Holistic Mental Health Practitioner Bashes Medical Treatment of Women and Other Right-Brain Oriented People.

I notice a disturbing pattern emerging when it comes to mental illness and women.  First, the current system seems to be creating even more sickness and suicide for the multitudes and masses, which conflicts with my good senses of what a medical community should be doing for the betterment of society. Second, I believe the cause of so much unhappiness has little to do with illness, and more to do with oppression of right brain talents and resources.

I know what wonderful and miraculous things can happen when creative folks are allowed to express themselves exactly how they are without having to compare their gifts to left brain oriented counterparts.  I see women and men regain self-esteem very quickly with just learning a few new ideas for WHY they may be feeling so mentally sick other than what they are being told by doctors and pharmaceutical commercials.

What if mental illness is really an unconscious reaction to bullshit?  

Why does it seem like more women than men are ‘crazy?’ How come no one ever asks how to cure mental illness and seem perfectly happy accepting drugs as the solution to unconscious despair?  Schizophrenia is a mental disorder characterized by abnormal social behavior and failure to understand what is real according to Wikipedia.  Whose real?  How come in many eastern countries schizophrenia folks are used as ‘wise men and women’ who have great insight to things most people cannot see?   These are just a few questions I have after years of living my life as a woman in a society that insists my body and mind must work like the male ones or I am ‘abnormal.’  I believe women (and men) are brainwashed into believing how they are supposed to feel and be, because it works better for someone else.

Imagine a world that nourishes, respects, and even admires women for their physiological differences?  How much better can civilization be with a ‘feminine’ balance to masculine values?  I wonder if one would feel mental in a world of left brain folks if they thought their right brains mattered too?

Women have been traditionally ‘known’ to be the crazy ones at home, work, and in the psyche wards. What if ‘mental illness’ is really ‘right brain intelligence neglect?’  We live in a left brain world where conditioning and development is almost entirely based on preferences of logic and order.  It all starts in grade one.  Everything one needs to know about the right brain is apparently learned by Kindergarten because that is when the imagination part of us begins to get stifled, shut down and shut up to make room for academics.  Sure we have some music and art classes available to help students along, but mostly we will find left brain activities of memory development, algebra, and even sports as the preferred activities, and this is about as interesting as going to the dentist all day long for some people and so problems ensue when one does not live up to the expectations of the educational system we have available.

Soon we may wonder what is wrong with girls who suffer in math or boys who disrupt procedures in the class.  Why is everyone else going to school like good little boys and girls, but others are simply not fitting in, and ‘failing?’  Many children are now being labeled as diseased in some way, mentally if they do not keep up with the way things are.  It’s becoming ridiculous to me to see so many children and adults drugged and put away for life with a label of mental illness because we do not care to look deeper.

Displaced children grow up with thoughts of inadequacy, not belonging, and no voice. Powerlessness in a system that actually works against the amazing minds of right brain thinkers creates so much turmoil a person can hardly cope after a while.  Soon the person may begin to shut themselves down in fear of their own differences.

Mental illness can feel debilitating.  There is no sense of self power or control when one is hidden under blankets day in and day out with the television blaring in the background to drown out the destructive thoughts. Drugs, alcohol or food are often introduced to cut the incessant misery sense.  What about anxiety?  What a nightmare that is when they suddenly have an inability to breathe while driving, or in a public place.  What is the answer we have for these suffering souls?  Ativan, Xanax, Clonazapam.  Imagine what it might be like to feel worthless, unlovable, wants to give up, and die.  Suicide has become so epidemic it is now the number one killer of our youth — more than accidents and murder put together.

Whatever we are doing to help mentally ill and addicted people does not seem to be working.  In fact, it is making things much worse.

People are dying in record numbers by their own hand!

What if the problem isn’t mental illness, rather mental deprivation of the senses which can be restored with a little bit of attention to the real problems in society?

Are you ready for a new perspective on that ever so popular DSM, the Diagnostic and Statistic Manual that every doctor in North America refers to as a bible of sorts when deciding what is wrong with women medically, when it comes to mental symptoms?

If someone’s answer to our problems makes a little bit of sense we may inadvertently buy into horrible permanent life decisions for temporary emotional relief.  Vulnerable folks are easily convinced on the idea there is something wrong with their biology because nothing else seems to make sense in their world.  The so-called science about Serotonin being discovered as the culprit to mental illness is still being passed around as truth. Just Google, “Serotonin Lie” and see what you find. Every day we are seeing cases of pharmaceutical marketing literally driving people completely away from themselves and their own good senses and on drugs actually designed to inhibit the life of the right brain!

If anyone tells me I have an incurable mental or physical illness you better believe I need to see the blood work or x-ray to prove that today.  No longer do I take the word of someone who cannot possibly understand my world as they figure I may have a biological problem, rather than something else going on.  For mental illness no evidence of chemistry sickness exists even though people believe this to be the case.  Sometimes a confused doctor will say no one really knows what causes mental illness so it could be DNA genetically passed down with no reason at all.

Perhaps. Maybe not.  My clients tell me they get tired of doctors guessing treatment until the right drug is discovered by accident.  Stuffing symptoms with mind altering chemicals makes as much sense as someone taking a pain medication for a physical reason forever, doesn’t it?  It should be RARE not the common practice to offer life time brain-pain medication.

