain training in the education system. Needs right brain stimuli and acceptance of the difference. She or he often has spiritual sensations and intelligence beyond the imagination. If allowed to develop naturally in any creative realm we will witness this child later change the world with their amazing creative brains. The greatest inventors and genius ones can be labeled as ADD or ADHD. Albert Einstein had early childhood learning and behavior problems in school but his mother never told him about the nasty report cards about how he was a dummy in the eyes of the school. Good thing, right?
Rescue and Recovery — If a child is unhappy in his or her learning environment find one that works. I understand not all parents can afford special education for their amazing child but if you create some questions with right brain imagination the left brain will find a way. Be willing to see there is a problem underneath the child’s acting out behavior. Understand children may only be negatively reacting to an intolerable learning environment. It is important to believe your own eyes when it comes to your child. If they didn’t act up at home then it is coming from someplace else.
Borderline Personality Disorder — The list of ‘symptoms’ in the DSM for this label is far removed from truth. They say she is a trouble maker, instigator, and drama queen. She is known for making up stories about good people and are unbelievable with their accusations. Freud diagnosed sexually abused girls who acted out as having fantasies about their fathers, living in an alternate reality. Can you imagine being molested and then told you are making it up? By respected science? Imagine being shamed to tears in a court full of disbeliever’s with suspicious ‘allegations’ of sexual abuse. Ignorance continues with dismissive thoughts as women continue to live without validation of horrific experiences while being re-victimized in the circuits (circus?) of the justice system.
This unlikable ‘borderline’ creature is a truth teller. She likely speaks up poorly because she has no idea how to articulate her needs since her needs don’t matter to anyone, anyway. In this woman’s story she is rarely validated with her thinking — and this can lead to feelings of internal rage. Like a volcano about to erupt the emotional pain is felt deeply. Listen, people do not like the truth. Truth can be too uncomfortable to even glance at, and so it is easier to sacrifice the life of a truthfully outspoken woman who already feels powerless than it is to investigate the truth she is trying to educate the world with eyes, ears and feelings wide open.
Keep in mind I do believe there is ‘real’ Borderline (Borderline Psychopath) people who have little or no feelings of fear, guilt, shame. I am suggesting professional opinions by mental health humans are fantasies made up to make the person feel she is okay being nuts because others are crazy just like her; see the list of symptoms? That’s the proof they have when they want someone to believe they are unstable people. The problem is you can show a list of anything to anyone and they will find a place of belonging if it reaches a need of the patient to be heard in some way. Any way.
Rescue and Recovery — She is on her own. People are unwilling to believe in the imagination of a BPD and there is no help in the current system other than drugs, but odds are she will refuse to take them and go on suffering without love or acceptance for herself. If you have been reduced this kind of judgemental diagnosis you must take back your own control. Find a way to love every part of you, even the difficult parts you’ve been trained to hate too. Practice speaking up and teaching people new ways to treat you. If you cannot find a way on your own reach out for help to build your confidence and self-esteem. An entirely new way to look at yourself is required because somehow mental conditioning growing up taught you self-doubt all the way to self-hatred like everyone else who does not like your ‘truth.’ BPD must learn to set boundaries about how they are viewed and treated by others.
Postpartum Depression — A mental condition only given to women who gave birth and yet adoptive mothers suffer with this so-called mental illness as well. Once again chemistry imbalance is blamed. Real cause is extreme mental exhaustion and depletion of the senses with increased life responsibilities. A new 24 hour clock to live by alone can make one sick. Mother often has to concern herself about work and finances as well as carry the weight of managing the baby, house, and everyone else’s feelings but her own. Unconscious doesn’t like self-neglect yet the well-trained conscious mind says she is not enough if she complains. Having to be super-human leads to collapse eventually.
Rescue and Recovery — Throw away the idea you must be all and do all at your own expense. Demand help and don’t feel guilt or shame while doing so. It takes two to bring a child into the world, not just one. As long as a woman believes she must keep up with impossible demands she will, until she cracks completely in some cases. Self care is needed if no one else seems to. Don’t be a victim, be in charge!