When can we find out why people feel mental?  For some it is simply easier to pack it in and be sick with permission from the system.  Many women agree to be mental so they can have a government sponsored disability income in a corporate society that offers a fraction of work income and benefits their left brain brothers are earning.  We have made women responsible for everything to do with the family, accountable for keeping everything together without assistance from a wayward spouse, and then pay her peanuts when she needs to work to put food in the kids mouths.  I’d rather go on mental disability, thanks.  It is all about survival and women will do what they must to keep going; some are brilliant at working the system that tries to keep them powerless, afraid, and ashamed.  You go girl!

Isn’t it time to fix the problem before life is completely wasted away?  I hear time and time again, “My depression keeps me stuck. I am anxious and stressed about everything. I have a feeling like I don’t belong somehow.  I don’t matter.  Everyone walks all over me. I am too sensitive.  There is something wrong with me. I can’t get along with the people everyone else gets along with, and, I can’t seem to learn the way everyone else is learning.”

Seeing things with new eyes

Let’s take a look at some of the labels the DSM and current traditional medicine in a new light, and I’ll suggest an alternative option for rescue and recovery for each ‘disease’ as listed:

Depression — Lives in the past.  Often caused by a serious denial of self-love, a traumatic event, or conditioned feelings of powerlessness.  The depressed person is often brainwashed to believe they are financially needy or dependant in an unhealthy relationship they feel they must have for survival.  Unconscious self anger results in confusion. Wrongful thoughts become so debilitating the body lives in a constant state of tension, pain and exhaustion.

Rescue and Recovery — Get out of the environment and find a place to re-group – alone. Figure out why you have taken over the emotional abuse (in thought) and learn how to retrain your thinking and imagination to the satisfaction of your spirit.  Stop looking at the problem and begin wondering about solutions for your own comfort, peace, and happiness. Find a way to matter to you.  Your gift, the right brain (imagination), has infinite ideas, start looking there.  Even more importantly, find a way to not need someone else for survival as that kind of relationship can turn you into a miserable slave working against your own life.  Chronic unhappiness is a clue something is wrong in LEARNED THINKING.

Make a new life plan when you are up to it.  Women don’t get defeated overnight and it will take some time to regain self, but you can count on a right brain woman to find a way to get the job done if she is interested in a better life.

Anxiety — Lives in the future.  Severe fear to believe in self.  Unconscious screaming, “Something is wrong!  Fix it!” We are finding that anxious people are so intuitive and powerful when we sense a conflict of conscious thinking to unconscious knowing it can feel like one is losing touch with reality.  And you are.  Intuit can hardly stand self-denial and unconscious will create sensations of panic when we do not listen to our own infinite wisdom about the present.

Rescue and Recovery — Dare to look at what scares you, really.  Hypnosis and hypnotherapy work miracles for the anxious because in treatment they actually figure out for themselves how to listen and obey  their own inner voice, and the answers feel like amazing empowerment for better living.  100% recovery is not only possible, it is probable for those who believe they can be healed.  Sadly most people are unaware of recovery and end up drinking or drugging the right brain sensations instead, all the way to institution and death as we are seeing in epidemic proportions.  Get to the root of the anxiety for complete recovery of life.  If anxiety based on a recent traumatic experience is the only problem it can be cured in one simple hypnosis session.

Bi-Polar Disorder — This requires an entire reexamination on the female anatomy and life experiences.  In many cases the diagnosis is brought on after the ingestion of anti-depressant medication, which is known to create feelings of mania in some people (people who don’t need antidepressants I’m thinking).  As long as the diagnosis and pills are allowed to be handed out recovery is slim to none as the beholder succumbs to living down to the ideals of instability.  The powerful brain drugs that are dispensed under the name of ‘safety’ will kill the spirit eventually, in almost every case.  Until just a few decades ago crazy women use to be given brain surgery (Lobotomy) to remove her emotional being.  I remember a girlfriend’s mother had her emotional response removed (located in the right temple brain) and my friend said she could slap her mother’s face and Mom wouldn’t care. She’d forget about it real soon if she did figure out she was insulted or hurt.

Isn’t that a nice way to live?  The friend said her mother’s emotions were taken out when she was 20 years old after being forced to marry a man twice her age due to pregnancy at 15.  Living now with 4 children in an abusive home it became too much to handle, and so she ‘left’ mentally and almost burned the house down.  This woman was a danger to herself and others.  Police were involved and the husband told the doctors if they didn’t fix his wife he would kill her.  Doctors fixed mom for dad’s better health.  The surgery was done in 1959 and a common practice in the times.  My friend said her mother had two more children and never complained again.  Life was good for everyone…else.

I remember the movie “The Stepford Wives” released in about the 1980’s, and have never quite forgotten at how powerful and mind numbing brainwashing can be when oppressed people are trained to be the servants for others, and no complaining from the wives because their ‘thinking’ belongs to someone else — they believe (consciously) they WANT to live for others.

There are many examples of religions brainwashing the masses into belief systems that utterly ignore female gender brains other than to be used for service.

Unconsciously we may  create mental illness when we deny our own purpose.