PreMenstrual Syndrome (PMS) — Mental disease caused by cramping and discomfort during monthly cycle of a woman. Too often something is very wrong in the organs of female anatomy and pain goes undiagnosed due to ignorance and lack of understanding and research. In addition to medical doctors unable to find a suitable solution for this very real problem. Employers are allowed to show no mercy or tolerance for the different biological make-up of female staff and provide nothing to assist in the need for some accommodation. Women have been conditioned to not speak of their ‘problem’ and is often shamed into silence for her ‘difference to men’ and can feel irritable because unconscious Intuit (one’s truth) will respond negatively to the thought she deserves to live in shame and pain.
Rescue and recovery — The shaming of physiological differences to men needs to be replaced with empathy (most of the rule makers are males who would never be able understand the unique needs of women – and so need to be educated). If no one else cares about your pain, YOU must care and take care of yourself in whatever way makes you most comfortable and happy. Use the right brain to imagine ideas for making yourself feel better during this time, and the left brain will find a way to make it happen for you. Two brains work together like magic when you believe in both of them!
Addiction — Inability to live sober in a world that seems upside down. At first some comfort is felt in the indulgence of drugs or alcohol, but after a while that right brain is going to reject that solution and create all sorts of added problems to the life.
Rescue and Recovery — First, get rid of any notion you are powerless. Find a way to believe in yourself and ability to control anything. Fill your imagination with thoughts of strength and empowerment. Addiction is self suicide, start recovery by figuring out why your life doesn’t seem to matter to you. There is a ‘learned’ reason.
The Intuit doesn’t like slavery. We are born free to survive, and thrive. However the best part of us (right brain imagination) goes unconsciously hay-wire when neglected and made to feel needy and dependent on others for survival. Dependency for happiness is simply not healthy for anyone.
I write this article to beg you to reconsider what might be really going on in society that is creating so much suffering and pain for women and children, and many men. Can we reframe this whole ‘women are crazy thing’ just for giggles and see if we can’t come up with a better solution to mental illness? How about we change everything right here and now instead of packing it in with acceptance of emotional torture and drugs?
Hypnosis and hypnotherapy are an amazing therapy for self-actualization. It helps one open the eyes to what the problem is, and how to find solutions to obtain happiness, peace of mind, and a comfortable sense of being. Control becomes possible when we believe in it for ourselves.
I have a feeling mental illness will be replaced with new exciting possibilities for all of us if we dare to allow all people the right to think the way they are born to think, not the way we want them to be for the better lives of everyone else.
Right brain can create a good or bad life. In spite of what we have been told about the imagination, why not deliberately go into the mind’s eye and use it to make yourself well again? “Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve.” Said respected philosopher and writer, Napoleon Hill.
Find a creative outlet you enjoy. Colour with crayons, engage a craft you wouldn’t mind spending hours doing, learn a new art that fascinates you, listen to or play music, read or write. Intuit feels happy and peaceful while creating so if you are fortunate enough to work in a right brain occupation your life will be much happier.
Remember when you were a small child you use to play ‘pretend’ with the imagination, before that got all cancelled in school norms — why not go back and play pretend about retraining your own mental thinking. Imagine you are amazing for a change. Fake you matter if you think you don’t. Your unconscious and body will respond with love!
Believe in your own eyes, ears, and feelings. You wouldn’t eat something that smelled or tasted bad because the senses are connected to the unconscious part that will wake up in the event of a bad food. Learn to trust all of your own good senses! Just because a story makes sense (fantasies of someone else are only true if you buy into that line of thought) does not make it your truth. Some people are trained very well to not say a word about their own truth to protect someone else. Others know how to manipulate the sensitive’s senses for their own selfish needs and gratification. They use emotional manipulation of shaming, fear, guilt, and even anger to get what they want from a person who feels weak or vulnerable.
Stop Waiting and Start Creating
Hopelessness is bound to set in when we deny our own value and existence. Isn’t it time to wonder why so many mental cases are ending up sicker than ever with the current mental health treatment of people? Perhaps women need to put their intuition and imaginations to work on how to educate and articulate what we know, but do not get to say out loud? Maybe some men who understand their own right brain intelligence will feel safer if they too are allowed to be whom they are innately.
When the left and right brain are allowed to work together as equal partners miracles happen. When only one side of the brain is developed the sense of mental imbalance is the result. We are literally working with half a brain.
*Mental illness can be a serious condition that is passed onto children as they watch, listen and learn how to cope from parents. Please find a way to rescue and recovery if you have a little bit of hope left in you. At the end of the day, only you really can change anything and it takes a belief there is better waiting as soon as you ask for more.
Cherylann Thomas, B.Sc.Crim.,CH,t is a Registered Clinical Hypnotherapist in the Okanagan Valley specializing in hypnosis for mental health, addictions, and spiritual identity. She has lived an amazing life of ups and downs beyond normal. This practitioner herself was raised in an abusive home taking on abusive self-thinking, and later experienced the extreme life trauma of losing her only beloved son to a car accident. Time and time again Cherylann found a way to rise above adversity and uses herself as a positive example of recovery using the wonders of right brain love, honour and development.
This could be my story. But it’s not. I am but a conduit to an amazing transformation in a woman I want to share with you. The background is very similar to my own so I feel blessed that I am able to witness yet another hypnotherapy miracle in action! Be forewarned, you may cry while reading some of this story, but at the end you will feel tears of joy for this lady!
75 year old *Beth came to me utterly broken. She was unable to speak almost, so very sick with emotional despair after the loss of her husband of some 55 years, preceding and following other piled up trauma that seemed impossible to work through and heal. It has been five years since his death but her symptoms were not improving with time.
I prayed to our Universal God for help to work with this client who seemed so frail and lost sitting in my big chair at the studio. I secretly pray for help with all of my clients but this one I really wanted to see results as soon as possible.
Her story is alarming. I do not believe in all of my years of counselling, life skills coaching, and as a Clinical Hypnotherapist to have heard such a horror story in a childhood background! Sexual molestation from infancy to teenager. Physical abuse. Maternal neglect. When Beth shared some of her stories with me I cried inside for that poor innocent child within this elderly, yet stunningly so youthful, lady before me.
Beth was somehow able to tuck all of her hurt and pain away for a life with her husband, whom she married when she was only 15 years old. She never told *Doug that he actually saved her very life in that house of horrors she was raised in. She didn’t tell him any of it until her parents were dead. He would have killed them, that she knew. She loved and appreciated her loving husband from saving her, loving her unconditionally, and protecting her for 55 years. Together they made a home, raised children and grandchildren, and grew to depend on each other for everything.
She was 70 when he died. Five years ago. Her world collapsed although the death was expected. During his dying journey, Doug, no matter how sick he was, got out of his bed and stood with his arms open to give his wife a hug in appreciation for her love and nursing. He could barely lift his head up in the end. But no matter what every night she would walk in to find him standing at the end of the bed wanting to hug his beloved wife.
And then he died. My client was utterly and completely lost. What can she do to survive the rest of her years when all of her life she had Doug to lean on!? As it does in too many cases it really got deathly scary for my client. Suicide ideation became a living nightmare. The trauma from childhood all rushed back as so often does in cases like this…compounded with her her lifeline, her husband, leaving her by dying…was just too much. And just when you think this is all anyone could stand another worst case life event happened: Beth’s grandson (of twins) passed away suddenly at the tender age of 22! Losses tend to pile up in enormous proportions for some souls.
I can’t remember how Beth found me, but she did. Sitting in that chair the first day with her tears rolling down her face, stifling back sobs I so wanted to prove to her she was much more than all of the pain. I told her my story. Beth listened with wide eyes as I shared my own journey to self-actualization. She saw me, sitting there, all fine and dressed and alive and thriving — and about to show her how to feel the same peace in her core, her heart. I talked of my beloved deceased son,Trevor, who died a horrific death at the age of 25. I told her the truth, that after his death people seemed to leave me in droves. My own family. I said I began to realize my family was never my real family…that I suffered emotional abuse and neglect from the time I was born and because it was all I knew I let it happen all the way up until my late 40s. I shared how hypnotherapy connected me back to life. Beth said she instantly believed I could help her and we began.
Beth first signed up for a series of hypnotherapy sessions designed to approach her unique challenges. We had a lot of work to do so she committed herself to yet another series while her growth was emerging. Ten sessions in all. Before we began the progression to emotional wellness she made the decision that she wanted to, and was worth healing. She had to be on board for emotional empowerment or none of this would work. Beth’s ‘girl’ (unconscious strength, power, confidence and control) was ready to get down to business and she let her conscious critical mind take a rest as she explored and healed her incredibly wounded child within.