Women are being diagnosed with Bi-polar Disorder (false, unsubstantiated diagnoses) and those drugs will make the victim not care at all about what was going on within the family, or life.  Be glad we didn’t live in the 1940’s or 50’s where the powerful doctors could have removed your emotions forever without permission.  But they still work to manipulate the mind into thinking we can do without emotions by using right brain stoppers.

Today we have what is called “Chemical Lobotomy’s” in the form of prescription psychiatric medication that anyone can get at any time with the right ‘story.’  Yes, some people need to be put away safely and drugged for better comfort while imprisoned.  I have yet to hear a successfully medicated person living a happy life to old age, there may be a few cases, but they are certainly rare.  Life is never smooth for the chronically mentally ill and so I am suggesting we stop telling people to give up to the illness!

If one believes in psychiatric diagnosis the hope for full life recovery is diminished because there is no solution other than expensive pharmaceuticals that often increase over time.

Little to no effort is given to figure out where the serious mood swings come from other than, “She’s a nut bar for no particular reason.”  Having very little credibility in a world where women use to be considered property of men it isn’t too difficult to believe she is not worth saving if she isn’t taking care of everyone else the way she is supposed to be.  I am not being negative here, it is time to look at some truth and let’s investigate these alarming throw away people whom I no longer believe were “born insane.”  I witness full recovery of mental people who decide to forsake the others to save themselves.

Rescue and recovery — Figure out for yourself if you have a serious life threatening mental illness, or may have been wrongly perceived through the eyes of someone else.  I am telling people without hesitation today to really check out the facts of the case before giving up as a mentally unstable person for life.  See my next blog where I will outline many amazing women who were able to rise above their traditional roles and make remarkable contributions to society after being labeled ‘fruit cakes’ with no credible value their entire lives.  These women are proof enough for me that anyone can escape oppression – and the mental illness philosophies that are keeping female oppression alive.

ADHD — Disruptive problem child who cannot concentrate or stay focused.  A right brain oriented (more often male) bored to the core with the left brain training in the education system.  Needs right brain stimuli and acceptance of the difference.  She or he often has spiritual sensations and intelligence beyond the imagination.  If allowed to develop naturally in any creative realm we will witness this child later change the world with their amazing creative brains.  The greatest inventors and genius ones can be labeled as ADD or ADHD.  Albert Einstein had early childhood learning and behavior problems in school but his mother never told him about the nasty report cards about how he was a dummy in the eyes of the school.  Good thing, right?

Rescue and Recovery — If a child is unhappy in his or her learning environment find one that works.  I understand not all parents can afford special education for their amazing child but if you create some questions with right brain imagination the left brain will find a way.  Be willing to see there is a problem underneath the child’s acting out behavior.  Understand children may only be negatively reacting to an intolerable learning environment.  It is important to believe your own eyes when it comes to your child.  If they didn’t act up at home then it is coming from someplace else.

Borderline Personality Disorder — The list of ‘symptoms’ in the DSM for this label is far removed from truth.  They say she is a trouble maker, instigator, and drama queen.  She is known for making up stories about good people and are unbelievable with their accusations.  Freud diagnosed sexually abused girls who acted out as having fantasies about their fathers, living in an alternate reality.  Can you imagine being molested and then told you are making it up?  By respected science?  Imagine being shamed to tears in a court full of disbeliever’s with suspicious ‘allegations’ of sexual abuse.  Ignorance continues with dismissive thoughts as women continue to live without validation of horrific experiences while being re-victimized in the circuits (circus?) of the justice system.

This unlikable ‘borderline’ creature is a truth teller.  She likely speaks up poorly because she has no idea how to articulate her needs since her needs don’t matter to anyone, anyway.  In this woman’s story she is rarely validated with her thinking — and this can lead to feelings of internal rage.  Like a volcano about to erupt the emotional pain is felt deeply.  Listen, people do not like the truth.  Truth can be too uncomfortable to even glance at, and so it is easier to sacrifice the life of a truthfully outspoken woman who already feels powerless than it is to investigate the truth she is trying to educate the world with eyes, ears and feelings wide open.

Keep in mind I do believe there is ‘real’ Borderline (Borderline Psychopath) people who have little or no feelings of fear, guilt, shame.  I am suggesting professional opinions by mental health humans are fantasies made up to make the person feel she is okay being nuts because others are crazy just like her; see the list of symptoms?  That’s the proof they have when they want someone to believe they are unstable people.  The problem is you can show a list of anything to anyone and they will find a place of belonging if it reaches a need of the patient to be heard in some way.  Any way.

Rescue and Recovery — She is on her own.  People are unwilling to believe in the imagination of a BPD and there is no help in the current system other than drugs, but odds are she will refuse to take them and go on suffering without love or acceptance for herself.  If you have been reduced this kind of judgemental diagnosis you must take back your own control.  Find a way to love every part of you, even the difficult parts you’ve been trained to hate too.  Practice speaking up and teaching people new ways to treat you.  If you cannot find a way on your own reach out for help to build your confidence and self-esteem.   An entirely new way to look at yourself is required because somehow mental conditioning growing up taught you self-doubt all the way to self-hatred like everyone else who does not like your ‘truth.’ BPD must learn to set boundaries about how they are viewed and treated by others.