It took work to build a willingness to look at that what must be looked at. But we got there. Using various hypnosis therapies we got through the clutter, pain, extremely difficult emotional responses from life events. Eventually, within a few weeks, Beth realized her own mission and internal power to make it happen. After only a few hypnotic / therapy sessions she was amazed at what she was now feeling (energy, confidence, self-esteem, hope, faith, passion for life)!
She Prepares to Fly on her Own!
After Beth completed seven sessions she told me she was considering learning hypnosis and hypnotherapy to work with the elderly, especially those in hospice. It seems all folks in pain and despair are offered by doctors these days are drugs to stunt feelings; to essentially just shut them up. Nothing is done about the feelings and troubling emotions and anxiety that come with ageing. The medical community just mask it all up and somehow think it will go away. It doesn’t. It never goes away if drugged. Beth gets that now and wants to get out there to make a difference with her peers!
Beth has been intimately practicing hypnosis in my therapeutic chair, and the results are so empowering has now signed up to take a course in Vancouver to make herself a Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist! Will you please think about this for a moment and understand the magnitude of the healing in this soul? 75 year old Beth’s goal is to either work or volunteer to in hospice or palliative care using hypnosis to relieve the emotional pain that goes with dying! I can assure you of this fact, Beth, if ANYONE can and will make this happen for her clients. She is alive. She is thriving…and because of her upcoming career she is going to continue to spread her angel dust every where she goes. I am blessed to know this amazing woman!
People of trauma do make the best healers. If they can find a way to recover emotionally and mentally they seem to want to give back the same gift. That is how I found my way to my humble hypnotherapy practice. Every day I get to go and work with people just like Beth and facilitate them back the life they were intended to have! How FREAKING LUCKY can I get!!!
I have tears in my eyes tonight as today was the last professional hypnotherapy session I’ll have with Beth. She is strong. She is confident. She has the internal power to make anything happen that she wants. We decided to keep in touch and it will be my pleasure to continue to know this amazing amazing woman, who came from a place so painful even I couldn’t imagine; and yet is able to find a new life passion at 75 years of age. THAT’S A MIRACLE FOLKS!
We are all miracles when we decide to heal the past. God bless anyone in pain as they read this. If you cannot afford hypnotherapy please go to YouTube (not the entertainment kind, that never lasts and barely anyone can be hypnotized in that fashion) and learn about the process for yourself. Dr. Brian Weiss has some really good inductions you can gain peace from. You will be amazed at how strong your mind is when you learn how to get rid of the old clutter and teach yourself to love and have self compassion instead of fear, guilt, worry, resentment and the uglies that have no place destroying an otherwise good life and potential journey.
Thank you Beth, for touching me so deeply with your life experiences. You amaze me…I am in awe. Doug is looking down on you and doing his happy dance for your new chapter in this lifetime. That is a fact!
- Names and certain unimportant details have been altered to protect my client.
Note: There are some countries/states/provinces who do not permit hypnotherapy to be used for depression and anxiety. I guess those places want to support the local gazillion dollar pharmaceutical conglomerates. Sorry for my cynicism in advance! The good news is many licensed psychiatrists and psychologists have hypnotherapy certification as well, and are certainly allowed to work with trauma. Please do some research.
Cherylann Thomas, B.Sc.Crim.,CH,t is Registered with the International Medical and Dental Hypnotherapy Association. She specializes in cases of depression, anxiety, fears & phobias, panic, grief, loss, abandonment, childhood trauma…as well as weight loss and other self-defeating habits you care to say goodbye to. Call for more information by visiting her website at http://www.mindmiracleshypnotherapy.ca or like her on Facebook at http://www.facebook.com/mindmiracleshypnotherapy
I wrote this yesterday for my personal Facebook page. I decided it was worthy of including in my business practice as well; so here is a glimpse into the reason why I became a Clinical Hypnotherapist. It really is very personal to me, and my dream is to help others lift out of hopeless despair in my work — because I, of all people, know that peace of mind is available for everyone, because it was possible for me. I hope you enjoy this part of my story:
It’s my son’s birthday tomorrow. He would have been 37.
May 26, 1978 …Was the last day of my life as I knew it. From that date forward I would never be the same again. I was 18 years old, 127 pounds, and about to give birth to a 6 pound, 13 ounce healthy baby boy. The difference this birth would make to my life was so incredible, it felt spiritual.
I had no husband beside me. My boyfriend turned out to be in the closet gay and wasn’t handling it well; so he was never in the picture by his own choice. My stepmother held my hand. My father tried to stop my pain by offering vodka. My mother was 10 hours away as I was long ago a run-away teen. My best friend, Cindy, couldn’t be there because she had to cover my job as a full time nanny.
I was in labour for 72 hours. My body was very tiny and I was giving birth naturally. The Lamaze method was a new way to breathe back in the 70s. Some folks, not ones giving birth, I’m sure, said drugs were bad in childbirth. Was Lamaze a man? I wondered. I begged for the Demoral and finally got it.
As I became a new mother, I held a grade 9 education (although I did attend grade 10 — epic fail). I left a bad scene in my family home that I just could not tolerate anymore. And, I wanted to be free. I was never free in my home. I had no self-esteem, my primary feelings were anxiety, fear, sadness, loneliness, shame and guilt. I shake my head a bit as I realize that my poor baby didn’t have much of a chance, did he?
What made this event so spectacular was that for the first time in my life I would experience the sensation of maternal love. As I write this I get goosebumps just remembering looking at the utterly beautiful specimen in my arms and thinking, “Oh my God! How I love YOU!” I had no idea mothers felt like that! The new emotions were literally breath-taking. The blue skies opened up, the happy angels were singing, and all was right with the world.
It was a struggle. But this little guy, whom I named Trevor Thomas, kept me going like nothing else ever could. He motivated me to go back to school. I wanted a good life for Trevor and knew I’d have to go out and get it, and I did! In 1982 I met and married a good man, and we built a good life for our small family. We had all of the nice careers, homes and cars. From 1981 through to the late 2000’s I was building my career in the social/business sciences by educational achievements, involvement in politics and community organizations, and being a stand up employee and business woman.
I knew Trevor was watching me as he grew up. I knew he would only learn by me and whomever I allowed into our world to model for this child of mine. I wasn’t the best parent, I over-indulged my child and he did have some struggles with impulsivity and need for instant gratification as a result. I own that. I also feel a great deal of pride of how Trevor picked up some traits I value, openness, honesty, and compassion for others. He was all of that and more.
Trevor is the reason I am so very, very different than those dark days of youth. I couldn’t muster up enough sense of self to make something of myself, but this birth changed everything for me. It goes beyond any other kind of love I have had since. Gary and I were unable to have more children. I was told I was lucky I had my son at such a young age, because I had a serious fertility problem that would prevent any further completed pregnancies. Not many people know this about me, but I have had four pregnancies, only one birth. And that one didn’t make it 26 years.
My son was killed in a car accident in 2003. I’ll leave that there for now…
Sadly, our marriage could not sustain the emotional roller coaster ride that followed such a trauma. After 25 years of marriage, we said goodbye, and I began my new life here, in the Okanagan.
Trevor made me get up and live before. Who was going to get me up now?
I am not going to lie, I went back to all of the ugly old emotions of my childhood days real quick. My coping skills were zero. Well, I think I had the tools (much of my career was in employment counselling and teaching lifeskills to income assistance recipients) but I just didn’t have the strength to bother using what my intellect knew I should do.
Standing up when you feel so utterly filled with grief and a sort of black fog is all around, with no light to be seen anywhere, is not easy when you don’t have much of a foundation to draw from. Trust me. Some of you may already know what I’m saying.
Most who know me know I went down the psychiatric label and drug route for about five years after Trevor died. That was a mess. It sure didn’t get me anywhere in life, and at the end of the day, Trevor’s still not here with me. I had to deal with my emotions. I said, “If I have to live, I insist I live well.” No other options in my mind.
So, I picked up my pills, had a heart to heart — told them they doing it for me anymore and they had to go. (Insert warning: never, ever suddenly stop taking any psychiatric drug, find a friendly pharmacist who will help you wean off properly, your doctor won’t be helpful, in my experience, it is their job to push them as the best coping method).
The following piece was inserted for my personal friends’ understanding
I hope the paragraph below doesn’t sound self-serving, as I review it…honestly, all I have is my own real story. My friends know I am a Clinical Hypnotherapist myself now, and I work with depression, anxiety and grief as specialties. My story is just not complete without me mentioning that at the risk of drawing attention away from the point of my sharing.