Postpartum Depression — A mental condition only given to women who gave birth and yet adoptive mothers suffer with this so-called mental illness as well.  Once again chemistry imbalance is blamed.  Real cause is extreme mental exhaustion and depletion of the senses with increased life responsibilities.  A new 24 hour clock to live by alone can make one sick.  Mother often has to concern herself about work and finances as well as carry the weight of managing the baby, house, and everyone else’s feelings but her own.  Unconscious doesn’t like self-neglect yet the well-trained conscious mind says she is not enough if she complains.  Having to be super-human leads to collapse eventually.

Rescue and Recovery — Throw away the idea you must be all and do all at your own expense. Demand help and don’t feel guilt or shame while doing so.  It takes two to bring a child into the world, not just one.  As long as a woman believes she must keep up with impossible demands she will, until she cracks completely in some cases.  Self care is needed if no one else seems to.  Don’t be a victim, be in charge!

PreMenstrual Syndrome (PMS) — Mental disease caused by cramping and discomfort during monthly cycle of a woman.  Too often something is very wrong in the organs of female anatomy and pain goes undiagnosed due to ignorance and lack of understanding and research.  In addition to medical doctors unable to find a suitable solution for this very real problem.  Employers are allowed to show no mercy or tolerance for the different biological make-up of female staff and provide nothing to assist in the need for some accommodation.  Women have been conditioned to not speak of their ‘problem’ and is often shamed into silence for her ‘difference to men’ and can feel irritable because unconscious Intuit (one’s truth) will respond negatively to the thought she deserves to live in shame and pain.

Rescue and recovery — The shaming of physiological differences to men needs to be replaced with empathy (most of the rule makers are males who would never be able understand the unique needs of women – and so need to be educated).  If no one else cares about your pain, YOU must care and take care of yourself in whatever way makes you most comfortable and happy.  Use the right brain to imagine ideas for making yourself feel better during this time, and the left brain will find a way to make it happen for you.  Two brains work together like magic when you believe in both of them!

Addiction — Inability to live sober in a world that seems upside down.  At first some comfort is felt in the indulgence of drugs or alcohol, but after a while that right brain is going to reject that solution and create all sorts of added problems to the life.

Rescue and Recovery — First, get rid of any notion you are powerless.  Find a way to believe in yourself and ability to control anything.  Fill your imagination with thoughts of strength and empowerment.  Addiction is self suicide, start recovery by figuring out why your life doesn’t seem to matter to you.  There is a ‘learned’ reason.

The Intuit doesn’t like slavery.  We are born free to survive, and thrive.  However the best part of us (right brain imagination) goes unconsciously hay-wire when neglected and made to feel needy and dependent on others for survival.  Dependency for happiness is simply not healthy for anyone.

I write this article to beg you to reconsider what might be really going on in society that is creating so much suffering and pain for women and children, and many men.  Can we reframe this whole ‘women are crazy thing’ just for giggles and see if we can’t come up with a better solution to mental illness?  How about we change everything right here and now instead of packing it in with acceptance of emotional torture and drugs?

Hypnosis and hypnotherapy are an amazing therapy for self-actualization.  It helps one open the eyes to what the problem is, and how to find solutions to obtain happiness, peace of mind, and a comfortable sense of being.  Control becomes possible when we believe in it for ourselves.

I have a feeling mental illness will be replaced with new exciting possibilities for all of us if we dare to allow all people the right to think the way they are born to think, not the way we want them to be for the better lives of everyone else.

Right brain can create a good or bad life.  In spite of what we have been told about the imagination, why not deliberately go into the mind’s eye and use it to make yourself well again?  “Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve.” Said respected philosopher and writer,  Napoleon Hill.

Find a creative outlet you enjoy.  Colour with crayons, engage a craft you wouldn’t mind spending hours doing, learn a new art that fascinates you, listen to or play music, read or write.  Intuit feels happy and peaceful while creating so if you are fortunate enough to work in a right brain occupation your life will be much happier.

Remember when you were a small child you use to play ‘pretend’ with the imagination, before that got all cancelled in school norms — why not go back and play pretend about retraining your own mental thinking.  Imagine you are amazing for a change.  Fake you matter if you think you don’t.  Your unconscious and body will respond with love!

Believe in your own eyes, ears, and feelings.  You wouldn’t eat something that smelled or tasted bad because the senses are connected to the unconscious part that will wake up in the event of a bad food.  Learn to trust all of your own good senses!  Just because a story makes sense (fantasies of someone else are only true if you buy into that line of thought) does not make it your truth.  Some people are trained very well to not say a word about their own truth to protect someone else.  Others know how to manipulate the sensitive’s senses for their own selfish needs and gratification.  They use emotional manipulation of shaming, fear, guilt, and even anger to get what they want from a person who feels weak or vulnerable.

Stop Waiting and Start Creating

Hopelessness is bound to set in when we deny our own value and existence.  Isn’t it time to wonder why so many mental cases are ending up sicker than ever with the current mental health treatment of people?  Perhaps women need to put their intuition and imaginations to work on how to educate and articulate what we know, but do not get to say out loud?  Maybe some men who understand their own right brain intelligence will feel safer if they too are allowed to be whom they are innately.

When the left and right brain are allowed to work together as equal partners miracles happen.  When only one side of the brain is developed the sense of mental imbalance is the result.  We are literally working with half a brain.