The beginning of my second new life after Trevor’s death began to form in late 2007. I went south to White Rock to see a Clinical Hypnotherapist to hopefully find peace of mind and resolve my anxieties, and black depression. I heard the process of hypnotherapy was like counselling on steroids, and you get to the root of feelings light-years faster than the traditional talk therapy process.
I engaged in fourteen hypnosis and hypnotherapy sessions in sixteen days, and have never looked back.
I found Cherylann again. I found her strength, I found her power, I found her sense of self. I am okay, you know. A little sensitive sometimes, but generally calm, and at peace with myself and who I am.
I had another serious trauma happen in my world again in 2011, which is another book; but it seems nothing will keep me down because here I am, feeling confident, in control, calm.
Today Trevor continues to live in me as I remember his spirit, his love, his sense of humour, his kindness. He had a heart of gold and anyone who knew him will confirm. Trevor died because he completed his mission. I had this treasure for 25 blessed years, and today I say thank God I can feel again. I don’t have to pack my bags and live in grief anymore, but I can cry, and that, to me, is a gift I will cherish forever.
I am quite removed from that skinny emotional mess back on May 26th, 1978. The next morning, on the 27th, at 3:31 a.m. the whole world would open up for me, forever. For eternity, I am sure. Happy Birthday Trevor! I miss you as much today as I did yesterday, and the same as I will miss you tomorrow.
UNCONSCIOUS MIND at work as I sleep, OR TREVOR?
I normally sleep very well at night. Something woke me in the wee hours of the morning, it was still very dark but I didn’t see the time. I felt wide awake and even restless, so I went to the kitchen to pour myself a drink of water (ice-tea). I sat around for a few moments, turned the t.v. on, then off. Decided it was probably way too early to think about staying up, so I went back to bed and fell on my back, eyes wide open. So, I grabbed my Kindle to read a bit, maybe that would lull me back to sleep. As soon as Kindle popped open the time flashed in front of me, 3:40 a.m. It is my son’s birthday, and he was born at 3:31 a.m. on this day…I had been up for about 8-9 minutes, what are the typical conscious odds of me waking up at the exact time of his birth? !
As you may have figured out by now, I am very passionate on the subject of government and pharmaceutical company domination of our emotional well being. So, I get a lot of flak for my views, because there are many people right now suffering terribly with feelings of mental instability. I will never argue if folks need the drugs to live better temporarily…but after a few months, come on, it’s time to deal. Or not. It really is that simple.
Please note: I am not speaking of mental insanity or retardation or factual brain damage where control measures, such as drugs, is needed to keep the patient or others safe. There is no doubt these drugs do have a place.
I am also acutely aware that many cannot afford alternatives to the traditional response to depression and anxiety. The alternatives are kept hidden, regulated, not funded. So, I get that in many cases we are stuck with what is available to help us through in that moment.
But at least let’s look at things a little more closely regarding this serious mental illness problem we are experiencing in the western world…keep in mind, our minds are like a parachute, it only works when it’s open. (unknown)_
I had to find out the hard way. When I speak against the legal drug nation, I am not speaking only from an academic point of view, I am speaking as an experienced mental case, certified crazy at times, even a member of the ‘lifer mentally ill category person until I escaped the system. I know exactly what I am talking about, and I am convinced we are going to regret this medicinal answer. I was a victim too. My son died. Then I was all of the labels and I got away with giving up because no one knew what else to do with me. “We understand why you are nuttier than a fruit cake, Cherylann…it’s expected, you lost your son afterall. Go ahead, give up, we won’t judge you.” I had zero internal skills to help myself.
I was in bed all day. I saw the commercials, “If you are sitting there watching this like a moron, ask your doctor about getting a drug that will brain fry you even more.” Well, something like that, you get my meaning. And I listened to the nice scientist man on the television tell me that my feelings were a sickness, and there was a drug solution to my sickness. I could go to my doctor and get any psychiatric drug I wanted. It just depended on what my mood was that day and what I would ‘tell’ my doctor; and he would respond with the right drug per the commercial on t.v. You know I’m speaking the truth here.