*Mental illness can be a serious condition that is passed onto children as they watch, listen and learn how to cope from parents.  Please find a way to rescue and recovery if you have a little bit of hope left in you.  At the end of the day, only you really can change anything and it takes a belief there is better waiting as soon as you ask for more.

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Cherylann Thomas, B.Sc.Crim.,CH,t is a Registered Clinical Hypnotherapist in the Okanagan Valley specializing in hypnosis for mental health, addictions, and spiritual identity.  She has lived an amazing life of ups and downs beyond normal.  This practitioner herself was raised in an abusive home taking on abusive self-thinking, and later experienced the extreme life trauma of losing her only beloved son to a car accident.  Time and time again Cherylann found a way to rise above adversity and uses herself as a positive example of recovery using the wonders of right brain love, honour and development.

Please check out her website at http://www.mindmiracleshypnotherapy.ca and like us on Facebook at http://www.facebook.com/mindmiracleshypnotherapy

 

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What If You Didn’t Worry?

What If You Didn’t Worry?

A lecturer when explaining stress management to an audience,
Raised a glass of water and asked ‘How heavy is this glass of water?’

Answers called out ranged from 20g to 500g.

The lecturer replied, ‘The absolute weight doesn’t matter.
It depends on how long you try to hold it.

If I hold it for a minute, that’s not a problem.

If I hold it for an hour, I’ll have an ache in my right arm.

If I hold it for a day, you’ll have to call an ambulance.

In each case, it’s the same weight, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes.’

He continued,

‘And that’s the way it is with stress management.

If we carry our burdens all the time, sooner or later,

As the burden becomes increasingly heavy,

We won’t be able to carry on. ‘

‘As with the glass of water,

You have to put it down for a while and rest before holding it again.”

The lecturer went on, but I would like to add that the burdens most of us keep, unnecessarily in most cases, are worry, fear, guilt, shame, anger, resentment, jealousy and envy. Those are our enemies. Those are our real heavies.

Negative thought leads to negative feelings that, if not tended to as soon as possible, can sit so long they become deeply painful emotions.  And we all know by now that deeply painful emotions lead to pain in our bodies.  We walk around so stressed and full of anxiety it is no wonder our physical bodies hurt!

Sometimes, the hardest thing in the world to do is to analyze and come to terms with our own feelings. We are so use to Secrets, Stuffing, Shame…the S word enemies and recipe for depression. But once you see what it is you must see; and deal with what you must deal with, you will be amazed at how strong, confident, in control (of everything) you are and feel as your just reward!

YES YOU CAN!  Imagine it.  Have it.

Cherylann

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About Love and Loss and How I Overcame

About Love and Loss and How I Overcame

I wrote this yesterday for my personal Facebook page.  I decided it was worthy of including in my business practice as well; so here is a glimpse into the reason why I became a Clinical Hypnotherapist.  It really is very personal to me, and my dream is to help others lift out of hopeless despair in my work — because I, of all people, know that peace of mind is available for everyone, because it was possible for me.   I hope you enjoy this part of my story:

It’s my son’s birthday tomorrow. He would have been 37.

May 26, 1978 …Was the last day of my life as I knew it. From that date forward I would never be the same again. I was 18 years old, 127 pounds, and about to give birth to a 6 pound, 13 ounce healthy baby boy. The difference this birth would make to my life was so incredible, it felt spiritual.

I had no husband beside me. My boyfriend turned out to be in the closet gay and wasn’t handling it well; so he was never in the picture by his own choice. My stepmother held my hand. My father tried to stop my pain by offering vodka. My mother was 10 hours away as I was long ago a run-away teen. My best friend, Cindy, couldn’t be there because she had to cover my job as a full time nanny.

I was in labour for 72 hours. My body was very tiny and I was giving birth naturally. The Lamaze method was a new way to breathe back in the 70s. Some folks, not ones giving birth, I’m sure, said drugs were bad in childbirth. Was Lamaze a man? I wondered. I begged for the Demoral and finally got it.

As I became a new mother, I held a grade 9 education (although I did attend grade 10 — epic fail). I left a bad scene in my family home that I just could not tolerate anymore. And, I wanted to be free.  I was never free in my home.  I had no self-esteem, my primary feelings were anxiety, fear, sadness, loneliness, shame and guilt. I shake my head a bit as I realize that my poor baby didn’t have much of a chance, did he?

What made this event so spectacular was that for the first time in my life I would experience the sensation of maternal love. As I write this I get goosebumps just remembering looking at the utterly beautiful specimen in my arms and thinking, “Oh my God! How I love YOU!” I had no idea mothers felt like that! The new emotions were literally breath-taking. The blue skies opened up, the happy angels were singing, and all was right with the world.

It was a struggle. But this little guy, whom I named Trevor Thomas, kept me going like nothing else ever could. He motivated me to go back to school. I wanted a good life for Trevor and knew I’d have to go out and get it, and I did! In 1982 I met and married a good man, and we built a good life for our small family. We had all of the nice careers, homes and cars. From 1981 through to the late 2000’s I was building my career in the social/business sciences by educational achievements, involvement in politics and community organizations, and being a stand up employee and business woman.

I knew Trevor was watching me as he grew up. I knew he would only learn by me and whomever I allowed into our world to model for this child of mine. I wasn’t the best parent, I over-indulged my child and he did have some struggles with impulsivity and need for instant gratification as a result. I own that. I also feel a great deal of pride of how Trevor picked up some traits I value, openness, honesty, and compassion for others. He was all of that and more.

Trevor is the reason I am so very, very different than those dark days of youth. I couldn’t muster up enough sense of self to make something of myself, but this birth changed everything for me. It goes beyond any other kind of love I have had since. Gary and I were unable to have more children. I was told I was lucky I had my son at such a young age, because I had a serious fertility problem that would prevent any further completed pregnancies. Not many people know this about me, but I have had four pregnancies, only one birth. And that one didn’t make it 26 years.

My son was killed in a car accident in 2003.  I’ll leave that there for now…

Sadly, our marriage could not sustain the emotional roller coaster ride that followed such a trauma. After 25 years of marriage, we said goodbye, and I began my new life here, in the Okanagan.

Trevor made me get up and live before. Who was going to get me up now?

I am not going to lie, I went back to all of the ugly old emotions of my childhood days real quick. My coping skills were zero. Well, I think I had the tools (much of my career was in employment counselling and teaching lifeskills to income assistance recipients) but I just didn’t have the strength to bother using what my intellect knew I should do.

Standing up when you feel so utterly filled with grief and a sort of black fog is all around, with no light to be seen anywhere, is not easy when you don’t have much of a foundation to draw from. Trust me.  Some of you may already know what I’m saying.

Most who know me know I went down the psychiatric label and drug route for about five years after Trevor died. That was a mess. It sure didn’t get me anywhere in life, and at the end of the day, Trevor’s still not here with me. I had to deal with my emotions. I said, “If I have to live, I insist I live well.” No other options in my mind.

So, I picked up my pills, had a heart to heart — told them they doing it for me anymore and they had to go. (Insert warning: never, ever suddenly stop taking any psychiatric drug, find a friendly pharmacist who will help you wean off properly, your doctor won’t be helpful, in my experience, it is their job to push them as the best coping method).

The following piece was inserted for my personal friends’ understanding

I hope the paragraph below doesn’t sound self-serving, as I review it…honestly, all I have is my own real story.  My friends know I am a Clinical Hypnotherapist myself now, and I work with depression, anxiety and grief as specialties. My story is just not complete without me mentioning that at the risk of drawing attention away from the point of my sharing.

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The beginning of my second new life after Trevor’s death began to form in late 2007. I went south to White Rock to see a Clinical Hypnotherapist to hopefully find peace of mind and resolve my anxieties, and black depression. I heard the process of hypnotherapy was like counselling on steroids, and you get to the root of feelings light-years faster than the traditional talk therapy process.

I engaged in fourteen hypnosis and hypnotherapy sessions in sixteen days, and have never looked back.

I found Cherylann again. I found her strength, I found her power, I found her sense of self. I am okay, you know. A little sensitive sometimes, but generally calm, and at peace with myself and who I am.

I had another serious trauma happen in my world again in 2011, which is another book; but it seems nothing will keep me down because here I am, feeling confident, in control, calm.

Today Trevor continues to live in me as I remember his spirit, his love, his sense of humour, his kindness. He had a heart of gold and anyone who knew him will confirm. Trevor died because he completed his mission. I had this treasure for 25 blessed years, and today I say thank God I can feel again. I don’t have to pack my bags and live in grief anymore, but I can cry, and that, to me, is a gift I will cherish forever.

Conclusion

I am quite removed from that skinny emotional mess back on May 26th, 1978. The next morning, on the 27th, at 3:31 a.m. the whole world would open up for me, forever. For eternity, I am sure. Happy Birthday Trevor! I miss you as much today as I did yesterday, and the same as I will miss you tomorrow.

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Update

UNCONSCIOUS MIND at work as I sleep, OR TREVOR?  

I normally sleep very well at night.  Something woke me in the wee hours of the morning, it was still very dark but I didn’t see the time.  I felt wide awake and even restless, so I went to the kitchen to pour myself a drink of water (ice-tea).  I sat around for a few moments, turned the t.v. on, then off.   Decided it was probably way too early to think about staying up, so I went back to bed and fell on my back, eyes wide open.  So, I grabbed my Kindle to read a bit, maybe that would lull me back to sleep.  As soon as Kindle popped open the time flashed in front of me,  3:40 a.m.  It is my son’s birthday, and he was born at 3:31 a.m. on this day…I had been up for about 8-9 minutes, what are the typical conscious odds of me waking up at the exact time of his birth?  !

The Cure For Mental Illness

The Cure For Mental Illness

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As you may have figured out by now, I am very passionate on the subject of government and pharmaceutical company domination of our emotional well being.  So, I get a lot of flak for my views, because there are many people right now suffering terribly with feelings of mental instability.  I will never argue if folks need the drugs to live better temporarily…but after a few months, come on, it’s time to deal.  Or not.  It really is that simple.

Please note:  I am not speaking of mental insanity or retardation or factual brain damage where control measures, such as drugs, is needed to keep the patient or others safe.  There is no doubt these drugs do have a place.

I am also acutely aware that many cannot afford alternatives to the traditional response to depression and anxiety.  The alternatives are kept hidden, regulated, not funded.  So, I get that in many cases we are stuck with what is available to help us through in that moment.