Some pharmaceutical’s are the enemy to society’s civil evolution as we know it if you ask me. I have no doubt that when I’m dead and gone it will come out that we have been experimented on for vaccines, and psychiatric medication. I know we think the folks in India are being the paid guinea pigs testing our psychiatric drugs, but in fact many of them falsify results of success for better financial gain. I think it is important to put a magnifying glass under that term, ‘Secondary Gain.” Wherever there can be secondary gain in a system involving the masses, the validation of testing must always be suspect.
FOR ENCOURAGING PERMANENT MENTAL HEALTH LABELS
1. Pharmaceutical companies (profit)…all the way down to pharmacies.
2. Marketers and Advertisers (profit of course)…follow the money…
2. Doctors (Career, without the drugs, what else do they have for emotionally disturbed individuals?)
3. Patient (Won’t have to face uncomfortable feelings and emotions; gives reason to miss or leave work; Gives reason to collect a legal government monthly pension (I am sorry, you know I am being honest here, why lie to ourselves?).
Sadly, of all secondary gains that make me the most frustrated, is when people give up forever and wave “I am sick and you don’t understand” flags. Begging for validation to give up life. I stopped doing that and never felt better.
I am not normally a conspiracy theorist, when I read about what was done to the military in WWI and WW II, and the testing done on the infirm and insane that was so egregious lives were tortured and taken by non-suspecting folks. We need to research matters of the mind before we blindly accept the ‘chemical imbalance theory.’ We seem to be like the stepford wives when it comes to the commercials that say, “Ask your doctor if you are sad or disinterested in life…” Why on earth do we think it logical to ask a scientist about our feelings? The scientists think feelings are brain matter of some kind!
If you are emotionally distraught, what if it is a spiritual emergency, a message from your unconscious mind, or God even! What if you are masking the spiritual messages we all get from time to time.
Instead of hiding from our feelings and emotions, we need to listen and take lessons from them.
We miss someone terribly! We are afraid of the future! We did something bad! I hate her!
These feelings are WARNINGS…you need to tend to yourself gently, or harshly, or just compassionately all around, but do it.
I have a feeling you secretly know I’m right.
Then we find out that the science community actually did brain surgery on emotional or emotionally unstable (women mostly) in the early to mid part of the twentieth century. The human rights people put an end to that. However, science soon came up with a chemical answer to inhibit the emotional response of the brain instead.
Anti-depressants, anti-anxiety, anti-psychotic, anti-feel drugs.
I wonder why we buy into that, really? With no proof, no lab test to agree with the ‘supposition’ we are mentally ill forever. We read a list of 10 ‘symptoms’ and diagnose ourselves before we even get to the doctor, who is only going to give you what you want if it is anti-depressants and the lot. You know I’m telling the truth!
Feelings are messages to us from our unconscious mind (or God, if you prefer). If you feel a touch of worry, or fear, or shame, or guilt, or resentment, or anger…you might want to ask yourself right then and there what is going on? Get to the bottom of that feeling (and WE ARE ALL RESPONSILBE FOR OUR OWN FEELINGS, EVEN IN THE WORST OF SITUATIONS AND TRAUMAS). And learn to act on your feelings by changing your mind, or communicating with someone.
What if everything you thought about mental illness was a lie? I am not saying it is, I am saying, “what if?” Wouldn’t you want to know for sure? For something as serious as making your identity a mentally unstable person, why do we so easily succumb to this kind of thought? Is it easier to be sick and helpless?
THE PROMISED SOLUTION
I think I know the answer…in my humble opinion: Poor coping skills is the seed of mental illness. Instead of ‘inheriting’ some unproven biological mental illness gene from our mothers and fathers and such, what if you are in a cycle of dysfunction and are simply copying the only way you know how to cope, which is to not cope!
We need to learn coping skills for ourselves, and there are many free agencies out there with some decent courses if you are willing to learn. For those who can afford counselling or therapy, including hypnotherapy,
After or while we are tending to ourselves, we need to begin deliberately teaching the art of communication skills at a much earlier age to children than we do now. Let’s teach early classes of stress and sleep management. We have to hurry up and teach our kids healthy relationship dynamics, because, let’s face it, many people are horrible relationship people, and still have KIDS! The cycle continues…
We must knock down the school trustee doors and insist on more life skills for our kids. They need it as much as they need those free lunches every day. Right?