But at least let’s look at things a little more closely regarding this serious mental illness problem we are experiencing in the western world…keep in mind, our minds are like a parachute, it only works when it’s open. (unknown)_

I had to find out the hard way.  When I speak against the legal drug nation, I am not speaking only from an academic point of view, I am speaking as an experienced mental case, certified crazy at times, even a member of the ‘lifer mentally ill category person until I escaped the system.  I know exactly what I am talking about, and I am convinced we are going to regret this medicinal answer.  I was a victim too.  My son died.  Then I was all of the labels and I got away with giving up because no one knew what else to do with me.  “We understand why you are nuttier than a fruit cake, Cherylann…it’s expected, you lost your son afterall.  Go ahead, give up, we won’t judge you.”  I had zero internal skills to help myself.

I was in bed all day.  I saw the commercials, “If you are sitting there watching this like a moron, ask your doctor about getting a drug that will brain fry you even more.”  Well, something like that, you get my meaning.   And I listened to the nice scientist man on the television tell me that my feelings were a sickness, and there was a drug solution to my sickness.  I could go to my doctor and get any psychiatric drug I wanted.  It just depended on what my mood was that day and what I would ‘tell’ my doctor; and he would respond with the right drug per the commercial on t.v.  You know I’m speaking the truth here.

Some pharmaceutical’s are the enemy to society’s civil evolution as we know it if you ask me.  I have no doubt that when I’m dead and gone it will come out that we have been experimented on for vaccines, and psychiatric medication.  I know we think the folks in India are being the paid guinea pigs testing our psychiatric drugs, but in fact many of them falsify results of success for better financial gain.  I think it is important to put a magnifying glass under that term, ‘Secondary Gain.”  Wherever there can be secondary gain in a system involving the masses, the validation of testing must always be suspect.

SECONDARY GAINS
FOR ENCOURAGING PERMANENT MENTAL HEALTH LABELS

1. Pharmaceutical companies (profit)…all the way down to pharmacies.
2. Marketers and Advertisers (profit of course)…follow the money…
2. Doctors (Career, without the drugs, what else do they have for emotionally disturbed individuals?)
3. Patient (Won’t have to face uncomfortable feelings and emotions; gives reason to miss or leave work; Gives reason to collect a legal government monthly pension (I am sorry, you know I am being honest here, why lie to ourselves?).

Sadly, of all secondary gains that make me the most frustrated, is when people give up forever and wave “I am sick and you don’t understand” flags.  Begging for validation to give up life.  I stopped doing that and never felt better.

I am not normally a conspiracy theorist, when I read about what was done to the military in WWI and WW II, and the testing done on the infirm and insane that was so egregious lives were tortured and taken by non-suspecting folks.  We need to research matters of the mind before we blindly accept the ‘chemical imbalance theory.’   We seem to be like the stepford wives when it comes to the commercials that say, “Ask your doctor if you are sad or disinterested in life…”   Why on earth do we think it logical to ask a scientist about our feelings?  The scientists think feelings are brain matter of some kind!

If you are emotionally distraught, what if it is a spiritual emergency, a message from your  unconscious mind, or God even!  What if you are masking the spiritual messages we all get from time to time.

Instead of hiding from our feelings and emotions, we need to listen and take lessons from them.

We miss someone terribly!  We are afraid of the future!  We did something bad!  I hate her!

These feelings are WARNINGS…you need to tend to yourself gently, or harshly, or just compassionately all around, but do it.

I have a feeling you secretly know I’m right.

Then we find out that the science community actually did brain surgery on emotional or emotionally unstable (women mostly) in the early to mid part of the twentieth century.  The human rights people put an end to that.  However, science soon came up with a chemical answer to inhibit the emotional response of the brain instead.

Anti-depressants, anti-anxiety, anti-psychotic, anti-feel drugs.

I wonder why we buy into that, really?  With no proof, no lab test to agree with the ‘supposition’ we are mentally ill forever.  We read a list of 10 ‘symptoms’ and diagnose ourselves before we even get to the doctor, who is only going to give you what you want if it is anti-depressants and the lot.  You know I’m telling the truth!

Feelings are messages to us from our unconscious mind (or God, if you prefer).  If you feel a touch of worry, or fear, or shame, or guilt, or resentment, or anger…you might want to ask yourself right then and there what is going on?  Get to the bottom of that feeling (and WE ARE ALL RESPONSILBE FOR OUR OWN FEELINGS, EVEN IN THE WORST OF SITUATIONS AND TRAUMAS).  And learn to act on your feelings by changing your mind, or communicating with someone.

What if everything you thought about mental illness was a lie?  I am not saying it is, I am saying, “what if?”  Wouldn’t you want to know for sure?  For something as serious as making your identity a mentally unstable person, why do we so easily succumb to this kind of thought?  Is it easier to be sick and helpless?

THE PROMISED SOLUTION

I think I know the answer…in my humble opinion:  Poor coping skills is the seed of mental illness.  Instead of ‘inheriting’ some unproven biological mental illness gene from our mothers and fathers and such, what if you are in a cycle of dysfunction and are simply copying the only way you know how to cope, which is to not cope!

We need to learn coping skills for ourselves, and there are many free agencies out there with some decent courses if you are willing to learn.  For those who can afford counselling or therapy, including hypnotherapy,

After or while we are tending to ourselves, we need to begin deliberately teaching the art of communication skills at a much earlier age to children than we do now.   Let’s teach early classes of stress and sleep management.  We have to hurry up and teach our kids healthy relationship dynamics, because, let’s face it, many people are horrible relationship people, and still have KIDS!  The cycle continues…

We must knock down the school trustee doors and insist on more life skills for our kids.  They need it as much as they need those free lunches every day.  Right?

Thanks for reading.  I am going to keep on with my message, and hopefully, one person at a time, people will find themselves evolving out of depression and anxiety, and experience happiness instead.  I think it starts with finding a way to learn new coping skills.  Yes you can manage your own emotions and cope with even extreme feelings, like after a death, or trauma.  It’s been done for millions of years by trillions of people before you.  Somehow the world with far fewer resources managed to get by without swallowing a pill for every thought, feeling or emotion we don’t like.

It’s okay to have a melt down, just don’t pack your bags and live there.  It is a choice to become a butterfly, at one point.

The Best News People With Mental Illness Will Ever Read!

The Best News People With Mental Illness Will Ever Read!

BLOG LINKS  Please check out my word document: a list of various articles and videos that will change your mind about mental illness forever!

What if everything you know about mental illness and chemical imbalances was a lie?

What if your moods, and anxiety, and depression, and even psychotic episodes have a root cause? What if your mind is trying to tell you something, much like our bodies tell us things all of the time when we get physically sick.

Could the problem really be you are holding onto a secret? A secret that needs to get out to save your life? You’ve protected everyone else all of your life, why not start tending and caring for your own self, and needs, now? Secrets are great for saving others, but do you have a secret about yourself you need to get out? That could also be the problem you are not dealing with.

What if, allow yourself to ponder for a moment, you are having a SPIRITUAL emergency and instead of paying attention to all of the signals you are getting, you drug yourself up with anti-depressants, anti-anxiety, anti-psychotic and anti-mood medication?

Some cover their feelings up with alcohol. Some use street drugs. Some find comfort and safety in the more medical term, mental illness.

I don’t know where the need to mask yourself (you say balance yourself) comes from. Your mental instability can be a result of not having coping skills (many of us were not raised to cope well). Swinging moods could have something to do with your conscious mind fighting with your unconscious mind, the part of you that knows everything.

I wonder what would happen if you allowed yourself to think for a moment that the commercials telling you to ask your doctor about certain drugs, is actually the worst thing you could ever do for yourself and your well being?

I wouldn’t rush out to ask a car dealer if I should buy a car, or use some other mode of transportation. The dealer is likely going to say the car is the best thing for me.

My challenge to you is dare to feel it, explore it, heal or EMBRACE what is happening to you. I promise you the whole world will open up for you when you decide to dig in and get to the root of what is causing you to feel internal mental pain and instability.

It is either that, or allow yourself to succumb to the misery of the aggressive, non-compassionate, emotional upheaval cycle of psychiatric labels and medicinal solutions.

When you allow the medical community to brand and drug you for your mental well being all hope for finding the real cause goes down the drain. Not only that, when doctors conclude (based on what YOU told them) you are mentally ill, they mean mentally UNSTABLE and have no hesitation in drugging mentally unstable people.

What if what is going on is actually a spiritual awakening, and you don’t know what to make of it, so assume, wrongly, that you have a brain chemical imbalance causing you to see and hear things that are not there?

The alarms (emotional disturbance) we all get can vary in intensity, and can start as early as pre-teen years. Kids today are killing themselves by record numbers because they are being refused the compassion, UNDERSTANDING, and unconditional love they need while going through what it is they are going through. They are being DRUGGED rather than embraced for who they are, and what they are experiencing.

Dare to emerge out of the dungeons and hell of the aggressive, unfeeling, world of psychiatry (notice the ‘try’) find your true purpose and meaning with hypnosis and hypnotherapy. Your mind will tell you exactly what the problem is, and how to fix it.

And the skies will open up and be bluer, the sun will be brighter, and the heavy burden you have been carrying will be lifted.

As a clinical hypnotherapist who is trained and experienced working with mental illness, regression and PLRegression therapy, I promise you everything will change in your world when you look inside for answers, instead of asking doctors who are trained to treat all emotional issues with drugs.

Please share and help me give hope where before there was none.

 

* Never come off any psychiatric medication without telling someone (or two) who can keep their eye on you. Weaning off slowly is safer than suddenly stopping (just like heroin). Allow the painful, erratic moods withdrawal symptoms to encourage you to keep going…seek medical attention for unsafe symptoms such as suicide ideation or feelings of rage (violence). Once you are toxin free, give yourself a chance at life — Make sure you get to the root of your emotional disturbance. Google all sides of any solution.

It was hypnotherapy that saved me. Just sayin… If you want to learn more, please like Mind Miracles Hypnotherapy on facebook at http://www.facebook.com/mindmiracleshypnotherapy and receive all of my posts on the power of our own minds. I am taking clients at the Family Wellness Centre in West Kelowna, or by Skype. PM me for details.

Please watch this video before you do another thing…

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CX5o8N-jT9c

 

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