Thanks for reading. I am going to keep on with my message, and hopefully, one person at a time, people will find themselves evolving out of depression and anxiety, and experience happiness instead. I think it starts with finding a way to learn new coping skills. Yes you can manage your own emotions and cope with even extreme feelings, like after a death, or trauma. It’s been done for millions of years by trillions of people before you. Somehow the world with far fewer resources managed to get by without swallowing a pill for every thought, feeling or emotion we don’t like.
It’s okay to have a melt down, just don’t pack your bags and live there. It is a choice to become a butterfly, at one point.
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What if everything you know about mental illness and chemical imbalances was a lie?
What if your moods, and anxiety, and depression, and even psychotic episodes have a root cause? What if your mind is trying to tell you something, much like our bodies tell us things all of the time when we get physically sick.
Could the problem really be you are holding onto a secret? A secret that needs to get out to save your life? You’ve protected everyone else all of your life, why not start tending and caring for your own self, and needs, now? Secrets are great for saving others, but do you have a secret about yourself you need to get out? That could also be the problem you are not dealing with.
What if, allow yourself to ponder for a moment, you are having a SPIRITUAL emergency and instead of paying attention to all of the signals you are getting, you drug yourself up with anti-depressants, anti-anxiety, anti-psychotic and anti-mood medication?
Some cover their feelings up with alcohol. Some use street drugs. Some find comfort and safety in the more medical term, mental illness.
I don’t know where the need to mask yourself (you say balance yourself) comes from. Your mental instability can be a result of not having coping skills (many of us were not raised to cope well). Swinging moods could have something to do with your conscious mind fighting with your unconscious mind, the part of you that knows everything.
I wonder what would happen if you allowed yourself to think for a moment that the commercials telling you to ask your doctor about certain drugs, is actually the worst thing you could ever do for yourself and your well being?
I wouldn’t rush out to ask a car dealer if I should buy a car, or use some other mode of transportation. The dealer is likely going to say the car is the best thing for me.
My challenge to you is dare to feel it, explore it, heal or EMBRACE what is happening to you. I promise you the whole world will open up for you when you decide to dig in and get to the root of what is causing you to feel internal mental pain and instability.
It is either that, or allow yourself to succumb to the misery of the aggressive, non-compassionate, emotional upheaval cycle of psychiatric labels and medicinal solutions.
When you allow the medical community to brand and drug you for your mental well being all hope for finding the real cause goes down the drain. Not only that, when doctors conclude (based on what YOU told them) you are mentally ill, they mean mentally UNSTABLE and have no hesitation in drugging mentally unstable people.
What if what is going on is actually a spiritual awakening, and you don’t know what to make of it, so assume, wrongly, that you have a brain chemical imbalance causing you to see and hear things that are not there?
The alarms (emotional disturbance) we all get can vary in intensity, and can start as early as pre-teen years. Kids today are killing themselves by record numbers because they are being refused the compassion, UNDERSTANDING, and unconditional love they need while going through what it is they are going through. They are being DRUGGED rather than embraced for who they are, and what they are experiencing.
Dare to emerge out of the dungeons and hell of the aggressive, unfeeling, world of psychiatry (notice the ‘try’) find your true purpose and meaning with hypnosis and hypnotherapy. Your mind will tell you exactly what the problem is, and how to fix it.
And the skies will open up and be bluer, the sun will be brighter, and the heavy burden you have been carrying will be lifted.
As a clinical hypnotherapist who is trained and experienced working with mental illness, regression and PLRegression therapy, I promise you everything will change in your world when you look inside for answers, instead of asking doctors who are trained to treat all emotional issues with drugs.
Please share and help me give hope where before there was none.
* Never come off any psychiatric medication without telling someone (or two) who can keep their eye on you. Weaning off slowly is safer than suddenly stopping (just like heroin). Allow the painful, erratic moods withdrawal symptoms to encourage you to keep going…seek medical attention for unsafe symptoms such as suicide ideation or feelings of rage (violence). Once you are toxin free, give yourself a chance at life — Make sure you get to the root of your emotional disturbance. Google all sides of any solution.
It was hypnotherapy that saved me. Just sayin… If you want to learn more, please like Mind Miracles Hypnotherapy on facebook at http://www.facebook.com/mindmiracleshypnotherapy and receive all of my posts on the power of our own minds. I am taking clients at the Family Wellness Centre in West Kelowna, or by Skype. PM me for details.
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